Have you ever overextended yourself to the point where you collapsed? Gave and gave and gave until your well was dry.. The problem isn't that you can't handle hard things. It's that you haven't learned how to find your sustainable pace. If you're trying to figure out how to lead a productive and full life without becoming exhausted and depleted in the process, this episode is for you.

In this conversation, I'm joined by award-winning science writer Elizabeth Svoboda, author of The Art of Pacing. Together, we unpack the hidden pattern behind that all-or-nothing cycle and why the answer isn't pushing harder or checking out completely. You'll learn how to work with your energy instead of constantly fighting against it, including a simple breathing technique that can calm your nervous system in just a few minutes.

Listen to learn:

• Why high achievers keep swinging between overdoing it and shutting down

• How to calm your nervous system with a simple, science-backed strategy you can do immediately

• Hacks that make your to do list feel easier (and energizing)

• The one question that helps you make better decisions about what to say yes to

• How to get clarity about YOUR sustainable pace (not someone else’s)

• How to get your energy back after a “burnout breakdown” and avoid going there again.

It’s time to stop chasing someone else's pace and start trusting your own. This episode will give you direction about how to do that.

Lastly, take 10 seconds to think about who in your life is barely holding it all together and needs to hear this message today. Forward it to them. 

And there it is: You just made a difference. (We're on this mission, together.)

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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You might not be falling out of love. You might just be exhausted.

When you can’t sleep, everything gets louder. The resentment. The anxiety. The dishwasher fight that suddenly feels like proof your entire relationship is broken.

I’ve seen this happen again and again: people blame their partner, their marriage, or themselves—when the real saboteur is sleep deprivation.

In this episode, I’m talking with marriage and family therapist and sleep expert Chrissy Lawler about what exhaustion is really doing to your mood, your parenting, and the people you love most.

Listen to learn:

• Why exhaustion makes every conflict feel more serious

• How poor sleep quietly drains connection and intimacy

• The counterintuitive reason to get out of bed when you can’t sleep

• How caffeine, alcohol, and nighttime habits sabotage your rest

• Why sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is go to bed angry

• Simple, evidence-based ways to start sleeping better tonight

Before you decide your relationship is broken, check your sleep. A full night of rest might change the entire conversation.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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Are you chronically late, stressed, and frazzled? Feel like you never have enough time to do what you really want and need to do? Here’s the reality: Until you can manage your time, you’ll always feel out of control. Poor  time management isn’t just making you late. It’s quietly stealing your life.

If you feel buried, behind, overcommitted, and weirdly guilty all the time, this episode is going to hit hard. Because the problem may not be that you’re lazy, scattered, or “bad at time management.” The real problem is that you’re saying yes to everything and accidentally saying no to the life you actually want.

I’m sitting down with Samantha Lane, TEDx speaker and founder of Origami Day, to talk about the simple time management shift that can help you stop living on autopilot.

Here’s the uncomfortable (but also liberating and life-changing) truth:

You don’t have a time problem. You have a choosing problem.

Listen to learn:

• Why poor time management is really a life-management problem

• The brutal truth about your 168 hours each week

• How every “yes” secretly becomes a “no”

• Why your to-do list will never actually be done

• The simple weekly planning ritual that can calm the chaos

If you’ve been trying to become more disciplined, more productive, more organized, and somehow still feel like you’re failing, this conversation will help you stop blaming yourself and start choosing your life on purpose.

You’re not behind.You’re just ready to choose differently.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa

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Your partner heard something you never said.

That’s why the conversation went sideways.

That’s why you’re suddenly defending yourself.That’s why they’re hurt.That’s why you’re both thinking, “How did we get here again?”

If you’re struggling with a lack of communication in a relationship, this episode is for you.

Because the problem may not be that you’re bad at communicating.

It may be that you and your partner are speaking completely different emotional languages.

In this episode, I’m talking with psychotherapist Jason VanRuler, author of Discovering Your Communication Type, about why the same words can land beautifully for one person and completely miss another.

We’ll unpack the five communication types, why good intentions still create painful disconnection, and how to speak in a way your partner can actually receive.

You'll learn:

• Why your partner hears something totally different than what you meant

• How the same words can comfort one person and trigger another

• The five communication types that shape every hard conversation

• Why “men can’t communicate” is a lazy, damaging myth

• How to stop blaming each other and start translating each other

• What to say after a fight when you actually want to repair

You don’t have to keep having the same argument forever.

You may just need to learn how your partner listens.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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Wired and tired? I’ve been there too, and I know first hand… this is not sustainable. Help is here.

If you’re searching for nervous system regulation strategies because your body feels like it’s waving a white flag — the insomnia, the tension, the stomach issues, the collapse at night — this episode is a must listen. 

Join me for this conversation with somatic expert Liz Tenuto, known as The Workout Witch, about why chronic stress gets stored in the body, why your doctor can say “everything looks normal” when you feel anything but, and how somatic healing can help you come back to yourself.

You'll learn:

• Why your body won’t switch off at night

• How functional freeze makes you look fine while you’re shutting down

• The body signs of stored stress: jaw, shoulders, gut, sleep, pain

• Why somatic healing can help when thinking harder doesn’t

• A one-minute reset you can try right now

If your body has been begging you to listen, this episode is where we start.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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You’re the tiger pacing the cage… but the door has been open the whole time.

If you want to know how to gain confidence for real — not perform it, fake it, or force it — this conversation will show you where to start.

Because the truth is, you can look wildly successful and still feel trapped inside your own head.

In this episode, I’m talking with Sara Anderson about why confidence doesn’t magically appear when you achieve enough — and why the higher you climb, the louder your self-doubt can get if you don’t address it from the inside out. 

Because here’s the part nobody tells high achievers:

You cannot think your way into confidence while your body is screaming danger.

Real confidence is built from the inside out.

Listen to learn:

• Why achievement can make your self-doubt worse, not better

• Why your mind goes blank when the stakes are high

• How your body betrays your confidence before you say a word

• Why affirmations don’t work when your nervous system is in panic mode

• How to stop freezing, spiraling, and over-explaining under pressure

• The 10-second grounding tool that helps bring your brain back online

• How to stop performing confidence and finally start trusting yourself

• Why the cage door is already open — and how to walk through it

If you’re tired of pacing the same old cage, this episode is your open door.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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Feeling down when, at least on the surface, nothing is horrible? It’s easy to blame yourself, and think “what’s wrong with me that I can’t just be happy?” 

Here’s a new idea. Maybe that feeling is not wrong at all.  Maybe it’s a signal from your emotional guidance system that it’s time to evolve. 

The boredom. The restlessness. The exhaustion. The quiet little voice whispering, “I cannot keep doing this.”

You can numb it.You can explain it away.You can call it anxiety, burnout, depression, hormones, laziness, or “just a rough patch.”

But what if it’s none of that?

What if the real problem is that your life doesn’t fit anymore? 

In this episode, I’m talking about how to change your life when you feel stuck, especially when nothing is technically “wrong,” but everything inside you is screaming.

Because that feeling you keep trying to get rid of?

It may be the most important message you’ve gotten in years.

Today, I’m going to help you stop ignoring it, stop shaming yourself for it, and start reading it for what it is: your emotional guidance system telling you it’s time for a new chapter.

You'll learn:

• Why feeling miserable doesn’t always mean something has gone wrong

• How to tell the difference between a bad mood and a life that no longer fits

• Why boredom, dread, and restlessness can be signs of personal growth

• The journaling questions that reveal what you actually want

• Why insight alone won’t change your life

• How to find the clarity, courage, and allies you need to move forward

You don’t have to blow up your life today.

But you do need to stop betraying yourself by pretending you don’t hear the alarm.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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There is a silent mind game stealing your peace — and you’ve been trained to play it every day. 

If you can’t stop comparing yourself to others, this episode may hit a nerve.

That sick little feeling of “Why am I not enough?” It isn’t something another promotion, relationship, body, bank account, or achievement is going to fix.

I’m sitting down with Harvard psychologist Dr. Ron Siegel to reveal the brutal truth: your brain is wired to rank you. And the comparison game is designed so you never actually win.

This conversation will help you understand why success never satisfies for long, why self-esteem can become a trap, and how radical self-acceptance can finally get you off the emotional rollercoaster.

You’ll learn:

• Why comparing yourself to others feels impossible to stop

• The ancient brain wiring behind “not good enough”

• Why every achievement high wears off so fast

• How social media and culture weaponize comparison

• Why “just build your self-esteem” can backfire

• The shift from impressing people to actually connecting

• How to begin feeling free without becoming someone else

This is for anyone who’s tired of measuring their worth against everyone else’s highlight reel. You don’t have to win the comparison game to feel okay. You can step out of it — and come back to yourself.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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If you’ve ever said “I’m fine,” watched your partner believe you, and then felt even more hurt than before, this episode is for you.

Because that tiny moment, the one where you want them to know you’re not okay without having to spell it out, is where so many couples quietly lose each other.

In this episode, I’m talking with therapist and workplace wellbeing expert Nidhi Tewari about attunement, the relationship skill that helps people feel seen, understood, and emotionally safe.

We’ll unpack why loving partners still miss each other’s cues, why fixing, reassuring, or changing the subject can accidentally make someone feel more alone, and how to become an “explorer,” someone who asks instead of assumes.

You’ll learn how to emotionally connect with your partner in a way that actually lands: how to calm yourself before a hard conversation, what to say when your partner is hurting, how to ask for what you need out loud, and how to share what hurts without starting a fight.

In this episode:

04:00: The skill that can quietly make every relationship better

09:44: Why emotional connection is something you can learn

21:55: Why you can’t connect until you calm yourself first

32:12: Fixer, Avoider, Connector, or Explorer: which one are you?

38:24: What to say so your partner finally feels seen

46:36: Why “I’m fine” backfires, and how to ask for what you need

52:45: How to tell your partner what hurts without starting a fight

If you’ve been stuck in that lonely loop of hoping your partner will just know, then feeling disappointed when they don’t, this episode will help you do something different.

The first skill that brings couples back together is one you can start practicing tonight.

Press play, and let’s begin.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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Uncertainty can make you anxious, controlling, and completely exhausted, but staying steady is a skill you can build.

Here’s the real reason you can’t seem to figure out how to deal with uncertainty: you’ve been taught that calm is a personality trait. Something you either have or you don’t.

It’s not.

The people who stay grounded when life blows up the plan didn’t win some genetic lottery. They’ve built a skill. And by the end of this episode, you’ll know how to start building it too.

Today, I’m talking with executive coach Liz Tran about the agility quotient, the trainable intelligence that helps you stay steady when everything is changing.

If the constant churn at work, in your relationships, and in the world has you anxious, overthinking, bracing, or trying to control every possible outcome, this conversation is for you.

You’ll learn how to build mental toughness from the inside out, how to get out of your comfort zone on purpose, and how to start changing your life even when the future feels uncertain, without pretending you’ve got it all figured out.

In this episode:

04:20: The skill no one taught you, but everyone needs now

08:09: The “third intelligence” that matters when plans fall apart

18:27: The one-question reframe that flips dread into fuel

19:24: Four quiet habits steady people rely on under pressure

29:24: Which “change type” are you?

52:16: Why Googling and doom-scrolling make uncertainty worse

53:11: The boat metaphor that can change your next bad day

1:04:27: What helps kids become resilient instead of brittle

If you’re tired of living inside the spiral, needing control, asking “why is this happening to me,” and avoiding anything uncomfortable, I really want you to hear this one.

Because uncertainty isn’t going away.

But you can become someone who knows how to meet it.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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If your mind starts spinning the second your head hits the pillow, replaying the conversation you had at lunch and rehearsing the one you have to have tomorrow, I want to tell you something that genuinely surprised me. Sometimes the goal is not to get rid of your anxiety at all.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Chloe Carmichael, the clinical psychologist and USA Today bestselling author of Nervous Energy, who taught me to treat anxiety as a signal rather than a malfunction. Dr. Chloe and I work through how to tell the worry that is worth listening to from the kind that just loops, and then we go somewhere I did not expect, into why holding everything in might be quietly making your anxiety worse.

In This Episode

• Why trying to get rid of your anxiety can backfire, and the single question to ask it instead
• The mind map exercise for the kind of worry you cannot quite put your finger on
• How to tell healthy fear from overthinking that just spins in circles
• The eight Diet Cokes story that changed how I check for anxiety, because the body comes first
• Why holding things in actually creates more anxiety instead of less
• The difference between self censorship and healthy self restraint, and a simple way to spot which one you are doing
• What to do when you finally speak up and it does not go well, including a tool Dr. Chloe calls the debrief date
• What the friendship between two famously opposite Supreme Court justices teaches us about staying close to people we disagree with

This episode is for anyone who has ever laid awake at 2am with a brain that simply would not power down, then dragged through the next day exhausted and wired at the same time. It is also for you if you have ever smiled and nodded along with something you did not believe, and walked away feeling a little smaller for it. Anxiety and authenticity are far more connected than most of us realize. This conversation is about both, and about how getting a grip on one quietly helps you with the other.

Episode Breakdown

00:00:00 Why You Shouldn't Try to Get Rid of Your Anxiety

00:08:21 From a Yoga Mat to a PhD: How Anxiety Became Her Life's Work

00:18:06 Healthy Fear or Overthinking? How to Tell the Difference

00:24:30 The Mind Map Exercise for a Racing Mind

00:27:21 The Eight-Diet-Cokes Client: When Anxiety Is Actually Physical

00:34:40 Why Holding It All In Actually Makes Anxiety Worse

00:39:04 Self-Censorship vs. Healthy Self-Restraint

00:49:36 How to Speak Up Without Blowing Up the Relationship

00:59:27 The Three Doors: A Simple Way to Decode Any Anxiety

Resources

• The full episode and show notes
• Anxiety support, schedule a free consultation
• What’s Holding You Back? Quiz (free)

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