• He wonders what to say in the moment for givers who are beginners and asks what I might have wanted to hear!
• He's puzzling out the details of how to take a bigger toy. The lube must be slippery and they need the right harness so the new toy is over her bits!

Articles/Information

• Different Ways of Opening Up For Pegging - Article
• Reddit post about Silolis Anal Training Plugs
• All About the Rectosigmoid Junction - Article

Equipment

• Fukena
• Sliquid Silk
• X-Lube
• CBD Butt Stuff
• CBD Palm Grease Extra Greasy
• Silolis Anal Training Sets
• Aslan Leather Commando Harness
• Square Peg Slink
• Hosed Tapered Flexible Silicone Anal Hose
• Tantus Snake
• Tantus Cones
• Banana Pants Bumpher - to grind against
• Banana Pants Lippi grind with or without vibe
• Best vibe for Lippi Nu Sensuelle Point Plus

Webinar Sale is ON - Limited Time Offer

All 3 of my Webinars - the Premium Pegging Package - are now on sale until the end of the year, discounted from $99 to $75! This enables you to have a six hour complete educational pegging library on hand for new partners, additional partners, or for your own review. The best part about the recorded webinars is the on-demand flexibility that allows you to view them on your own time frame as opposed to when I have a free webinar scheduled.

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Initial Insertion Short Take

Jessica's question is common for new Givers. She's concerned about getting the toy in so the fun can begin! Initial insertion doesn't need to be unpleasant for the receiver. For the giver, when you take the right steps to open up the ass, initial insertion goes more smoothly. This can give you more confidence in that all-important moment of sliding it home!

WTF are Short Takes?

This is the first of what I am calling my Short Takes. Shorter audio clips and more often is the goal. Hope you enjoy. Might be easier to listen to shorter podcasts as well. Having a tough time at the family gathering? Take 10 minutes out and listen to me talk about dildos and asses! I plan to drop these on no specific schedule, but will strive to satisfy all you listeners who have been so deprived on my podcasts.

Upcoming Sale

Advance notice of year end sale on all 3 of my Webinars. The Premium Pegging Package will go on sale December 15th through the end of the year, discounted from $99 to $75. This will enable you to have a complete educational pegging library on hand for new partners, additional partners, or your own review.The best part about the recorded webinars is the on-demand flexibility that allows you to view them on your own time frame as opposed to when I have a webinar scheduled.

• Dr Carlton's Butt Clock

Happy Pegging and No Shame!

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Pegging Paradise Podcast #303

Just when you wondered if you'd lost me... Another podcast pops right up!

• Both sides of an amazing pegging story
• Some new toys after the ANME show!
• All 3 Webinars are now recorded and available for on-demand viewing
• Happy Hour Chats with Ruby are now a thing
• Private consultations can be scheduled here

Information/Articles

• All 3 Webinars Recorded
• Happy Hours

Equipment

• Strap On Me Unique Harness dual penetration one size waist 25 - 35
• Strap On Me Tapping Wave Dildo 6" x 1.5" suction cup waterproof
• Strap On Me Realistic 6" x 1.69" suction cup dual density
• Tantus Uncut Realistic O2 #1 ~8" x 1.75" no suction cup
• Tantus Uncut Realistic O2 #2 6.4" x 1.6" no suction cup
• Tantus Anal Training Cones Small, Large, and Squat
• Tantus Charmer Great Beginner Dildo 7" x 1.3" no suction cup med firm
• B-Vibe 360 Rotating Plug with Dual Vibrations and Remote
• B-Vibe Expand Inflatable Plug with Vibrating Base and Remote
• Strap On Me Inflatable Dildo Plug 5.5" to 7.8" x 1.12" to 2.36"
• Liberator BonBon Cushion Best for Holding Dildo and Riding
• Liberator On a Mission Cushion for Lucky Pierre Experience
• HarForDil Dildo Harnesses Tell them Ruby Ryder sent you!

I hope you enjoy this podcast. Speaking of something that pops right up, there are two inflatable toys for you to check out this time! One from my last blog post, The Strap On Me Inflatable, and a new one from B-Vibe, the Expand, which luxuriously inflates with the touch of a remote.

Also - the story from the couple is heartwarming and a pure pleasure to listen to. I do spend a fair amount of time solving problems and giving relationship advice here at Pegging Paradise. What a treat to get a purely good news story! In fact, I felt compelled to play the music for them.

Happy Pegging and No Shame!

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"I love seeing you like this." My interviewee, Steve, has heard these words many times while receiving pegging from his partner. We hear Steve's story about how he began walking down the path of pegging and how his experience has evolved over the years. He speaks eloquently about what he loves about pegging, and his explorations into crossdressing and chastity. This podcast might be a reassurance to pegging givers who are concerned when their receivers express a desire to crossdress. Hearing personal stories can be heartening and enlightening. Enjoy!

Information/Articles

• Toxic Toys - Article
• Girls on Porn Podcast
• Men Like to Feel Beautiful and Wanted,Too - Article
• Chastity and Pegging - Article
• Nicole Prause on Neurohackers Interview, Medium, Another Interview

Equipment

• SpareParts Joque Harness
• Fuze Tango
• Strap On Me Vibrating Double
• Strap On Me Dual Density

Movember officially begins in November. I will indeed be participating once again with the same goal of $1000. I'm starting early (October 15th) because my goal this year is not a specific workout goal. Instead, it's a weight loss goal! This is why I am starting early. I plan to lose 15 pounds by the end of November and reverse the effects of the pandemic on my fitness. I'm strong from all my workouts but would love to be able to fit back into some of my clothes and move through the world more easily. Extra weight impacts me more intensely as I get older! And I need to stay fit so I can keep enthusiastically having my way with my partners...!

Please donate to the Movember fundraiser if you are able. They are doing such amazing work!

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Pegging Paradise Podcast #301

• Prince of Pegging
• Dogs and Cars and Escapes
• Email lists and marketing
• Pretty Dildos!
• Pegging Celebration Time!
• He finally asks for it and gets it plus more!
• Vagus Nerve considerations post heart attack
• He discovers real femdom exists and I talk about consent
• He is so giving to her that she revisits his love of anal play and he's hopeful
• Podcast #112 is a lighthouse for him is so many wonderful ways
• He seeks a solution to a complicated toy issue

Information/Articles

• Dr. Joe Kort on men wanting to feel desired
• Paper - Anal sex after Cardiac event
• Podcast #112

Equipment

• Andrew Christian Jock Straps!
• Unicorn Tongue Dildo 2.3" x 7.4"
• Mr Hankey's Toys
  • Beefcake Small 2.2" x 6.44"
  • Alien Breeder Small 2.18" x 7.5"
  • Kthulu Small 2.4" x 7.5"
• Banana Pants dildo covers
  • Bumpher - cover
  • Shagger - cover
  • b.Cush - pad
  • Honeybunch - pad with vibe
  • Lippi - pad with vibe
  • Nu Sensuelle Point 20 - Best bullet vibe for pads

I hope you enjoy podcast #301! I included a link to an instagram video from Joe Kort that relates to my new article posted on 7/2, "Men Like to Feel Beautiful and Wanted, Too". There's a lot to this line of thinking. I think the reasons that women are not as good at expressing their desire for men are complicated, but that doesn't mean that the desire to receive compliments and feel wanted is not there. Please take some time and consider this.

BIG SALE: Mr Hankey's is having a sale! From now until August 31st, the code SUMMER20 will get you 20% off storewide! Shop.

Happy Pegging and No Shame!

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More dominant, please - the thought going through many receivers minds.

The magic of Pegging, in my opinion, is that it is a customizable sexual activity. Pegging can look many different ways depending on the desires and leanings of the people involved. One couple might enjoy a sensual, love-making experience while another might prefer a full-on BDSM scene with restraints, impact play, and humiliation.

A desire I see expressed often by receivers in pegging groups on Reddit, and in emails sent to me is for the giver to be more dominant.

"How can I get my partner to be more dominant while fucking me?"

"Sometimes I really wish she would just grab me and fuck me and act a little more dominant."

"I've asked my partner to be more dominant, but she said she doesn't know how."

This is a common desire in the world of pegging. So how can couples best navigate this added aspect to their pegging play? I recorded my thoughts on this subject for you all. The answer is more involved than you would think. Good communication is essential. Knowing what you like and dislike is also important for both givers and receivers.

Remember, the willingness to explore is commendable and a true gift to your partner and your relationship! You don't know whether you will like it if you have never tried it, right?

Happy Pegging!

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Podcast #300 Part 2, where Michelle and I continue the conversation talking about responsive desire, celebrating people's no, and more. We explore touch, awakening the prostate, foreplay in solo anal exploration, and giving yourself permission. And don't forget, Soft Cock Week is coming again November 5 - 11, 2023! There are so many subjects around soft cocks that we discuss. Even how the word cock seems to be more favored by one racial demographic - with no studies to prove it!

Articles/Information

• Emily Nagoski - Come As You Are
• Cuddle Party
• Soft Cock Week November 5 - 11, 2023
• Soft Cocktail Mixer 2022
• Barry McCarthy - Coping With Premature Ejaculation
• Mark Greene - Remaking Manhood
• Betty Martin Wheel of Consent
• Woodhull Organization program archive
• The Case For Cock Owners Using Strap-Ons

Equipment

• B-Vibe Snug Plug
• Aneros Helix Syn
• Spare Parts Deuce

Michelle and I go down a bunch of rabbit holes (pun always intended) in part 2 of podcast #300. She explains about responsive desire, and how understanding what your accelerators and your brakes are can be so important for couples to explore with each other. Then we explore Soft Cock Week (Michelle's creation!) from a variety of different perspectives. Check out the website - there are a collection of writings there from the inaugural 2022 celebration.

Again, I want to thank you for downloading and listening, and for your support. I believe that because of my efforts, and by extension, your efforts, too, that we have significantly reduced the shame often felt by receivers of pegging. We have also corrected the misconceptions and myths attached to this delightful sexual activity. More people than ever are exploring pegging. The wave of interest has not slowed. If anything, it has increased. Those of you here learning, exploring, and discovering all of the pleasures pegging can offer, you are absolutely surfing that wave, and I congratulate you!

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Presenting Podcast #300! I am joined by Michelle Rene, sexual surrogate, sex worker, intimacy guide, human connection coach and creator of Soft Cock Week. We talk about many. many things. You will surely find some nuggets in there for yourself. Thanks for listening!

Articles/Information

Pegging Gangbang Interview #146 Part One
Pegging Gangbang Interview #146 Part Two
Podcast #200 Part One
And Podcast #200 Part Two
Podcast #200 Part Three
Stan Tatkin - Wired For Love
Jessica Fern - Polysecure - Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-Monogamy
Dr. Joe Kort - Ask Yourself...
Terry Real - Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
Attachment Style Quiz
AASECT
Tammy Kent - Wild Feminine

Equipment

EnticeMe - Code Ryder for free shipping!
SheVibe
Mr Hankeys

So many books to read and ideas to investigate with this episode. This is what it's like when Michelle and I get together, and we thought we'd give you a slice of Ruby/Michelle conversation to hopefully delight and inform. It's been a long road from my first poor audio quality podcast in 2012 to number 300 today. Thanks for downloading. Thanks especially for listening. On this occasion, if there's one thing that I would urge you all to remember, it would be to let go of shame.

In some areas of my life I feel like I've just gotten started, but there's no time like the present to explore, grow, and learn. Basically, it's never too late. Live your lives with love and embrace your desires, because we are only here for a short time. I say this emphatically, as a woman who just turned 66!

In each and every moment, we all have the choice to either expand with love or contract with fear. Therefore, don't let fear rule your life. Choose love! When you do, you give everyone else around you a chance to do the same.

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Pegging Paradise Podcast #299

• She used to peg him but not anymore. Advice?
• He wonders if pushing the cock and balls back behind the legs has a point?
• He wants to find the right formula to increase her enthusiasm and pleasure
• Pegging Celebration Time!
• He has Equipment questions after their first 3 times
• He comments on my article and tells a story
• Seven words and a grammar lesson
• Shout out and a question
• Sub seeks prostate orgasm and wants more pleasure for his mistress
• He's post-op prostate cancer, seeking advice about a strap-on for him
• He's a virgin looking for a dominant partner, advice?
• She said no, he made a Funky Rocker!

Articles/Information

• Review of Strap On Me Multi Orgasm Bendable
• Review of Strap On Me Vibrating Bendable Double
• Sign up for my webinars!
• Chairman Position
• Givers Discord Chat - email me: Ruby@ PeggingParadise.com
• Midori's DIY Scarf Harness
• When Dominant Women Suck Submissive Dick
• Cam Fraser Interview Mish Middelmann
• The Case For Cock Owners Using a Strap-On

Equipment

• Strap On Me Multi Orgasm Bendable Double
• Strap On Me Vibrating Double
• Spare Parts Sasha Harness
• Silicone Sheaths for Strap On Me Doubles
• O-Ring Sets
• Blush Silicone Dildos
• Spare Parts Deuce Harness
• Mr. S Leather Corey Jay Leather Harness
• Hismith Fucking Machines Coupon Code 5% off:%20WYWE97H3
• Plans for Funky Rocker and DP Upgrade!
• Velvet Teddy Thrusting Dildo - powerful and kinda loud!
• Naked Addiction Freak - thrusts, vibrates, rotates

Podcast #299 touches on a variety of different topics until finally revisiting that question of a fucking machine, but this time it is not a machine, it's a rocker. We've talked about these before and since that time there's a new upgrade to the plans, if you are a DIY kind of receiver. There are also a couple of new toys for those receivers who don't have a partner yet crave that sensation of being pegged.

Affiliate links

Entice Me Code Ryder for free shipping!
Hismith Fucking Machines Coupon Code 5% off:%20WYWE97H3
SheVibe
The Butters Hygienics Palm Grease Lube 20% off coupon code PEGGINGPARADISE
Giddi Prostate Massagers
Mr Hankey's Large Toys
Godmiche - UK based
NYTC - New York Toy Collective

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Pegging Paradise Podcast #298

• Consultations with Ruby are now easy to schedule!
• PCT! He tells his story, from anal play to pegging
• PCT! He shares his journey from diet to exploration to pegging!
• His reflections after one year of pegging
• He shares his experience with Snug Plugs 1-4 and bicycling!
• They are exploring more and more. He’s excited and terrified all at once!

Articles/Information

• Zoom Consultations with Ruby
• Review of JimSupport Sex Sling
• Breathtaking Butt Plug Article
• Pegging Positions for Beginners
• More Pegging Positions
• Article - Asking Her to Try It

Equipment

• Aneros Prostate Massager
• Sex Card Games
• Jim Support Sex Sling
• B-Vibe Snug Plugs
• B-Vibe Vibrating Snug Plugs

Podcast #298 contains some great stories about this journey we call pegging, from beginning anal play to the real deal. I never tire of hearing how that story unfolds, the challenges and thrills along the way. The recurring theme so often seems to be the deep satisfaction of being accepted for exactly who you are, and the thrill of exploring new sexual territory. Slings, butt plugs, relationships, communications, taking risks, asking for what you want, and more makes up this episode. And we are almost at #300!

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Podcast #297 brings all kinds of good things, like putting on a show for your partner, thinking hard about the connection of bisexuality and pegging, and a deep dive (pun intended) into lube options. PLUS, I finally found a lube option for you wide toy aficionados that measures up to my lube snob standards - yay! If you are going to put something in your body, make sure it's safe. That axiom applies to toys as well as lube! For those of you interested in different techniques to help open up to pegging pleasure, I'm hooking you up with Dr Carlton's butt clock technique, too. So effective! Enjoy podcast #297.

For Your Listening Pleasure!

• She waxes poetic about pegging, and wonders about positions and toys
• She wonders about the assertion that all men who enjoy pegging are on some level interested in the real thing
• Receiver/Giver Reddit shares of their first time pegging
• He discovers solo shower play and puts on a show for his wife!
• Discovering pegging at a later age has it challenges, and he’s looking for ways to make it easier and more enjoyable for her
• Lube info/opinions, from a man with decades of anal play experience!
• He’s having a hard time relaxing with solo play

Articles/Information

• Pegging Positions
• Ciren Virde Interviewed by Leyna Nguyen of Consenting Adults Podcast
• Venus Cuckoldress Interviews Ruby!
• Reddit Forum - Straight Pegging
• Podcast #112 for the Givers
• The Webinars!
• Newbie Solo Ass Play
• Dr. Carlton’s Butt Clock Technique on IG

Equipment

• Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo
• Pegasus Vibrating Dildos with remote
• Blush Vibrating Dildos
• Jim Support Sex Sling
• Spare Parts Sasha
• Sliquid Silk
• Butters Palm Grease Code PEGGINGPARADISE for 20% off!
• Njoy Purewand

Here in CA we recently did the whole stupid (IMO) time change thing again. I wondered what the hell happened because I thought we were getting rid of it. Turns out despite voters approving the measure, state lawmakers have not passed any legislation to get rid of it. Will of the people, my ass. Politicians do whatever they like, and prioritizes the needs of the rich and powerful, especially corporations. Wow, I'm in a mood this morning!

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