Burlesque dancer Lavendelle met her husband in the basement of a fraternity when she was 17 – but before that, she'd had many a romantic meet/cute moment, as well as many a not-so-romantic back-of-the-cinema makeout session.

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You can follow Lavendelle on Instagram and TikTok @lavendelleburlesque.

My book, This is Not About You, is out now! Get it in ebook format in the US, or in hard copy in most good bookshops in Ireland and the UK. See here for a lot of links!

I co-host another podcast, Not Without My Sister, with my sister, Beatrice, available on all podcast platforms. Check out my writing on Substack.

Meet/Cute is recorded in Fort Wayne, Indiana, and written, presented and produced by Rosemary Mac Cabe. Music is from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

https://uppbeat.io/t/sensho/good-times License code: J7UUYXO9B2ZDF0SV

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My book, This is Not About You, is out now! Get it in ebook format in the US, or in hard copy in most good bookshops in Ireland and the UK.

I co-host another podcast, Not Without My Sister, with my sister, Beatrice, available on all podcast platforms. Check out my writing on Substack.

Meet/Cute is recorded in Fort Wayne, Indiana, and written, presented and produced by Rosemary Mac Cabe. Music is from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

https://uppbeat.io/t/sensho/good-times License code: J7UUYXO9B2ZDF0SV

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Social media foodie, influencer, bar owner and theater kid Stephanie Bonner joins me on Meet/Cute to talk leaving home at 18 for the bright lights of the Big Apple, dating in NYC, falling in love with her husband and deciding to give up the glitz for life in Fort Wayne.

Follow her on Instagram @sbonbon and catch drag brunch in The Green Frog in Fort Wayne on Saturdays at 1pm.

My book, This is Not About You, is out now! Get it in ebook format in the US, or in hard copy in most good bookshops in Ireland and the UK.

I co-host another podcast, Not Without My Sister, with my sister, Beatrice, available on all podcast platforms. Check out my writing on Substack.

Meet/Cute is recorded in Fort Wayne, Indiana, and written, presented and produced by Rosemary Mac Cabe. Music is from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

https://uppbeat.io/t/sensho/good-times License code: J7UUYXO9B2ZDF0SV

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If you have been affected by any of the issues in this podcast, please contact Women's Aid (Ireland or UK), or the AWAIC (US).

You can follow @fortwaynefoodslut on Instagram, check out her website or listen to her podcast.

My book, This is Not About You, is out now! Get it in ebook format in the US, or in hard copy in most good bookshops in Ireland and the UK.

I co-host another podcast, Not Without My Sister, with my sister, Beatrice, available on all podcast platforms. Check out my writing on Substack.

Meet/Cute is recorded in Fort Wayne, Indiana, and written, presented and produced by Rosemary Mac Cabe. Music is from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

https://uppbeat.io/t/sensho/good-times License code: J7UUYXO9B2ZDF0SV

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In this episode of Meet/Cute, virtual assistant Hannah Wofford is in the hot seat to talk about almost appearing on MTV's Catfish, being the one who prepares men for The One, and meeting her husband at the age of 19 (and marrying him at the age of 21).

My book, This is Not About You, is out now! Get it in ebook format in the US, or in hard copy in most good bookshops in Ireland and the UK.

I co-host another podcast, Not Without My Sister, with my sister, Beatrice, available on all podcast platforms. Check out my writing on Substack.

Meet/Cute is recorded in Fort Wayne, Indiana, and written, presented and produced by Rosemary Mac Cabe. Music is from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

https://uppbeat.io/t/sensho/good-times License code: J7UUYXO9B2ZDF0SV

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Sophie White met her husband way too young – or so she says, meaning she missed out on the "fun" (? questionable) of Tinder, Bumble and Hinge. But she likes him a lot, so it's probably okay. (But she'd still like a little hall pass and thinks all bisexuals should get one.)

Follow Sophie on Instagram @sophwhitewhoop or check out her full bibliography on her website, here. You can listen to The Creep Dive wherever you get podcasts, or subscribe to be in the Mother of Pod club.

My book, This is Not About You, is out now! Get it in ebook format in the US, or in hard copy in most good bookshops in Ireland and the UK.

I co-host another podcast, Not Without My Sister, with my sister, Beatrice, available on all podcast platforms. Check out my writing on Substack.

Meet/Cute is recorded in Fort Wayne, Indiana, and written, presented and produced by Rosemary Mac Cabe. Music is from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

https://uppbeat.io/t/sensho/good-times License code: J7UUYXO9B2ZDF0SV

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New York Times bestselling author Ashley C. Ford knows a lot about love, thanks to her husband, who taught her that love isn't a competition; her upbringing, which showed her the ways she didn't want to be loved; and the work she's been able to do on herself, which allowed her to believe she's worthy of that love to begin with.

Somebody's Daughter, Ashley's memoir, is available now wherever books are sold. From indie booksellers, Split Rock Books in the US has it; as does Gutter Bookshop in Ireland. You can check out Ashley's website here, and follow her on Instagram and Twitter, too.

My book, This is Not About You, is out now! Get it in ebook format in the US, or in hard copy in Ireland. Gutter Bookshop has that, too.

I co-host another podcast, Not Without My Sister, with my sister, Beatrice, available on all podcast platforms. Check out my writing on Substack.

Meet/Cute is recorded in Fort Wayne, Indiana, and written, presented and produced by Rosemary Mac Cabe. Music is from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

https://uppbeat.io/t/sensho/good-times License code: J7UUYXO9B2ZDF0SV

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Hello and welcome to Meet/Cute, a podcast about getting together, breaking up, and everything in between. 

I’m your host, Rosemary Mac Cabe, and I’m here to ask the big questions. What brings two people together? And what tears them apart? In other words: tell. Me. Everything.

This is a podcast for romantics; a podcast for lovers; a podcast for anthropologists but, above all else, a podcast for nosy f*ckers. Join me every Thursday as I talk to someone about the ins and outs – if you’ll excuse the pun – of their romantic histories. Subscribe to Meet/Cute wherever you get podcasts. 

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Listen to Not Without My Sister, my OTHER podcast, wherever you're listening to this – or on Spotify at https://open.spotify.com/show/3YoMClQm0lLsjBULXgTjTB?si=WjcLvI5sRwWoP_TFrDsH0A

You can follow Chuy "JR" Harris on Instagram or on Twitter @cochinochuy

The episode of How to be Sound that brought us together is the episode where I interviewed Session Moth Martina about indie wrestling – listen to it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/ep-18-fighting-words-irish-wrestling-star-session-moth/id1336039859?i=1000429242397

If you, like me, didn't know anything about what it means to be demi-male, you might like this piece on The Body is Not an Apology: https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/coming-into-my-gender-identifying-as-a-demi-guy/

Chuy found out his Dad was gay in his freshman year of high school, when he was in ninth grade (age 13) – here's a piece from Gays With Kids about how to come out to your kids, from Dads who've been there: https://www.gayswithkids.com/the-being-blog/advice-on-coming-out-to-your-kids-from-gay-dads-whove-been-there

I mention Greenleaf, a show you'll find on Netflix that I really, really like, about a Memphis megachurch. Thrilling stuff.

Glitter Cat Barista offers free programs for marginalized coffee professionals, with a view to increasing the diversity in coffee competition! Check it out: https://www.glittercatbarista.com/

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The illustration Charlot Kristensen created for the recent cover of The Irish Times' Saturday Magazine which focused on being black and Irish will surely go down in history as one of the most iconic Irish images of 2020. We sat down in our respective homes (#stayhome, y'all) to chat about how this commission came about, working as an artist in Ireland and her upcoming graphic novel, What We Don't Talk About.

You can check out Charlot's work on her website at charlotkristensen.com and pre-order her graphic novel here.

Charlot is involved with the Dublin Comic Arts Festival, more on which here.

Alan Dunne, who Charlot mentions as a friend and great supporter of her work, can be found at alandunne.ie.

I mention Jordan Peele's Get Out, which is a stunning – and horrific – satire on race in America.

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If you'd like to support the work I do – help keep 'How to be Sound' going AND read a plethora of essays on life, love, sex, dating, feminism and more, sign up to my Patreon from just $4 per month.

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Thank you for listening to Episode 1 of Not Without My Sister, which we have tentatively titled, 'Not Without Our... Mother?' This episode is dedicated to, and focuses on, our Mother, who, for all of her Irish Mammyisms, has her own individual quirks and foibles which make her – we think – just interesting enough to dedicate an hour-long podcast episode to. We hope you enjoy it :)

If you have any topic suggestions, or subjects you'd like us to chat about, please do let us know! Leave a comment on our website or contact us via Instagram @rosemarymaccabe and @beatricemaccabe.

Here are a few of the things we reference throughout the episode. You'll find the transcription here.

• Liadan Hynes' How to Fall Apart
• Goldie Hawn's "brain breaks"
• Dolly Parton's Imagination Library
• Not Without My Daughter, starring Sally Field and Alfred Molina
• The Vietnamese author whose book Beatrice discusses is named Phuc Tran. The book is Sigh, Gone. You can listen to Tran discuss the subjunctive, or its absence, in this NPR talk.
• Beatrice's favourite mystery Sindy Instagram account (a Sindstagram account?) is @Sindy_the_traveler

Not Without My Sister is presented by sisters Beatrice and Rosemary Mac Cabe. Editing is by Liam Geraghty. Original music by Cody D. Records. Original illustration by Lindsay Neilson.

Not Without My Sister is a production of The Warren.

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