What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't

Rhoda Sommer on Relationships

Proven Ways to Make Your Relationship Work

  • 48 minutes 11 seconds
    The Power of Your Brain: How Neuroscience Can Improve Well-Being and Relationships

    Understanding the power of your brain is essential for fostering healthy relationships and overall mental health. Most of us move through our days reacting—reacting to stress, to others, to our own emotions—without ever stopping to consider the organ running the entire show. Your brain is not just a background system keeping you alive; it is the command center you can improve, shaping how you feel, how you connect, and how you make sense of the world around you.

    25 February 2026, 10:00 am
  • 28 minutes 19 seconds
    Men & Anger: Insights into Emotions and Healthy Relationships

    Anger is a complicated emotion for all of us. Many of us have seen how anger can become the default emotion for frustration, fear, shame, or helplessness. Anger is probably most often used to hide vulnerability which is crucial to making relationships work. In this episode, we dive into the connection between men's anger and vulnerability, uncovering how these feelings influence relationship dynamics. If you're looking for relationship advice on how to better understand and manage difficult emotions, this episode provides valuable insights.

    11 February 2026, 10:00 am
  • 29 minutes 6 seconds
    Weaponizing Psychological Terms Distorts Our Relationships

    Have we begun to be so overly sensitive that we protect ourselves with Therapy Speak and love to wrap ourselves up in self-righteous accusations that point the finger…You are a narcissist, You are gaslighting me or You are love bombing me. It's certainly a comfort to grab onto these labels. It's exactly that comfort that feeds our own denial of how we also play a part in the problems. It feeds our love of blame.

    28 January 2026, 10:00 am
  • 40 minutes 36 seconds
    Empowering Partners to Influence Change in Addiction Denial

    Recovery can be very difficult because of shame. Shame is an obstacle to healing for everybody. How can you face hard truths about your own dark side without drowning in the shame? Partners can learn how to not add to the stranglehold of shame that stomps on the soul of their partner & wiggle up to the wall of denial to restore hope.

    14 January 2026, 10:00 am
  • 30 minutes 5 seconds
    The Power of Self-Awareness: Why Understanding Yourself Changes Everything

    Self-awareness is both a blessing and a curse. It is a blessing because it improves who you are down to your very core. It is a curse because it is so hard to do the work of facing up to your own dark side. All of us are so good at pretending we are better than who we are, because it's hard to look at our selfishness, greed, anger or dark side. When someone lacks self-awareness, it is far more difficult to have success in relationships.

    1 January 2026, 10:00 am
  • 44 minutes 6 seconds
    Joy on Purpose: Real-Life Strategies to Reclaim Your Spark

    Joy is more than fleeting happiness; it's a deeper,sustaining energy that gives our lives vitality and meaning.While happiness often depends on circumstances, joy is something we can cultivate, even amid stress, uncertainty, or conflict. It's the quiet undercurrent that helps us bounce back from hard days and reconnect. The more we allow joy in, the more it softens our relationships. Today we will explore practical ways to expand joy.

    16 December 2025, 10:15 am
  • 30 minutes 26 seconds
    Regulate Your Emotions for Healthy Communication

    Today we're talking about emotional regulation and understanding emotional triggers, and how those two pieces can completely change the way we connect with each other. Communication is the backbone of any healthy relationship—but it's not just what we say, it's how we show up emotionally when we say it. Many of our most challenging conversations aren't actually about the surface issue—like the dishes, the lateness, or the tone. They're about the emotional reactions happening underneath.

    26 November 2025, 9:30 am
  • 39 minutes 44 seconds
    How to Rebuild Love When Negativity Has Taken Center Stage

    There is an emotional toll to chronic negativity. Constant criticism or defensiveness doesn't just chip away at trust—it creates emotional distance. Partners start protecting themselves rather than reaching for each other, and intimacy suffers. Every couple experiences tension, disagreements, and frustrations, but when negativity becomes the main storyline, love starts to get buried under criticism, defensiveness, and resentments.

    12 November 2025, 10:00 am
  • 55 minutes 42 seconds
    HOPE AS HEALING: BUILDING EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE IN YOU & YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

    When life feels heavy, uncertain, or overwhelming, hope can feel like a lifeline. Hope isn't just wishful thinking — it's an emotional force that adds meaning to our life! It's the quiet but powerful belief that things can improve, challenges can be faced and that growth is possible. If you've ever wondered how to keep moving forward when things feel stuck, or how to reignite the spark of possibility in your relationship, this conversation is for you.

    29 October 2025, 9:00 am
  • 54 minutes 1 second
    Keeping Passion Alive: Proven Ways to Reignite Your Sex Life

    Don't ignore your sex life, it's too easy for sex to slide to the bottom of the priority list. Relationship health improves when there is an active sex life. Whether you're struggling to get back in sync with your partner or simply curious about how to keep the spark alive after kids, this conversation will give you practical tips and hopeful reminders that love and desire can thrive in every season of parenthood.

    15 October 2025, 9:00 am
  • 1 hour
    Trust as a Superpower: Strengthening Couples and Families

    Trust is the foundation a healthy relationship builds on because it creates a sense of safety between partners. Trust is when both people can be open and vulnerable especially in uncertainty. Trust is a big deal that requires some skills that we will learn more about today. Trust leads to individuals feeling seen, heard, and valued for who they truly are. Trust builds resilience that can withstand all the challenges life throws at us.

    1 October 2025, 12:49 pm
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