This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for "having it all". 

In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun. 

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Continuing our series on the Having It A.L.L. framework, today's episode is all about LOVE. 

I have a special guest on this episode with me today, one perfectly suited to chat with me about love.

In this conversation you'll learn:

• The difference between conditional and unconditional love
• Where love falls in David R. Hawkin's "Scale Of Consciousness"
• The distinction between attachment and connection when it comes to love

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I’ve always been inspired by the genius men and women who were able to take a concept such as love, or effectiveness or even personal finance, and find the patterns within them that can allow ordinary mortals like you and I to tap into and experience these things fully.

Well before I had a podcast called Having It A.L.L., I had an idea about what “having it all” meant to me, and I witnessed much passion, anger, conviction, judgement, confusion and frustration around the topic.

I knew there was something there worth exploring, and I had the time and curiosity to do it.

I set out to create a framework for what having it all meant to me, so that I would be able to (from the most objective place possible), declare whether or not I felt that I had it all in life at that particular moment.

In this episode, and for the next several weeks, I’m exploring the framework that I developed thanks to my curiosity, experimentation, mentoring, researching and reflection.

Today’s episode is about ABUNDANCE and what that word truly means.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• A simple way to look at abundance
• The key factor that you must have in order to experience abundance
• 1 simple tip to experience more abundance in your life

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What does "having it all" mean to you?

It’s a question that I ask all of the guests I have on the show, and it’s a question to which I’ve never heard the exact same answer twice.

I started this podcast partly because of the polarizing nature of that question.

On one side you have people who believe that you can have it all, and who are quick to give their version of what it looks like. On the other side you have people who vehemently argue that having it all is not possible and that saying you can have it all is irresponsible.

Just do a quick Google search of the phrase and you’ll see all sorts of results that paint the question in a light or dark tone.

I’ve thought about that question for a number of years, and as I put together the bones of this show I decided that I wanted to create a framework around my belief about "having it all".

Pulling from personal resources for effectiveness, love and peace, as well as consulting with a number of trusted advisors and mentors, I developed a framework for "having it all" that allows me to, as objectively as possible, determine whether I truly have it all in my life.

In this episode I dive into that framework, breaking down the meaning behind A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life. I open up my toolbox for "having it all" and introduce concepts that I will dig into deeper in future episodes.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• The meaning behind Abundant Loving Life
• The 6 F’s along with a powerful way to view and relate to each
• 6 powerful tools for creating an abundant loving life

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We have all been in a situation where another person has challenged a belief that we held. 

Big or small, we know what it feels like to be questioned and to then feel like we need to defend our beliefs. 

Well, I'm no stranger to this either, and I had an excellent opportunity to experience this very thing during a recent podcast interview!

The episode that you're about to listen to was recorded just minutes after I had my belief challenged on air. I decided that I wanted to capture the moment as it was happening, and share my experience with you. 

The original episode where my previously held belief was challenged will be publishing soon (most likely directly after this one), but this episode is about what happened and how I responded. 

What you'll hear in this episode:

• The experience that inspired me to record this episode
• What I consider to be one of the purest pathways to growth
• A personal challenge for you to experience growth

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Monique Ruffin is a celebration of living. She is one of those people that folks say has “A beautiful soul”.

And I completely understand why.

Monique grew up in the neighborhood of Watts in Los Angeles. Yes, that Watts. It's where Sanford And Sons was set, and was where Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke duke it out in Training Day.

That neighborhood is not known for many empowering things, but it’s where Monique called home.

Growing up in an area impacted by crack, with parents in and out of jail, many wouldn’t have been surprised if Monique failed to transcend her environment. But she did, and in a big way.

Monique is a mother, writer, creator, coach, radio host and group facilitator. But most of all she’s an example of what it looks like to live with heart, authenticity, courage, vulnerability and realness.

In our conversation, Monique and I talk about her childhood, the lessons she’s learned as a mother, and how we can all grow beyond our circumstances.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• How to understand yourself so you can navigate life’s challenging circumstances
• The power of being curious
• 2 profound takeaways from motherhood

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“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor

You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.”

In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meaning.

Today’s episode is an exercise in creation. I followed the advice of a friend and fellow podcaster, and recorded this episode with no notes and no script. Every part of this episode was created organically, on the spot.

I did that because I wanted to exercise my muscles of creation, and what resulted was a powerful reflection on creative, the creative process, and tapping into our creative potential.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• What happens when we fail to acknowledge our creativity (especially when we praise it in others)
• How creativity ties into our gifts, talents and passions, and the difference of each of those
• How to tap into your full creative potential

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At the end of last week's episode I left you with a cliffhanger.

Last week I was talking about FEEDBACK and the power of feedback to ensure you stay on path in life. I introduced the question, "What's the point of being on path if you don't know where the path is leading you to?"

I left you with the promise that the next episode would be about Mission Statements and would feature a special guest. 

Well...here we are!

This week I have an incredibly awesome guest with me, live in the studio (first episode with a guest in the flesh with me), and we get down and dirty on everything about Personal Mission Statements. 

Most people have heard of Mission Statements within businesses or organizations. But have you ever thought about how a Personal Mission Statement might impact your life?

The difference between a life that's fueled by a clear, intentional mission, and one that is not, can be staggering. 

What you'll learn in this episode:

• Exactly what a Personal Mission Statement is, how they are used, and why they're important
• A process for developing your own Personal Mission Statement
• Stories and testimonies of people's experience of life before and after creating a Personal Mission Statement
• A taste of a very unique way to create a more badass life

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I’m a firm believer that life is always going to throw circumstances your way, especially when you say (or think) you’re ready to handle them.

Circumstances can look like a fender bender, a letter from the IRS, a pet needing to go to the vet, and pretty much whatever other not-sought-after experience that you can think of.

Enter Faydra Koenig, a woman who has been through her fair share of circumstances!

I was inspired to connect with Faydra after watching a personal and candid video on the circumstances that she has experienced in her life. 

When we sat down, Faydra was an open book. And having listened to her podcast and spent time on her website, I didn’t expect anything less.

In our conversation Faydra and I talk about circumstances and how to not only survive them, but thrive!

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• The Law Of Gestation
• 2 types of accountability groups (and which ignites powerful results)
• How to thrive when life throw’s you circumstances

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We’ve all been through situations that, at the time, felt never ending.

Time crawls by. Our bodies respond to the tension. Our minds race from present to future to past.

Going through hell feels like going through hell.

But if you’re reading this, if you’re here right now, then that means you made it through hell.You survived!

Because when you walk through hot coals, your feet get tougher and more resilient.

Colleen Crain knows that is like. A traumatic event as a child left her physically impaired fora time, and emotionally shaken.

But she also know, first hand, that rising above circumstances is what we are designed todo.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• How to relate powerfully to circumstances
• How to thank fear for showing up
• Colleen’s personal story of dealing with circumstances

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What is simultaneously the most significant factor and biggest barrier to becoming your greatest self?

Without this thing, airplanes would not make it to their final destination, corporate managers would have less work to do, and you would reach a ceiling with your potential.

It's something that confronts the ego so directly that many people shy away from it at any cost. Yet, it is a powerful tool for self realization, growth and transformation.

Any ideas yet?!?

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• The one thing that can accelerate you on your path to greatness (or stop you in your tracks)
• How to ensure you’re growing and moving in the most powerful direction for YOU in life
• My personal mission statement for my life right now

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