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The Relationship School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

with Jayson Gaddis

13 minutes 44 seconds

Changing Your Wife to Get What You Want - Jayson Gaddis - 558
Why does trying to change your partner backfire? Jayson breaks down what happens when you try to get your wife to change when she does not want to, and how unmet expectations turn into resentment. He explains the arrogance behind trying to shape your partner, why behavior change requests often miss the point, and what it actually means to love someone as they are. If you keep pushing for change and not getting it, this episode is for you.
Timestamps:
- 2:53 - Trying to change a partner who doesn’t want to change
- 5:44 - Resentment from unmet expectations
- 8:49 - the arrogance of trying to change your partner
- 10:09 - Stop making behaviour change requests
- 11:44 - Trying to change someone is not loving them
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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7 April 2026, 11:00 am
11 minutes 41 seconds

Feelings Are Key to Great Partnerships - Jayson Gaddis - 557
Why are feelings so essential for a strong partnership? Jayson explains how emotions are at the center of secure relationships and where therapy can fall short. He explores how to handle your child’s emotions, the feelings men are often taught to suppress, and what it takes to express yourself in a healthy way. If you want deeper connection in your relationships, this episode is for you.
Timestamps:
- 0:35 - emotions are essential for secure relationships
- 2:17 - the limitations of therapy
- 5:45 - fielding your kid’s emotions
- 6:55 - feelings men aren’t allowed to feel
- 9:26 - learning to express your feelings appropriately
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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31 March 2026, 11:00 am
11 minutes 30 seconds

How to De-Escalate Someone Immediately - Jayson Gaddis - 556
How do you de escalate someone in the moment without making things worse? Jayson breaks down how to calm someone down quickly by staying regulated, entering their world, and validating what is real for them. He explains why trying to fix or win backfires, what it means to take ownership when needed, and why none of this works if you are not being genuine. If you find yourself dealing with big emotions in others and want a better way to respond, this episode is for you.
Timestamps:
- 0:50 - how to de-escalate quickly
- 2:39 - don’t get disregulated
- 3:41 - enter their world
- 4:58 - validate and own
- 8:19 - you have to be genuine
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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24 March 2026, 11:00 am
14 minutes 40 seconds

I Don’t Want to Feel - Jayson Gaddis - 555
Why do so many of us avoid our feelings until they force their way out? Jayson shares his own experience with not wanting to feel and the cost of suppressing emotions. He explores the temptation to medicate symptoms without addressing the root cause, why people hold it together in public only to explode at home, and how the people closest to us can help reveal our deepest triggers. If you are tired of stuffing your emotions or afraid of what might happen if you let them surface, this episode is for you.
Timestamps:
- 0:30 - Jayson’s experience with avoiding emotions
- 6:40 - Medicating without addressing the root cause
- 8:04 - Why people wait to explode at home
- 12:58 - Other people can help us identify our triggers
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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10 March 2026, 11:00 am
14 minutes 11 seconds

My Role as Husband and Father - Jayson Gaddis - 554
Jayson reflects on his role as a husband and father and the responsibility he once resisted. Why do some men pull back from commitment or shy away from the weight of leadership at home? He explores how primary relationships can become a spiritual path, what it means to surrender to fatherhood, and why time with your children reveals who you really are. This episode is an honest look at growth through partnership, parenting, and showing up when it would be easier not to.
Timestamps:
- 0:13 - Why Jayson didn’t want responsibility
- 3:22 - Primary relationships as a spiritual path
- 6:48 - Surrendering to fatherhood
- 9:42 - When dads shy away from time with kids
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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3 March 2026, 12:00 pm
12 minutes 11 seconds

The State of the World - Jayson Gaddis - 553
What kind of world are we creating right now?
Jayson talks about the men in power and what they are modeling for our sons. He asks what happens when a culture loses its moral center. He makes the case that you cannot act like a jerk out there and expect peace at home. If you want change, start in your house. Start with how you show up.
Timestamps:
- 0:30 - What men in power are modeling for our sons
- 1:56 - Losing our national moral compass
- 7:00 - You can’t have a good home life while acting like an asshole
- 9:29 - Real change starts in the home
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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24 February 2026, 5:27 pm
15 minutes 53 seconds

The Courage to Be Oneself - Jayson Gaddis - 552
Jayson explores what it really takes to be yourself in relationship and in life. Why does hiding who you are come at such a high cost? What kind of courage does it take to live authentically, and why do intimate relationships often force an awakening to your true self?
Timestamps:
- 0:35 - The courage to be oneself
- 3:00 - You can’t be fulfilled when you hide who you really are
- 8:13 - Awakening to who you really are through your intimate relationships
- 13:43 - Jayson’s newsletter
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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28 January 2026, 5:05 pm
15 minutes 13 seconds

Does the Masculine-Feminine Frame Work? - Jayson Gaddis - 551
Jayson examines why the masculine feminine framework often creates more problems than it solves. How can this framing be harmful for men? Why does trying to change your partner keep people stuck? What role does attachment play in relationship dynamics, and what is a better way to understand gender issues altogether? Jayson also reflects on his own experience with this framework and offers a more grounded perspective.
Timestamps:
- 2:12 - How the masculine-feminine frame can be bad for men
- 3:57 - The trap of trying to change your partner
- 6:09 - The importance of understanding attachment
- 8:53 - A better framing
- 11:11 - Social determinants of gender issues
- 12:19 - Jayson’s experience with the masculine-feminine frame
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
30 December 2025, 12:00 pm
17 minutes 13 seconds

How to Spot an Elder - Jayson Gaddis - 550
How do you recognize someone who has actually earned wisdom? In this conversation, Jayson breaks down what makes an elder an elder. He explains why it has nothing to do with age or status, how real elders show emotional maturity, what it means to hold space without fixing or rescuing, and why outgrowing your parents is a part of becoming an elder. If you want to understand who to trust, who to learn from, or how to become someone worth following, this episode lays it out clearly.

Timestamps:
- 2:21 - Elders are people who did the work
- 5:46 - Elders hold space
- 9:28 - Outgrowing your parents
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
23 December 2025, 12:00 pm
10 minutes 9 seconds

Your Strategy Is Draining - Jayson Gaddis - 549
What happens when you spend your life trying to be the good one, the agreeable one, or the one who never makes waves? Jayson breaks down the hidden exhaustion that comes from living in your strategic self. He explains how masking drains your energy, why people in strategy stay on the surface, and what it takes to reconnect with your true self. If you feel tired from managing how you come across, this episode shows you why and what to do next.
Timestamps:
- 0:21 - Are you tired from wearing a mask?
- 3:42 - If you’re trying to be good you’ve already lost
- 5:12 - The difference between your strategic self and your true self
- 7:10 - People in their strategy stay surface level
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
16 December 2025, 12:00 pm
16 minutes 48 seconds

Extreme Ownership - Jayson Gaddis - 548
What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.
Timestamps:
- 0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families
- 2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination
- 5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing process
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
18 November 2025, 5:09 pm
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