Helping Latter-day Saints Be Better Prepared to Lead
This podcast is a group discussion about the Heart of a Woman retreat, a 3-day intensive experience for women of faith. The retreat provides a space for women to connect with God, other women, and themselves. It includes presentations, time for reflection, and opportunities for prayer and worship. The panelists discuss their own experiences with the retreat and how it has impacted their lives. They also share insights on the importance of women’s leadership and the power of prayer.
Melanie Meszaros is a wife, mother, grandmother, certified professional coach, business manager, and avid music lover. With a master’s in Education, Melanie has spent her adult life providing women and couples with opportunities to learn and develop skills to improve their lives, their relationships, and their families. As co-founder of Heart of a Woman, Melanie is passionate about helping women develop a profound connection with God, restore their feminine heart, and rediscover who God created them to be. In the Church she has enjoyed serving in music callings, as a teacher, as a counselor in each of the women’s organizations, and as a ward and stake Relief Society president.
Kristy Willhite was baptized as a child and chose the gospel of Jesus Christ as an adult. She served for 17 years in the Primary organization in every calling except chorister. Kristy has served in Relief Society presidencies, as a Young Women president, and currently serves in her stake Young Women presidency. She loves reading, knitting, and holds a bachelor’s degree from Brigham Young University-Idaho in Advanced Family History Professional Studies. Kristy and her husband James have been married 26 years and have four great kids.
Jolene Duckworth attended the October 2024 Heart of a Woman retreat and found herself forever changed by the experience. She is the mother of six and serves as the chair of the hospitality committee for BYU’s Women’s Conference, and in the Church as a Relief Society service coordinator and a temple worker. Jolene has a bachelor’s degree in Visual Arts from BYU and is the experience design director for Idylli, a leadership development company she runs with her husband, Dan Duckworth.
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Past guests include Emily Belle Freeman, David Butler, Hank Smith, John Bytheway, Reyna and Elena Aburto, Liz Wiseman, Stephen M. R. Covey, Elder Alvin F. Meredith III, Julie Beck, Brad Wilcox, Jody Moore, Tony Overbay, John H. Groberg, Elaine Dalton, Tad R. Callister, Lynn G. Robbins, J. Devn Cornish, Bonnie Oscarson, Dennis B. Neuenschwander, Kirby Heyborne, Taysom Hill Anthony Sweat, John Hilton III, Barbara Morgan Gardner, Blair Hodges, Whitney Johnson, Ryan Gottfredson, Greg McKeown, Ganel-Lyn Condie, Michael Goodman, Wendy Ulrich, Richard Ostler, and many more in over 800 episodes.
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Matt Bardsley grew up in Montana, and after a mission to New Jersey moved to Utah to go to school and has been there ever since. He has a bachelor’s degree from Brigham Young University in Sociology and a master’s degree from Utah State University in Education. He has been a seminary teacher for 19 years, 12 of those serving as a local faculty principal where he gets to train teachers. He is a former Young Men president, elders quorum president, ward mission leader, bishopric member, high councilor, and stake Young Men president, and currently serves as first counselor in his stake Young Men presidency.
Kim Perkins is a coach with Accepted, passionate about guiding individuals on their journey to healing and fostering deep connections, and empowering them to unlock their true potential and lead fulfilling lives. Kim enjoys the great outdoors, hiking, volleyball, and embarking on exciting travel adventures with her husband and four children. She currently serves in her stake Young Women presidency.
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This dynamic discussion with Kim and Matt centers around the importance of mentorship and effective training for youth leaders. They share their experiences and insights on how to transform traditional youth leadership approaches into more impactful mentorship roles, and emphasize the significance of understanding one’s purpose, identifying youth life goals, and fostering transformational relationships rather than merely filling time during weekly activities.
Kim and Matt explain their approach to training, which includes quarterly sessions for all youth leaders and more targeted workshops for specific wards. They focus on practical skills such as effective communication, delegation, and connecting youth activities to the teachings of Jesus Christ. By observing and providing feedback in real time, they help leaders recognize their strengths and areas for improvement.
05:31 – Kim’s Experience in Youth Leadership
06:26 – Matt’s Background in Teaching Youth
07:37 – Observations on Youth Programs
08:35 – The Importance of Training in Leadership
09:56 – Origin of Formal Training Approaches
11:04 – Developing Effective Training Skills
12:09 – Interactive and Experiential Training Methods
13:48 – Training Audience and Frequency
15:03 – Observing and Supporting Ward Leaders
16:04 – Building Relationships with Leaders
17:05 – Feedback and Reflection After Observations
20:07 – Common Issues in Youth Leadership
22:53 – The Importance of Delegation Skills
24:55 – Coaching Others in Leadership Skills
27:27 – Connecting Activities to the Savior
29:25 – Practicing Skills in Training Sessions
32:02 – Engaging Youth in Leadership Training
35:10 – Summary of Effective Training Practices
The award-winning Leading Saints Podcast is one of the top independent Latter-day Saints podcasts as part of nonprofit Leading Saints’ mission to help Latter-day Saints be better prepared to lead. Learn more and listen to any of the past episodes for free at LeadingSaints.org.
Past guests include Emily Belle Freeman, David Butler, Hank Smith, John Bytheway, Reyna and Elena Aburto, Liz Wiseman, Stephen M. R. Covey, Elder Alvin F. Meredith III, Julie Beck, Brad Wilcox, Jody Moore, Tony Overbay, John H. Groberg, Elaine Dalton, Tad R. Callister, Lynn G. Robbins, J. Devn Cornish, Bonnie Oscarson, Dennis B. Neuenschwander, Kirby Heyborne, Taysom Hill Anthony Sweat, John Hilton III, Barbara Morgan Gardner, Blair Hodges, Whitney Johnson, Ryan Gottfredson, Greg McKeown, Ganel-Lyn Condie, Michael Goodman, Wendy Ulrich, Richard Ostler, and many more in over 800 episodes.
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Parker Walbeck shares his journey as a millennial content creator who aims to engage both younger and older audiences with gospel messages through short, impactful videos. He emphasizes the significance of sharing simple, foundational doctrines and the power of personal testimony, noting that even small acts of sharing can have a profound impact on friends and family.
Parker is a filmmaker, social media expert, and creator of the “True Millennial” YouTube channel, where he shares his insights on using social media to share the gospel. He has worked with the Church to help improve their online presence, and speaks frequently at local church events, where he teaches others how to use these tools effectively.
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Parker recounts his experience working with Elder Neil L. Andersen of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles during a trip to the Philippines, where he documented the apostle’s ministry and interactions with local members. He describes Elder Anderson’s genuine care for individuals, his commitment to knowing names, and his reliance on the teachings of the living prophet. The episode also touches on the importance of humility and the simplicity of the gospel, as Parker reflects on how the apostles focus on basic doctrines rather than complex theological concepts. Additionally, Kurt and Parker discuss the potential for local church members to create content that shares their faith stories, suggesting that even small-scale initiatives, like ward podcasts, can foster community and strengthen testimonies. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to utilize their unique talents in service of the church, reinforcing the idea that everyone has a role to play in sharing the gospel.
04:07 – Overview of True Millennial Podcast
06:01 – Parker’s Journey into Content Creation
10:02 – The Concept of True Millennials
11:41 – Sharing the Gospel on Social Media
17:10 – The Importance of Influence in Small Audiences
19:02 – Parker’s Experience with Elder Anderson
25:26 – Insights from Traveling with an Apostle
29:18 – The Simplicity of Gospel Teachings
36:00 – Interviewing Elder Bednar
38:11 – Local Church Content Creation Ideas
41:00 – Engaging Stake Communication Strategies
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Tanner Pursley was born and raised in Thatcher, Arizona. He served his mission in Recife, Brasil, and graduated from BYU-Idaho where he married his sweetheart Nicole. He got his Masters Degree in School Counseling from Northern Arizona University. Tanner has over six years of EFY experience and another five working as a wrangler for troubled teenagers at Arivaca Boys Ranch. He currently is serving as the bishop in his ward in Morenci, Arizona, where he developed a youth program called “I Can Do Hard Things” to help drive kids off the couch and into living life and preparing for the temple/mission. Tanner’s passions include rock climbing, scuba diving, playing Jenga with kids, losing to his bros in fantasy football, and cuddling his little daughter Cedar.
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Tanner shares insights from his recent initiative called the “I Can Do Hard Things Challenge.” This program, developed while he served as a counselor in the bishopric, aims to provide youth with structured goals across the four quadrants in the Children and Youth program: spiritual, social, intellectual, and physical. Tanner explains how he drew inspiration from scouting and other youth programs to create a comprehensive list of activities that encourage youth to step outside their comfort zones and engage in meaningful experiences.
Throughout the conversation, Tanner discusses the importance of parental buy-in and how the challenge has positively impacted the culture of his small ward, which previously struggled with youth engagement and missionary work. He highlights the success of the program, noting that it has led to increased participation among the youth and has even inspired similar initiatives in other organizations within the ward. The episode emphasizes the significance of celebrating achievements, as Tanner describes the award ceremony where participants receive recognition for their hard work, fostering a sense of community and accomplishment. Leadership is about empowering others to reach their potential, and Tanner’s approach serves as a practical example for other leaders looking to inspire and uplift the youth in their wards.
05:48 – Tanner’s Background and New Calling
06:59 – The “I Can Do Hard Things” Challenge
09:47 – Overview of the Youth Program and Goals
10:44 – Changing the Culture in the Ward
12:01 – Structure of the Challenge
20:49 – Breakdown of the Challenge Areas
25:07 – Physical Challenge Activities
27:51 – Social Challenge Activities
29:38 – Spiritual Challenge Activities
30:49 – Intellectual Challenge Activities
32:04 – Importance of Accountability
33:01 – Reward Ceremony and Recognition
34:27 – Encouraging Participation and Buy-In
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Danny and Emily Deaton are the founders of Living Proof Recovery Services, a company dedicated to supporting individuals and families who are navigating addiction with a loved one. They carry degrees from rival schools, the University of Utah and Brigham Young University but found common ground in their love for Jesus and the Utah Jazz. They have built a life they love together in Alpine, Utah. They love being parents to three awesome children and have served as Stake Young Single Adult leaders and Emily as a Relief Society president. Danny and Emily host the “Your Living Proof Podcast” and love speaking and sharing their message of faith in action, hope, and their love for Jesus Christ.
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Emily and Danny talk about the growing issues of addiction, highlighting the importance of being prepared to address these challenges and the need for resources and education. Danny recounts his experience with opioid addiction, detailing how it progressed from a seemingly manageable issue to a life-altering crisis that culminated in a near-fatal incident. He reflects on the pivotal moment when his father intervened, demonstrating the power of love and family support in the recovery process.
Emily adds her perspective, emphasizing the time required for true healing and the transformative power of the Atonement in their lives. The couple discusses the importance of understanding addiction as a family disease, where the entire family unit must engage in the recovery process. They stress that addiction often manifests as a secretive struggle, and families typically wait too long—averaging seven years—before seeking professional help. The Deatons advocate for the role of interventionists and the necessity of establishing boundaries to support loved ones in their recovery journey. They also highlight the importance of church leaders in recognizing the signs of addiction and guiding families toward appropriate resources, such as support groups and professional help.
Danny and Emily challenge the misconception that individuals must want to recover on their own before intervention can occur, arguing instead that families must take proactive steps to facilitate recovery. They discuss the need for families to learn about addiction, set boundaries, and seek help themselves, creating a supportive environment for their loved ones. Church leaders and families can utilize available resources and to understand that addiction is a complex issue that requires a collective effort for healing and recovery.
02:00 – Danny and Emily Deaton’s Background
03:00 – Danny’s Journey Through Addiction
06:00 – The Low Point of Addiction
08:00 – The Role of Family in Recovery
09:00 – The Power of the Atonement
10:00 – Transitioning to Recovery Services
12:00 – Understanding the Role of an Interventionist
13:00 – The Impact of COVID on Recovery Services
14:00 – Developing a Comprehensive Recovery Program
16:00 – The Importance of Family Support
18:00 – Recognizing the Signs of Addiction
19:00 – The Illusion of Control in Addiction
20:00 – The Need for Professional Help
22:00 – The Role of Agency in Addiction
24:00 – The Importance of Boundaries
26:00 – The Challenge of Helping Loved Ones
28:00 – The Statistics of Addiction
29:00 – The Underlying Issues of Addiction
30:00 – The Role of Church Leaders in Recovery
32:00 – The Disconnect Between Spiritual Guidance and Addiction
34:00 – The Need for Professional Intervention
36:00 – The Importance of Family Healing
37:00 – God’s Example of Boundaries
39:00 – The Role of Church Leaders in Addiction Recovery
41:00 – The Importance of Family Support Systems
42:00 – Resources Available for Families in Need
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Jodi Atkinson was born and raised in Utah, and has lived all over the state. She went to college at Utah Tech University in St. George, Utah, and graduated with an Associates Degree in Science. That was where she met and married her husband, Brian. She then took on her next greatest educational experience as the mother of five children. The family left Utah in 2011 and has since lived in Texas, Illinois, and in the Kansas City, Missouri area for the past seven years. Another adventure awaits, and they will be moving back to St. George this summer. Jodi is excited to go back to college and pursue a degree in Art. She has had many service opportunities within the Church that have enriched her life: Young Women president and advisor, youth Sunday School teacher, Young Women camp director, Primary counselor, Seminary teacher, and stake Young Women president. Jodi currently serves as an enthusiastic Primary teacher.
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Jodi emphasizes that youth should not be viewed as problems to be solved but as solutions, advocating for a collaborative approach where youth are actively involved in decision-making through councils. She reflects on her experience, highlighting the need for innovative thinking and adaptability in youth programs and stressing that relationships matter significantly in fostering a supportive environment.
Jodi shares specific examples of how she engaged with youth, such as incorporating their ideas into activities like Young Womens camp and a trek, ensuring they felt heard and valued. Jodi also discusses the importance of ministering and being present in the lives of youth and leaders, which helped build trust and community within the stake, and shares the powerful principle that the Lord does not ask us to serve to deplete us or prove ourselves but to grow and strengthen our connections with Him and others.
05:04 – Jodi’s Experience as Stake Young Womens President
05:45 – Unique Demographics of the Shawnee Stake
06:51 – Starting the Calling During COVID
10:40 – Embracing a Clean Slate Mentality
12:27 – The Importance of Youth Councils
16:16 – Letting Youth Lead in Activities
19:43 – Specific Examples of Youth Engagement
22:10 – Trek Experience and Youth Involvement
26:06 – Building Relationships with Youth Leaders
30:01 – Habits for Fostering Relationships
34:52 – The Lord’s Purpose in Service
35:10 – Object Lesson on Leadership and Service
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Past guests include Emily Belle Freeman, David Butler, Hank Smith, John Bytheway, Reyna and Elena Aburto, Liz Wiseman, Stephen M. R. Covey, Elder Alvin F. Meredith III, Julie Beck, Brad Wilcox, Jody Moore, Tony Overbay, John H. Groberg, Elaine Dalton, Tad R. Callister, Lynn G. Robbins, J. Devn Cornish, Bonnie Oscarson, Dennis B. Neuenschwander, Kirby Heyborne, Taysom Hill Anthony Sweat, John Hilton III, Barbara Morgan Gardner, Blair Hodges, Whitney Johnson, Ryan Gottfredson, Greg McKeown, Ganel-Lyn Condie, Michael Goodman, Wendy Ulrich, Richard Ostler, and many more in over 800 episodes.
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Skyler Sorensen grew up in St. George, Utah as the fourth of eight children. He is an active Latter-day Saint who experiences same-sex attraction. He and his wife, Amanda, were married in the Provo, Utah temple in 2018. He graduated from Brigham Young University with a bachelor’s in Media Arts and currently works with the team at Scripture Central. Skyler started the podcast “Sit Down with Sky”, which has recently morphed into a YouTube series. The series is dedicated to finding and maintaining eternal truths in the conversation around LGBTQ issues. Skyler is also the author of Exclude Not Thyself: Thriving as a Covenant-Keeping, Gay Latter-day Saint, aimed at providing a faith-affirming approach to LGBTQ issues.
Skyler and Amanda have three children. Their first son, Milo, was born at 24½ weeks, and after a few weeks of battling for his life in newborn intensive care, he passed away in Amanda’s arms. They have two living daughters, Remi and Lainey, both under the age of three. Skyler’s current church calling is Gospel Doctrine teacher.
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Skyler shares his personal journey as a gay Latter-day Saint, detailing his experiences with same-sex attraction, his decision to marry a woman in the temple, and the fulfillment he finds in his family life. Skyler shares his perspective on the labels of identity, expressing a desire to prioritize his core identity as a disciple of Jesus Christ over societal labels.
Kurt and Skyler talk about the tension church leaders face when discussing doctrines related to the eternal family, emphasizing the need for compassion while upholding the ideal of eternal marriage. Skyler highlights the importance of understanding doctrine in a way that fosters genuine relationships, even amidst disagreements about lifestyle choices. The discussion also touches on the significance of therapy and the value of seeking resources that align with one’s faith. Both Kurt and Skyler stress the importance of maintaining hope and connection, advocating for a balanced approach that recognizes the complexities of faith and identity.
02:40 – Skyler’s Journey with Same-Sex Attraction
06:00 – Navigating Identity and Labels
08:04 – The Importance of Open Communication in Relationships
09:53 – Early Experiences with Church Leaders
11:09 – Balancing Temptation and Faith
12:16 – The Role of Church Leaders in Discussing Marriage
16:14 – The Ideal of Eternal Marriage
17:26 – Addressing Criticism of Mixed Orientation Marriages
18:12 – The Importance of Seeking Validation from God
19:02 – The Desire to Share a Valid Path for LGBTQ Latter-day Saints
20:16 – The Tension Between Faith and Family
22:10 – Maintaining Relationships Amidst Differences
24:00 – Resources for Families and Individuals
29:19 – The Role of Therapy in Navigating Same-Sex Attraction
31:01 – Understanding Doctrine and Its Application
33:03 – Promoting the North Star Conference
36:06 – Validating the Path of Covenant-Keeping
39:21 – The Importance of Teaching Eternal Truths
40:56 – Finding Strength in the Temple
44:34 – Accessing Strength Through Eternal Perspective
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Tony Overbay is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Mindful Habit Coach, and the host of two award-winning mental health podcasts, “The Virtual Couch” and “Waking Up to Narcissism.” Tony also co-hosts “Love, ADHD” with author Julie Lee, where they share their experiences of receiving ADHD diagnosis as adults, and Tony co-hosts two additional podcasts, “The Mind, The Mirror, and Me,” with his daughter Mackie, and “Murder on the Couch,” a true-crime meets therapy podcast with his daughter Sydney. Tony, Mackie, and Sydney offer live relationship advice weekly on TikTok, YouTube, and Instagram. He also serves on the Leading Saints Board of Therapists.
Tony co-authored He’s A Porn Addict, Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions and works with individuals and couples on issues such as addiction, betrayal, navigating faith journeys, and people “waking up” to their own emotional immaturity/narcissistic traits and tendencies. He has online courses for couples communication and parenting, a soon-to-be-released course on navigating faith journeys, and is the creator of The Path Back, an online, faith-based pornography recovery program. You can find out more about any of Tony’s courses at https://tonyoverbay.com
Tony is a father of four children and has been married to his high school sweetheart, Wendy, for 34 years. Before becoming a therapist, he spent a decade as a software executive and wrote a weekly humor column in a regional newspaper for nearly eight years. Tony is an avid runner, having completed over 100 marathons and ultramarathons, including a dozen races of 100 miles or more.
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This episode delves into the concept of codependency within the context of Latter-day Saint culture, where it often manifests as the “nice guy syndrome.” Kurt shares his personal experiences as a bishop, highlighting how his own struggles with codependency and the pressure to maintain a perfect image affected his leadership. Tony defines codependency as an excessive emotional reliance on others for self-worth, often leading individuals to prioritize others’ needs over their own. The conversation emphasizes the importance of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), which encourages individuals to accept their feelings and thoughts rather than avoid them. By focusing on personal values rather than identity, leaders can navigate their roles more effectively without succumbing to shame or self-doubt. The episode also touches on the significance of being present and acting according to one’s values, rather than getting caught up in the pressures of perfectionism.
04:01 – Understanding Codependency
05:04 – The Nice Guy Syndrome
05:50 – Personal Struggles with Codependency
06:39 – Tony Overbay’s Background
09:25 – Defining Codependency
10:52 – Codependency in Religious Contexts
11:42 – The Impact of Codependency on Self-Worth
13:00 – The Role of the Partner in Addiction Recovery
14:14 – The Importance of Individual Recovery
15:04 – The Connection Between Trauma and Codependency
16:22 – Addressing Codependency in Leadership
19:10 – Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Overview
20:49 – The Importance of Acceptance
22:40 – The Confidence Gap
24:18 – Values vs. Identity in Leadership
26:58 – The Role of External Validation
28:44 – The Bishop Monson Dynamic
31:06 – Systems vs. Goals in Personal Development
33:20 – Embracing Values in Leadership
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Steve Hitz is a co-founder of Launching Leaders Worldwide, a faith-based nonprofit leadership program which helps young adults examine their lives, determine where they are now, where they want to be, and how to create their future while embracing their faith. He has founded companies, served as a young single adult bishop, and considers himself a Baby Boomer with a Millennial heart. Steve and his wife Ginger are blessed with three sons, two daughters, and eleven beloved grandchildren.
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Steve shares his personal journey following the loss of his son to suicide, which prompted him to explore the intersection of faith, community, and mental health. He discusses concerning statistics regarding church attendance and the challenges faced by young adults in maintaining their faith, particularly within the context of negative religious cultures that often emphasize rules and conformity over love and understanding.
Steve introduces the concepts of “fabricated fellowship” and “harmful religiosity,” explaining how these elements contribute to feelings of shame and disconnection among church members. He advocates for a shift towards authentic fellowship, where relationships are built on genuine care rather than obligation. The conversation delves into the idea of orthodoxy, contrasting “tight-fisted orthodoxy” with “open-hand orthodoxy,” and emphasizes the need for leaders to be flexible and responsive to the spiritual needs of their congregations.
Throughout the episode, Steve shares anecdotes and insights that illustrate the importance of love, mercy, and grace in religious practice. He encourages listeners to embrace a more holistic approach to worship that prioritizes personal connection and understanding over rigid adherence to rules. The episode concludes with Steve reflecting on the positive feedback he has received from readers of his book, who have found solace and inspiration in its message.
01:41 – Introduction to Igniting the Holy Flame by Steve Hitz
02:32 – The Impact of Personal Tragedy on Faith
06:04 – Statistics on Religious Attendance and Faith
09:24 – The Role of Questions in Faith
10:13 – Defining Religious Culture
12:27 – The Importance of Authentic Fellowship
13:36 – The Balance of Doctrine and Culture
15:41 – Understanding Orthodoxy: Open vs. Closed Fist
20:22 – The Role of the Holy Spirit in Leadership
23:06 – The Need for Authentic Relationships
25:06 – The Concept of Fabricated Fellowship
27:52 – Solutions for Authentic Fellowship
30:30 – The Importance of Living the Gospel
32:27 – Celebrating Individual Experiences in Faith
34:57 – Keeping the Fire of Faith Alive
36:41 – Feedback and Impact of the Book
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Brent Holladay was recently released as temple president of the Orlando Florida Temple. He received bachelor’s and master’s degrees from Brigham Young University, and spent the last 26 years of his career working as Chief Information Officer and Chief Deputy Clerk for elected Clerks of Court in Florida.
Brent is married to Dana Vorwaller Holladay, who served alongside him as matron of the Orlando Florida Temple and as co-manager of the Orlando Bishops’ Storehouse. He has previously served a stake patriarch, stake president, counselor in the Florida Orlando Mission Presidency, bishop, high councilor, stake clerk and other callings. Brent and Dana currently teach the Valiant 10 Primary class, fondly known as the Primary Temple Preparation class, and he also serves as a ward assistant clerk—finance. They have lived in Longwood, Florida for 43 years and have eight children and 27 grandchildren.
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Brent shares his unique experience of being called as a temple president, detailing the process of selection and the responsibilities that come with the role. He discusses the refurbishment of the Orlando Temple and the management of temple workers, emphasizing the importance of creating a positive patron experience while maintaining the necessary administrative functions. Throughout the conversation, Brent recounts several poignant stories that illustrate the transformative power of the temple in the lives of individuals and families.
The discussion delves into key leadership principles, starting with the importance of loving others as the Savior does and seeking the gift of charity. Brent shares personal experiences that highlight the need for leaders to see individuals as God sees them, fostering an environment of love and support. He also emphasizes the significance of using barometers, such as the percentage of endowed members with current temple recommends, to gauge the spiritual health of congregations and encourage temple attendance.
Brent stresses the need for individuals to be grounded in the temple experience and the covenant path before and after their missions. He concludes with three essential questions that leaders should consider when planning activities, ensuring that they focus on bringing individuals closer to Jesus Christ, preparing them to make and keep covenants, and equipping them for future challenges. This episode is rich with insights and stories that will inspire you to deepen your understanding of temple service as you lead in the Church.
06:31 – Refurbishment of the Orlando Temple
07:14 – Calling as a Temple President
08:57 – Choosing Counselors for the Temple Presidency
10:05 – Setting Apart as Temple President
11:00 – Training for New Temple Presidents
12:05 – Setting Apart Process for Temple Presidents
12:21 – Familiarity with Counselors
13:40 – Responsibilities of a Temple President
14:40 – Ensuring Positive Patron Experiences
16:05 – Role of the Temple Recorder
17:29 – Number of Temple Workers
18:26 – Balancing Administration and Patron Experience
20:34 – Focus on Patron Experience
21:05 – Principle: Loving as the Savior Loves
27:58 – Principle: Barometers in Leadership
30:34 – Importance of Temple Attendance
32:29 – Temple President’s Role in State Conferences
37:06 – Transformational Nature of the Temple
38:34 – Principle: Mission vs. Saving Ordinances
44:37 – Questions for Church Activities
The award-winning Leading Saints Podcast is one of the top independent Latter-day Saints podcasts as part of nonprofit Leading Saints’ mission to help Latter-day Saints be better prepared to lead. Learn more and listen to any of the past episodes for free at LeadingSaints.org.
Past guests include Emily Belle Freeman, David Butler, Hank Smith, John Bytheway, Reyna and Elena Aburto, Liz Wiseman, Stephen M. R. Covey, Elder Alvin F. Meredith III, Julie Beck, Brad Wilcox, Jody Moore, Tony Overbay, John H. Groberg, Elaine Dalton, Tad R. Callister, Lynn G. Robbins, J. Devn Cornish, Bonnie Oscarson, Dennis B. Neuenschwander, Kirby Heyborne, Taysom Hill Anthony Sweat, John Hilton III, Barbara Morgan Gardner, Blair Hodges, Whitney Johnson, Ryan Gottfredson, Greg McKeown, Ganel-Lyn Condie, Michael Goodman, Wendy Ulrich, Richard Ostler, and many more in over 800 episodes.
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