• 50 minutes 36 seconds
    Controlling What You Can When Everything Else Falls Apart featuring Khalil Zahar

    I've had a lot of impressive guests on this show, but Khalil Zahar's story genuinely stood out to me. He's the founder and CEO of FightCamp, a company he built from a simple idea, wanting to actually measure his own progress as a boxer, into one of the biggest names in connected fitness, with over $100 million raised and backing from legends like Mike Tyson, Floyd Mayweather, and Georges St-Pierre. He's also not married and doesn't have kids, but the lessons he's built his entire career around, discipline, discomfort, and identity, translate directly to fatherhood and marriage.

    We started with the pivotal moment in his early 20s, a late night watching Sportscenter, that made him realize he didn't have unlimited time to become who he wanted to be. From there we got into his philosophy around seeking discomfort intentionally, why he believes identity has to come before outcome, and what it actually means to become the person who does the things you want to be known for, rather than chasing the result directly. He shared a personal story about training around a serious injury by controlling everything he could, his nutrition and mindset, when he couldn't control his body, and I shared a nearly identical story from my own torn patella tendon recovery.

    We closed the conversation on what Khalil calls the mindset of a fighter, discipline, craftsmanship, accepting what you can't control, and learning to be genuinely thankful for your losses instead of resentful of them. If you've ever felt too comfortable, stuck in a rut, or unsure how to push yourself toward the version of you that you know is possible, this conversation gives you a real, practical way to start.

    Timeline Summary

    [1:04] Khalil's early 20s awakening: a late night realization that time wasn't unlimited

    [3:36] His teenage dream of becoming a professional B-Boy and the intimidating scene around it

    [7:00] The first concrete steps he took once he decided to stop just "trying a little"

    [9:25] How Khalil's relationship with failure changed once he actually started taking risks

    [12:20] Larry announces a rare, small-group preview of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood

    [12:37] Why embracing failure sooner would have changed everything, and Thomas Edison's light bulb story

    [14:31] Taking the first, smallest possible step instead of trying to see ten miles ahead

    [16:34] A full introduction to Khalil: FightCamp's founder, backed by Tyson, Mayweather, and Saint-Pierre

    [18:11] Khalil's controversial philosophy: why seeking discomfort matters more than self-acceptance alone

    [21:39] Practical advice for a man who feels too comfortable and stuck in a "dad bod" mindset

    [22:01] The core idea: identity comes first, and outcomes follow from who you decide to become

    [25:21] Larry announces Roommates to Soulmates cohort three, starting September 16th

    [27:16] Diving deeper into identity versus tactics, using Khalil's 13 bodybuilding competitions as an example

    [32:18] Why seeking discomfort is fundamentally about removing fear, not chasing a specific outcome

    [35:51] Confidence built through keeping your word to yourself, even when you don't feel like it

    [36:43] What the mindset of a fighter actually looks like, broken into four core principles

    [38:18] The first principle: discipline as doing what you don't want to do

    [39:48] The second principle: craftsmanship, applying full care and attention to everything you touch

    [40:31] The third principle: you can't control your opponent, only how you prepare and react

    [42:17] The fourth principle: losses and failure are praised in martial arts, not resented

    [44:10] Larry's own story of controlling what he could control during a torn patella tendon recovery

    [45:32] Khalil shares a strikingly similar story recovering from a severe hand injury

    [49:17] Where to find Khalil and FightCamp

    Five Key Takeaways

    1. Time is not unlimited, and the sooner you accept that, the sooner you stop just "trying a little" and start actually pursuing the version of yourself you want to become.

    2. Identity comes before outcome. Instead of fixating on the result you want, define who that person would be and start living like them today, and the outcome tends to follow naturally.

    3. Confidence isn't built by achieving a goal once, it's built by consistently keeping your word to yourself, especially in the small moments when you don't feel like following through.

    4. You cannot control your circumstances, your opponent, or the environment around you. The only thing you control is how you prepare for and respond to what happens, and real peace comes from focusing there instead.

    5. Losses and failure should be treated as lessons to be thankful for, not outcomes to resent. A fighter's mindset toward getting knocked down and getting back up applies directly to marriage, parenting, and business.

    Links & Resources

    Closing

    What's staying with me from this conversation is Khalil's point that losses are meant to be praised, not resented, because that's exactly the mindset a marriage and a family need too. You're not going to get every season right, and neither is your wife or your kids, but treating a setback as a lesson instead of a verdict on who you are changes everything about how you recover from it. Whatever discomfort you've been avoiding lately, in your body, your business, or your relationships, let this be the nudge to take the smallest next step toward it.

    4 September 2026, 12:00 am
  • 25 minutes 19 seconds
    What to Do When Your Teen Is Struggling Mentally

    This week's Wednesday Q&A is a little different, I'm running it solo since my usual co-host Joe couldn't make it, and honestly, it turned into one of the harder, more important conversations we've had. A man in our Alliance named Rich called in with a genuinely difficult situation: his 17-year-old stepdaughter recently went through a breakup, was hospitalized shortly after making statements about wanting to end her life, and Rich is trying to figure out how to support her while also being honest that he's not sure whether what he's seeing is a real crisis or a manipulation tactic she's learned to use.

    I want to be upfront that I am not a licensed therapist, and neither is anyone else on this call. We have someone in our community who specializes in this exact area, and when a situation is acute, that's who we point men toward. What I can offer is real, lived experience, because one of my own boys went through a genuinely frightening season with depression and anxiety years ago, and I've been in the position of feeling completely out of my depth as a father.

    If you're a father watching a child struggle right now and feeling like you have no idea what you're doing, or you're not even sure if what you're seeing is a real crisis, this conversation won't give you all the answers, because there often aren't easy ones. But it might help you feel less alone in it.

    Timeline Summary

    [1:02] Opening the Wednesday Q&A solo, and introducing today's difficult topic

    [1:48] Introducing Rich, a leader in the Alliance's teen-parenting group, and his situation

    [3:13] Rich shares that his 17-year-old bonus daughter has recently expressed suicidal thoughts

    [4:33] Understanding the timeline: a difficult personal season followed by a breakup two weeks ago

    [5:43] Larry announces Roommates to Soulmates cohort three, starting September 16th

    [7:25] Larry's disclaimer: not a licensed therapist, and where the community sends acute cases

    [8:37] Asking Rich what he'd want to see in his stepdaughter's life a few months from now

    [9:49] The tension between wanting to support her and wanting to hold her accountable to her own goals

    [10:47] Assessing her circle of friends and the instability there

    [12:30] First piece of advice: don't go through this alone, and find a therapist she connects with

    [13:20] The breakfast and games advice from a mentor, and why simple connection mattered more than conversation

    [15:27] The medication journey: an initial diagnosis, a worsening condition, and a specialized brain scan clinic

    [17:07] How a corrected diagnosis and a supplement-based approach turned things around over about a year

    [17:32] Larry shares his own 2017 hospitalization following extreme physical training and severe insomnia

    [19:29] Reiterating connection over correction as the throughline of the advice

    [19:51] Larry announces a rare, small-group preview of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood

    [24:19] Closing advice: don't go through it alone, connect first, and remember that without connection there is no influence

    Five Key Takeaways

    1. You don't have to be a mental health expert to support a struggling child, but you do have to know when to bring in someone who is. Recognizing the limits of your own expertise and connecting your family with the right specialist is itself an act of good fathering.

    2. Connection has to come before correction. A struggling teenager often needs low-pressure time with a parent, free of goal-setting or serious conversation, far more than another conversation about fixing the problem.

    3. Finding the right therapist matters as much as finding a therapist at all. A mismatch in chemistry or approach can make a child more resistant to help they genuinely need.

    4. A diagnosis can be wrong, and it's worth getting a second opinion when treatment isn't working. A corrected diagnosis and a different treatment approach turned around a genuinely difficult, months-long decline.

    5. You are not required to be blood related to be the father figure a child needs most. Consistent presence during a hard season is what a child remembers and trusts long after the season ends.

    Links & Resources

    Closing

    If you're a father in the middle of a season like the one Rich is walking through right now, please hear this: you don't have to have it figured out, and you don't have to do it alone. Get connected with people who know more than you do, keep showing up for the small, ordinary moments of connection, and trust that the fruit of your presence will show up even if you can't see it yet. Without connection, we have no influence, so lead with connection first, every time. Go out and live legendary.

    If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide, the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 by calling or texting 988.

    2 September 2026, 12:00 am
  • 1 hour 9 minutes
    The Unspoken Expectations Quietly Wrecking Your Marriage featuring Jessica & Larry Hagner

    Gentlemen, welcome to the fourth and final episode of this month's series with my wife Jessica, and I want to start by saying thank you for showing up for this one, since August actually had five Fridays this year, which means she recorded a full bonus episode she didn't have to do. Today we're tackling something that trips up more marriages than almost anything else: roles and expectations, and specifically, all the unspoken assumptions about who does what that quietly cause resentment when they're never actually talked about.

    Jessica and I get into the finances first, how I took over bill paying for our first five years of marriage and, driven by my own anxiety around debt, paid things down so aggressively it actually put us in a bind more than once. We talk through why swapping our roles, me handling investing and her handling the day to day bills, ended up being the right fit for both of us, and why neither of us wants to trade back. From there we get into dinner, probably the single area that's caused us the most quiet frustration over the years, from Jessica's years of resentment doing all the cooking to the practical shift we finally made once we actually talked about it out loud instead of just enduring it.

    We also open up about how we split the harder parenting conversations, why the sex talk with our boys has always fallen to me, and why Jessica has become the one I lean on for basically every other hard conversation in our house. I share what I've learned watching her approach conflict, calm, strategic, and incredibly well timed, compared to my own instinct to just react in the moment. We close out by talking through how we split up kids' sports and activities, and what boundaries actually held up over 22 years of marriage.

    If your marriage has ever hit friction over who's supposed to be doing what, and you've never actually sat down and talked about it, this conversation is a real look at how two people figured that out over two decades together, including the parts that took way too long to fix.

    Timeline Summary

    [1:02] Introducing the fourth and final episode of the August series with Jessica

    [12:56] Reflecting on last week's lower-energy episode and setting up today's topic: roles and expectations

    [14:12] Larry announces Roommates to Soulmates cohort three, starting September 16th

    [16:33] Why unspoken and unknown expectations are what actually trip couples up the most

    [19:00] The early years of bill paying: Larry's aggressive debt payoff and the strain it caused

    [21:52] Why paying bills stressed Larry out so deeply, no matter how much money was in the bank

    [24:36] Checking in on whether Jessica still feels good about handling the bills 17 years later

    [25:39] Introducing the second financial role: why Larry handles all the investing

    [27:05] Larry's own journey from investing overwhelm to genuinely loving it today

    [30:45] Confirming neither of them wants to trade financial roles, and why that alignment matters

    [31:27] Introducing the dinner problem: why family meals can become a major source of strife

    [32:52] The moment, about a year ago, Jessica finally said out loud that she hated cooking

    [33:32] The fix: splitting cooking nights and having the non-cooking spouse handle cleanup

    [37:55] Larry announces the first-ever Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals, November 15th

    [42:22] Checking in on what Jessica would still change about how dinner works today

    [43:24] Jessica's regret: never requiring the kids to eat what was served instead of making separate meals

    [46:34] Why the sex talk role has always fallen to Larry, and how he approaches it with their boys

    [52:36] Breaking down Jessica's calm, strategic approach to conflict versus Larry's reactive instinct

    [57:14] A callback to an earlier, lighter moment in the series about Larry's past drinking

    [1:00:49] How they split kids' sports and activities, and the assumptions each of them still carries

    [1:03:22] What comes next: Jessica joining monthly, and how to submit topic ideas

    [1:04:51] Introducing two free resources: 25 Intimate Conversation Starters and 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

    Five Key Takeaways

    1. Roles that feel natural today were often built through real trial and error, not instinct. Larry and Jessica swapped financial responsibilities after outside mentors pointed out they'd assigned them backward, and it took years to get right.

    2. Resentment builds fastest around unspoken expectations. Nearly every friction point in their marriage, from bills to dinner, traces back to one person assuming a role the other person quietly grew to dread.

    3. Sometimes the fix is simple once you finally say the hard thing out loud. Jessica's years of resentment around cooking dissolved almost immediately once she told Larry directly that she hated it, leading to a workable rotation within one conversation.

    4. Timing matters as much as the message when addressing conflict. Jessica's approach of waiting for a calm moment, rather than confronting an issue in the heat of frustration, consistently produces a better outcome than reacting immediately.

    5. Roles don't have to be permanent or symmetrical to work. Twenty-two years in, the goal isn't a perfectly even split of every responsibility, it's each person operating in the role that actually fits them, while staying willing to revisit it when it's not working.

    Links & Resources

    Closing

    Wrapping up this series, what stands out most is that Jessica and I don't have this figured out because we never struggled, we have it figured out because we finally stopped avoiding the hard conversations about who does what and why. Every role we've settled into came from a real conversation, sometimes an overdue one, not from assuming the other person would just handle it or just deal with it forever. If something in your own marriage has quietly been building resentment because nobody's actually said it out loud, let this be the nudge to finally have that conversation. Go out and live legendary.

    31 August 2026, 12:00 am
  • 1 hour 12 minutes
    Loneliness Is a Crisis and the Answer is Community featuring Don Ross

    Don Ross is the founder of Manhood Tribes, a former pastor of 20 years who now works in digital marketing and has spent over two decades helping men cut through the noise around masculinity and build real brotherhood. Married 22 years with two boys, he's built his work around five marks of manhood and, more recently, helping men prepare for what he believes are the biblical end times.

    This is a unique episode. Don walks Larry through the specific signs he sees converging right now, the nation of Israel and the temple, the move toward digital currency, and the gospel reaching every ethnic group, then pivots to what actually matters for the average man: building community, growing real-world skills, and developing a genuine relationship with Jesus rather than just checking religious boxes. If you've felt the anxiety of scrolling the news and wondered how to lead your family through uncertain times, this conversation offers a grounded, faith-centered answer.

    Timeline Summary

    [3:29] – How close are we to the end times, and what that phrase actually means

    [5:28] – Why the anxiety men feel scrolling their phones connects to the bigger picture

    [7:33] – The specific signs happening now that are unique in human history

    [9:05] – Introducing Don Ross, Manhood Tribes, and the epidemic of male loneliness

    [12:35] – The Euphrates River drying up as a minor sign

    [13:29] – Israel reestablished as a nation in 1948 and the Ezekiel dry bones prophecy

    [15:10] – The Temple Institute, the red heifer, and preparations for a third temple

    [20:41] – Why the dome of the Rock and secular Israeli politics have stalled the temple

    [25:05] – Global commerce, the mark of the beast, and central bank digital currencies

    [29:23] – How state-controlled currency mirrors China's social credit system

    [32:29] – The third and more hopeful sign: the gospel reaching every ethnic group by 2033

    [35:27] – Why the decline of masculinity collides with this moment in history

    [37:13] – Larry on feeling spiritually ready but not practically prepared

    [44:05] – What Covid revealed about government control, framed carefully as speculation

    [48:39] – Why building a bunker is the wrong first step

    [50:34] – The five marks of manhood: strength, courage, skill, honor, and allegiance

    [51:34] – Monthly challenges, from cold showers to learning vehicle maintenance

    [54:20] – The spiritual anchor and connecting relationally to Jesus

    [56:56] – Knowing Jesus as a person, not just checking the church and Bible boxes

    [1:03:44] – Larry's hike through Garden of the Gods and the decision that brought him peace

    5 Key Takeaways

    1. Watch the Season, Not the Date — The instruction was never to predict the day, but to recognize the season and be ready. Don points to several signs converging at once as reason to pay attention rather than panic.
    2. Loneliness Is a Crisis, and Community Is the Answer — Most men believe they have to figure life out alone, and the isolation is at an all time high. Real brotherhood is what helps men survive hardship and become better husbands and fathers.
    3. Don't Build a Bunker, Build a Community — The prepper instinct is individualistic, but the biblical model is to love your neighbor as yourself. The right next step is building strong community that can support each other through any storm.
    4. Grow Real Skills as a Man — Strength, courage, skill, honor, and allegiance are traits you develop over a lifetime. Practical challenges like cold showers or basic vehicle maintenance build the grit and capability most modern men have lost.
    5. Know Jesus as a Person — Faith isn't just going to church, reading the Bible, and praying as a checklist. It's a relationship built through conversation, listening, and shared experience, the same way you'd cultivate connection with a spouse.

    Links & Resources

    Enjoyed This Episode?

    If Don's challenge to be informed, prepared, and faithful struck a chord, take one small step this week. Learn a practical skill you've been avoiding, or spend ten quiet minutes listening in prayer instead of just talking. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

    28 August 2026, 12:00 am
  • 50 minutes 7 seconds
    The One Word That Quietly Makes or Breaks a Marriage featuring Jessica & Larry Hagner

    Larry is back in studio with his wife Jessica for the fourth installment of their couples series, recorded the same month they hit 23 years of marriage and 30 years of knowing each other. This time the whole conversation centers on one word that quietly makes or breaks a marriage: alignment. Most couples, Larry notes from a decade of coaching, are misaligned on parenting, money, intimacy, and faith, and never realize it until it derails their connection.

    Larry and Jessica walk through how they actually got aligned over 22 years, from choosing experiences over stuff and a backyard over a sports car, to spending on healthy food and shared workouts, to raising kids who value connection over possessions. They're honest that it came through constant, daily communication, the kind most couples avoid. If your marriage feels more like managing a household than sharing a life, this conversation is a window into how two people build shared values on purpose.

    Timeline Summary

    [3:04] – What alignment in marriage actually means, and how misalignment shows up

    [6:09] – The daily reality of getting kids to help, and delegating chores

    [10:10] – Pulling back the curtain on a heated dinner with one of their kids the night before

    [10:52] – Why cleaning became Larry and Jessica's separate processing and thinking time

    [12:10] – The core values exercise and discovering they valued environment and connection, not possessions

    [13:36] – Their family mission: experiences over stuff, memories over things, connection over everything

    [16:05] – Why some couples need to buy or schedule experiences just to feel connected

    [17:53] – The Covid dishes conversation and Jessica's grounded response to Larry's darkest thought

    [19:52] – No luxury cars, no name brands, and being genuinely okay with less

    [22:36] – The backyard project versus a sports car, and what Ethan learned from it

    [24:16] – How they actually arrived at shared values through talking and reflecting

    [26:40] – 2017 as the turning point toward chasing experiences over stuff

    [27:04] – The three gifts rule at Christmas and where it came from

    [30:39] – Jessica's advice to their kids: communication is the key to any relationship

    [33:55] – Why couples talk about logistics but avoid the deeper alignment conversations

    [36:02] – The intimacy parallel: what happens when you stop pursuing each other

    [38:24] – Why they never run out of things to talk about, even after 23 years

    [40:14] – Can people be taught to communicate, or is that just who they are?

    [44:43] – Alignment as the make or break, and the non-negotiables they built together

    [45:33] – Going to bed at the same time, and when it's actually okay to go to bed angry

    5 Key Takeaways

    1. Alignment Is the Make or Break — Most couples are quietly misaligned on parenting, money, intimacy, and faith, and it derails their connection without them realizing why. Building shared values on purpose is what holds a marriage together over decades.
    2. Experiences Over Stuff — Larry and Jessica built a family mission around memories over things and connection over everything. The backyard they gather in beat the sports car precisely because it creates shared experiences instead of solo possession.
    3. Communication Has to Be Daily — Talking through logistics isn't the same as real communication. Checking in every day, even briefly, keeps small tensions from compounding into the silence and assumptions that quietly end marriages.
    4. Don't Let Intimacy Drift — Just like conversation, physical intimacy erodes when you stop pursuing each other. Let too much time pass and it becomes awkward and hard to return to, so keep reaching for each other before the gap widens.
    5. You Can Change If It Matters Enough — "That's just who I am" is an excuse, not a fact. People revert to old patterns, but anyone can learn to communicate better if the relationship matters enough to them to keep practicing.

    Links & Resources

    Enjoyed This Episode?

    If hearing Larry and Jessica lay out the values they built on purpose made you wonder where you and your spouse are actually aligned, pick one area and talk it through this week. Ask your partner what they'd want more of, or download the 25 questions and work through a couple on your next date. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

    26 August 2026, 12:00 am
  • 1 hour 2 minutes
    Present Fatherhood That Always Beats Perfect Fatherhood featuring Randy Keith

    Officer Randy Keith is a military veteran, a 15-year law enforcement officer, and the founder of Present Father, a platform that now reaches hundreds of thousands of dads across the world. He didn't set out to build a movement. He built it from the darkest chapter of his life, a high-conflict divorce that put him through false allegations, an order of protection that nearly cost him his career, CPS interviews of his young children, and the terror of dropping his kids off not knowing if he'd get them back.

    Randy walks Larry through the night it all began, why he chose 50-50 custody when his attorney said he could have won full custody, and the moment in his car around the corner from his ex-wife's house when he pulled out his phone and started talking, the post that became Present Father. This is a raw conversation about father's rights, staying present against enormous odds, and turning your mess into your message. It's also a heavy one, with an honest look at how many men in these situations reach the edge, and why community can be lifesaving.

    Timeline Summary

    [1:23] – The night his ex-wife went for the gun safe and he called 911

    [4:34] – Declining to press charges because he didn't want to jail the mother of his kids

    [5:48] – Discharged in hours after telling nurses he was abusing his power as an officer

    [7:14] – Filing a Title 36 mental health petition and getting emergency custody

    [9:01] – Choosing 50-50 so he could look his kids in the eye someday

    [10:15] – His attorney saying he was in the driver's seat and could have full custody

    [12:13] – Served with an order of protection built on false allegations

    [13:09] – How a federal firearm statute nearly ended his law enforcement career

    [14:38] – His kids interviewed by CPS at school without his knowledge

    [15:40] – The mosquito-bite doctor's note that became a bedbugs and abuse allegation

    [17:25] – Inviting CPS in, and being asked to teach parenting classes at the end

    [20:49] – Why she really moved four hours away, and the job that lasted two weeks

    [23:28] – The threats that continue and the fears he carries as a target

    [26:35] – Finding purpose in the worst season and turning mess into message

    [30:10] – Why high-conflict divorce is rare, and why so few men talk about it

    [33:28] – Introducing Randy Keith and the Present Father platform

    [36:00] – The moment in the car that birthed Present Father

    [38:24] – The first TikTok post and the flood of men who felt the same

    [42:30] – From 800 followers to nearly 900,000 across platforms

    [44:08] – The suicide messages, and how Randy responds personally

    [46:08] – Sean Pearson and the Dad to Dad peer support platform

    [47:22] – The father who thanked him for comforting his son in his final moments

    [48:06] – Larry on losing two men from the Dad Edge community to suicide

    [50:30] – The therapist's question that reframed suicide for Larry in 2017

    [52:22] – Why the pain is a season, not a life sentence

    [53:39] – Larry on being glad he didn't listen when people said "this too shall pass," and glad he listened just enough

    [54:08] – The vision for Present Father: a nonprofit providing attorneys to the falsely accused

    [54:35] – Advocating in D.C. for equal shared parenting as the standard

    [56:05] – Bankruptcy as a common cost of fighting for your kids

    [56:34] – What he learned from his first relationship and carried into his new marriage

    [57:57] – Why one bad experience doesn't mean everyone will treat you the same

    [59:55] – Where to connect with Randy and the Present Father Show

    5 Key Takeaways

    1. Presence Beats Perfection — Your kids don't need a perfect father. They need a present one. Even when circumstances are stacked against you, showing up consistently is what matters most.
    2. Your Mess Is Your Message — You don't have to be the polished expert to help people. Randy's raw honesty as an everyday guy going through it reaches people precisely because it's real and relatable, not because he has it all figured out.
    3. The Pain Is a Season, Not a Sentence — In the darkest moments it feels like it will never end, but it's temporary. Suicide doesn't end the pain, it transfers it to the people you love most, for generations. Reaching out and finding community can be lifesaving.
    4. You're Not Alone in This — High-conflict divorce and false allegations are isolating, and shame keeps men silent. Finding even one other person who's been through it turns unbearable isolation into a community and a path forward.
    5. One Bad Experience Isn't the Whole World — Surviving a devastating relationship doesn't mean everyone will treat you the same way. With honest due diligence and self-work, there is happiness and partnership on the other side.

    Links & Resources

    If You're Struggling

    This episode deals openly with suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, you can call or text 988 in the US to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7. You are not alone, and the season you're in is not the end of your story.

    Enjoyed This Episode?

    If Randy's story reached you, whether you're in the middle of your own hard season or you know a dad who is, don't let him carry it alone. Send this episode to a father who needs to hear that presence beats perfection and that he's not alone in this. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

    24 August 2026, 12:00 am
  • 1 hour 8 minutes
    How We Make Our Marriage Work With Four Kids and a Business featuring Larry & Jessica Hagner

    Larry is back with his wife Jessica for the third installment of their Friday couples series, and this one tackles the quiet killer of long marriages: the drift. That slow slide where you get so buried in kids, sports, work, and the house that you look up years later and realize you lost each other somewhere along the way. Married 22 years, they're honest that they've hit those valleys too, and this episode is about how they catch it and climb back out.

    Larry opens up about being the avoidant one early on, walking away from hard conversations because it felt selfless when it was actually disconnecting. From there he and Jessica map the exact tools that interrupt the drift: telling your partner what's in your head so they don't assume it's them, the six-second hug that resets everything, the safety that lets you give hard feedback, and the certainty of saying "I need an hour, but I'll be back." If your marriage feels more like two ships passing in the night, this is a practical way back to each other.

    Timeline Summary

    [1:01] – Spinning in different orbits and what it means to interrupt the drift

    [2:03] – Jessica's first solo episode goes live and the nerves around it

    [3:47] – How couples drift: five years pass and the connection is just gone

    [5:05] – Larry owning that he was the avoidant one who'd walk away or sleep downstairs

    [6:32] – Why walking away felt selfless but was actually selfish and disconnecting

    [6:50] – Jessica's ask: take your space, but tell me it's not about me and you'll be back

    [7:39] – The neighbor at the fire pit and the garage door scam that sent him inward

    [9:49] – What's really happening in a man's head: the shoulds that make it worse

    [11:01] – The real-world date day where Larry chose to say "actually, that's a lie, I'm challenged"

    [12:45] – The stories men tell themselves: it's stupid, it'll go away, I'll burden her

    [14:15] – Wanting connection but doing the one thing that disconnects

    [14:58] – Jessica's gift: reading people and diffusing tension with a hug

    [17:23] – Letting women off the hook on nagging, and how to poke with love not gaslighting

    [18:17] – The six-second hug, oxytocin, and being found out when she hugs him

    [22:12] – What Jessica needs as a stay-at-home mom: reassurance and connection

    [24:08] – The certainty of a repair: 30 minutes versus a whole sucky day

    [24:30] – Last fall's drift, Larry's most impatient season, and asking for feedback

    [26:25] – The three breadcrumbs: safety, certainty, and repair

    [27:28] – Why Jessica felt safe enough to give feedback that would land rough

    [28:14] – Choosing words wisely and avoiding always and never

    [30:32] – Young and green on relationship dynamics in the early years

    [31:01] – Marriage as the stock market: valleys and peaks with no tolerance to stay down

    [33:15] – Honesty and ownership celebrated, not punished, for kids and spouses alike

    [35:11] – Being held to a higher standard in your worst moments and feeling safe

    [37:18] – The certainty of "I'll be back in an hour" versus being forced to hash it out now

    [41:00] – Jessica on why she'd rather cool off than fight in a heated moment

    [42:38] – Taking pause and the 24-hour rule before responding when triggered

    [44:22] – Love languages and approaching each kid differently

    [45:04] – The coaching example: "why did you do X" versus "tell me about that"

    [47:28] – Meeting each other with compassion and curiosity, not accusation

    [47:50] – The power of we, plus the Colton-in-pajamas assumption Larry got wrong

    [49:37] – How they make time for the marriage with four kids and a business

    [52:26] – Zero tolerance for mediocre and refusing to just exist

    [53:22] – Why kids feel warm and safe when the marriage is a priority

    [55:03] – Setting the standard for how their sons should treat a partner

    [1:02:37] – A teaser for next week: intimacy and finances, the two big resentment topics

    5 Key Takeaways

    1. Name What's In Your Head — When you go quiet and inward, your partner and kids often assume they're the problem. Telling them what's actually going on, even when it feels stupid or burdensome, is the difference between connection and drift.
    2. Take Space, But Give Certainty — Walking away without a word breeds anxiety and uncertainty. Saying "I need an hour to process, but I'll be back to talk about this" lets you cool off while promising your partner the conversation isn't over.
    3. The Six-Second Hug Resets Everything — A real, drawn-out hug, not a quick pat, releases the oxytocin that brings peace and diffuses tension. Learning to read when your partner needs that connection is a gift you can give daily.
    4. Make Feedback Safe — People only give honest feedback when they trust it won't be met with defensiveness or explosion. Choosing words carefully, avoiding always and never, and holding your partner to a higher standard in their worst moments keeps that safety intact.
    5. Have Zero Tolerance for the Valley — Every marriage has peaks and valleys like the stock market. What keeps it strong isn't avoiding the dips, it's refusing to accept staying there, and proactively cultivating connection even in the busy, exhausted seasons.

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    If "spinning in different orbits" describes where you and your spouse are right now, pick one tool from this episode and use it this week. Tell your partner what's actually in your head instead of saying "I'm fine," or give them a real six-second hug the next time you can feel the tension. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

    21 August 2026, 12:00 am
  • 1 hour 14 minutes
    How to Bring Up Sex Without Making Her Feel Like She Failed featuring Cailtin V

    Caitlin V is a sexologist, relationship coach, and host of Good Sex on HBO Max who has built a YouTube channel with nearly a million subscribers and over 170 million views, working primarily with men on erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the isolation that comes with all three. She started as a sexual health researcher and policy analyst before deciding that change happens in conversations with real people, not in research papers.

    This is a live Dad Edge Alliance Q&A where Caitlin takes real questions from married men about a sexless stretch, shame carried into the marriage bed, sex used as leverage, and a marriage that has gone completely touchless. If you have been avoiding the conversation with your wife because the last time you brought it up it went badly, this one gives you the actual script.

    Timeline Summary

    [4:12] – Caitlin's path from sexual health researcher and policy analyst to sexologist and coach

    [6:14] – First question, a husband who pushed too hard once and has been gun shy ever since

    [9:06] – Why a multi year backlog of unsaid things lands on one conversation and crushes it

    [11:01] – The cracked foundation, why repair has to come before any talk about frequency

    [13:35] – Reading her green lights and lobbing the flirtation back without adding pressure

    [16:33] – Naming the dynamic out loud as an act of leadership instead of a confession

    [23:58] – Why "the talk" is the wrong model for sex, with your kids and with your wife

    [27:39] – Nature abhors a vacuum, if she doesn't know what sex means to you she fills it in

    [31:25] – Anonymous question, premarital sex, religious shame, and less sex after the wedding

    [36:51] – The taboo factor, why sanctioned sex can lose the charge that breaking the rule provided

    [40:04] – Shame hates light, why you can't clean it out of her and what you can do instead

    [47:00] – Anonymous question, sex promised as a thank you that almost never arrives

    [53:09] – Why nobody can pre consent, and taking penetration off the required list

    [56:09] – What's underneath sex used as leverage, and how to rewrite that agreement together

    [59:11] – Anonymous question, a touchless marriage after years of backing off out of respect

    [1:03:25] – Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and the Three Minute Game as the road back to touch

    5 Key Takeaways

    1. Repair Before Frequency — Asking for more sex when years of unsaid things are still sitting there is like redecorating a living room on a cracked foundation. Go back and own what you didn't say first, then build.
    2. Name the Dynamic Out Loud — Leadership here is not initiating harder, it's surfacing the pattern so you're both looking at the same thing. Say "I haven't been lobbing these back because I'm afraid" instead of waiting for her to move first.
    3. She's Filling In Your Blanks — If your wife doesn't know the texture of what sex actually means to you, she fills that vacuum with social media, her friends, and her parents' marriage. "All you think about is sex" is usually a response to something that was never you.
    4. Warmth With an Invoice — If your past kisses and shoulder rubs came with a hidden price tag, she felt it, and that's why affection now reads as a bid. Own it plainly, then rebuild non-sexual touch on purpose.
    5. Nobody Can Pre Consent — Agreeing to sex tomorrow is like agreeing to salmon for dinner, the appetite can legitimately change. Keep more than intercourse on the table so a shift in the moment isn't a broken promise.

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    If the "warmth with an invoice" idea landed the way it lands for most guys, you already know which conversation you've been putting off. Send this to a brother who's been quietly telling himself that not bringing it up counts as respecting her. Follow the show, leave a rating and review, and grab the full show notes at https://thedadedge.com/1519

    19 August 2026, 12:00 am
  • 1 hour 4 minutes
    The Guardrails That Keep Our Disagreements From Becoming Fights featuring Larry & Jessica Hagner

    Larry is back in studio with his wife Jessica for part two of their conversation, recorded the week of their 22nd anniversary. Last week they covered how they met and the crucibles that shaped them. This week they get practical about the daily mechanics of a marriage that works: how they got aligned on parenting, how they resolve conflict, and how they back each other up in front of the kids whether they agree or not.

    They're candid that none of it came naturally at first. They walk through the parenting classes that helped early on, a hard season with one of their sons that turned out to be driven by a medication reaction, and why setting ego aside to get outside help was the move that saved them repeatedly. Jessica shares what it means to never be emasculated or called a name in thirty years together, and Larry breaks down the guardrails that keep their disagreements calm: no yelling, no name calling, real listening, and a willingness to eat humble pie. If your marriage feels more like managing a household than sharing a life, this one is a window into the operating system of a couple who clearly still like each other.

    Timeline Summary

    [1:02] – Why part two matters, and Jessica joins for parenting and conflict resolution

    [4:39] – A new season with an adult son and the land of uncertainty it brings

    [6:39] – Bringing the first baby home to a tornado, and every season being new territory

    [9:07] – The one thing they nailed early: alignment on parenting styles

    [10:21] – Love and Logic, 1-2-3 Magic, and the classes that gave them a shared playbook

    [11:34] – A hard season with Mason at 11 and refusing to let ego stop them from getting help

    [13:15] – Communication gap: Larry not seeing how bad the mornings really were

    [16:39] – Owning that "I have to work" wasn't the support Jessica needed

    [17:23] – The real catalyst turned out to be a medication, and the game-changing fix

    [18:43] – Having each other's back in front of the kids, no public disagreement

    [19:47] – The quiet aside instead of the public callout, coming back as a combined unit

    [21:39] – The over-punishment story: stacking consequences on Ethan's grades

    [22:54] – Why never being emasculated or disrespected publicly matters so much to a man

    [25:44] – The non-negotiable guardrails: no name calling, ever, even joking

    [27:15] – Listening without interrupting and keeping voices calm

    [30:09] – Tonality, ownership, and a family that apologizes well

    [34:32] – Why these habits are their operating system but not most people's

    [35:10] – The waterfall of peace: how Jessica's affection quiets Larry's chaos

    [36:33] – Not gaslighting a partner who's having a hard day, and giving space to process

    [37:30] – The "what did you do all day" mistake and never globalizing with always and never

    [40:43] – The deck argument Ethan witnessed and asked if they were divorcing

    [42:22] – Ethan's three observations: no yelling, real listening, no name calling

    [42:40] – Asking "is there truth to this" to sidestep the ego and defensiveness

    [45:02] – The trash story: coming in guns blazing and eating humble pie

    [49:11] – Covering for each other's hard seasons with the kids instead of piling on

    [50:04] – Favorite memories: the simple stuff, laughter under their own roof

    [52:16] – Valuing experiences over stuff, and how that alignment happened

    [55:19] – Closing out Mason's last year at home with a bang

    [56:53] – The 25 intimate conversation starters that keep them connected

    5 Key Takeaways

    1. Get Aligned and Get Help Without Ego — The couples who struggle most are often fighting over whose parenting style wins. Larry and Jessica treated hard seasons as problems to solve together, bringing in classes and counselors rather than letting pride keep them stuck.
    2. Have Each Other's Back in Front of the Kids — Never publicly override your spouse's discipline. Handle disagreements privately, then return to the kids as a combined unit. Kids who can't split their parents feel more secure, not less.
    3. Set Guardrails for Conflict — No name calling, no yelling, and real listening while the other person talks. These simple, non-negotiable rules keep disagreements from escalating into damage, and kids notice and absorb them.
    4. Ask "Is There Truth to This" — When your partner brings a criticism, the instinct is to defend. Pausing to genuinely ask whether there's truth in it disarms your ego and turns a potential fight into a conversation. And when you're wrong, apologize fast.
    5. Protect Each Other's Hard Seasons — When one parent is short-tempered or struggling, the other explains it to the kids with grace instead of piling on. Give your partner room to process a bad day rather than gaslighting or nagging them out of it.

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    If watching Larry and Jessica lay out the guardrails of their marriage gave you something to aim at, pick one and try it this week. Ask "is there truth to this" the next time you feel defensive, or take your spouse through a couple of good questions on your next date night. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

    17 August 2026, 12:00 am
  • 1 hour 23 minutes
    The Situational Awareness Skills Every Dad Should Teach His Family featuring Sam Rosenberg

    Sam Rosenberg has spent his career protecting some of the most recognized people on the planet, heads of state, CEOs, and celebrities including Warren Buffett, Benjamin Netanyahu, and Tom Cruise. A former Marine Corps officer who moved into close protection in 1996, he's since shifted his focus to teaching ordinary people the same skills he used to guard public figures, through his company Live Ready and his bestselling book of the same name. He's trained tens of thousands of people to recognize threats before they become emergencies.

    This one is a genuine masterclass in personal safety, and Sam's philosophy anchors it: it's good to have a lifeguard, but you should know how to swim. He and Larry get into why violence is never actually random, how to read a parking lot, the acronym TIME that maps how attackers operate, the normalcy bias that keeps good people from trusting their gut, and persuasion predators, the charming, manipulative threats every dad with a daughter needs to understand. If you want to protect the people who matter most without living in fear, this episode delivers the tools.

    Timeline Summary

    [1:02] – Protecting Netanyahu, the chess match, and embedding covert protection in a crowd

    [4:35] – Tom Cruise in Pittsburgh and why he was one of the best to work with

    [6:23] – How you even land a gig protecting someone at that level

    [8:12] – Protecting Terry Bradshaw at the NFL draft, and why it's all word of mouth

    [12:36] – The core philosophy: it's good to have a lifeguard, but you should know how to swim

    [14:51] – Sam's full bio, the Marine Corps, Live Ready, and the book

    [16:34] – Situational awareness starts with our wives in parking lots

    [20:04] – The myth of helplessness and the myth of randomness

    [21:44] – Why violence is a process as predictable as boiling water

    [22:38] – Attacks happen on arrival and departure, and every environment has a purpose

    [24:10] – Watching for the watchers, and the New York City looking up analogy

    [26:30] – The creepy guy vibe and why we hunt for evidence to dismiss it

    [27:42] – Social contracting, bias, and how it blinds us to real danger

    [30:13] – Normalcy bias: the brain's desire for everything to be normal

    [32:04] – Breaking down a real, sophisticated parking lot kidnapping on video

    [35:36] – The simple bow: trust your intuition even without all the evidence

    [37:12] – What that woman could have noticed, and the double-tap unlock habit

    [43:14] – The TIME acronym: target selection, intelligence, method of attack, escape

    [46:16] – Why street criminals run the same process as terrorists

    [49:17] – Can you avoid being targeted? You can influence it, not always prevent it

    [52:04] – Charlie Kirk, Butler, and why it has to be stopped in advance

    [53:27] – Recognizing the interview means you've already been selected

    [56:16] – Hard target versus soft target, and why gimmicks don't work

    [57:29] – The undercover story: why street-smart observers saw through his disguise

    [1:02:47] – Willingness and ability are all it takes to be a hard target

    [1:04:31] – What bad guys are truly afraid of: failure

    [1:08:55] – Persuasion predators, masters of charm and disguise

    [1:10:31] – Reframing charm: ask why is this person trying to charm me

    [1:11:56] – No is a complete sentence, and the veils of denial

    [1:13:54] – Sociopaths, the pity play, and the puppy law used on children

    5 Key Takeaways

    1. Violence Is a Process, Not Random — Attacks follow an observable, predictable sequence. Learning to spot the pattern, especially during arrival and departure moments, is what lets you get ahead of danger instead of reacting to it.
    2. Watch for the Watchers — Every environment has a purpose. Scan left to right for anomalies, people not using the space for its intended purpose, and notice who's watching who's coming and going. That awareness alone makes you a harder target.
    3. Trust Your Radar Over Normalcy Bias — Good people talk themselves out of intuitive warnings because they can't find hard evidence or don't want to seem judgmental. When something feels off, that unease is data. Default to it and remove yourself from the situation.
    4. Recognize the Interview — When a stranger approaches you in an anomalous moment, that's an interview, and it means you've already been selected as a target. How you manage that interaction, with the right body language and enough force, often determines whether an attack proceeds.
    5. Reframe Charm and Hold the Line on No — Teach daughters to ask why is this person trying to charm me rather than being flattered. No is a complete sentence, and anyone who pushes past it is signaling they care only about what they want. A pity play after being caught in lies is a massive red flag.

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    If Sam's breakdown of that parking lot attack made you look at your own routine differently, put one habit to work this week. Get your head up and off your phone during those arrival and departure moments, and have the charm and no conversation with your daughter. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

    14 August 2026, 12:00 am
  • 24 minutes 30 seconds
    Small Pursuits That Rebuild a Disconnected Marriage featuring Joe Bailey

    This is a Wednesday Wins Q&A, with Larry joined by his longtime co-host Joe Bailey to tackle a question that lands for almost every married dad. Mike from Washington State wrote in about a marriage that isn't broken, no fighting, no affairs, but feels more like two coworkers running a small company called the family. He and his wife talk schedules, kids, and bills, physical intimacy has slowed, and as he puts it, he misses her even though she's only six feet away.

    Larry breaks down the four pillars of marriage from Lance and Brandi's work, individual, partnership, friends, and intimacy, and explains how couples get stuck in the partnership loop and skip straight to intimacy, which backfires. Joe follows with the idea of getting used to the light again after emotional disconnection, releasing resentment, and making small pursuits without attaching expectations. If your marriage feels more like a business partnership than a romance, this one is a practical roadmap back.

    Timeline Summary

    [1:02] – Setting up Mike's question about a marriage that feels like a business partnership

    [2:12] – Mike's full letter: coworkers running a company called our family

    [3:46] – Larry on his own first decade feeling exactly the same way

    [4:05] – The four pillars of marriage from Lance and Brandi's book

    [4:46] – Pillar one, individual: self-care and emotional check-ins by percentage

    [5:42] – Pillar two, partnership: the bills, roles, and chores, aka the partnership loop

    [5:59] – Pillar three, friends: shared interests and real alignment

    [6:21] – Pillar four, intimacy, and why it collapses when the others are neglected

    [6:47] – How couples skip friendship and self and jump straight to intimacy

    [7:26] – Disrupting the partnership loop by cultivating friendship first

    [7:49] – The walk-and-date boundary: be Larry and Jessica, not Mom and Dad

    [8:13] – Bookending conversations with appreciation so your partner feels seen

    [8:30] – Adventuring together and asking bucket-list questions

    [9:34] – Why men eradicate their own self-care and isolate

    [12:12] – Joe on living this exact dynamic in his own marriage

    [12:32] – The dark-theater analogy: getting used to the light again

    [13:35] – Step one, release resentment when reconnection feels uncomfortable

    [14:02] – Be persistent and stop attaching sex to every act of connection

    [14:27] – Small pursuits: flowers and a coffee dropped off at Ivy's work, just because

    [15:46] – Small investments compound like a financial portfolio

    [16:40] – Stop keeping score and get in the habit of just investing

    [16:59] – The car story: we love the things we invest in

    [20:07] – Loving your wife publicly and without agenda

    [20:44] – Loving her in front of the kids and her mother

    [21:48] – The Hitch analogy and winning over the people around her

    [22:14] – The marriage hack: your mother in law as your greatest ally

    5 Key Takeaways

    1. Marriage Has Four Pillars — Individual, partnership, friends, and intimacy. When you neglect self-care, friendship, and quality time and jump straight to intimacy, it falls flat. Intimacy is the natural result of the other three working.
    2. Escape the Partnership Loop — If every conversation is about schedules, bills, and who needs to be where, you're stuck in the partnership loop. Break out by rebuilding the friendship: dates, walks, adventures, and conversations where you're a couple, not just co-parents.
    3. Get Used to the Light Again — After emotional disconnection, reconnecting feels awkward and uncomfortable for both people. Expect that, release resentment about it, and don't attach worst-case scenarios to the discomfort.
    4. Make Small Pursuits Without Agenda — Drop off flowers just because, and don't attach any expectation of sex, because she'll sniff that out instantly. Stop keeping score and keep making small investments, and the connection compounds over time.
    5. We Love What We Invest In — Don't wait to feel the love before you invest. As the car story shows, investment creates love, not the other way around. Love your wife publicly and without agenda, and let her people, especially her mother, become your allies.

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    If Mike's letter read like a page out of your own marriage, pick one small pursuit and do it this week with zero agenda. Drop off her favorite coffee, take a walk where you're just the two of you again, and stop waiting to feel connected before you invest. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

    12 August 2026, 12:00 am
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