• 1 hour 17 minutes
    Why You’re Miserable When Everything is “Fine” | Happiness | E535

    Feeling down when, at least on the surface, nothing is horrible? It’s easy to blame yourself, and think “what’s wrong with me that I can’t just be happy?” 

    Here’s a new idea. Maybe that feeling is not wrong at all.  Maybe it’s a signal from your emotional guidance system that it’s time to evolve

    The boredom. The restlessness. The exhaustion. The quiet little voice whispering, “I cannot keep doing this.”

    You can numb it.You can explain it away.You can call it anxiety, burnout, depression, hormones, laziness, or “just a rough patch.”

    But what if it’s none of that?

    What if the real problem is that your life doesn’t fit anymore? 

    In this episode, I’m talking about how to change your life when you feel stuck, especially when nothing is technically “wrong,” but everything inside you is screaming.

    Because that feeling you keep trying to get rid of?

    It may be the most important message you’ve gotten in years.

    Today, I’m going to help you stop ignoring it, stop shaming yourself for it, and start reading it for what it is: your emotional guidance system telling you it’s time for a new chapter.


    You'll learn:

    • Why feeling miserable doesn’t always mean something has gone wrong

    • How to tell the difference between a bad mood and a life that no longer fits

    • Why boredom, dread, and restlessness can be signs of personal growth

    • The journaling questions that reveal what you actually want

    • Why insight alone won’t change your life

    • How to find the clarity, courage, and allies you need to move forward

    You don’t have to blow up your life today.

    But you do need to stop betraying yourself by pretending you don’t hear the alarm.


    Xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Growing Self



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    2 July 2026, 9:00 am
  • 1 hour 3 minutes
    The Silent Mind Game You’ll Never Win: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others | Happiness | E534

    There is a silent mind game stealing your peace — and you’ve been trained to play it every day. 

    If you can’t stop comparing yourself to others, this episode may hit a nerve.

    That sick little feeling of “Why am I not enough?” It isn’t something another promotion, relationship, body, bank account, or achievement is going to fix.

    I’m sitting down with Harvard psychologist Dr. Ron Siegel to reveal the brutal truth: your brain is wired to rank you. And the comparison game is designed so you never actually win.

    This conversation will help you understand why success never satisfies for long, why self-esteem can become a trap, and how radical self-acceptance can finally get you off the emotional rollercoaster.


    You’ll learn:

    • Why comparing yourself to others feels impossible to stop

    • The ancient brain wiring behind “not good enough”

    • Why every achievement high wears off so fast

    • How social media and culture weaponize comparison

    • Why “just build your self-esteem” can backfire

    • The shift from impressing people to actually connecting

    • How to begin feeling free without becoming someone else

    This is for anyone who’s tired of measuring their worth against everyone else’s highlight reel. You don’t have to win the comparison game to feel okay. You can step out of it — and come back to yourself.


    Xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Growing Self


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    29 June 2026, 9:00 am
  • 1 hour 2 minutes
    The Real Reason “I’m Fine” Backfires in Relationships | Love | E533

    If you’ve ever said “I’m fine,” watched your partner believe you, and then felt even more hurt than before, this episode is for you.

    Because that tiny moment, the one where you want them to know you’re not okay without having to spell it out, is where so many couples quietly lose each other.

    In this episode, I’m talking with therapist and workplace wellbeing expert Nidhi Tewari about attunement, the relationship skill that helps people feel seen, understood, and emotionally safe.

    We’ll unpack why loving partners still miss each other’s cues, why fixing, reassuring, or changing the subject can accidentally make someone feel more alone, and how to become an “explorer,” someone who asks instead of assumes.

    You’ll learn how to emotionally connect with your partner in a way that actually lands: how to calm yourself before a hard conversation, what to say when your partner is hurting, how to ask for what you need out loud, and how to share what hurts without starting a fight.


    In this episode:

    04:00: The skill that can quietly make every relationship better

    09:44: Why emotional connection is something you can learn

    21:55: Why you can’t connect until you calm yourself first

    32:12: Fixer, Avoider, Connector, or Explorer: which one are you?

    38:24: What to say so your partner finally feels seen

    46:36: Why “I’m fine” backfires, and how to ask for what you need

    52:45: How to tell your partner what hurts without starting a fight


    If you’ve been stuck in that lonely loop of hoping your partner will just know, then feeling disappointed when they don’t, this episode will help you do something different.

    The first skill that brings couples back together is one you can start practicing tonight.

    Press play, and let’s begin.


    Xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Growing Self


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    25 June 2026, 9:00 am
  • 1 hour 11 minutes
    How To Handle Uncertainty Without Spiraling | Happiness | E532

    Uncertainty can make you anxious, controlling, and completely exhausted, but staying steady is a skill you can build.

    Here’s the real reason you can’t seem to figure out how to deal with uncertainty: you’ve been taught that calm is a personality trait. Something you either have or you don’t.

    It’s not.

    The people who stay grounded when life blows up the plan didn’t win some genetic lottery. They’ve built a skill. And by the end of this episode, you’ll know how to start building it too.

    Today, I’m talking with executive coach Liz Tran about the agility quotient, the trainable intelligence that helps you stay steady when everything is changing.

    If the constant churn at work, in your relationships, and in the world has you anxious, overthinking, bracing, or trying to control every possible outcome, this conversation is for you.

    You’ll learn how to build mental toughness from the inside out, how to get out of your comfort zone on purpose, and how to start changing your life even when the future feels uncertain, without pretending you’ve got it all figured out.


    In this episode:

    04:20: The skill no one taught you, but everyone needs now

    08:09: The “third intelligence” that matters when plans fall apart

    18:27: The one-question reframe that flips dread into fuel

    19:24: Four quiet habits steady people rely on under pressure

    29:24: Which “change type” are you?

    52:16: Why Googling and doom-scrolling make uncertainty worse

    53:11: The boat metaphor that can change your next bad day

    1:04:27: What helps kids become resilient instead of brittle


    If you’re tired of living inside the spiral, needing control, asking “why is this happening to me,” and avoiding anything uncomfortable, I really want you to hear this one.

    Because uncertainty isn’t going away.

    But you can become someone who knows how to meet it.


    Xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Growing Self


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    22 June 2026, 9:00 am
  • 1 hour 5 minutes
    Why Can’t I Stop Overthinking Everything? Your Anxiety Isn’t the Enemy | Happiness | E531

    If your mind starts spinning the second your head hits the pillow, replaying the conversation you had at lunch and rehearsing the one you have to have tomorrow, I want to tell you something that genuinely surprised me. Sometimes the goal is not to get rid of your anxiety at all.

    In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Chloe Carmichael, the clinical psychologist and USA Today bestselling author of Nervous Energy, who taught me to treat anxiety as a signal rather than a malfunction. Dr. Chloe and I work through how to tell the worry that is worth listening to from the kind that just loops, and then we go somewhere I did not expect, into why holding everything in might be quietly making your anxiety worse.


    In This Episode

    • Why trying to get rid of your anxiety can backfire, and the single question to ask it instead
    • The mind map exercise for the kind of worry you cannot quite put your finger on
    • How to tell healthy fear from overthinking that just spins in circles
    • The eight Diet Cokes story that changed how I check for anxiety, because the body comes first
    • Why holding things in actually creates more anxiety instead of less
    • The difference between self censorship and healthy self restraint, and a simple way to spot which one you are doing
    • What to do when you finally speak up and it does not go well, including a tool Dr. Chloe calls the debrief date
    • What the friendship between two famously opposite Supreme Court justices teaches us about staying close to people we disagree with

    This episode is for anyone who has ever laid awake at 2am with a brain that simply would not power down, then dragged through the next day exhausted and wired at the same time. It is also for you if you have ever smiled and nodded along with something you did not believe, and walked away feeling a little smaller for it. Anxiety and authenticity are far more connected than most of us realize. This conversation is about both, and about how getting a grip on one quietly helps you with the other.


    Episode Breakdown

    00:00:00 Why You Shouldn't Try to Get Rid of Your Anxiety

    00:08:21 From a Yoga Mat to a PhD: How Anxiety Became Her Life's Work

    00:18:06 Healthy Fear or Overthinking? How to Tell the Difference

    00:24:30 The Mind Map Exercise for a Racing Mind

    00:27:21 The Eight-Diet-Cokes Client: When Anxiety Is Actually Physical

    00:34:40 Why Holding It All In Actually Makes Anxiety Worse

    00:39:04 Self-Censorship vs. Healthy Self-Restraint

    00:49:36 How to Speak Up Without Blowing Up the Relationship

    00:59:27 The Three Doors: A Simple Way to Decode Any Anxiety


    Resources


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    18 June 2026, 9:00 am
  • 1 hour 8 minutes
    Family Cut Offs: What to Know, How to Deal, and Find a Way Forward | E530

    By the time an adult child finally says “I’m done,” they have usually been deciding it for about three years. The parent almost never sees it coming. The child was never once surprised.


    On the other side, the pain and anger that comes when someone you love with all your heart and soul refuses to talk to you? It's as crushing as it is confusing.


    This episode is for anyone who has ever sat in the car outside a parent’s house, bracing themselves before they walk in. And it is just as much for the parent staring at a phone that has gone quiet, replaying what they could have done differently.


    If your relationship with your parent, or with your grown kid, has started to feel like a careful performance instead of a real connection, you are not imagining it, and you are not stuck with it. If it feels like bridges have been burned, there is a way back.


    In this episode you'll learn about the small, respectful shifts that re-open lines of communication, rebuild trust, and develop an enduring v.2 for your relationship.


    Episode Breakdown:

    00:00 Blindsided: Why Adult Children Pull Away

    11:11 No One's to Blame, Everyone's Responsible

    16:47 Why Adult Children Stop Being Honest With You

    21:04 "Am I in Trouble?": When the Past Hijacks the Present

    22:47 Raising From the Inside Out: The Foundation You Set Now

    33:50 The Letter, the Agenda, and the Boundary

    42:30 Grieving the Expectations You Handed Them

    48:42 The PARENT Method, and the One Thing Bigger Than the Issues


    Resources:

    If this conversation stirred something up, that is worth paying attention to. You do not need to be in crisis to talk to someone. Come find us at GrowingSelf.com and schedule a free consultation. We will help you figure out what is actually going on between you and your parent, or you and your grown child, and what to try next. No pressure, no commitment, just a real conversation.


    XO,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Growing Self


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    15 June 2026, 9:00 am
  • 1 hour 10 minutes
    Are You Being Impacted By Someone Else's Trauma? (And If So, How to Break Free), with Dr. Thomas Hübl | E529

    Do you ever have reactions that don't quite make sense? Or feel like you're carrying feelings that don't fit the situation? Maybe you're sad, reactive, anxious or just... off... and can't put your finger on why.


    Turns out, generational trauma may be to blame. Things your parents, grandparents, or community went through might be impacting the way you think, feel and behave in the present.


    In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Thomas Hübl, the teacher and trauma-integration facilitator who co-wrote the new book Releasing Our Burdens with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems. He's here to explain what's going on , and how to put down someone else's burden.


    This episode is for anyone who has ever looked at their own anxiety, or their drivenness, or that low hum of feeling empty for no reason they can name, and thought, where is this even coming from? If you have done the personal work and still feel like there is a layer underneath you cannot reach, this conversation opens a door. Some of what you carry is not a personal failing. It is inherited. And it can be set down.


    Episode Breakdown

    00:00 Trauma That Didn't Start With You 10:42 Why You're Driven by People You Never Met 13:24 It's Bigger Than Any of Us (Which is Why We Must Do 18:52 A Case Study: Can You Relate? 31:41 How to Start Reclaiming Your Timeline 35:21 Stop Paying Someone Else's Bill 39:30 Generational Trauma In Relationships 53:31 How to Clean Up That Mess and Move Forward into Freedom


    Resources


    xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby


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    11 June 2026, 9:00 am
  • 58 minutes 6 seconds
    But You Look Fine: The Hidden Toll of Chronic Illness, with Amy Kurtz | E528

    This episode is for anyone who has technically gotten through something hard and quietly cannot understand why they still does not feel like themselves.

    I sat down with Amy Kurtz, author of "But You Look Fine" to unpack what's going on.

    The reality? Even if you're on the mend physically after a medical trauma, chronic illness, or profoundly life altering experience there is mental and emotional repair work to do. This can often only even start to happen once your physical symptoms have resolved, and you're on the other side.

    If you have been told you should be fine by now, and you are not, this conversation is going to give you language for what is actually happening in your body and a way forward that respects the timeline.


    What You'll Learn:

    00:02:04 The Gap Between Sick and Well Nobody Warned You About

    00:05:10 36 Doctors and No Diagnosis: Amy's Story

    00:13:25 What Is Medical Trauma Brain?

    00:14:54 How to Heal Emotionally, After You're Healed Physically

    00:21:05 How to Advocate for Yourself in a System That Won't

    00:45:03 How to Regulate Your Nervous System After Trauma or Illness

    00:51:01 The Wider Lens: When Someone You Love is Not Okay

    00:56:00 The One Tool That Changes Everything


    Resources:

    Read the full article on this conversation, including everything we mentioned and where to find Amy's work

    Ready to talk to someone about what you are carrying? Book a free consultation


    If this speaks to you, I'm so glad you've found it today. If this conversation makes you think of someone in your life who is not okay, or recovering in the aftermath of chronic illness, thanks for passing it on.

    XO,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Growing Self


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    8 June 2026, 9:00 am
  • 45 minutes 24 seconds
    Career Pathing: How to Find Your Passion | Success | LHS Classic

    If you've been grappling with that "what am I doing with my life?!?" angst, and craving clarity about your next best step forward today's episode is for you. I'm sitting down with an expert career coach to pose all the question that are probably keeping you up at night, to bring you answers and direction.


    Here's what you'll learn about today:

    00:00 Getting Unstuck When You Have Too Many Options 05:12 Career Crossroads: How to Navigate Paralysis and Indecision 11:08 Life Design vs. Job Search: Shifting How We Think About Career 18:39 Finding Your Passion by Reflecting on the Past 27:26 The “Quarter-Life” Crossroads: Making Sense of How You Got Here 30:12 Burnout or Misalignment? How to Tell the Difference 34:45 The 10-Year Vision Exercise That Brings Long-Term Clarity 36:44 Why Big Career Decisions Shouldn’t Happen During Burnout


    Resources

    Companion article on the blog (full resource list, references, and related episodes)

    Free What’s Holding You Back quiz — the 20-question self-assessment that helps you see what is actually keeping you stuck

    Career Coaching Services at Growing Self — work one-on-one with a career coach on my team

    Schedule a free consultation⁠


    If something in this conversation landed somewhere specific, that is the signal to talk to someone. The career coaches on my team at Growing Self spend their days with people exactly where you are, and the first conversation is free. Not a sales pitch, just a real conversation about what is actually going on and whether the work we do here is the right fit for you.

    xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    GrowingSelf.com


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    4 June 2026, 9:00 am
  • 1 hour 9 minutes
    How to Be More Optimistic... While Avoiding Toxic Positivity | E527

    You want to be a more positive person. We all do. But by the end of the gratitude journal, the mindfulness, the affirmation in the mirror, you felt worse, not better. You might feel like you're "failing at positivity..." but authentic hope, optimism and resilience might be different than you've been taught to believe.


    That's the disconnect.


    In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Deepika Chopra, the clinical health psychologist known as The Optimism Doctor and the author of the new book The Power of Real Optimism. Deepika has spent over a decade studying why optimism is a skill, not a personality trait, and her work has appeared everywhere from the TODAY Show to Forbes to Vogue. She joined me to explain why forced positivity actually makes anxiety worse, and what real, durable optimism looks like when you stop performing it and start practicing it.


    In this conversation, you'll learn:

    • Why an optimist isn't someone who feels good all the time, and what they're actually doing differently in their head
    • The reasons so much standard advice for how to improve your outlook backfires, and what to try instead.
    • The one mental shift that moves you from rumination to agency when nothing about your circumstances has changed.


    This episode is for anyone who has tried to think their way into feeling better and quietly felt like a fraud doing it. If you've ever closed a self-help book and felt worse, if you've ever heard someone say 'good vibes only' and wanted to throw something, if you're currently navigating something genuinely hard and tired of being told to look on the bright side, this conversation will give you something more honest, and more useful.


    If something in this conversation landed for you, share it with one person. You probably already have someone in mind, the friend who's been white-knuckling their way through something hard. Send it to them. And follow the show wherever you listen so you don't miss what's coming next.

    XO,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Growing Self


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    1 June 2026, 9:00 am
  • 54 minutes 34 seconds
    How to Get Over a Broken Heart: What Really Works | Jesse Stanley | Love | E526

    A year. Two years. Five years. Ten years. Still stuck on the same person. If that is you, this episode is not going to tell you to give it more time.

    In this episode, I sit down with my colleague Jesse S., a licensed marriage and family therapist and board-certified coach who co-facilitates our Heartbreak Recovery Intensive with me here at Growing Self. Between us, we have watched a lot of people walk in still tangled up in a relationship that ended months or years ago, and walk out free of it. Jesse joined me to talk about what we have seen actually work, including the one reframe that unlocks years of stuckness for almost every person we meet.


    In this episode:

    • The factory accident sign that explains why you have been resetting your healing clock for years without realizing it
    • Why a breakup mimics the symptoms of PTSD, and what is actually happening in your nervous system
    • The exact reason your thinking brain and your attachment brain disagree about whether to text your ex back
    • Why heartbreak recovery groups move people faster than years of one-on-one therapy
    • The closure myth that keeps people waiting for an apology from someone unable to give it
    • The airplane metaphor that finally lets you accept the good parts of a relationship that had to end
    • Why most therapists are not trained in heartbreak recovery, and what to look for instead
    • The reclaim-the-song, reclaim-the-room experiment that does more than years of talking about feelings


    Why this matters

    This episode is for anyone who has been stuck on a past relationship long enough to be embarrassed about it. The person you cannot stop checking in on. The relationship that ended a long time ago but somehow still has a vote in your life. The voice in your head that keeps telling you that you should be over this by now. We see you, and we have seen this. There is a way through, even if it has been years.


    Resources

    xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby



    P.S. If you want to know exactly where you are in the process before you talk to anyone, the How Over Your Ex Are You? quiz at growingself.com/breakup-quiz-how-over-your-ex-are-you takes about two minutes and tells you the truth.


    Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast

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    28 May 2026, 9:00 am
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