U Up?

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  • 1 hour 16 minutes
    I Gave Him Everything...Then He Dumped Me Ft. Spritely

    On today's Friday Feels episode of U Up?, we're joined by musician and songwriter, Spritely, who captured the hearts and attention of millions after posting a spoof song about her shocking breakup with her longterm boyfriend. Spritely breaks down the full story behind her viral video, reflects on red flags from the relationship and answers some tough questions from J&J. Spritely's new single, "Before I Fall Apart," comes out on March 7th and can be streamed on Apple Music and Spotify.

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    7 March 2025, 5:00 am
  • 1 hour 26 minutes
    How Your Dating Profile Is Keeping You Single

    Spring is only a few weeks away and J&J are here to get your dating life in tip-top shape. Jordana recounts a late night with the Betches that turned hairy when they almost got deserted at a Long Island steakhouse. Then, Jared gives his tips on how to make your dating app profile stand out and catch attention in only half a second. Later, Jordana explains how to work through an awkward texting dynamic early on in dating and Jared shares his own head-scratching situation. 

    Then we dive into our listener inbox and J&J talk a listener through how to follow up with a stranger he met in a real life meet-cute without seeming creepy. On “Are We Dating?”, J&J help out a listener whose weekend trips with her situationship have her stuck in the “back alley” of dating. Another listener writes in with fears that the guy she’s interested in may have put her on the back burner. On this week’s “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?”, aggressive texts, anti-vegetarian dating profiles and piss pots. 

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    5 March 2025, 5:14 am
  • 46 minutes 19 seconds
    How To Manage Dating an Over-Texter

    It’s Friday and Jordana’s feeling sassy. She’s got a new game to play with Jared called “Pack or Pass?” Here’s how it works—would you relocate to Buffalo to stay with the love of your life? The game explores just how far you'd be willing to go, literally, for your relationship. Later, on "Icky or Picky?," we hear from a listener who experiences an unforgettable ick when her date insists on carrying an umbrella for shade during an entire hike. Then, a busy single mom writes in about a new guy she’s excited about, but feels overwhelmed by his constant texting. J&J offer advice on how to set communication boundaries without killing the spark of a new romance.

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    28 February 2025, 5:00 am
  • 1 hour 22 minutes
    Make a Follow-Up Date or F*ck Off

    Jared’s officially off on his Australia and New Zealand tour and hopes to meet some of our down under listeners at his upcoming shows. Later, he tells a story about his own awkward encounter with a gastroenterologist and Jordana dissects a texting exchange Jared had with a woman he was seeing that turned sour. We dive into our email inbox and hear from a listener who is worried that sleeping with a new romantic interest on their first date may have jeopardized their chance at a committed relationship. Then we hear from a listener who isn’t sure if shooting her shot was worth it. And this week’s Awkward Encounter has us wondering if there's any situation where a cheese grater is a remotely acceptable birthday gift. Later on Red Flag or Deal Breaker, we hear about some eligible bachelors who are still legally married (possibly for financial reasons), who use bots to flirt with women and who ask you to go barefoot at a bar on the first date. 

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    26 February 2025, 5:00 am
  • 44 minutes 35 seconds
    I Got Dumped The Day After Our Anniversary

    Lordy, Lordy look who’s 40! It’s the “Worst Day of the Year” aka Jared’s birthday. Now that he’s over the hill, Jared is embracing his “I want to speak to the manager” energy and reflecting with Jordana on the peaks and valleys from the past year.

    Then, we play Petty or Prudent and hear from a listener who got dumped the day after her boyfriend planned a romantic dinner for their one-year anniversary. Later, we dive into an email about a woman who tries to backpedal into dating a guy she once ended things with when he gave her the ick.

    There’s been one thing on our minds since October and it’s… “Is that my wife?” We got all your DMs and comments about needing merch and now we have it! For a limited time only, get your “Is That My Wife? hat at https://shop.betches.com/products/is-that-my-wife-hat. Available from now until March 14th.

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    21 February 2025, 5:00 am
  • 1 hour 17 minutes
    When Does A Partner’s Joke Go Too Far?

    Jared’s fresh off of a trip to Montreal, or as he calls it The Coldest Place on Earth, and comes back with hot takes about the food and one glowing restaurant recommendation. Then J&J gab about their recent trip to L.A. and the difference in hotness factor between Los Angeles and New York (Gremlin Swamp People unite!). They also reflect on a strange interaction they had with a recently divorced man at a bar.Later, we dive into emails and hear from a listener who feels that her boyfriend made a joke at her expense that went too far. On an Awkward Encounter that we’ll never forget, a listener takes a chance going to a playoff hockey game with a guy she just met. Things take a turn when the “Mayor of Detroit” picks her up in a Dukes of Hazard themed golf cart and gets plastered at the game. Then a listener taps J&J for advice on a romantic connection where the physical isn’t matching the emotional one. We end with a round Red Flag Deal Breaker about a forgotten vasectomy, a mean quote from a Rate My Professor review, and an aspiring “boy dad.”

    Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. 

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    19 February 2025, 5:00 am
  • 49 minutes 3 seconds
    What It’s Really Like in the Netflix’s "Love is Blind" Pods

    This bonus episode is sponsored by Netflix! J and J are reflecting on five years of "Love is Blind" and they’re doing it in the most authentic way possible-in the pods! They find out the hard way what it's really like to communicate in the pods as they test themselves on their emotional intuition. Then, they go on to share their two cents on the communication styles of some of the most iconic couples while breaking down the impact the show has had on modern relationships. Plus, Jared and Jordana go in for a round of Couples Court as they ponder why we don’t walk away when a partner gives us the shrug? They round out the episode with an epic Love Is Blind version of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, pod edition.

    Don’t miss Season 8, streaming now only on Netflix – new episodes drop this Friday!

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    18 February 2025, 6:17 am
  • 1 hour 11 minutes
    Can I Spend Valentine’s Day With My Situationship? (Lightning Round Special)

    Jared “Cupid” Freid and Jordana “Matchmaker” Abraham are here to answer all your Valentine’s Day questions. This year for V-Day, Jared’s off to Alpharetta, Georgia for a block of shows and Jordana’s staying in while hubby Mike cooks her up something special. J&J discuss what the perfect meal for V-Day is that still leaves room for romance (for our home cooks, Chef Jared suggests grilled chicken, penne and spaghetti squash). Then in partnership with Shake Shack, we play a special game called BOGO or NOGO where J&J evaluate situationships and decide if listeners should enjoy the Shake Shack’s Smoke Shack BOGO deal with them or save it for someone more deserving. Later, we dive into a lightning round of V-day questions like, “when is it too soon to celebrate Valentine’s Day with someone you’re dating?”, “how do I tell my partner I want to do something for V-day?” and “how do I ask the guy I’m casually seeing if we’ll be spending Valentine’s Day together?” 

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    14 February 2025, 6:17 pm
  • 1 hour 12 minutes
    Should I Go No Contact With My Ex?

    Jordana’s gone full-on suburbs. She’s enrolled in a “tennis clinic” and in between perfecting her serve is trying to infiltrate the neighborhood gossip circle. She continues to debate the pros and cons of pulling the trigger on getting a dog. Later, J&J give a pep talk to a listener who recently went through a bad breakup after realizing that she and her longterm partner were not on the same page regarding kids. On Awkward Encounter, things get messy after a dog steals a listener’s menstrual cup. And this week’s Red Flag or Deal Breaker? has Jared and Jordana wondering if bad hygiene is a valid reason to dump someone.

    Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. 

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    12 February 2025, 5:00 am
  • 36 minutes 30 seconds
    Is My Buff Body Scaring Away Men?

    Jared’s 40th birthday is approaching and he might be on the cusp of an impending meltdown. He’s being haunted by images of how he’ll be spending his upcoming 40th: alone, on an international flight to New Zealand (in a Delta One seat, of course). And after purchasing a luxe coffee maker with insane upkeep, Jordana is having some buyer’s remorse. On Icky or Picky, a listener keeps accidentally going on dates with guys with the same last name as her and it’s creeping her out. Later, we hear from a CrossFit betch who is having trouble meeting her match. Her parents say that her impressive physique may be to blame.

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    7 February 2025, 5:00 am
  • 1 hour 8 minutes
    Why Won’t My Partner Initiate Sex?

    It’s February, which means we can all complain about it officially being the coldest month of the year. To start things off, Jordana tells Jared about her sister’s recent stay at her place and the creative new ways her seven-year-old nephew stress tested her new furniture. Jared’s hot off of a star-studded show at the Comedy Cellar, where Madonna inexplicably performed a 40-minute comedy set. Later we dive into our mailbox, and hear from a listener who worries that all her longterm relationships will end up with a dead bedroom. Also, a recent divorcee finds herself stumbling through her reentry into the dating world and regrettably commissions a pet portrait for a man she was casually seeing whose dog died. In “Awkward Encounter,” Jared & Jordana advise a listener who just realized she went on dates with two guys who are close friends and debates whether or not she should tell them. In “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?“, we hear about a guy who pretends he went to an Ivy League school, an ex-boyfriend who might be a little too obsessed with his sister and a woman who won’t stop comparing the man she’s seeing to her ex.

    Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. 

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    5 February 2025, 5:00 am
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