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How To Get Over Loneliness During Your Divorce

Loneliness affects almost every divorced person in one way or another. Dr. John Cacioppo joins the Over Divorce Podcast to talk about loneliness. He is the Tiffany and Margaret Blake Distinguished Service Professor and Director of the Center for Cognitive and Social Neuroscience at the University of Chicago.

Dr. Cacioppo is a pioneer in the field of social neuroscience and the author of more than 500 scientific articles and 20 books including Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection.

Among the awards he has received is the Troland Award from the National Academy of Sciences, the Distinguished Scientific Contribution Award from American Psychological Association, a MERIT Award from the National Institute of Health and is recognized one of the top 50 most eminent psychologists of the Modern Era.

His research in social neuroscience is devoted to understanding the neural, cellular, and molecular mechanisms underlying the social structures and processes that define us as a social species.

During the show we explore the following issues:

• Why you are genetically programmed to feel loneliness and what to do about it.
• The evolution of loneliness and how it impacts you during divorce.
• Why your brain is isolating you from other people and how to deal with it.
• Find out the connection between sleep and loneliness.
• How loneliness protects your social body so that you can survive and prosper.
• The difference between being alone and feeling lonely.
• The link between loneliness and physical pain.
• Why loneliness during divorce is completely normal and not a sign of weakness.
• Why your brain hides your loneliness and how to spot it.
• How to get control over your divorce loneliness.
• How to use Facebook to lower loneliness.
• Why loneliness is just as dangerous as obesity.
• Cacioppo reveals his E.A.S.E methodology for getting rid of loneliness.
• Why you only need 1 or 2 good relationships to feel connected.

Read the transcript here

Make sure you check out Dr. Cacioppo’s website for more information about loneliness http://www.johncacioppo.com/

Dr. Cacioppo book Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection can be found on Amazon.

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Divorce is painful but it’s also a very profitable business. Joseph Sorge is the writer and director of Divorce Corp. The movie is a powerful and chilling documentary on the divorce industry. It is a really well done piece that outlines the destructive nature of the family court system. Before he began writing and filmmaking, Joseph earned a B.S. degree from M.I.T., and an M.D degree from Harvard, was a professor of molecular biology at The Scripps Research Institute, and founded a biotechnology company, Stratagene, which he took public and later sold to a large medical supply company.  In this episode we talk about:

• A behind the scenes look at how attorneys and judges work on divorce cases.
• Why money becomes a major factor during divorce hearings.
• How divorce is portrayed and practiced in other countries.
• How 50/50 parenting impacts the wellbeing of children.
• Why some couples use finances during divorce to get revenge on each other.
• Why the divorce system is biased toward the “breadwinner”.
• The inequalities of child support based on gender and salaries.
• Cultural and gender biases that are inherent in the divorce system.
• Can the divorce system in the United States change?
• Joe shares ideas on fixing the system.
• Strategies on picking the best lawyer to represent you.
• How to mentally prepare when going into court.

You can find out more about Joe Sorge at http://www.divorcecorp.com

Make sure that you follow Divorce Corp on twitter @divorcecorp

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Today we have Jessica Ehrenworth, a registered therapist with over a decade of experience helping people who are going through divorce. Jessica has a Master’s degree in Counselling Psychology and she co-founded and runs The Centre for Health and Anger Resolution which worked with men and women, couples and individuals, to overcome the stigma of anger and conflict and learn how to experience and express their emotions in healthy ways.

We talk about:

• The two different types of emotions and their impact on your energy.
• How to take control of your emotions
• How our emotions interact with one another
• How to tap into your emotions by being aware of your body
• The relationship of shame and anger
• A simple breathing exercise to help you deal with your anger
• The best ways to deal with anger
• The importance of practicing anger management techniques
• The biggest mistakes people make when dealing with anger
• How to use your emotions to set up boundaries

You can find out more about Jessica below:
Web: www.jessicaehrenworth.com
Email: [email protected]
66 Centre Street, Upper Unit Thornhill, Ontario L4J 1G2
Phone: 647-220-6463

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We are talking therapeutic drugs, depression and divorce on this episode of the podcast. Joining the show is marriage and family therapist, Larry O’connor. Larry is a psychotherapist with who has been providing divorce counseling to individuals and couples for over 15 years.   Larry has have been a counselor in a variety of settings since 1998, including elementary and middle schools; residential treatment with adults and children with severe emotional and psychological disabilities; and post-graduate psychotherapy internships that prepared me for private practice. In 2006, Larry began his sole private practice.

• Who to talk to first if you’re thinking about using medication during divorce.
• How to know if you might need medication through your divorce.
• Why men don’t typically use medication during divorce.
• Pros and cons of using medication during a divorce.
• What the heck is psycho-pharmacologist and when should you use them?
• What does being present and being on medication have to do with each other?
• How men and women differ on using prescription drugs.
• How to naturally trigger your mind’s feel good drugs.
• Using a therapist to help communicate with your ex.

Larry graduated of San Francisco State University, with graduate degrees in English/Creative Writing and Counseling with a specialty in Marriage and Family Therapy. Prior to his training as a psychotherapist, he taught English Composition, Creative Writing, and Fiction courses at the University, College and Adult Education level.

You can find out more about Larry and his marriage practice here:

Larry’s website is http://larryoconnor.info/

San Francisco Office
1902 Webster Street
San Francisco, CA 94115

Palo Alto Office
555 Middlefield Road, Suite 206
Palo Alto, CA 94301

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Dr. Scott Behson joins the show. Scott is a professor of management at Fairleigh Dickinson University, a national expert in work and family issues. Scott founded and runs the popular blog, “Fathers, Work, and Family,” dedicated to helping working fathers and encouraging more supportive workplaces. Scott talks to us about:

• The challenges that divorcing working dads have and what to do about them.
• The secret downside of being perceived as an involved dad at work.
• How to negotiate with your work place in order to spend more time with your kids.
• The danger of violating the “working guy code” by being a good dad.
• How workplace flexibility increases efficiency.
• The biggest misconceptions about working dads.
• The changing issues dads face as their children get older.
• The biggest mistakes that dads make.
• A great tip on how to stay connected with your kids.
• The importance of building a good support network while divorcing.
• How to use technology to stay in touch with your kids during divorce.
• How to “Chunk Up” your time so that you bond with your child in a meaningful way.

Scott writes regularly for the Harvard Business Review Online, Huffington Post and the Good Men Project, and has also been published in TIME and The Wall Street Journal.

He’s the author of The Working Dad’s Survival Guide: How to Succeed at Work and at Home, a book providing advice and encouragement for working fathers, helping them to achieve success in their careers while also being the involved, loving dads they always wanted to be.

Scott has appeared on MSNBC, CBS This Morning, Fox News and Bloomberg Radio, as well as NPR’s Morning Edition, Radio Times and All Things Considered. His work has been featured in such outlets as the Atlantic, Esquire, The Globe and Mail, HLN’s Raising America, MSN Money, Salary.com, Today.com, DailyPlateofCrazy.com and  WiseCareers.com.

You can contact Scott here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: http://ScottBehson.com

Book: http://WorkingDadsSurvivalGuide.com, http://amzn.to/1PWQtky

Blog: http://FathersWorkandFamily.com

Twitter: @ScottBehson

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Charles Francis is the co-founder and director of the Mindfulness Meditation Institute. For over 18 years, he has worked to help people find inner peace through mindfulness meditation. Charles has published numerous articles, and is the author of the new book, Mindfulness Meditation Made Simple. On the show we talk about:

• The benefits of meditation while you are coping with a divorce.
• The different rituals of meditation and how they are used.
• How to start a meditation practice.
• How to discipline your mind to increase your ability to focus.
• How you can use meditation to steady your emotions during divorce.
• Why meditation helps you see clearer during your divorce.
• The importance of confronting and accepting your pain and loss.
• A new writing mediation practice that can help you accelerate your results.
• The problem with trying to find happiness through our senses and emotional gratification.
• What the roots of human suffering are.
• How to stay on track with your mediation practice.

Charles has a master’s degree in Public Administration from Syracuse University, with a focus on health care management and policy. He also earned a master’s degree in International Relations while studying in China and Japan.

Charles is a speaker and does consulting to help organizations develop mindfulness training programs, in order to help them realize the cost-saving benefits of the mindfulness practice. He also leads workshops and mindfulness retreats.

Charles Francis is available for mindfulness consulting for businesses, associations, nonprofit organizations, and government institutions. Requests for further information, availability for speaking, and consulting should be directed to the address and phone number below:

The Mindfulness Meditation Institute
P.O. Box 12432
Raleigh, NC 27605
Phone: (919) 803-3517
Email: [email protected]
Web site: www.MindfulnessMeditationInstitute.org
Facebook: www.facebook.com/MindfulnessMeditationInstitute
Twitter: @CharlesAFrancis
Twitter: @TrainingMindful
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/pub/charles-a-francis/49/7b2/b09

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Marriage expert Larry Bilotta joins the show to talk about how childhood trauma impacts marriage. Larry is the founder of Life Discoveries, Inc. Larry lived 27 years in a marriage made in hell, but in the 28th year, he fell in love with his wife. Larry and his wife Marsha have completely opposite values, yet are still married over 40 years because of the ideas and tools he discovered throughout those 27 years. Today, Larry teaches husbands and wives how to end anxiety and find calm in the middle of marriage chaos. On the podcast we talk about:

• Why a painful childhood impacts your marriage.
• How the big three pain points from childhood (abandonment, abuse and neglect) can disrupt your marriage and lead to divorce.
• How the programming we received as a child impacts how we act towards our spouses.
• The long term impact of how our parents treated each other and how that plays out in our relationships.
• The three types of relationships (intimate, social and work) that we have and how they change during marriage.
• Some of the attributes that men are unconsciously attracted to in women.
• The danger of men “becoming” their fathers in their marriages.
• The importance of moving from an “against” mindset to that of “acceptance”.
• How thoughts are processed in your brain and how we create meaning out of them.
• Why nobody learns or changes until they are in pain.
• How implementing acceptance and gratitude can change your relationships.

You can find out more about Larry and his courses at http://surviveamidlifecrisis.com/  and www.youcansavethismarriage.com/blog

Also, make sure to follow him on Twitter @LarryBilotta

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Dr. Sue Cornbluth joins the show to talk about high conflict divorce. Dr. Sue is a nationally recognized expert in parenting, childhood trauma and high conflict divorce. She has also been named Top Advocate and Professor for Human Rights by the Goodwill Ambassador for World Peace. Dr. Sue is a regular mental health contributor for a variety of television shows, and has contributed to several national publications like the Associated Press, US Weekly, and The Huff Post. She also writes a monthly parenting column for Parents Express magazine.

She has just written her 2nd book “Building Self-Esteem in Children And Teens Who Are Adopted or Fostered”. Dr. Sue holds a doctoral degree in Clinical Psychology and teaches Psychology at Temple University. During the show we talk about:

• The pitfalls that lead to a high conflict divorce.
• The biggest inability, which most people have, that leads to conflict during a divorce.
• Tactics to help lower the tension and drama in you ex.
• The importance of putting your emotions aside during your divorce.
• The number one thing to keep in mind to avoid conflict with your ex.
• Tips on taking the “high road” during your divorce.
• Techniques on how to communicate effectively with your crazy ex.
• The number one thing that you can do to get progress with your ex.
• How to stop blaming yourself for your divorce.
• Why people use parental alienation and the repercussion it has on kids.
• Why just saying sorry to your ex doesn’t work.
• How to keep your boundaries during your divorce.

If you would like to contact Dr. Sue you can reach her practice below, buy the way her first consultation is free.

1121 North Bethlehem Pike
Suite 60-133
Spring House, PA 19002
Phone: (267) 261-8462
Email: [email protected]
Website:www.drsueandyou.com
Twitter: @SCornbluth

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Online community founders Michelle Zudeck and Perri Teitelbaum of LifeThruDivorce.com are featured on this episode of the Over Divorce podcast. Life Thru divorce is an online community for people that are going through divorce. They have a ton of resources, articles, discussion threads, and guides to help you through your divorce. It’s a great place to meet and message with people that are going through divorce. They even have a spot for our podcast.  Listen and hear about:

• How online divorce communities work
• The biggest challenges for people facing divorce
• Why guys need resources and friends to help them cope with divorce
• The problem with emotions during your divorce-and what to avoid
• The importance of making decisions collaboratively with your ex-wife

You can find out more about Life Thru Divorce by going to http://lifethrudivorce.com/

Also, make sure that you follow them on Twitter @LifeThruDivorce

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Joining us on the podcast from the Boston Law Collaborative is attorney and certified family mediator Vicki Shemin. She has a dual-degree in clinical social work and family law, and has more than three decades of experience. Vicki offers her clients an array of dispute resolution options including mediation, collaborative law, parenting coordination, pre- marital and post-nuptial agreements. Ms. Shemin even has a sub-specialization in handling cases for those interested in working on “agreements to stay married.”

Ms. Shemin has been named among Boston’s Top Rated Lawyers and as one of the Top Women Lawyers in the Northeast. She is also an adjunct instructor in family law, ethics and mental health law at Boston University School of Social Work, and as a guest lecturer on for the American Bar Association. Vicki is currently working on a book entitled – Letters To Ex-Spouses:.. And I Just Wanted You To Know.

Here is what we cover in the show:

• Vicki talks about a new concept called an “Agreement to Stay Married”.
• Vicki discusses what prenuptial and postnuptial agreements are and when they are used.
• She reveals the most common elements of postnups and prenups.
• The most important thing that you should know about creating a postnup and prenup agreement.
• The worst time to discuss and implement a postnuptial agreement.
• A very effective exercise to get closure on your divorce.

You can find out more about Vicki’s book project by clicking this link: www.surveymonkey.com/s/XC89FQ9

Vicki Shemin can be reached at her firm:

Boston Law Collaborative, LLC
99 Summer Street · Suite 1600
Boston, MA 02110
Tel 617-439-4700
http://www.bostonlawcollaborative.com/

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Joining the podcast is former judge Susan Sexton. Susan was not only the first woman to be elected as a circuit judge in Tampa, Florida but also the youngest. As a judge, she served in all divisions of the court: everything from Probate, Guardianship, Mental Health and most recently Criminal and Family Law.

In addition, she was an adjunct professor at Hillsborough County Community College where she taught a course in Family Law and was an instructor in Muenster, Germany teaching American criminal procedure.

Susan is a speaker at various legal education programs. She is also the author of an e-book called “5 Steps to Hiring the Right Divorce Lawyer”. The first 10 listeners can get a FREE copy of the book! Just send an email to [email protected] and tell her that you heard about the her on the OverDivorce Podcast.

During the show we talk about:

• The biggest mistake that guys make when going to court.
• The significance of showing respect to the court during a hearing.
• Does what you wear impact how a judge perceives you in court?
• The most important elements that you need to convey during a hearing.
• A judge’s perspective on mediation.
• The importance of being prepared for court.
• How criminal court differs from family court.
• How lawyers try and influence judges.
• Questions you should ask your attorney about how they bill.
• Best ways to keep costs low during your divorce.

You can find out more about Judge Susan Sexton by going to her website: www.judgesexton.com 
You can follow her on twitter @judgesexton
Make sure that you get a FREE copy of her book “5 Steps to Hiring the Right Divorce Lawyer” by sending her an email [email protected]. Susan is giving away copies to the first 10 listeners that contact her and mention OverDivorce in the email.

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