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The Relationship School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

with Jayson Gaddis

14 minutes 11 seconds

My Role as Husband and Father - Jayson Gaddis - 554
Jayson reflects on his role as a husband and father and the responsibility he once resisted. Why do some men pull back from commitment or shy away from the weight of leadership at home? He explores how primary relationships can become a spiritual path, what it means to surrender to fatherhood, and why time with your children reveals who you really are. This episode is an honest look at growth through partnership, parenting, and showing up when it would be easier not to.
Timestamps:
- 0:13 - Why Jayson didn’t want responsibility
- 3:22 - Primary relationships as a spiritual path
- 6:48 - Surrendering to fatherhood
- 9:42 - When dads shy away from time with kids
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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3 March 2026, 12:00 pm
12 minutes 11 seconds

The State of the World - Jayson Gaddis - 553
What kind of world are we creating right now?
Jayson talks about the men in power and what they are modeling for our sons. He asks what happens when a culture loses its moral center. He makes the case that you cannot act like a jerk out there and expect peace at home. If you want change, start in your house. Start with how you show up.
Timestamps:
- 0:30 - What men in power are modeling for our sons
- 1:56 - Losing our national moral compass
- 7:00 - You can’t have a good home life while acting like an asshole
- 9:29 - Real change starts in the home
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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24 February 2026, 5:27 pm
15 minutes 53 seconds

The Courage to Be Oneself - Jayson Gaddis - 552
Jayson explores what it really takes to be yourself in relationship and in life. Why does hiding who you are come at such a high cost? What kind of courage does it take to live authentically, and why do intimate relationships often force an awakening to your true self?
Timestamps:
- 0:35 - The courage to be oneself
- 3:00 - You can’t be fulfilled when you hide who you really are
- 8:13 - Awakening to who you really are through your intimate relationships
- 13:43 - Jayson’s newsletter
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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28 January 2026, 5:05 pm
15 minutes 13 seconds

Does the Masculine-Feminine Frame Work? - Jayson Gaddis - 551
Jayson examines why the masculine feminine framework often creates more problems than it solves. How can this framing be harmful for men? Why does trying to change your partner keep people stuck? What role does attachment play in relationship dynamics, and what is a better way to understand gender issues altogether? Jayson also reflects on his own experience with this framework and offers a more grounded perspective.
Timestamps:
- 2:12 - How the masculine-feminine frame can be bad for men
- 3:57 - The trap of trying to change your partner
- 6:09 - The importance of understanding attachment
- 8:53 - A better framing
- 11:11 - Social determinants of gender issues
- 12:19 - Jayson’s experience with the masculine-feminine frame
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
30 December 2025, 12:00 pm
17 minutes 13 seconds

How to Spot an Elder - Jayson Gaddis - 550
How do you recognize someone who has actually earned wisdom? In this conversation, Jayson breaks down what makes an elder an elder. He explains why it has nothing to do with age or status, how real elders show emotional maturity, what it means to hold space without fixing or rescuing, and why outgrowing your parents is a part of becoming an elder. If you want to understand who to trust, who to learn from, or how to become someone worth following, this episode lays it out clearly.

Timestamps:
- 2:21 - Elders are people who did the work
- 5:46 - Elders hold space
- 9:28 - Outgrowing your parents
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
23 December 2025, 12:00 pm
10 minutes 9 seconds

Your Strategy Is Draining - Jayson Gaddis - 549
What happens when you spend your life trying to be the good one, the agreeable one, or the one who never makes waves? Jayson breaks down the hidden exhaustion that comes from living in your strategic self. He explains how masking drains your energy, why people in strategy stay on the surface, and what it takes to reconnect with your true self. If you feel tired from managing how you come across, this episode shows you why and what to do next.
Timestamps:
- 0:21 - Are you tired from wearing a mask?
- 3:42 - If you’re trying to be good you’ve already lost
- 5:12 - The difference between your strategic self and your true self
- 7:10 - People in their strategy stay surface level
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
16 December 2025, 12:00 pm
16 minutes 48 seconds

Extreme Ownership - Jayson Gaddis - 548
What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.
Timestamps:
- 0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families
- 2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination
- 5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing process
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
18 November 2025, 5:09 pm
9 minutes 58 seconds

Putting the Pieces Together - Jayson Gaddis - 547
What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.
Timestamps:
- 0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families
- 2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination
- 5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing process
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
22 October 2025, 5:56 pm
9 minutes 30 seconds

Knowing What to Work On - Jayson Gaddis - 546
How do you know what to actually work on in yourself or your relationship? Jayson explains how to identify your pain points, avoid vague or unhelpful advice, and set goals that lead to real progress. If you’re tired of spinning your wheels in personal growth, this episode will help you focus on what really matters.
Timestamps:
- 1:50 - Identify your pain points
- 4:09 - Don’t settle for vague help
- 5:30 - Set goals around your pain points
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
14 October 2025, 3:24 pm
1 hour 22 minutes

Suffering & The Human Journey with Keith Kurlander - 545
Keith Kurlander joins Jayson to explore why people suffer and how we can move closer to authenticity. Is personal development ever narcissistic? Why do so many people chase quick fixes instead of real education and growth? Keith and Jayson discuss the importance of connecting to your authentic self and what makes relationships thrive with greater ease.
Timestamps:
- 0:49 - Why do people suffer so much?
- 8:00 - Being authentic to yourself
- 24:00 - Can person development be narcissistic?
- 38:00 - Seek education, not quick fixes
- 58:30 - Getting connected to your authentic self
- 1:10:00 - Couples who have an easy time
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
8 October 2025, 5:49 pm
17 minutes 20 seconds

Stop Avoiding Difficult Conversations (Do This Instead) - Jayson Gaddis - 544
Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make them go away. It builds resentment, distance, and unresolved tension. In this episode, Jayson unpacks why avoiding conflict costs more than it saves, how to approach difficult conversations with honesty and care, and why vulnerability is the key to repair.
Timestamps:
- 1:00 - The cost of not having difficult conversations
- 7:00 - How to have hard difficult conversations
- 10:50 - Leading with vulnerability
- 13:00 - Learning to repair after difficult conversations
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
1 October 2025, 11:00 am
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