You're listening to a men's self-help podcast so it's safe to assume that you're interested in becoming more disciplined, structured, and productive. But there is a side of discipline that many of the self-help gurus won't talk to you about – when discipline becomes a liability more than an asset. My guest today, Craig Ballantyne, joins me to talk about what that even means, what it looks like, and what to do about it. We also cover why it's so important that you plan your days out months in advance, how to keep yourself from distractions but building in flexibility to your day, how much a man can get done in what he calls, "slivers of time," and why you should never paint yourself into a box you don't belong.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction 01:12 - Discipline and rigidity: the downside of structure 03:30 - Parenthood, resilience, and slivers of time 07:30 - The balance between discipline and flexibility 10:00 - Craig's life in Mexico and bilingual family life 14:30 - Managing distractions and time boundaries 17:30 - The true cost of meetings and decision-focused teams 21:00 - Structuring family and bedtime routines 25:00 - Delegation, priorities, and focusing on purpose 28:00 - Fear of delegation and how to fill your reclaimed time 30:00 - Deep work, planning, and monthly focus blocks 35:00 - Combating boredom and sustaining focus 37:00 - The myth of "always enjoying the grind" 41:00 - Planning the next month and long-term thinking 46:00 - Changing self-talk and removing limiting language 49:00 - Childhood patterns and self-imposed boxes 51:00 - Overcoming introversion and building social confidence 55:00 - Selflessness, service, and growth through discomfort 56:00 - Craig's books and where to connect

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Most men think the X Factor - that magnetic presence of strong, capable men - is something you're born with. It's not. It's built through five rules that any man can follow.

In this Friday Field Note, Ryan Michler breaks down the simple, actionable formula that will make you more influential, bold, and courageous - and help you create the life and relationships you want.

The 5 Rules Every Man Must Follow: Be Strong - build the trifecta: physical, mental, and emotional strength Be Emotionally Stable - create safety and calm for your family and team Be Kind - true kindness comes from power, not weakness Be Discerning - not everyone deserves your time or vulnerability Be Courageous - take action even when you're scared

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: 00:00 - What Is the X Factor? 00:30 - The Myth of the X Factor 02:58 - Rule #1: Be Strong 07:18 - Rule #2: Be Emotionally Stable 11:11 - Rule #3: Be Kind 13:20 - Rule #4: Be Discerning 18:04 - Rule #5: Be Courageous 24:15 - The Iron Council Promo 24:50 - Closing Challenge

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In this week's Ask Me Anything, Kipp and Shawn tackle listener questions from the Iron Council, diving deep into the practices of visualization, breaking mental limits, embracing mentorship, and persevering through pain.

The conversation turns raw as the hosts address loneliness, depression, and how men can build stronger connections through openness and authenticity. This episode reminds us that growth requires action, awareness, and brotherhood. Join Kipp and Shawn as they offer practical and heartfelt wisdom to help men live more purposefully and powerfully every day.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:05 - Opening & Dodgers Talk 01:08 - Promotion - Iron Council 02:16 - Ken's Question: Visualization Struggles 14:29 - Julian's Question: Breaking Limiting Narratives 28:36 - Dwayne's Question: Master vs Apprentice Learning 37:22 - Brian's Question: Fighting Through Pain 45:29 - Jeremy's Question: Blind Spots in Men 50:14 - Nana's Question: Handling Gossip & Slander 58:37 - Dustin's Question: Coping with Depression & Hopelessness 01:08:27 - Closing Thoughts

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Whether we acknowledge it or not, there are certain behaviors and mindsets that are etched into our psyche by our fathers. And, if we cannot be aware of what they are, we lose any hope of having power over them and charting new paths for ourselves and our children. Today, I'm joined by Nick Thompson, CEO of The Atlantic, to talk about the legacy his father left and how he is trying to break the string of mindsets that hindered, not helped. We talk about how do adapt when plans don't work, the power of the meritocracy, how to overcome the victimhood mentality, creating powerful and healthy outlets, and the mantras that have served him well and that he wishes to instill in his children.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – The New York Marathon disaster 02:00 – Pushing through with mantras 03:40 – Planning, pace, and preparation 05:30 – Travel stress and overcommitment 07:37 – The power of mental reframing 08:11 – Continuous forward motion 10:35 – Learning from past failures 11:58 – "On to Cincinnati" mindset 15:23 – Lessons from failure and legacy 20:29 – How his father inspired running 21:34 – Finding identity through running 23:35 – Parenting and discipline 25:32 – Lockdown marathon story 27:40 – Breaking generational cycles 30:57 – Lessons from his father's downfall 33:18 – The danger of victim mentality 37:17 – Teaching resilience to his sons 39:13 – Soccer as a meritocratic equalizer 42:07 – Shared humanity through sport 45:01 – The importance of men talking openly 46:01 – Running as leadership training 48:21 – Endurance, pacing, and goal setting 49:59 – The Running Ground book 50:38 – Closing remarks

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In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the importance of building meaningful male friendships and creating your own "band of brothers." Drawing from personal experiences, including his annual hunting trip in Minnesota, Ryan breaks down five key principles for cultivating brotherhood - working toward a shared goal, finding common activities, embracing challenge, engaging in banter, and showing up consistently.

He reminds men that strong friendships don't just happen - they're built through shared effort, loyalty, and reliability. Listeners will walk away with practical strategies for deepening male bonds and strengthening their sense of purpose and connection.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction: The Power of Male Friendships 02:17 – Work Toward a Common Goal or Enemy 04:38 – Find Shared Hobbies and Activities 07:56 – Embrace Challenge and Growth 09:24 – Banter, Insults, and Testing Bonds 11:54 – Consistency and Predictability 16:35 – Recap: The Five Keys to Male Friendship 17:12 – The Iron Council Brotherhood

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In this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan and Kipp tackle questions about rebuilding from loss, finding purpose, and leading your family with meaning. They discuss biblical masculinity, staying present with family, being reliable in relationships, and helping kids find purpose.

Ryan also shares lessons from his recent travels and interviews, emphasizing the value of simplicity, responsibility, and action. A thought-provoking, practical conversation for men striving to live intentionally and lead well.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Ryan's return and recent adventures 02:40 – YouTube update and setup 03:05 – Losing everything and rebuilding 13:05 – Biblical masculinity and fulfillment 20:59 – Listening, memory, and reliability in marriage 33:10 – Balancing ambition with being present 40:13 – Helping kids find purpose 47:12 – Framing and managing pain 53:48 – Closing thoughts and promotions

On our perpetual quest for bigger, better, faster, wealthier, and stronger, we're led to believe that more is the answer – more gadgets, advanced technology, connections, resources, money, entertainment, etc. But what if there was a case to be made the answer to fulfillment is not in more but in less?

My guest today, Dewyane Noel, makes that case. We talk about why less is more, how to reduce noise, chaos, and distraction in the modern world, the value of a hard day's work, what we can learn about human behavior through good horsemanship, and why good men ride good horses.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Working Together as Men 04:21 – Teaching the Next Generation of Horsemen 07:49 – "He Rode Good Horses" and Life Lessons 09:16 – A Man's Epitaph and Legacy 09:59 – The Purpose Behind Becoming a Better Man 13:09 – Hitting Rock Bottom and Choosing Change 17:19 – Guarding Peace and Avoiding Old Patterns 19:53 – Living Off the Grid and Finding Rest 24:38 – Setting Boundaries and Protecting Privacy 25:39 – Why Dwayne Began Sharing His Message 27:47 – The Best Advice: Just Chill 30:55 – Needing Less vs. Always Wanting More 35:38 – Filtering Needs vs. Wants 42:23 – The Easiest Person to Lie to Is Yourself 43:10 – How a Man Learns to Like Himself 48:51 – Weakness, Horses, and Assertiveness 51:25 – Leadership, Trust, and the Alpha Role 57:24 – Teaching Responsibility Before Autonomy 01:04:10 – Redefining Manhood and Discipline 01:07:30 – Fatherhood, Boundaries, and "Toxicity" 01:12:29 – The Benevolent Alpha in Marriage 01:15:34 – Growth, Maturity, and Becoming a Better Man

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Most men are working hard, providing, producing — but not necessarily happy. In this Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler shares six practical principles to help you rediscover joy and meaning in your life. From cutting toxic influences to reconnecting with purpose, this episode helps you break out of burnout and live with more fulfillment.

Whether you're frustrated, exhausted, or simply drifting, this conversation will help you recalibrate your priorities and bring more joy into every area of your life.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• Why so many men feel unhappy despite "doing everything right"
• The real reason joy isn't selfish — it's essential
• How to identify people who lift you up vs. those who drain you
• Why you must remove toxic activities to make room for happiness
• How minimalism creates margin for peace and purpose
• The importance of saying yes to adventure and interesting experiences
• How to attach your work to a deeper mission Why serving others is the ultimate path to joy

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SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction 01:00 - Why so many men are unhappy 02:20 - What's the point if you're not joyful? 04:59 - Finding meaningful work 07:08 - Step 1 – Only spend time with people who fulfill you 09:15 - Step 2 – Eliminate toxic activities & find margin 11:38 - Step 3 – Have fewer things 16:29 - Step 4 – Say yes to things that make life interesting 18:59 - Step 5 – Attach your work to a mission 26:09 - Step 6 – Be selfless and serve others 32:06 - Final message – Take action and find joy

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In this week's Ask Me Anything, Kipp Sorensen sits down with Jay Jairdullo from the Iron Council for a powerful conversation about purpose, vulnerability, and growth. They discuss emotional regulation, staying resilient when life feels heavy, and how to lead with authenticity at home and at work.

Listener questions explore fatherhood, leadership, connection, and career challenges. Jay and Kipp also share practical tools for staying grounded, building community, and re-integrating after time apart. Plus, updates on the Iron Council and upcoming Order of Man events.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Intro and Iron Council background 02:00 – Reflections on purpose and service 06:57 – Meaning through serving others (Hook) 08:48 – Being vulnerable while maintaining respect 22:03 – Habits for when life feels deflated 31:23 – Building stronger local meetups 38:16 – Rebuilding life and finances 48:10 – Emotional maturity for men 51:25 – Staying connected during military absence 58:42 – Promotions and closing thoughts

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Why do people refuse to say what they see, and, what everyone knows…whether or not they're willing to acknowledge it? Is there some benefit to keeping quiet, adhering to the "unwritten rules," and, is there a time and place to break tradition? Today, I'm joined by Harvard professor, Dr. Steven Pinker to answer these questions. We also discuss the difference between common knowledge and common wisdom, whether or not it's hypocrisy to stay quiet about the unwritten rules, when to be radically honest or complacently quiet, how to judge risk in your honesty, how the "Abeline Paradox" will serve you, and the importance of male initiation.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Welcome and introduction to Steven Pinker 00:45 – Defining "common knowledge" vs. "common sense" 03:11 – "Don't ask, don't tell" and social hypocrisy 07:46 – Cultural shifts and the meaning of hypocrisy 09:41 – Morality, religion, and policy contradictions 11:21 – Hidden hypocrisies: paper bags and escort services 14:07 – How common knowledge shapes power (Taiwan example) 17:05 – "Coming out" and the social costs of honesty 20:10 – Honesty vs. tact in relationships 23:13 – Learning social nuance: autism and empathy 31:00 – Layers of communication and meaning 34:50 – The Abilene paradox and pluralistic ignorance 38:02 – How silence empowers repression 42:42 – Conformity and social conditioning 44:06 – Building virtuous influence as men 47:22 – Civilizing young men and the role of masculinity 51:48 – The crisis of modern manhood 54:08 – Ruthless honesty with compassion (closing)

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In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down how men can reclaim masculinity in an overly feminized culture.

He outlines five principles for leading, protecting, and providing in a world that often mislabels masculine virtues as toxic. Ryan challenges modern misconceptions, redefines what strength looks like, and calls men to take responsibility - for themselves, their families, and their communities.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Intro - The Cost of a Feminized Culture 00:12 - We Live in an Overly Feminized Culture 02:33 - Rule #1 - Reject the Idea That Men and Women Are the Same 05:38 - Rule #2 - Masculinity Isn't Toxic, It's How You Use It 08:04 - Masculine vs. Feminine Virtues: Different, Not Opposed 10:27 - Rule #3 - Don't Take Masculinity Advice from Women 14:31 - Rule #4 - Boys Need Men: Why Male Influence Matters 16:40 - Rule #5 - Read the Room: Strength vs. Compassion 20:15 - Balancing Masculine and Feminine Parenting Roles 22:35 - Rule #6 - Embrace Meritocracy & Earn Influence 26:50 - Next Week: Dr. Steven Pinker Teaser 26:57 - Subscribe & YouTube Growth Promo KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Modern culture has conditioned men to abandon masculine traits.

• Masculinity itself isn't toxic — it's how you use it.

• Men and women are equal in worth but different in design and purpose.

• Men must mentor boys to become strong, capable leaders.

• Leadership requires discernment — strength and compassion both matter.

• Reclaiming masculinity means earning influence through merit and integrity.

• Upcoming Guest: Dr. Steven Pinker (next week's interview)

• Subscribe on YouTube: youtube.com/orderofman

• Follow Ryan Michler on Instagram: @ryanmichler

• Join the Order of Man Community: orderofman.com

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