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Over 100 episodes after their last interview, Ann and Sue are thrilled to be back discussing all things attachment with Dr. David Elliott. Together they delve into the Three Pillars therapy model development, centered around three key elements: enhancing collaboration, fostering metacognition, and constructing new internal working models through imagery. Dr. Elliott elaborates on how the therapeutic journey prioritizes the therapeutic alliance, perspective-taking, and employing mental imagery to cultivate fresh attachment dynamics.
Dr. David Elliott is a licensed psychologist who earned his Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University in 1989. His clinical training at Harvard included externships at Tufts University Counseling Centerand St. Elizabeth’s Medical Center, as well as a clinical psychology internship and post-doctoral fellowship at McLean Hospital. He has held leadership positions in the Rhode Island Psychological Association and the Coalition of Mental Health Professionals of Rhode Island. Since 1998, Dr. Elliott has been on the faculty of the International School for Psychotherapy, Counseling, and Group Leadership in St. Petersburg, Russia, and serves as Chair of its International Advisory Board. He also teaches at Psykosyntes Akademin in Stockholm, Sweden. Dr. Elliott’s recent focus has been on secure and insecure attachment, culminating in the co-authoring of “Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair” in 2016. He conducts workshops internationally on the methods outlined in the book for mental health professionals.
Dr. Elliott’s Integrative Attachment Therapy Course Information – Follow this link for 5% off enrollment!
Check out Dr. Elliott’s book – Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/heal-attachment-and-find-security-during-covid/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu34-treating-attachment-difficulties-with-dr-david-elliott/
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Ann and Sue are back for another deep dive, this time on all things information processing. Using the concept of sunglasses as a metaphor for information distortion, they explain how our internal working models and attachment experiences shape the way we perceive and interpret information. The sunglasses represent different states of activation, with clear glasses indicating a secure state and aviator sunglasses representing a defensive, self-protective state. Sunglasses can affect our relationships – but they don’t have to stop us from building healthy connections. Follow along as we explore the importance of curiosity, self-reflection, and open-mindedness in navigating relationships.
1:06 – Introducing the metaphor of sunglasses
6:27 – Recognizing information distortion and its impact
12:37 – Understanding positive and negative transference
18:15 – Deep dive into the meaning behind the Aviator sunglasses metaphor
23:28 – The impact of early attachment experiences
35:44 – How our stories can impact the way our nervous system responds
41:01 – Questions can feel threatening neurologically
43:49 – The crazy 8 anecdote
45:51 – Being aware of our own sunglass distortions
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We can understand our social pain by considering the nervous system, just think of it as a collective amygdala hijack! Threat is pressing us to live in an alarm state and then we get used to it, as if it’s normal to be so divided, hopeless and disdainful to those who are holding different positions in the world. We need to cultivate secure (mature) relating to move ourselves back into a social, relational place that makes us more generous, compassionate and able to work with complexity to stay engaged to solve some of these pressing world and community issues. Keep hope alive!
Ann and Sue delve into the pressing emotional and social challenges confronting our world today. They examine the impact of divisive political rhetoric, the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, collective distrust, and widespread trauma on individuals and society as a whole. Emphasizing the necessity of self-awareness and accountability, they underscore the role each person plays in contributing to collective healing and regulation. Throughout their conversation, Ann and Sue stress the importance of vulnerability, genuine connection, and the pursuit of healing as essential components of addressing systemic issues and promoting relational solutions. They also tackle the complexities of polarization, advocating for open-mindedness, nuance, and empathy in navigating ideological differences and fostering constructive dialogue. Explore the transformative potential of emotions like anger and the power of connection and love in driving positive societal change.
1:42 – Reflecting on current events and polarization
4:40 – Sue’s bug analogy from the book
7:55 – Understanding our reactivity
10:15 – We have to go inward and look inward
15:25 – Ann’s anecdote of sitting with the discomfort
17:44 – Tools to “hang in there” and to try to stay regulated
18:46 – Explanation of the “certainty virus”
30:17 – Taking responsibility for our part
32:23 – The need for vulnerability and safety
35:15 – Cultivating safety around you
37:55 – Letting anger inform
48:34 – Holding our own individually and collectively
50:46 – Keeping hope alive
58:31 – Recognizing the signs of collectiveness and collective activation
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Join Dr. Ann Kelley and Dr. David Spiegel as they dive into the benefits and misconceptions of hypnosis. Hypnosis is a state of highly focused attention and cognitive flexibility, allowing individuals to explore new possibilities. Whether it’s trouble with sleep, intense anxiety, or a need to break bad habits, hypnosis has proven to be an effective tool for many. Dr. Spiegel has dedicated years of research and emphasizes the importance of accessibility to hypnosis in our healthcare systems. His app R E V E R I has over 1 million downloads and allows you to rewire your brain, conquer negative habits, and achieve personal growth from home.
00:15 – Dr. Spiegel’s beginning with hypnosis work
2:30 – What is hypnosis?
2:56 – The myths around hypnosis
5:32 – How hypnosis is different from standard mindfulness?
8:29 – Similarities between hypnosis and mindfulness
13:29 – Effectiveness of hypnosis for sleep and anxiety
23:09 – Understanding the R E V E R I app
31:20 – The effects on smoking with hypnosis
37:20 – Hypnosis and trauma
44:48 – Who is a good candidate for hypnosis?
47:39 – Introduction to the “hypno-pharmacy” on the app
55:23 – Your hypnotizability and genetics
57:13 – Hypnotizability and attachment theory
Dr. Spiegel’s Website & Profile
Publications – The full list of Dr. Spiegel’s publications
R E V E R I – Try Dr. Spiegel’s hypnosis app
Effect of Psychosocial Treatment on Survival of Patients with Metastatic Breast Cancer – Referenced research article on psychosocial treatment
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Join co-host Sue Marriott and Dr. Shena Young as they dive into liberation psychology and the conflict between intuition and the traditional European model of psychology. Dr. Shena highlights embodying a holistic approach to help heal traumas and deeply root us in our most authentic selves. Whether through connections with nature or the exploration of ancestral traditions, this discussion is enriched with various opportunities to reconnect and liberate our mind, body, heart, and spirit.
1:30 – Dr. Shena’s journey with liberation psychology and decolonization
7:25 – Dr. Shena’s early life and intuition
9:48 – Body language is one of our first languages
18:58 – Understanding the pillars of authenticity
20:52 – Embracing the mind, body, heart, spirit approach
28:21 – Unlearning scarcity and expecting abundance
33:29 – Thinking of currency as seeds
41:37 – New interests in ancient traditions
44:11 – What the act of grounding may look like
51:45 – The decriminalization of psychedelic plant medicines
56:30 – There is power in practicing choice
1:05:01 – Impact of The Color Purple
EmbodiedTruthHealing.com – Dr. Shena’s website
Healing Opportunities with Dr. Shena
@EmbodiedTruthHealing – Dr. Shena’s Instagram
Invest in healing programs for BIPOC
Dr. Clenora Hudson-Weems website – Where Dr. Shena first learned about Africana Womanist theory
Body Rites – Dr. Shena’s book. Get your copy, here!!
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We’re back with long-time friend of the podcast and expert, Juliane Taylor Shore LMFT, LPC, SEP. As we reflect on our episode from six years ago on boundaries, we dive into new knowledge and how we can create boundaries that stick. Juliane Taylor Shore blends her original methods like “the jello wall” with new research to share exciting and thoughtful insight on how through boundaries we can harness compassion in our relationships with others and ourselves.
Juliane Taylor Shore is a therapist, author, teacher, and mom who is creating spaces where people can move into more self-compassion, self-trust, empowerment, and integrity. She regularly teaches and speaks to people from all around the world, and translates new understandings in neurobiology into practices that can support brain change. She is also the author of Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected and Empowered and an Associate Instructor with the Coherence Institute, and a core faculty member with Therapy Wisdom.
00:53 – How Juliane wrote her book
3:15 – New ideas around boundary work
5:30 – Different categories of assessments
6:01 – Expanding the concept of boundaries
11:26 – Minds experience the world in different ways
16:34 – Explanation of the jello wall analogy
25:59 – Understanding the containing boundary
28:59 – The big emotional “oomph”
30:57 – What if you found your own version of a compassion gesture?
33:22 – Examples of key words
38:54 – The fourth boundary, physical
40:27 – Boundary repair, what it means to “gently come back to yourself”
50:38 – Creating the external boundary map
Juliane Taylor Shore – Official website
iPNB of Austin – Official website
Therapy Wisdom – Official website
How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered – Book by Juliane Taylor Shore
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This is part two of a two-part series with the founder of Inclusive Therapists, Melody and TU Co-host, Sue Marriott. This episode features challenging yet important conversations on active anti-racist practices, exploration of oppression, and dismantling whiteness in mental health structures. Melody emphasizes the need for white clinicians to examine their own complicity in upholding oppressive systems and to listen to and center the experiences of marginalized communities. They also highlight the interconnectedness of healing and the power of collective liberation through rehumanizing.
2:18 – Definition of QTBIPOC
3:22 – Deep dive into anti-oppressive and liberators practices
8:20 – Understanding cis-gender identity
9:49 – Structural oppression is not about your feelings
15:34 – How white feminism can be exclusionary
17:06 – Dismantling whiteness from the mental health field
23:30 – Actions items for white clinicians to be more inclusive
25:52 – Top down versus bottom-down healing
30:40 – The core of oppression is to dehumanize
Pedagogy of the Oppressed by Paulo Freire – Literature recommendation by Melody Li
Melody Li’s Instagram Profile
Inclusive Therapists Resource Library
Open Letter: End Mental Health Field’s Complicity to Genocide
Steadfast for Collective Liberation Newsletter: Confronting our Bullshit & Toxicity
Palestinian Liberation: Lessons in Solidarity for Mental Health Providers
Palestinian Liberation Resources
When is exploring whiteness clinically relevant? (Melody Li, LMFT)
Dismantling whiteness, white feminism and supremacy delusion: resources by Black, Indigenous and People of Color (Li advised against buying white authors on this subject)
Decolonizing Therapy (Dr. Jenn Mullan)
Stages of Colonialism in Africa: From Occupation of Land to Occupation of Being (Hussein A. Bulhan)
Mental Health Liberation: Website | Instagram | Facebook | BIPOC Therapy Fund | Liberatory Student Support Circle
Inclusive Therapists: Website | Instagram | Facebook
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This is part one of a two-part series with the founder of Inclusive Therapists, Melody and TU Co-host, Sue Marriott. We are pushing for more inclusive, anti-racist, and decolonialized practices.The conversation is challenging but important as we explore liberation psychology that helps us recognize and unlearn patterns of thinking that are rooted in colonization and European Western education. You may not agree with everything this guest says but you will learn something and likely feel quite a lot. Discomfort is a necessary part of liberating ourselves from engrained traditional patriarchal and white supremist thinking that continues to harm so many.
and we can collectively do something different.'” – Melody Li, LMFT (they/佢)
Time Stamps for Decolonizing the Mental Health System
00:25 – About Melody and their background
2:41 – More about Inclusive Therapists
8:47 – Melody’s journey with liberation
10:31 – Understanding the white cis-heteronormativity education system
18:41 – The issue with referring to different communities as sub-communities
21:47 – Why language really matters
23:26 – What it means to de-colonialize mental health care
33:00 – Exploring the hierarchal field of therapy and its barriers
36:50 – “There is nothing more racist than genocide”
41:50 – A call to action and steps to end the genocide
Melody Li’s Instagram Profile
Inclusive Therapists Resource Library
Open Letter: End Mental Health Field’s Complicity to Genocide
Steadfast for Collective Liberation Newsletter: Confronting our Bullshit & Toxicity
Palestinian Liberation: Lessons in Solidarity for Mental Health Providers
Palestinian Liberation Resources
When is exploring whiteness clinically relevant? (Melody Li, LMFT)
Dismantling whiteness, white feminism and supremacy delusion: resources by Black, Indigenous and People of Color (Li advised against buying white authors on this subject)
Decolonizing Therapy (Dr. Jenn Mullan)
Stages of Colonialism in Africa: From Occupation of Land to Occupation of Being (Hussein A. Bulhan)
Mental Health Liberation: Website | Instagram | Facebook | BIPOC Therapy Fund | Liberatory Student Support Circle
Inclusive Therapists: Website | Instagram | Facebook
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While Ann and Sue are in DC at the American Group Psychotherapy Association Conference, we thought this was the perfect opportunity to replay one of our favorite episodes.
Co-hosts Sue Marriott and Patty Olwell interview colleagues at the American Group Psychotherapy 2016 Association Annual Meeting in New York. They talk about why they love group therapy and why it is so valuable to their clients. We want to thank our interviewees for their help and insights.
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You may have heard about this protocol on the Huberman Lab Podcast. Co-hosts Ann and Sue discuss the power of expressive writing as a tool for physical and emotional healing directly with the original researcher, Dr. James Pennebaker. While his protocol is not a simple “elixir” to cure mental or physical illness, Dr. Pennebaker has dedicated years of research and found this kind of expressive writing to be an effective method of healing for many people. Writing without boundaries or expectations can allow us to enter a stream of consciousness and better process our feelings and experiences of trauma.
00:49 – Dr. Pennebaker’s background
3:31 – Secrets are unhealthy
12:45 – Interesting findings from his writing experiment
17:46 – Dr. Pennebaker’s blood draw study
21:35 – One of the big problems with expressive writing
25:52 – Understanding executive function and working memory
27:31 – Three of the most impactful psychological tools
33:37 – The difference between standard journaling and these writing exercises
38:40 – The benefits of open-ended questions
46:16 – The emergent process of writing
59:03 – Anecdote about how Dr. Pennebaker’s analysis contributed to an exoneration
1:02 – What language can tell us about political leadership
Linguistic Inquiry & Word Count – Text analysis tools
Publications – A list of Dr. Pennebaker’s publications
Website – Dr. Pennebaker’s UT website and information
Transcripts for A Neuroscience-Proven Expressive Writing Protocol with Dr. James Pennebaker (225)
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