To do His work through you, God wants to do a work in you. Resistance often accompanies the call to action, but obedience in removing your idols is essential for progress. Join Pastor Ben Kaempfer in Judges 6:25-35 to examine Gideon's task of dismantling idols. What idols in your life need dismantling in order for you to walk in obedience to the Lord?

Support the show

We know prayer is important but what is its purpose? What does praying actually do? Join our College Womens Director, Grace Markwell, as she answers these questions and explains her two main points; Prayer changes things AROUND us through the power of God and prayer changes things WITHIN us as well. 

Support the show

Welcome to Asking For A Friend, a podcast where we tackle your questions on marriage, dating, parenting, and everything in between—all from a Christian perspective! We’re William & Jul Colle. After almost 15 years of marriage, three boys, and balancing two careers—William as a pastor and Jul as a nurse (with school on top of it!)—we’re passionate about building a Christ-centered marriage and raising kids who love Jesus. Along the way, we've made our share of mistakes, but we've also been blessed by incredible mentors. Our hope for this podcast is that it encourages you, just as so many others have encouraged us.

Questions This Week:
1. I’m loosing hope in my generation of men and keep hearing “I’m not good enough for you”, “I can’t lead you” etc… what is your advice to college women going through this and question how long/ if they will ever meet someone?
2. My boyfriend and I have past sexual sins with other people before we started following the Lord & started dating. Should you discuss past sexual sins with your partner during dating, during engagement, ever?
3. My kids are all drastically different. How do you manage parenting them differently without showing favoritism?
4. Between work, kids and just life events, what are ways you can prioritize your marriage?

Support the show

When you are a child of God, there is a work that God is doing in you and through you. But we often lose sight of God and His plans for us when we get caught up in our fears, are disobedient, or will not surrender our will to His. Join Pastor Ben Kaempfer in Judges 6:1-24 to study the source of Gideon’s fear and how God is there with us every step of the way, He just needs our “yes.”

Support the show

Text in your anonymous questions to 94000!

Welcome to Asking For A Friend: A podcast where we answer your questions about marriage, dating, parenting and everything in between from a Christian perspective! We're William & Jul Colle. We've been married for almost 15 years, have 3 boys and juggle two careers as a pastor (William) and nurse (Jul,) while Jul is back in in school. We're passionate about having a Godly marriage and raising kids that grow up to love Jesus. We've learned from a lot of mistakes and have had some great examples over the years. Our prayer for this podcast is it encourages you, just like so many have encouraged us!

This Week:
1) One of the scariest things in dating for me is the waiting. People often say that the waiting is worth it, but that can be very difficult. How do I balance trusting in God's timing, knowing there is a possibility of staying single and not being disappointed in that?
2) We are often in conversation about when to give your child, teenager a phone. As parents who want to love and protect our kids while balancing their exposure to detrimental technology. How can we do this?
3) What are wise boundaries when it comes to your husband/wife having friends of the opposite sex?

Support the show

As we wrap up our Marriage series, we look at God's design for sex, and how the world trys to define it for us. 

Support the show

Text in your anonymous questions to 94000!

Welcome to Asking For A Friend: A podcast where we answer your questions about marriage, dating, parenting and everything in between from a Christian perspective! We're William & Jul Colle. We've been married for almost 15 years, have 3 boys and juggle two careers as a pastor (William) and nurse (Jul,) while Jul is back in in school. We're passionate about having a Godly marriage and raising kids that grow up to love Jesus. We've learned from a lot of mistakes and have had some great examples over the years. Our prayer for this podcast is it encourages you, just like so many have encouraged us!

This Week:
1. In Sundays sermon, Ben spoke on conflict in marriage, and the common communication struggle of being heard or NOT heard by your spouse. My husband and I struggle with this, and often have unresolved conflict, but then he wants to be intimate and I am put off by not feeling heard and frankly dont want to have sex after an unresolved argument. How can we work through this?
2. We’re coming up on the holidays which is always a conflict point for me and my wife. How do you suggest we handle it?
3. We have multiple children and they are all involved in various sports and activities which often cut into family time, church time, etc. How do we let our kids be involved but also make our family and God the priority?
4. Should you make your kids go to church? Your teenagers to youth group?

Support the show

When two people come into the union of marriage, they both bring their own trauma, baggage, and woundedness into the relationship that can cause rifts in the future when these underlying issues have not been identified and addressed. So, when sore spots are hit, we try to cover them up so that they can't be hurt more. Join Pastor Ben Kaempfer in Genesis 4:1-9 to dive into the story of Cain and Abel and study how we need to allow the Holy Spirit to excavate our hearts of hardness.

Support the show

Text in your anonymous questions to 94000!

Welcome to Asking For A Friend: A podcast where we answer your questions about marriage, dating, parenting and everything in between from a Christian perspective! We're William & Jul Colle. We've been married for almost 15 years, have 3 boys and juggle two careers as a pastor (William) and nurse (Jul,) while Jul is back in in school. We're passionate about having a Godly marriage and raising kids that grow up to love Jesus. We've learned from a lot of mistakes and have had some great examples over the years. Our prayer for this podcast is it encourages you, just like so many have encouraged us!

This Week:
1. “Before “the two become one flesh” in marriage, how can you cultivate a christ-centered relationship while dating? And how do you avoid the trap of using one another as a crutch for your own walk with the Lord?”
2. What is your advice to people who have been cheated and are struggling but want to believe they’ll find a loyal, Godly partner out there one day?
3. How do you best disciple your kids? What are some actionable steps to do that?

Support the show

Communication is vitally important, but incredibly difficult. How do we control the tongue when it is the most restless of all evils? Join Pastor Ben Kaempfer in James 3:2-12 to examine the vitality of good, Godly communication in marriage.

Support the show

Text in your anonymous questions to 94000!

Welcome to Asking For A Friend: A podcast where we answer your questions about marriage, dating, parenting and everything in between from a Christian perspective! We're William & Jul Colle. We've been married for almost 15 years, have 3 boys and juggle two careers as a pastor (William) and nurse (Jul,) while Jul is back in in school. We're passionate about having a Godly marriage and raising kids that grow up to love Jesus. We've learned from a lot of mistakes and have had some great examples over the years. Our prayer for this podcast is it encourages you, just like so many have encouraged us!

This Week:
1. Does God tell you who to marry?  AKA Does He tell you this is “The One?” How can you be certain?
2. What are your key tips for engaged couples as they prepare for marriage? 
3. How can you keep Christ at the center of your Marriage?
What would you say to a married couple who seems to bicker/fight often?

Support the show