“I had known the pain, and survived it. It only remained for me to give it voice, to share it for use, that the pain not be wasted.”

Audre Lorde

The experience of violence is shaped by shame and silence. We’ll hear stories about how silence and shame define the experience of violence for everyone involved: the victim, the perpetrator and the bystander, with a special focus on white bystanders and racist violence. We explore how violence is dehumanizing, and leads survivors to blame themselves. We also hear about the forces that make it difficult for victims and bystanders to speak up.This hour long show is about the power of overcoming shame and silence by telling the truth about violence. Through compelling stories and expert reflection, we explore how finding voice and bearing witness can become part of recovery for both individuals and communities.

Tips & Strategies for Confronting Violence

Listen to Stories From the Episode

Resources

From Our Guests

• Carl Russell; No Telling Aloud: Keeping Secrets That Hurt
• Susan Brison; Aftermath: Violence and the ReMaking of the Self
• Jim Gilligan; Violence: Reflections on a National Epidemic
• Jim Gilligan; Preventing Violence: Prospects for Tomorrow
• Martha Minow; Between Vengeance and Forgiveness: Facing History After Genocide and Mass Violence
• Martha Minow; Breaking the Cycles of Hatred: Memory, Law, and Repair
• Daryl Fort, TEDx 2014; “Safe Communities Require Empathetic Courage”

Further Reading & Listening

General Resources:

• Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
• Trauma and Recovery  by Judith Herman, MD
• Healing the Soul after Religious Abuse: The Dark Heaven of Recovery by Mikele Rauch
• The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD
• When Violence Begins at Home: A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Ending Domestic Abuse by J. Wilson
• The Little Book of Restorative Justice by Howard Zehr

On Racism and Racist Violence:

• Chokehold: Policing Black Men by Paul Butler
• Tears We Cannot Stop: A Sermon to White America by Michael Eric Dyson
• Tacit Racism by Waverly Duck and Anne Warfield Rawls
• How To Be An Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
• My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem, M.S.W.
• Healing Racial Trauma: The Road to Resilience by Sheila Wise Rowe
• The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health: Navigate an Unequal System, Learn Tools for Emotional Wellness, and Get the Help you Deserve by Rheeda Walker, PhD
• Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson
• 1619 from the New York Times

On Adult Sexual Violence:

• Dear Sister: Letters from Survivors of Sexual Violence edited by Lisa Factora-Borchers
• The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, by Wendy Maltz, CSW
•  Surviving the Silence — Black Women’s Stories of Rape by Charlotte Piercebaker
• Unpinned: Breaking the Hold of Sexual Assault and Abuse Written by a Male Survivor by Grant Watkins

On Childhood Violence:

• I Never Told Anyone – Writings by Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse edited by Ellen Bass
• Hush: Moving From Silence to Healing After Childhood Sexual Abuse by Nicole Braddock Bromley
• Children Who See Too Much: Lessons from the Child Witness to Violence Project by Betsy McAlister
• Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal by Donna Jackson Nakazawa

Helpful Organizations

• Battered Women’s Justice Project
• Black Lives Matter
• Black Mental Wellness
• Black Visions Collective
• Campaign Zero
• Color of Change
• Communities United Against Police Brutality
• Equality Now
• Futures Without Violence
• INCITE! Women of Color Against Violence
• Me Too Movement
• NAACP
• Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)
• Reclaim the Block
• Safe Horizon
• The Anti-Violence Project
• The Bail Project
• The Breathe Network
• The National Child Traumatic Stress Network
• The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
• The Northwest Network
• Womankind

Related Safe Space Radio Episodes

Breaking Silence about Violence:

• Nubar Alexanian, The Scars of Silence
• Susan Brison, The Aftermath of Sexual Violence
• Nancy Kassam-Adams, Pediatric Medical Trauma
• Lawrence Langer, Holocaust Survivor Testimonies
• Carl Russell, Breaking the Silence
• Jessica Stern, Trauma, Fear and Denial

Child Abuse:

• Vincent Felitti, Obesity’s Link to Child Abuse and Child Abuse and Physical Health 25 Years Later
• Brie Maselli, Emotional Abuse of Children in Violent Homes
• Governor Paul LePage, Childhood Domestic Violence
• Vernon Wiehe, Sibling Abuse

Domestic Violence:

• Julie Colpitts, Domestic Violence (Part 1, Part 2)
• Cathy Plourde, The Role of Health Care Providers  in Preventing Domestic Violence
• Drew Wing, Reducing Interpersonal Violence/

Male Sexual Violence:

• Daryl Fort, Male Sexual Violence and Rape Culture (part 1) and Speaking Up to Sexism and Violence (Part 2)

Military Sexual Trauma:

• Cynthia Enloe, The Experience of Women in War
• Kathy Russin, Sexual Trauma and the VA
• Kate Weber, Reporting and Retaliation

Racism and Violence:

• Maria Girouard, Esther Attean, and Stephanie Bailey, Breaking the Silence
• Debby Irving, Waking Up White (Part 1, Part 2)
• Paul Marcus, The System of Racism (Part 1, Part 2)
• Peggy McIntosh, Unpacking White Privilege (Part 1, Part 2)
• Sandy White Hawk, Intergenerational Trauma
• Special on Talking to White Kids about Race and Racism

Recovery and Healing from Violence:

• Dave Emerson, Yoga for Trauma Survivors
• Deirdre Fay, Trauma, attachment, and the Body
• Janina Fisher, Trauma and Dissociation
• Celia Grand, Trauma and EMDR Therapy
• Judy Herman, Group Therapy for Trauma Survivors
• Wendy Maltz, Sexual Healing
• Pat Ogden, Trauma and the Body
• Bessel Van Der Kolk, Trauma and the Brain 

Torture:

• Sheila Cassidy, Torture
• Alice, The Challenge of Speaking up for Asylum
• Joanna, Escaping From Violence 

Working with violent offenders:

• Lundy Bancroft, The Psychology of Abusive Men
• Deb Dana, Sex Offenders
• Mike, Imprisonment and Life Transformation (Part 1, Part 2)
• Restorative Justice

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“What if global warming isn’t only a crisis. What if it’s our best chance to build a better world?”

Naomi Klein

Reports of wildfires, hurricanes, and extinctions are frightening, yet we rarely hear people talking about the mental health impact of these changes. This hour long show explores how coping with the mental health impacts of climate change can actually make us more effective at combating it. We hear stories about the challenge of facing the facts, and emotions including grief, hopelessness, and fear. Finally, we consider how taking action can actually lead us to greater strength, connection, and impact. Safe Space Radio combines compelling storytelling with practical expert guidance to give you the tools you need to find your own courage.

Tips & Strategies for Coping and Getting Engaged (PDF)

Listen to Stories From the Episode

Resources

From Our Guests

• Healing After Irma
  Anne Bequette
• Environmental Melancholia
  Dr. Renee Lertzman
• SustainUS
  Aneesa Khan
• Why I Disrupted the White House Fossil Fuel Panel at the United Nations Climate Talks
  Maia Winkler—Teen Vogue
• Climate Anxiety Counseling
  Kate Schapira
• Climate for Health 
  Dr. Lise van Susteren
• Protect South Portland
  Rachel Burger

Further Reading & Listening

Books

• An Inconvenient Truth
  Al Gore
• The Great Derangement
  Amitav Gosh
• Drawdown: the Most Comprehensive Plan Ever Proposed to Reverse Climate Change
  Ed. Paul Hawken
• This Changes Everything
  Naomi Klein
• Active Hope: How to Face the Mess We’re In Without Going Crazy 
  Joanna Macy
• Don’t Even Think About It: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Ignore Climate Change
  George Marshall
• The Madhouse Effect
  Michael Mann & Tom Toles
• The End of Nature
  Bill McKibben
• Learning to Die in the Anthropocene 
  Roy Scranton
• Climate Shock: Economic Consequences of a Hotter Planet 
  Gernot Wagner & Martin L. Weitzman
• The Uninhabitable Earth
  David Wallace-Wells

General Resources for Learning About Climate Change

• Climate Change: How Do We Know?
  NASA Earth Science Communications
• Global Oneness Project
• 13 Misconceptions About Global Warming (Video)
  Derek Muller
• Our Climate, Our Future
• One Thing You Can Do—Know Your Climate Facts
  Susan Shain & Esther Horvath—New York Time
• Climate Change Myths
  Skeptical Science

Climate Change & Mental Health

• Climate Change’s Toll on Mental Health
  American Psychological Association
• First Step to Stop Eco-Grieving Over Climate Change? Admit There’s a Problem.
  Judy Fahys—NPR
• Climate Change and Mental Health: Risks, Impacts, and Priority Actions
  Katie Hayes et al.—International Journal of Mental Health Systems
• What Psychotherapy Can Do for the Climate and Biodiversity Crisis 
  Caroline Hickman—The Conversation
• How Hope and Doubt Effect Climate Change Mobilization
  Jennifer R. Marlon, et al.—Frontiers in Communication
• We Need Courage, Not Hope, to Face Climate Change
  Kate Marvel—OnBeing
• Scientists Share Their Grief, Anger, and Hope Over Climate Change (Video)
  Peter Sinclair—Yale Climate Connections
• Climate Lab Playlist (videos)
  Vox
• Why Climate Change Does Not Scare Us (Yet)
  Elke U. Weber—Climatic Change
• Climate Change in the American Mind
  Yale Center for Climate Change Communications
• Coronavirus Doubters Follow Climate Denial Playbook
  Yale Climate Connections

Talking About Climate Change

• How to Talk Effectively About Climate Change
  Max Boykoff—Scientific American
• Reassessing Emotion in Climate Change Communication
  Daniel Chapman, Brian Lickel, and Ezra Markowitz—Nature Climate Change
• The Most Important Thing You Can Do to Fight Climate Change: Talk About It
  Katherine Hayhoe—TED Talk
• 6 Tips for Talking to Kids About Climate Change
  Anya Kamenetz—NPR
• Is There a Climate ‘Spiral of Silence’ in America?
  Edward Maibach et al.—Yale Program on Climate Change Communication
• How to Talk About Climate Change so People Will Listen
  Charles C. Mann—The Atlantic
• The Secret to Talking About Climate Change (Video)
  Our Climate, Our Future
• The Role of Emotion in Global Warming Policy Support and Opposition
  Nicholas Smith and Andy Leiserowitz—Risk Analysis
• Children’s Books About Climate Change
  Yale Climate Connections

Climate Justice

• Lessons from 40 Years of Documenting Environmental Racism 
  Dr. Robert Bullard—The Revelator
• 7 Young Indigenous Activists Standing Up for Their Communities
  Jackie Menjivar—DoSomething.org
• Carbon Majors Cannot Put Their Interests Before Humanity’s Survival
  Kumi Naidoo—Amnesty International
• Why Climate Change is Anti-Justice (Video)
  PBS Digital Studio
• The Health Impacts of Climate-Related Migration
  P Schwerdtle et al.—BMC Medicine
• I Survived Climate Disaster, But I Don’t Want to Be a Climate Statistic
  Marinel Ubaldo—Teen Vogue

Helpful Organizations

• Climate Action
• Climate for Health
• Earth Guardians
• Energy Justice Network
• Fossil Free
• Institute for a Sustainable Future
• Movement Generation
• NAACP Environmental & Climate Justice Program
• Our Climate Voices
• Project Drawdown
• Sunrise Movement
• SustainUS
• UN Sustainable Development Goals
• Yale Program on Climate Change Communication
• Zero Hour
• 350.org

We’d love to hear from you! If you have a story about climate courage—or a comment for one of our guests—please leave us a voicemail at 617-600-8419.

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“Only in the agony of parting do we look into the depths of love.”

George Eliot

This hour-long show is about the mental health benefits and challenges of saying a good goodbye at the end of life. Through stories, we explore different facets of goodbyes, including why so many of us avoid saying goodbye even in the most life-changing moments. We also discuss how initiating a goodbye conversation can make us more emotionally resilient long-term. We combine compelling storytelling with practical expert guidance to give you the tools you need to start your own difficult conversations.

Tips & Strategies for Saying a Good Goodbye (PDF)

Listen to Stories From the Episode

Resources

From Our Guests

• Now You See the Sky 
  Catharine Murray
• Parenting at a Challenging Time Program
  Paula K. Rauch MD—Massachusetts General Hospital

Further Reading & Listening

Books

• Bearing the Unbearable
  Joanne Cacciatore
• It’s Okay That You’re Not Okay: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand
  Megan Devine
• Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End 
  Atul Gawande
• When Breath Becomes Air
  Paul Kalanithi
• Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief
  David Kessler
• On Grief and Grieving 
  Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler
• Hot Young Widow’s Club
  Nora McInerny

Talking to Kids About Saying Goodbye

• The Invisible String
  Patrice Karst
• Ida, Always 
  Caron Levis
• The Goodbye Book
  Todd Parr
• Helping Kids Grieve
  Sesame Street in Communities
• Help Me Say Goodbye: Activites for Helping Kids Cope 
  Janis Silverman

Hospice Care & Palliative Care

• End of Life Care and Saying Goodbye
  Caring.com
• Helping a Friend Who Is Dying
  Hospice Foundation of America
• What to Say to Someone Who’s Very Sick
  Hallie Levine—AARP
• End of Life Care Guide
  Mayo Clinic
• Providing Care & Comfort at the End of Life 
  National Institute on Aging
• 20 Stats to Know About Hospice in the U.S.
  Wesley Life
• When You Can’t Be With a Dying Family Member 
  WYG

Resources Related to COVID-19

• We’re Going to See What Else the Word Funeral Can Mean
  Jodi Kantor—New York Times
• Coronavirus is Changing How We Say Goodbye
  Peter Kramer—USA Today
• My Dad Has Coronavirus—I Don’t Know if I Should Say Goodbye
  Amelia Nierenberg—New York Times
• How to Grieve a Loved One When You Can’t Say Goodbye
  Lauren Turner & Alice Evans—BBC

Helpful Organizations

• Actively Moving Forward (AMF) for Young Adults (18-24)
• Caring Matters
• Compassionate Friends
• Cope Foundation
• David Kessler’s Free Online Grief Group
• GriefNet
• Hospice Foundation of America
• MISS Foundation for Grieving Families
• National Alliance for Grieving Children
• National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO)
• Our House Grief Support Center

We’d love to hear from you! If you have a story about saying goodbye—or a comment for one of our guests—please leave us a voicemail at 617-600-8419.

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Courage is the choice to act even when we feel afraid. It forces us to confront fear, shame, and stigma—and to feel our own strength. This hour-long show is about how accessing our own courage also supports our mental health and well-being, exploring the experience of living with mental illness—such as depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, and borderline personality disorder—as  a kind of “courage boot camp.” We also discuss how culturally-imposed silence can enforce shame and make accessing our courage much more difficult. Safe Space Radio combines compelling storytelling with practical expert guidance to give you the tools you need to start finding your own courage.

Tips & Strategies for Accessing Your Courage (PDF)

Listen to Stories From the Episode

Resources

From Our Guests

• The Inside Story
• Neil Mckenty
• Thinking in Pictures: My life with Autism
• Temple Grandin
• Black Bear Support Services
  Laura Catevenis
• A Tale of Mental Illness—From the Inside
  Elyn Saks—TED Talk
• The Center Cannot Hold
  Elyn Saks
• The Power of Vulnerability 
  Brene Brown—TED Talk
• Firefighter Behavioral Health Alliance 
  Jeff Dill
• Black Mental Health Advocacy & Research Lab at The University of Massachusetts
  Dr. Tahirah Abdullah
• The Color of My Mind
  Dior Vargas

Further Reading & Listening

Books

• Trauma and Recovery
  Judith Herman
• The Unspeakable Mind: Stories of Trauma and Healing from the Frontlines of PTSD Science 
  Shaili Jain
• An Unquiet Mind
  Kay Redfield Jamison
• Outside the Wire: 10 Lessons I’ve Learned in Everyday Courage
  Jason Kander
• Building a Life Worth Living: a Memoir 
  Marsha Linehan
• A Shining Affliction
  Annie G. Rogers
• The Unsayable: the Hidden Language of Trauma 
  Annie G. Rogers
• Darkness Visible: a Memoir of Madness 
  William Styron

Stigma Reduction

• Addressing Stigma
  Centre for Addiction and Mental Health Canada (CAMH)
• Attitudes Toward Mental Illness
  2012 Report from Centers for Disease Control
• Suicide and Stigma
  Centre for Suicide Prevention
• The Impact of Mental Health Stigma on on Seeking and Participating in Mental Health Care
  Patrick Corrigan—Psychological Science in the Public Interest
• Understanding Stigma as a Mental Healthcare Barrier 
  Sarah Heath—xTelligent Healthcare Media
• 9 Ways to Fight Mental Health Stigma
  National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
• Healing the Nation: Where to Begin?
  Well Being Trust
• Racism in Psychiatry and the impact on Stigma in the black community NAMI newsletter

Helpful Organizations

• Active Minds
• Bring Change 2 Mind
• Carter Center Mental Health Program
• NAMI
• Time to Change (UK)

We’d love to hear from you! If you have a story about mental health or mental illness—or a comment for one of our guests—please leave us a voicemail at 617-600-8419.

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Many white parents have never learned how to talk about race and racism with their kids. Silence perpetuates racism—but it can be hard to know how to start. This hour-long program is about talking to white kids about race and racism: how white parents, families, and teachers can learn to show up for racial justice in a way that will make a difference for generations to come. The show explores a wide variety of approaches with kids of all ages.

Parents, racial justice experts, and teens all provide perspectives on these necessary and challenging conversations, with a focus on how white parents can actively interrupt the racist messages and stereotypes that children as young as three years old are already starting to pick up. We combine compelling storytelling with practical expert guidance to give you tools to start your own courageous conversations.

Tips & Strategies for Talking to White Kids About Race & Racism (PDF)

Listen to Stories From the Episode

Resources

From Our Guests

• Jennifer Harvey Full Interview Transcript (PDF)
• White Ally Toolkit
  David Campt
• Black Girl in Maine
  Shay Stewart-Bouley
• Waking Up White, and Finding Myself in the Story of Race
  Debbie Irving
• Raising White Kids: Bringing Up Children in a Racially Unjust America
  Jennifer Harvey
• Seeing White—Scene on Radio
  Produced and Hosted by John Biewen, with Chenjerai Kumanyika
• White Like Me: Reflections on Race From a Privileged Son
  Tim Wise
• Speak Out
  Hosted by Tim Wise
• White Kids: Growing Up With Privilege in a Racially Divided America
  Margaret Hagerman

Further Reading & Listening

Books

• White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism
  Robin DiAngelo
• So You Want to Talk About Race
  Ijeoma Oluo
• Between the World and Me
  Ta-Nehisi Coates
• Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? and Other Conversations About Race
  Beverly D. Tatum
• Me And White Supremacy Workbook
  Layla Saad
• Stamped From the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America
  Ibram X. Kendi
• The New Jim Crow
  Michelle Alexander

General Resources for White People Wanting to Become Anti-Racist Allies

• What is White Privilege?
  Cory Collins—Teaching Tolerance
• The Costs of Racism to White People
  Paul Kivel
• The Cost of Racism to White People and Why They Should Care About Racial Justice
  Diane Goodman—Focusing Initiatives International
• 100 Ways to Be a White Ally
  Kesiena Bloom—Broadly
• Anti-Racist Checklist for White People
  Robin DiAngelo (adapted from Dr. John Raible)
• Silence-Breakers for White People
  Anika Nailah & Robin DiAngelo
• Research Says There Are Ways to Reduce Racial Bias—Calling People Racist Isn’t One of Them
  German Lopez—Vox

Parenting & Teaching

• How To Talk to Kids About Race: Books & Resources That Can Help
  Olugbemisola Rhuday-Perkovich—Brightly
• They Were Raised To Be Colorblind—But Now More White Parents are Talking About Race
  Caitlin Gibson—The Washington Post
• 24 Books for Anti-Racist Teachers
  Joe Truss—Culturally Responsible Leadership
• Talking About Race, Learning About Racism
  Beverly Tatum—Harvard Educational Review
• 31 Children’s Books to Support Conversations on Race, Racism, and Resistance
  Embrace Race
• Classroom Resources
  Teaching Tolerance

Race & Education

• The Utter Inadequacy of America’s Efforts to Desegregate Schools
  Alana Semuels—Atlantic
• The Data Proves That School Segregation Is Getting Worse
  Alvin Chang—Vox
• Segregation Now
  Nikole Hannah-Jones—ProPublica
• Unequal Opportunity: Race and Education
  Linda Darling-Hammond—Brookings Institution
• Inequality at School
  Kirsten Weir—American Psychological Association

Race & Housing

• Racial Residential Segregation and Neighborhood Disparities
  Solomon Greene et al—U.S. Partnership on Mobility from Poverty
  
• The Shocking Truth 50 Years After the 1968 Fair Housing Act
  John Wake—Forbes
• The Test Used to Expose Housing Discrimination and Its Chicago Roots
  Natalie Moore—WBEZ

Race & Employment

• Workplace Discrimination is Illegal. But Our Data Shows It’s Still a Huge Problem.
  Maryam Jameel & Joe Yerardi—Vox
• The Mark of a Criminal Record
  Devah Pager—American Journal of Sociology

Race & Criminal Justice

• Criminal Justice Facts
  The Sentencing Project
• Tipping Point: Maryland’s Overuse of Incarceration and the Impact on Public Safety
  Eric Lotke & Jason Ziedenberg—Justice Policy Institute
• Ending Mass Incarceration: Ideas From Today’s Leaders
  Inimai M. Chettiar et al.—Brennan Center
• Left and Right Agree on Criminal Justice: They Were Both Wrong Before
  Maggie Astor—The New York Times
• There’s Overwhelming Evidence That the Criminal Justice System is Racist. Here’s the Proof.
  Radley Balko—The Washington Post
• Report: Who Pays? The True Cost of Incarceration on Families
  Ella Baker Center for Human Rights & Partners

Race & Healthcare

• Doctors and Racial Bias: Still a Long Way to Go
  Aaron E. Carroll—The New York Times
• Implicit Bias in Healthcare Professionals: a Systematic Review
  Chloe FitzGerald and Samia Hurst—BMC Medical Ethics
• Reducing Racial Disparities in Healthcare By Confronting Racism
  Martha Hostetter and Sarah Klein—The Commonwealth Fund

Helpful Organizations

• Teaching Tolerance
• Equal Justice Initiative
• The Conscious Kid
• Embrace Race
• ERASE Racism
• Cultures of Dignity
• DreamYard
• Showing Up for Racial Justice
• Community Change Inc.
• Justice Mapping Project
• White Privilege Conference
• Center for Racial Justice in Education

We’d love to hear from you! If you are a parent or teacher, and you have a story about talking to kids about racism—or a comment for one of our guests—please leave us a voicemail at 617-600-8419.

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This episode is about loneliness: what it is, why so many of us feel it, and the surprising toll loneliness takes on our physical and mental health. The health effects of chronic loneliness are akin to smoking 15 cigarettes every day—it literally shortens our lives. Yet it can feel vulnerable to name it when we feel lonely. This show examines the risk factors for loneliness, the influence of social media, and how creative approaches to loneliness can leave us more connected and resilient. We also explore why two groups in particular—teens and the elderly—are most at risk for chronic loneliness. We combine compelling storytelling with practical expert guidance to give you the tools you need to start your own courageous conversations.

Tips & Strategies for Combating Loneliness (PDF)

Listen to Stories from the Episode

Resources

From Our Guests

• Full Interview with Julianne Holt-Lunstad Transcript (PDF)
• Loneliness and Social Isolation as Risk Factors for Mortality: A Meta-Analytic Review
  Julianne Holt-Lunstad et al—Perspectives on Psychological Science
• The Potential Public Health Relevance of Social Isolation and Loneliness: Prevalence, Epidemiology, and Risk Factors
  Julianne Holt-Lunstad—Public Policy & Aging Report
• Loneliness in Older Persons: a Predictor of Functional Decline and Death
  Carla Perissinotto et al—JAMA Internal Medicine
• Alyson Thompson’s Mixed Feelings on Instagram (@mixedfeelingsstl)

Further Reading & Listening

General Resources on Loneliness

• A Cure for Disconnection
  J. Latson—Psychology Today
• The Loneliness Effect
  B. Sadick—US News
• Loneliness is Harmful to Our Nation’s Health
  C. Pomeroy—Scientific American
• How Loneliness Changes Across Your Lifetime
  K. Newman—Greater Good Magazine
• Why Loneliness May Be The Next Big Public Health Issue
  J. Worland—Time
• The Big Business of Loneliness
  L. Entis—Vox
• 10 Ways to Combat Loneliness in a New City—And Even Embrace It
  C. Galasso—Bustle

Postpartum Loneliness

• The Excruciating Loneliness of Being a New Mother
  L. McLaren—Today’s Parent
• The Lonely Terror of Postpartum Anxiety
  S. Bregel—The Cut
• Black Moms Are More Likely to Suffer From Postpartum Mental Health Problems—But Getting Help is Almost Impossible
  A. Goodson Kingo—Working Mother

Loneliness & Gender

• Social Isolation Key Risk Factor for Suicide Among Australian Men—Study
  M. Davey—the Guardian
• Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the Burden
  M. Hamlett—Harpers Bazaar
• 3 Surprising Truths About Gender and Loneliness
  K. Asatryan—Psychology Today

Aging & Loneliness

• One in Three Seniors is Lonely. Here’s How It’s Hurting Their Health
  J. Ducharme—Time
• Loneliness is Lethal
  C. Gandel—AARP
• How to Combat Loneliness and Isolation As We Age
  D. Inns—Forbes

Teens & Loneliness

• “I Have Likes, But I Don’t Have Friends”: Teenage Girls Talk Loneliness
  S. Raphael—Refinery 29 (part of their Lonely Girls Club series)
• Teen Girls Are Now Poisoning Themselves At Alarming Rates. There Are Ways to Help.
  B. Resnick—Vox
• Teenagers on Loneliness: ‘We Want to Talk to Our Parents. We Need Their Guidance.’
  S. Marsh—The Guardian

Mixed-Race and Biracial Identity

• The Psychological Advantages of Strongly Identifying as Biracial
  L. Miller—The Cut
• The Mixed Race Experience: ‘There Are Times When I Feel Like the Odd One Out’
  A. Moshakis—The Guardian

Coming Out

• Out-Takes: the Unheard Stories of LGBTQ Teens
  Safe Space Radio Special, 2016
• Feeling Lonely and an Imperfect Coming Out
  G. Nicholl—Medium
• Nobody Wants to Be Lonely: How to Deal With Post-Coming-Out Blues
  J. Appugliesi—Logo

Helpful Organizations

• National Suicide Prevention Hotline
• National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
• MamaGlow
• La Leche League International
• Black Women’s Health Imperative
• Campaign to End Loneliness
• Connect2Affect
• Senior Center Without Walls
• Where You Live Matters
• National Poll on Healthy Aging
• Foster Grandparents
• Safe Space
• Stomp Out Bullying
• Self Esteem Team
• Amistad Peer Support & Recovery
• The Trevor Project

We’d love to hear from you! If you have a story about loneliness or a comment for one of our guests, leave us a voicemail at 617-600-8419.

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This hour-long program is about asking for help: why it’s so hard to admit when we need something from another person, and the surprising effects that sharing our vulnerability can have on our mental health. The episode explores how shame and stigma can prevent us from asking for what we need, why we tend to underestimate the generosity of others, and how asking can make us feel seen in both welcome and uncomfortable ways. Finally, we address the complicated experience of wanting to help to someone who can’t or won’t ask for it. We combine compelling storytelling with practical expert guidance to give you the tools you need to start your own courageous conversations.

Tips & Strategies for Asking For Help (PDF)

Listen to Stories from the Episode

Resources

From Our Guests

• Transcript of Full Interview with M. Nora Bouchard (PDF)
• Mayday! Asking for Help in Times of Need
  M. Nora Bouchard
• Interview with Alice Barakagwira
  Safe Space Radio, 2016
• Five Years Later—Loss, Heartbreak, and the Opioid Epidemic
  P. Lynn Ouellette,The Times Record

Further Reading & Listening

• How to Get the Help You Need
  H. GrantHarvard Business Review
• 7 Effective Ways to Ask for Help—and Get It
  A. Boyes, Psychology Today
• How I Trained My Husband To Be a Dad
  J. Piazza, New York Times

Veteran Homelessness & Mental Health

• A City Solves Veteran Homelessness
  E. Snow—The Wall Street Journal
• Should You Give Money to People on the Street? Homelessness Experts Weigh In.
  J. Ewoldt—Minnesota Star Tribune
• VA Officials, and the Nation, Battle an Unrelenting Tide of Veteran Suicides
  J. Steinhauer—The New York Times

Adoption

• Most American Adoptees Can’t Access Their Birth Certificates. That Could Soon Change.
  J. Gass-Poore—Mother Jones

Refugees & Asylum Seekers

• How Do You Create a Better Asylum Policy? We Asked the Asylum Seekers.
  M. Peters—The Washington Post
• U.S Asylum Process Fact Sheet
  National Immigration Forum
• Asylum in the United States
  American Immigration Council

Opioid Addiction

• The Opioid Epidemic: A Crisis Years in the Making
  M. Salam—The New York Times
• Rejected By A.A.
  K.J. Anderson & C.M. Kallestrup—The New Republic
• There’s a Highly Successful Treatment for Opioid Addiction. But Stigma is Holding It Back.
  G. Lopez—Vox

Medical Debt

• Medical Bankruptcy: Still Common Despite the Affordable Care Act
  D. Himmelstein et al—American Journal of Public Health
• Americans are Going Bankrupt from Getting Sick
  O. Khazan—The Atlantic

Helpful Organizations

• National Coalition for Homeless Veterans
• National Alliance to End Homelessness
• University of Oregon’s Adoption History Project
• Adoptee Rights Law Center
• American Adoption Congress
• Asylum Seeker Advocacy Project
• Women’s Refugee Commission
• New Mainers Resource Center

We’d love to hear from you! If you have a story about asking for help or a comment for one of our guests, leave us a voicemail at 617-600-8419.

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We all make mistakes. Knowing how to mend our relationships is vital to the mental health of our families and communities. This episode is an exploration of apologies: why saying “I’m sorry” can be difficult, and how we can get better at repairing the relationships that matter the most. Through stories, this show addresses apologies after the #MeToo movement, and the pressure to forgive. It also chronicles the many ways a restorative justice process can change the lives of everyone involved. We combine storytelling with practical expert guidance to give you the tools you need to start you own courageous conversations.

Tips & Strategies for How to Apologize Well (PDF)

Listen to Stories From the Episode

Dr. Harriet Lerner Full Interview Transcript (PDF)

Resources

From Our Guests

• Why Won’t You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts, Harriet Lerner
• Five Ways Your Apology Has the Power to Heal, Harriet Lerner—Psychology Today
• Should We Forgive the Men Who Assaulted Us?, Danielle Berrin—New York Times op-ed
• 2015 Report of the Maine Wabanaki-State Child Welfare Truth & Reconciliation Commission

Further Reading & Listening

• On Apology, Aaron Lazare
• Safe Space Radio interview with Aaron Lazare
• Guilt: the Bite of Conscience, Herant Katchadourian
• Safe Space Radio interview with Herant Katchadourian
• How Schools Are Using Restorative Justice to Remedy Racial Disparities in Discipline, Fania E. Davis—Salon
• Opening Up, Students Transform a Vicious Circle, Patricia Leigh Brown—New York Times
• School Hopes Talking It Out Keeps Students from Dropping Out, Jennifer Guerra—National Public Radio
• Introduction to Restorative Justice—Centre for Justice & Reconciliation
• Implementing Restorative Justice: a Guide for Schools—Illinois Criminal Justice Authority
• Restorative Justice Resources for Schools—Edutopia
• Forgiveness and Childhood Sexual Abuse, Alan Jenkins—International Journal of Narrative Therapy and Community Work
• 5 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Eating Disorders, Megan Jayne Crabbe (@bodiposipanda)

Helpful Organizations

• Maine Inside Out
• Centre for Justice and Reconciliation
• Impact/Justice
• National Association of Community & Restorative Justice
• Times Up Legal Defense Fund at National Women’s Law Center
• Take Back the Night
• When You’re Ready
• #MeToo Movement
• Maine Wabanaki REACH

We’d love to hear from you! If you have a story about an apology or a comment for one of our guests, leave us a voicemail at 617-600-8419.

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This hour-long special is about the unspoken challenges of caring for a family member with dementia. The show explores the experience of ambiguous loss, where the person is both here and not here at the same time. Through stories, we explore why caregivers have such high rates of isolation and depression and how difficult it may be to live with the fear of getting the disease yourself. Host Dr. Anne Hallward has lived with this illness in her own family and offers creative solutions that give hope, reduce stress, and build community.

“One of the hardest things you will ever have to do, is to grieve the loss of a person who is still alive.”

Anonymous

Follow the links below to more audio, information, and resources to support the caregiver you know.

Emotional Care for the Caregiver

Economic, Legal, & Practical Resources

Family & Gender Dynamics in Caregiving

Want to have a conversation?

Use these brief audio prompts to start a conversation about caregiving.

General Resources on Caregiving

Thanks to the Hope and Grace Fund for their Generous Support of this Project.

Canadian Organizations:

• Government Programs and Funding for Canadian Caregivers
• Canadian Home Care Association / Canadienne de soins et services à domicile
• Service Canada, Employment Insurance and Compassionate Care Benefits
• Health Canada, Division of Aging & Seniors
• National Family Caregiver Support Program
• Canadian Mental Health Association: Family & Caregiving Support
• Alzheimer Society of Canada
• Canadian Hospice & Palliative Care Association
• The Family Caregiver, Ontario
• CARP: Caregiver Support

American Organizations:

• Caregiver Action Network
• AARP
• Administration for Community Living
• Assisted Living Federation of America – Leading national trade association serving companies that own, operate, and support professionally managed senior living communities in the United States.
• Eldercare Locator – A public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging connecting you to services for older adults and their families.
• Familycare America: Caregivers Library – One of the most extensive libraries for caregiving that exists today.
• National Alliance for Caregiving – A non-profit coalition of national organizations focusing on advancing family caregiving through research, innovation, and advocacy.
• National Association of Professional Care Managers – Leading the community of Aging Life Care Professionals through education, professional development, and the highest ethical standards.
• National Association for Home Care and Hospice – Represents the nation’s 33,000 home care and hospice organizations. NAHC also advocates for the more than two million nurses, therapists, aides and other caregivers employed by such organizations to provide in-home services.
• National Center for Assisted Living – The assisted living voice of the American Health Care Association (AHCA).
• National Institute on Aging – Researches activities dedicated to understanding the nature of aging, supporting the health and well being of older adults, and extending healthy, active years of life for more people.
• Rosalyn Carter Institute – An advocacy, education, research, and service unit of Georgia Southwestern State University.
• SAGE Services & Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Elders – Services and advocacy for LGBT elders.

Maine Organizations:

• Maine Chapter Alzheimer’s Association
• Eastern Maine HomeCare – Public and private pay options for hospice care in Maine.
• Home Care and Hospice Alliance of Maine – Affordable, accessible, quality home care and hospice services.
• Androscoggin Home Care and Hospice – Nonprofit Medicare-certified agency.
• Maine Hospice Council and Center for End of Life Care – Promoting Excellence in End-of-Life Care.
• Hospice of Southern Maine – Hospice of Southern Maine’s mission is to provide compassion, care and comfort through end of life for patients with life-limiting illnesses, and support for their families.
• Maine Aging and Disability Resource Center – Dementia Services; Family Caregiver Support Program – Provides many resources available for people living with dementia and their caregivers in Maine.
• Memory Works, Memory Cafes – Memory Cafés are places where anyone with any form of dementia, or memory loss, can go to socialize, learn and have fun. At a memory café, people can relax and just be themselves, knowing that no one judges them and all who are there are going through similar challenges.

Maine Aging Agencies:

• Central Maine Area Agency on Aging/Spectrum Generations – Augusta
• Eastern Area Agency on Aging – Bangor
• Southern Maine Agency on Aging – Scarborough
• SeniorsPlus – Lewiston
• Aroostook Area Agency on Aging, Inc. – Presque Isle

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This show is about the courage of teenagers who come out at a time in life when it is hardest to be different. So many of the legal and social changes in this country that support LGBTQ civil rights are happening because one by one, year after year, thousands of young people dare to come out to their family and friends. Little by little, they open minds and hearts.

Follow the links below to more audio, information and resources to help LGBTQ teens, families, schools and communities.

“Harvey Milk always said that this was how the revolution would happen: one lonely kid at a time.”

from Love on the March, New Yorker, 11/12/12 by Alex Ross

Safe Space Radio Presents
Out-Takes: The Unheard Stories of LGBTQ Teens

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Family

Lesbian, gay, and bisexual young adults who reported higher levels of family rejection during adolescence were 8.4 times more likely to report having attempted suicide, and 5.9 times more likely to report high levels of depression.  Pediatrics, January 2009, VOLUME 123 / ISSUE 1  [MORE]

School

The vast majority of LGBTQ kids are victimized at their school.  Bullying ranges from negative comments from both peers and teachers, to actual physical assault.   Find out more about what you can do in your school to protect LGBTQ teens and make the school safer for everyone. [MORE]

Solutions

The great news is that we know what makes a difference in saving LGBT kid’s lives.  The next step is to learn about these strategies, find allies and work together to make these changes. [MORE]

Additional Important Topics:

LGBTQ Homelessness

Transgender issues

Gender Expansiveness

Faith Communities

Inclusive Curriculum

Resources:

Audio:

An interview with Inaugural poet, Richard Blanco:

Part II of the interview with Richard Blanco:

Further Reading:

• “How Homophobia Hurts Everyone: A Theoretical Foundation”
• We Are the Youth: Sharing the Stories of LGBT Youth in the United States
• Climate Survey: The Experiences of Lesbian, Gay, and Transgender Youth in Our Nation’s Schools
• Schools in Transition: A Guide for Supporting Transgender Students in K-12 Schools
• “Stop Bullying Now”
• Crisis: 40 Stories Revealing the Personal, Social and Religious Pain and
  Trauma of Growing Up Gay In America

Organizations:

• Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network
• Trans Youth Equality Foundation
• The Trevor Project
• Equality Federation

Maine Organizations

• Out as I want to Be
• Equality Maine
• Downeast Maine GLSEN
• Southern Maine GLSEN
• Portland Outright on Facebook
• Outright Lewiston/Auburn

Discussion questions for Teens:

• What was it like for you to hear these stories?  What did you resonate with?  What could you not relate to?
• Were there important parts of your experience that got left out?  What are they?
• Who are the most trustworthy, and accepting people in your life?  Make a list. Can you go to them when things are difficult?  Do you?  If not, why not, and is this something you can talk to them about?

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Matthew Sanford is a yoga teacher focused on trauma recovery. Matthew was paralyzed from the chest down at age 13 in a car accident that killed his father and sister. As a teen, he was encouraged to “overcome the silence” of his paralyzed body. He learned that he could listen to his body instead, and ...read more »

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