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The Relationship School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

with Jayson Gaddis

16 minutes 48 seconds

Extreme Ownership - Jayson Gaddis - 548
What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.
Timestamps:
- 0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families
- 2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination
- 5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing process
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
18 November 2025, 5:09 pm
9 minutes 58 seconds

Putting the Pieces Together - Jayson Gaddis - 547
What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.
Timestamps:
- 0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families
- 2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination
- 5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing process
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
22 October 2025, 5:56 pm
9 minutes 30 seconds

Knowing What to Work On - Jayson Gaddis - 546
How do you know what to actually work on in yourself or your relationship? Jayson explains how to identify your pain points, avoid vague or unhelpful advice, and set goals that lead to real progress. If you’re tired of spinning your wheels in personal growth, this episode will help you focus on what really matters.
Timestamps:
- 1:50 - Identify your pain points
- 4:09 - Don’t settle for vague help
- 5:30 - Set goals around your pain points
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
14 October 2025, 3:24 pm
1 hour 22 minutes

Suffering & The Human Journey with Keith Kurlander - 545
Keith Kurlander joins Jayson to explore why people suffer and how we can move closer to authenticity. Is personal development ever narcissistic? Why do so many people chase quick fixes instead of real education and growth? Keith and Jayson discuss the importance of connecting to your authentic self and what makes relationships thrive with greater ease.
Timestamps:
- 0:49 - Why do people suffer so much?
- 8:00 - Being authentic to yourself
- 24:00 - Can person development be narcissistic?
- 38:00 - Seek education, not quick fixes
- 58:30 - Getting connected to your authentic self
- 1:10:00 - Couples who have an easy time
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
8 October 2025, 5:49 pm
17 minutes 20 seconds

Stop Avoiding Difficult Conversations (Do This Instead) - Jayson Gaddis - 544
Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make them go away. It builds resentment, distance, and unresolved tension. In this episode, Jayson unpacks why avoiding conflict costs more than it saves, how to approach difficult conversations with honesty and care, and why vulnerability is the key to repair.
Timestamps:
- 1:00 - The cost of not having difficult conversations
- 7:00 - How to have hard difficult conversations
- 10:50 - Leading with vulnerability
- 13:00 - Learning to repair after difficult conversations
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
1 October 2025, 11:00 am
10 minutes 5 seconds

The World I Want to See - Jayson Gaddis - 543
In the wake of the Charlie Kirk shooting and the Evergreen High School shooting, Jayson reflects on the wave of hatred and blame that erupts online after tragedy. From a Buddhist perspective, he explores how we can stop seeing others as the enemy, reclaim our focus, and begin creating the kind of world we actually want to live in.
Timestamps:
- 0:44 - Hatred and blame on social media
- 1:41 - A Buddhist perspective
- 3:53 - Stop seeing other people as the enemy
- 5:46 - Controlling your focus
- 7:56 - The world I want to live in
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
17 September 2025, 3:42 pm
9 minutes 32 seconds

The Disservice of Reassurance - Jayson Gaddis - 542
Jayson breaks down the hidden problems with reassurance. What’s wrong with saying “it’s going to be okay”? When is reassurance actually appropriate, and when does it backfire? What makes reassurance a problem in coaching or therapy? Jayson explains what to say instead and why a deeper response is far more effective for real growth.
Timestamps:
- 0:32 - What’s wrong with saying “it’s going to be okay”?
- 2:12 - When reassurance is appropriate
- 4:14 - The problem with reassurance as a coach or therapist
- 6:10 - What to say instead of “it’s going to be okay”
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
3 September 2025, 11:00 am
10 minutes 16 seconds

I Don’t Want to Bring It Up - Jayson Gaddis - 541
Jayson explores the dynamics of conflict avoidance and why so many people are scared to speak up. What childhood roots contribute to staying silent? Who are you really protecting when you avoid conflict? How does the fear of abandonment keep you quiet? Jayson also unpacks the role of differentiation in learning to bring things up with courage and clarity.
Timestamps:
- 0:44 - Conflict avoidance
- 1:28 - Childhood roots of being scared to speak up
- 2:33 - Who are you really protecting by avoiding conflict?
- 3:34 - Fear of abandonment
- 7:25 - Differentiation
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
28 August 2025, 6:48 pm
11 minutes 29 seconds

Secure Attachment vs Falling in Love - Jayson Gaddis - 540
Jayson unpacks the difference between secure attachment and falling in love. Can you have secure attachment in a brand-new relationship? Why do people often confuse the rush of falling in love with genuine security? When does the attachment system actually turn on? Jayson shares how to support clients who are navigating the complexities of new relationships.
Timestamps:
- 0:41 - Secure attachment in a new relationship?
- 2:28 - Confusing falling in love with secure attachment
- 4:09 - When does the attachment system turn on?
- 9:13 - Working with clients in new relationships
Links:
- ⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
21 August 2025, 5:53 pm
14 minutes 5 seconds

No One Is Broken - Jayson Gaddis - 539
Jayson explores why no one is truly broken. What should you do when a client feels like they are? Why can’t you get rid of any part of yourself - and why is that a good thing? Jayson explains why every part of you has value and how embracing all of yourself can be a powerful path to healing.
Timestamps:
- 1:12 - Why no one is broken
- 8:11 - What to do when a client feels broken
- 9:16 - You can’t get rid of any part of yourself
- 11:31 - You need all parts of yourself
Links:
- ⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
13 August 2025, 8:00 pm
30 minutes 6 seconds

How to Coach Men Effectively - Jayson Gaddis - 538
How should you coach men effectively? Jayson unpacks the impact of male social conditioning and what it means for therapy and coaching. What’s different about working with men in couples therapy? How can coaches help men break out of rigid gender roles without making them feel inferior?
Jayson also shares tips for navigating defensiveness and creating safety while challenging growth. Don’t miss this direct and practical episode on supporting men more skillfully.
Timestamps:
- 1:48 - Male social conditioning
- 7:30 - Men in couples therapy
- 10:37 - What to do differently when coaching men
- 21:42 - Escaping the gender straightjacket
- 26:05 - When you sense a man getting defensive
- 26:37 - Don’t make men feel inferior
Links:
- ⁠The Relationship School⁠
- Follow Jayson on social media:
5 August 2025, 11:00 am
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