Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Damona Hoffman

You will laugh, you will love, you will learn to love again.

  • 8 minutes 51 seconds
    The List Myth & Dating Math

    Do you date by a list? How’s that going for you? Damona tackles The List Myth in the second episode of the “F The Fairy Tale'' Summer Series. Plus, Damona shares some dating math to illustrate how The List Myth hurts you more than helps you…and what you should focus on instead.


    Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)


    Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!


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    TIMESTAMPS


    (00:00:00) Intro to the "F the Fairy Tale" summer series.

    (00:01:09) The list myth 

    (00:02:21) Narrowing the list 

    (00:05:55) Importance of leaving reviews 

    (00:06:58) Announcement of the next episode 

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    9 July 2024, 9:00 am
  • 17 minutes 57 seconds
    Summer Love & Dating IRL

    We are kicking off the “F The Fairy Tale” Summer Series this week with one of our most-asked questions: Online dating doesn’t work for me. How do I meet my match IRL?


    Plus, Damona shares dating tips for the summer and her own story of an epic summer romance with a man who went by the name of Mr. Pandemonium.


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    2 July 2024, 9:00 am
  • 59 minutes 27 seconds
    Jillian On Love & Finding The One

    Jillian Turecki, certified relationship coach and host of the Jillian On Love podcast, joins us for our Dates & Mates Season 11 finale! She and Damona explore why the fantasy of "The One" captivates us, and how this desire often masks a need for personal healing and growth.


    We are bringing back the Romance Rollback this week with:


    • Surprising Facts About the Evolution of Dating 


    Then our Dear Damona question this week is:


    • My dates keep ditching me… for my brother! What can I do?


    Follow Jillian at @JillianTurecki and you can become of member of Jillian’s relationship school by visiting JillianTurecki.com/membership


    To read the Mental Floss piece on the Evolution of dating visit: mentalfloss.com/article/79140/10-fascinating-facts-about-evolution-dating-and-courtship


    Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)


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    TIMESTAMPS


    (00:03:40) The romance rollback 

    (00:11:28) Introduction of Jillian Turecki 

    (00:14:52) The myth of the one 

    (00:20:34) The concept of "the one" 

    (00:23:50) Reasons for being single 

    (00:30:04) Challenges in building trust 

    (00:35:02) The evolving dating landscape 

    (00:36:08) Missions in relationship coaching 

    (00:40:16) Making Dating Safer for Women 

    (00:42:07) The Responsibility of Men in Dating Safety

    (00:51:38) Impact of Attractiveness of Family Members on Dating

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    25 June 2024, 9:00 am
  • 55 minutes 51 seconds
    Feng Shui Love & Dating Burnout Breakthrough

    Inessa Freya, international feng shui master and spiritual psychologist, reveals how simple changes in your home can attract new romantic possibilities, improve your current relationships, and bring a sense of harmony and balance that radiates from the inside out. Plus, Damona shares why she credits Inessa for being a part of bringing Mr. Hoffman into her life!

    But first we have a surprising dating dish to serve up for you:


    • Move over healthcare! Could dating apps be the new benefit?

    Then our Dear Damona question this week is:


    • Dating Burnout is real!!! How do I remain positive when I am struggling to find my match?


    Follow Inessa on Instagram @Inessa_Freya and learn more about her work by visiting www.fengshuifromtheheart.com


    Read the Forbes piece: forbes.com/sites/soulaimagourani/2024/06/04/dating-services-as-a-future-company-perk/?sh=5df2e008459a


    Read the Independent piece: https://sg.news.yahoo.com/tokyo-launch-first-government-run-091413507.html


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    TIMESTAMPS


    TIMESTAMPS


    (00:00:15) The introduction to Feng Shui

    (00:02:24) Dating apps as employee benefits 

    (00:06:20) Government-sponsored dating apps 

    (00:08:59) Introduction to Inessa Freya

    (00:10:36) Understanding Feng Shui 

    (00:12:39) Personal experiences with Feng Shui

    (00:18:01) Clearing up energy and finding love

    (00:19:52) Visualizing love and moving for love

    (00:24:32) Feng Shui principles and applying them

    (00:26:33) Decluttering and space clearing 

    (00:33:13) Space Clearing with Intention 

    (00:33:47) Impact of Objects on Energy 

    (00:35:14) Moving and Arranging Items 

    (00:35:55) Feng Shui Rules for Bed Placement 

    (00:39:38) Ancient Aspects of Feng Shui 

    (00:42:00) Maintaining a Positive Dating Mindset 

    (00:47:35) Challenging Societal Narratives 

    (00:48:42) Attracting Someone 

    (00:49:52) Mindset and Clarity 

    (00:50:50) The Five Dating Loops 

    (00:51:57) Setting Intentions 

    (00:53:03) Upcoming Season Finale 

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    18 June 2024, 9:00 am
  • 57 minutes 27 seconds
    Main Character Energy & Moving Too Fast

    Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, shares insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please” so that you can navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main character energy. Plus, she will share how to know when it's time for a dating detox. 


    The Dating Dish story this week is based on new findings from Tinder:


    • The Green Flags Study on Assumptions & Dating


    Then our Dear Damona question this week is:


    • How fast is too fast when dating a new match?


    Follow Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Thank You, More Please”.


    Read the Tinder study by visiting: tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study#assets_all


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    TIMESTAMPS

    (00:00:00) Intro

    (00:01:38) Tinder's "Green Flag Study" on assumptions in dating 

    (00:05:47) Challenges in modern dating 

    (00:07:00) Creating positive dating experiences 

    (00:14:57) Criticism of dating apps 

    (00:17:24) The challenges of modern dating 

    (00:18:36) Design of dating apps 

    (00:19:01) Impact of dating apps on users 

    (00:21:23) Dependency on dating apps 

    (00:22:22) Main character energy in dating 

    (00:25:57) The practice of dating skills 

    (00:30:15) Challenging societal messaging 

    (00:29:11) Bragging on a date 

    (00:34:22) Brazen Bragging 

    (00:38:08) Essence Based Preferences 

    (00:42:18) Dating Detox: When and Why 

    (00:48:28) Importance of Intentional Dating 

    (00:49:21) Navigating Relationship Preparation 

    (00:49:58) Lily Womble's new book, "Thank You More Please" 

    (00:50:27) Listener Question: Relationship Pace 

    (00:51:52) The Notion of "Slow Love" 

    (00:53:06) Balancing New Love and Personal Life 

    (00:55:21) Cherishing New Love 

    (00:56:32) Invitation for Questions and Future Episode Preview

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    11 June 2024, 9:00 am
  • 53 minutes 26 seconds
    First Dates & Old Flames

    Mat Boggs, YouTube dating coach, sets you up for your best first date yet as he covers everything from red flags and conversation topics to knowing how much time to invest in a match.

    The Dating Dish story this week comes from Mashable:


    • Dating Culture Has Become Selfish. How Do We Fix It?


    Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

    • An old flame invited me to their big birthday bash in Cabo. Should I go?


    Follow Mat on Youtube @MatBoggs and check out his MANifest Your Man Program by visiting: https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-session


    Read the Mashable story at: mashable.com/article/selfish-dating-app-culture


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    TIMESTAMPS


    (00:00:12) First dates: The gateway to new possibilities 

    (00:01:57) Dating culture: A selfish era 

    (00:04:35) The capitalist mindset and dating

    (00:08:45) Rethinking the approach to dating

    (00:10:22) Do's and don'ts of first dates

    (00:17:47) Red Flags in Dating 

    (00:18:38) Internal Repetitive Energy 

    (00:19:35) Internal GPS System 

    (00:21:28) Manipulative Behaviors

    (00:23:04) Vibration for Long-Lasting Love 

    (00:24:35) Compatibility of Interests 

    (00:25:42) Mindset and Deal Breakers 

    (00:26:37) Mindset for Online Dating 

    (00:29:50) Intentional Action in Dating

    (00:30:51) Sharing on First Dates 

    (00:33:30) Whose hands are you going to put this baby into?

    (00:35:33)Shifting the conversation 

    (00:36:33) Mel's authentic approach

    (00:43:46) Dear Damona - Tracy's dilemma 

    (00:45:17) Damona's advice to Tracy 

    (00:49:06) Happy Birthday and Letting Go 

    (00:50:17) Lily Womble Up Next

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    4 June 2024, 9:00 am
  • 1 hour 1 minute
    365 Love Practices & AI Dating Concierge

    Dr. Alexandra Solomon, couples therapist and author, lays a foundational framework to deepen connection and self-understanding in her new book “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive.” In this episode, she will share specific exercises and prompts to get you thinking about love differently.


    The Dating Dish story this week comes to you from NBC News:


    • Could an AI Dating Concierge fix your dating life?


    Then our Dear Damona question this week is:


    • Is it a red flag if my match doesn’t ask me questions about myself?



    LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off on Tuesday, May 29th. Last chance to enroll in the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop


    Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram @Dr.Alexandra.Solomon and grab a copy of her new book, “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship heal, Grow and Thrive”


    Read the NBC News story at: https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/internet/ai-personas-are-future-dating-bumble-founder-says-many-arent-buying-rcna151738


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    28 May 2024, 9:00 am
  • 54 minutes 32 seconds
    Take Back Your Brain & The Texting Trap

    Kara Loewentheil, Master Certified Life Coach, applies an analytical, feminist lens towards understanding our current dating culture and how our old stories may be affecting our decisions in love.


    The Dating Dish story this week is based on a national study conducted by Whirlpool:


    • Spring Clean Your Dating Profile: A Surprising Social Experiment Uncovers What Singles Prioritize Most 


    Then our Dear Damona question this week is:


    • How can I get more messages from my matches?


    LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off. Sign up for the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop


    Follow Kara on Instagram @KaraLoewentheil and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head and How To Get It Out.”


    Read about the Whirpool survey at: prnewswire.com/news-releases/spring-clean-your-dating-profile-whirlpool-brand-uncovers-what-singles-prioritize-most-in-a-potential-partner-302077664.html

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    21 May 2024, 4:35 pm
  • 49 minutes 8 seconds
    Mind Your Manners & Bumble Bummer

    Sara Jane Ho, etiquette expert and host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, joins to share the definitive etiquette rules for dating, talking, and texting inspired by her new book.


    The Dating Dish story this week comes from CNN: 

    • Bumble no longer requires women to make the first move! 


    Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

    • My match and I are traveling farther than normal to meet. Does that mean our date should last longer?


    ANNOUNCEMENT: For the first time in a long time, Damona and her team are offering 1-on-1 coaching! Apply to become her next success story at DamonaHoffman.com/application


    Follow Sara Jane on Instagram @SaraJaneHo and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Mind Your Manners: How to Be Your Best Self in Any Situation”.


    Read the CNN article for yourself: cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html

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    14 May 2024, 9:00 am
  • 56 minutes 16 seconds
    Addicted to Drama & I Can Fix Him

    Dr. Scott Lyons, host of The Gently Used Human podcast, talks about his new book, “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis & Chaos In Yourself & Others”. This week’s Dating Dish is: HuffPost shares the reasons why we try to “fix” our matches…and what you should probably do instead. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I attract more culturally open matches?


    Follow Scott on Instagram @DrScottLyons and be sure to grab a copy of his book!


    Share the love: Get your copy of Damona’s book  F the Fairy Tale on Amazon too and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode!


    HuffPost article https://www.huffpost.com/entry/taylor-swift-fix-him-relationships_l_662a5511e4b005d7bf0cbef0



    TIMESTAMPS

    (00:01:36) Why do we try to fix people in our relationships?

    (00:08:09) Introduction of Dr. Scott Lyons

    (00:13:32) Causes of addiction to drama

    (00:17:24) Origin of addiction to drama

    (00:18:09) Ecosystem and Turbulence

    (00:19:27) Numbness and Seeking Sensation

    (00:24:02) Addiction to Drama and Dating Apps

    (00:27:00) Attentional Economy and Social Media

    (00:33:13) Interrupting Peace and News Consumption

    (00:35:26) Dating App Activation and Frameworks

    (00:37:21) Awareness and Reflexive Behavior

    (00:38:01) Avoidance Tactics

    (00:38:24) Escaping Chaos

    (00:39:30) Milestones of Healing

    (00:42:41) Processing Trauma

    (00:43:42) Belonging and Identity

    (00:47:02) Cultural Diversity in Dating


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    7 May 2024, 9:00 am
  • 35 minutes 18 seconds
    His Move & Love After 50

    In this all-Dear Damona episode, Damona takes on dating burnout and swipe fatigue by answering your questions, like:

    • Is it a bad sign if my Bumble match is taking more than 3 days to reply?
    • How do I manage expectations with new partners?
    • How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable? 
    • And, is it more difficult to find love after 50?


    Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode!


    TIMESTAMPS

    00:00:07 Is it a bad sign if my bumble match is stuck on his move for days?

    00:02:19 How do I manage expectations with new partners? 

    00:17:27 How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable?

    00:18:30 Dealing with fixer-uppers 

    00:27:50 Is it more difficult to find love after 50?

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    30 April 2024, 9:00 am
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