Sex With Emily

Dr. Emily Morse

  • 41 minutes 29 seconds
    Dating Apps Are Making You Hate Dating

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    Episode Description


    Jordana Abraham and Jared Freed from the U Up? podcast join Dr. Emily for a lively conversation about navigating modern dating without losing your mind. They kick things off with dating horror stories—including Jared's epic backwards fall off a patio chair that took out a sandwich board and a heat lamp.

    The conversation dives into why so many dates feel like obligations instead of opportunities. Jared and Jordana explain the "sure, I'll go" trap—how settling for matches that are just "fine" leads to boring dates and dating burnout. They emphasize trusting your gut and only going on dates when you're genuinely excited, not just because you feel like you should.

    They tackle dating app fatigue, discussing why some people thrive on apps while others find them soul-crushing. The key insight: it's about how you use them. Treating apps like a binge-worthy Netflix show instead of something you check in on intentionally (like one hour a week) kills the fun and makes everything feel transactional.

    The episode includes a listener question about a toxic long-distance relationship where a 22-year-old woman keeps breaking up and getting back together with an insecure boyfriend who constantly asks "are you still into me?" Jared and Jordana break down why this is a mismatch built on drama rather than trust, why her friends are right to be concerned, and how to choose which friends to actually listen to when it comes to relationship advice.

    They wrap with quickfire questions about turn-ons, turn-offs, what makes good sex, and the number one thing everyone should know: just because the sex is good doesn't mean the relationship is good.


    Timestamps:

    0:00 - Intro

    4:32 - Why "Sure, I'll Go" is Ruining Your Dating Life

    10:09 - Dating App Profile Tips That Actually Work

    12:43 - The Truth About Casual Sex on Dating Apps

    18:13 - Are You Too Picky or Protecting Your Peace?

    20:15 - The Ick Factor: When Small Things End Relationships

    24:24 - Friend Zone Reality Check: When They're Not Into You

    30:20 - Age Gap Sex Anxiety: Why He's Holding Back

    33:24 - Toxic Long-Distance Relationship Red Flags

    37:40 - Five Quickies: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice

    12 December 2025, 11:00 am
  • 1 hour 34 seconds
    The One Question That Ends All Relationship Confusion

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    Episode Description

    In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Liz Moody—bestselling author, podcast host, and the woman who turned her life around from severe agoraphobia to help others level up their lives with science-backed strategies.

    The morbid exercise that Liz swears by for making better decisions in bed and everywhere else—and why thinking about your 85-year-old self might be the permission slip you need to stop worrying about how your thighs look in those pants.

    Why "friends with benefits" might mean something completely different to you than it does to your partner—and the crucial conversation most couples skip before slapping labels on their relationship (spoiler: this applies to marriage too).

    The biggest myth about what makes someone "good" in bed, and why Liz believes your sex life can transform no matter where you're starting from.

    That one body part you've never considered an erogenous zone—until Liz reveals hers and suddenly you're rethinking everything you thought you knew about turn-ons.

    The real reason habits fail (hint: it's not about willpower)—and why letting go of routines that once served you doesn't make you a failure, it makes you self-aware.

    Plus: the conversation starter deck that's saving marriages by getting couples on the same page about money, desire, childhood trauma, and the question "how much do you need to feel safe?" that revealed way more than Liz expected.



    Timestamps:

    0:00 - Introduction

    2:00 - The 100 Ways Framework: Spring Cleaning Your Life

    5:00 - Think About Your Death: The Power of Zoom-Out Perspective

    8:07 - Micro Workouts: Movement for Mental Health, Not Body Size

    9:55 - Rewire Your Brain for Happiness: The 5-Second Joy Practice

    16:00 - Be the CEO of Your Household: Weekly Relationship Meetings

    18:30 - Sex Starts When You Wake Up: Micro Intimacy Throughout the Day

    21:47 - Why Communication Makes Sex Better After 15 Years

    28:12 - Let Your Partner Surprise You: Breaking Free from Old Resentments

    30:00 - Your Personal Bill of Rights (Including Sexual Rights)

    32:05 - The Orgasm Gap: Why 20 Minutes is Normal

    36:24 - Body Confidence: Your Body is for Living, Not Looking

    42:01 - Boundaries as Energy Protection (Not Just Saying "No")

    49:51 - Friends with Benefits to Dating: Defining Your Relationship

    56:28 - Lightning Round: Biggest Turn-Ons & Sex Advice

    9 December 2025, 11:00 am
  • 38 minutes 10 seconds
    When Sexual Preferences Become Deal Breakers

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    Episode Description


    In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica tackle your trickiest relationship and sex questions—and some of these situations are messier than you think.

    The wife having sex 5+ times a week who's being pressured to set midnight alarms so her husband can wake her up for more—why this isn't about frequency at all, and the real need he's actually trying to fill.


    That guy who insists oral sex should only happen "on special occasions" because it gets "taken for granted": what this scarcity mindset reveals about his past relationships, his skill anxiety, or his actual preference—and whether this is a dealbreaker you're discovering early.


    The biological reason men wake up ready for sex in the middle of the night while their partners are deep asleep—and why disrupting your sleep hygiene to feel "desired" is a Band-Aid on a much deeper issue.


    When your partner believes doing something too often creates expectations they can't meet: the philosophy problem that shows up in bed and everywhere else, and what "taken for granted" really means about their view on compliments, effort, and intimacy.


    Why oral sex as foreplay is the norm, not the exception—and how to navigate a partner who sees it as the main event that loses its magic with repetition.


    Plus: the conversation framework for exploring where your partner's sexual beliefs actually come from, and why the first few months of dating are just data collection on whether you're actually compatible.


    Timestamps:

    0:00 - Introduction

    1:01 - Question 1: Rejecting Partner's Advances in the Middle of the Night

    6:42 - Understanding Nocturnal Erections and Gender Differences in Arousal

    10:10 - Question 2: Feeling Done with a Sexless Marriage After 7 Years

    16:20 - Question 3: Getting Upset When Partner Doesn't Want Sex (Mismatched Libidos)

    21:28 - Question 4: Dealing with Low Libido and Performance Anxiety at 42

    25:10 - Question 5: Wanting Oral Sex Every Time, Not Just Special Occasions

    32:52 - Closing Thoughts and How to Connect with Dr. Emily

    5 December 2025, 11:00 am
  • 36 minutes 15 seconds
    How to Know If You're Actually Having an Orgasm

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    In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down what's really happening in your body during orgasm—and why you might not even know if you've had one.


    The physical signs that prove you're orgasming—even when there's no "explosive release" moment, and why your experience might look nothing like what you've been told to expect.


    That partner who goes full jackhammer the entire time: the exact conversation framework to redirect them without crushing their ego—and why most people need those fast strokes eventually, just not the whole damn time.


    A listener whose new partner believes orgasms damage your mental health and relationships—what this anti-climax philosophy gets right about connection, and what the science actually says about orgasms strengthening your bond.


    The guilt trap of needing fantasy to finish during oral: why your imagination became your default pathway to orgasm, and the five-senses technique that retrains your brain to stay present with your partner instead.


    How to find your G-area (because it's not a "spot"): the exact finger motion, positions, and toy shapes that actually work—and why this spongy tissue is just your internal clitoris showing up to the party.


    Plus: what squirting really is, why dry orgasms happen, and the neural pathway secret that means you can learn to orgasm in completely different ways than you do now.


    Timestamps:

    0:00 - Introduction

    2:25 - The Science of Orgasm: What Actually Happens in Your Body

    4:28 - The Four Stages of Orgasm Explained

    6:39 - Clitoral Orgasms: Understanding Your 12,000 Nerve Endings

    10:33 - G-Area Orgasms: Finding Your Internal Pleasure Zone (Plus Mirror Technique)

    14:26 - Squirting & Female Ejaculation: Separating Facts from Fiction

    17:46 - Dry Orgasms & Semen Retention for Penis Owners

    19:43 - Hands-Free Orgasms: Tantric Breathing & Orgasmic Meditation

    22:42 - The Jackhammer Problem: Why Fast Penetration Doesn't Work for Most Vulva Owners

    29:35 - Fantasy vs. Presence: How to Stay in the Moment During Sex

    2 December 2025, 11:00 am
  • 34 minutes 2 seconds
    Pelvic Positioning Changes Everything

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    Episode Description


    In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily takes live listener calls and answers the questions you're dying to ask but won't.


    A caller discovers she can only finish one very specific way—what's really happening in your pelvis when your legs are straight, and why changing this pattern might unlock entirely new pleasure.


    The masturbation habit that's secretly limiting your orgasms—and the exploration technique that expands your body's repertoire without any pressure to "fix" yourself.


    Why one couple finds anal more pleasurable than vaginal sex, what this reveals about nerve endings you didn't know you had, and the specialist who can actually help if penetration hurts.

    Plus, what happens when you stop chasing what you think should feel good and start discovering what actually does.



    Timestamps:

    0:00 - Intro

    1:57 - Orgasming with Straight Legs: Finding Positions That Work for Your Body

    7:42 - Why Having One Way to Orgasm Is Completely Normal

    8:38 - Dating After Loss: Navigating Chastity Play & Delayed Ejaculation

    16:21 - Male Chastity Explained: Pleasure Beyond the Dominant Role

    17:43 - Erotic Lactation: A Surprisingly Common Intimacy Practice

    24:15 - When Anal Sex Feels Better Than Vaginal: Understanding Different Pleasure Pathways

    27:40 - The Clitoris Extends Internally: Why Anal Orgasms Are Possible

    29:37 - Dealing with Vaginal Pain: You Don't Have to Live with Discomfort

    28 November 2025, 11:00 am
  • 44 minutes 6 seconds
    How to Talk to Teens About Sex

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    https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings on sex educator Dr. Emily Nagoski for a live conversation—and they get brutally honest about their own sex lives falling apart. Why even bestselling sex experts lose their desire—and how Dr. Emily's nervous system was so shot she didn't even want orgasms. The myth that kept her terrified to stop sex once it started: believing "blue balls" required hospitalization—and the truth that you can stop and start anytime. A parent worried their college-age kids aren't having sex or relationships—the questions to ask instead of pushing sex on them, and why nobody dies from not having sex but people do die from loneliness. The most important thing parents can do around sexuality: unlearn your own shame first—because your embarrassment when they ask questions teaches them more than any words ever could. The reframe for anyone struggling with desire: what you actually want when you want sex (it's not orgasm—you can do that alone), and what you don't want when you don't want sex.

    Timestamps:

    0:00 - Intro

    2:10 - The Five R's Framework for Difficult Conversations

    4:58 - How Phones Are Destroying Teen Connection & Intimacy

    7:08 - Talking to Kids About Porn: The Social Justice Approach

    10:12 - What to Do When Your Kid Watches Porn (Real Parent Story)

    14:34 - The Power of Repair in All Relationships

    20:30 - Navigating Gender, Pronouns & Sexual Identity with Kids

    28:26 - Why We Need to Stop Gendering Empathy

    34:00 - Raising Sexually Healthy Humans Without Being Weird

    38:30 - My Teenager Found My Vibrator: What Now?

    39:46 - Five Quickfire Questions on Sex & Relationships

    25 November 2025, 11:00 am
  • 42 minutes 54 seconds
    5 Things Secretly Stealing Your Pleasure

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    In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings on sex educator Dr. Emily Nagoski for a live conversation—and they get brutally honest about their own sex lives falling apart.


    Why even bestselling sex experts lose their desire—and how Dr. Emily's nervous system was so shot she didn't even want orgasms.


    The myth that kept her terrified to stop sex once it started: believing "blue balls" required hospitalization—and the truth that you can stop and start anytime.


    A parent worried their college-age kids aren't having sex or relationships—the questions to ask instead of pushing sex on them, and why nobody dies from not having sex but people do die from loneliness.


    The most important thing parents can do around sexuality: unlearn your own shame first—because your embarrassment when they ask questions teaches them more than any words ever could.


    The reframe for anyone struggling with desire: what you actually want when you want sex (it's not orgasm—you can do that alone), and what you don't want when you don't want sex.



    Timestamps:

    0:00 – Introduction

    1:26 – Sex Experts Lose Desire Too

    7:24 – The Pleasure Thieves

    17:53 – Why It's Okay to Stop During Sex

    20:20 – Cold Feet and Orgasms

    25:50 – The Role of Shame

    30:17 – Navigating Social Media Censorship

    35:41 – Teaching Kids About Sex

    38:47 – The Patriarchy Problem

    39:49 – Closing

    21 November 2025, 11:00 am
  • 52 minutes 22 seconds
    Your Dating List Is Keeping You Single

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    In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman to dismantle the fairy tales keeping you stuck in your dating life.


    Why your mile-long partner checklist (six feet tall, specific job, perfect abs) is sabotaging your search for real compatibility—and the question you should ask instead: "How do I want to feel?"


    The difference between dating for superficial traits versus shared life goals—why wanting a yoga partner matters way less than wanting the freedom to pursue your own interests in a relationship.


    A caller who's getting ghosted on dating apps wonders if women have too many options—the real reason your profile isn't working, and it has nothing to do with competition.


    The "three C's" that'll transform your dating profile overnight: strategic color to stand out, context that tells your story, and character that shows who you really are (no sunglasses photos—we need to see your eyes).


    Why "chemistry at first sight" is actually lust, and you can't know if you love someone the minute you look into their eyes—the three-date rule that gives real connection time to build.


    The reframe that takes the pressure off: stop trying to be liked and start being upfront about what you want—it'll filter out the wrong people and attract your actual match.



    Timestamps:

    0:00 – Introduction 1:21 – F The Fairytale 13:00 – The Dating Tracker Strategy That Changes Everything 22:48 – Values Over Political Labels in Dating 25:48 – The Chemistry Myth 34:15 – How to Know If You're Coming On Too Strong 45:07 – Dating Profile Photos: The Three C's 47:35 – Five Quickie Questions 49:17 – Closing and Where to Find Damona

    18 November 2025, 11:00 am
  • 44 minutes 30 seconds
    Terrified of Dating After Divorce (How To Bounce Back)

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    Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings back holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons for live caller coaching sessions that'll change how you think about sex and dating. A woman married 10 years whose husband won't explore sexually at all—why "I want to try new things" might sound like "what we're doing isn't good enough" to a partner raised in a conservative home. What "deepthroating" really represents when your partner grew up being told sex was wrong—and the outside-the-bedroom conversation they need to have before anything changes in bed. A woman terrified about her first date after a breakup because she thinks the sex will be "unwilling"—the breathwork practice that gets you out of your anxious mind and into your confident body. Why a first date is just a "warm-up" to see if you're having fun, not an audition for marriage—and how to tell if someone's worth seeing naked just by watching how they treat wait staff. The reframe that takes all the pressure off dating: ditch the checklist, get present in your body, and remember you're the gatekeeper with all the power. Timestamps:

    0:00 - Intro

    2:11 - Growing Up Conservative: How Family Beliefs Kill Your Sex Life

    6:39 - The Compliment Sandwich: How to Ask for What You Want

    9:46 - Antidepressants Killed Our Sex Life: Now What?

    12:44 - Medical Issues vs. Sexual Needs: Finding Balance

    16:03 - The Power of Hope: Changing Your Sexual Dynamic Instantly

    19:03 - Beyond Penetration: Alternative Ways to Stay Connected

    24:57 - Dating After Great Sex: Overcoming Fear of Bad Partners

    29:44 - First Date Anxiety: Embodiment Practice Before Going Out

    34:47 - Stop Performing on Dates: Be Your Authentic Self Instead

    14 November 2025, 11:00 am
  • 30 minutes 32 seconds
    Why Cohabitation Destroys Intimacy (And How To Bring It Back)

    Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica dive into your questions about sex and relationships. A woman who's been living with her partner for over a year and can't stand his unsexy pecks on the lips anymore—why moving in together kills sexual tension and the surprising move she needs to make instead of waiting for him to change. The listener who ended a relationship because their partner refused to give oral sex—why sexual dealbreakers are valid and the one question Dr. Emily wishes she'd asked before walking away. A man in England with a specific fetish whose girlfriend gets "nasty and defensive" every time he tries to talk about sex—the cultural shame around sex talk that's blocking exploration and whether therapy books can replace actual therapy. Why "I don't want to seem pushy" is code for "we have a communication problem"—and the difference between a fantasy you'd like to explore and a fetish that's a requirement for arousal. The real reason your partner gets defensive when you bring up sex (spoiler: it's not about you). Timestamps:

    0:00 - Intro

    3:14 - Why Living Together Kills Sexual Tension (And How to Fix It)

    8:43 - Dating Someone with Herpes: What You Need to Know

    10:32 - The Truth About Herpes Transmission and Risk

    15:00 - My Partner Won't Give Oral: Should I Break Up?

    17:43 - How to Have the Difficult Oral Sex Conversation

    21:56 - When Your Partner Won't Explore Your Fetish

    23:15 - Defensiveness in Sex Talks: Red Flag or Fixable?

    25:54 - When Sexual Incompatibility Becomes a Deal Breaker

    11 November 2025, 11:00 am
  • 1 hour 8 minutes
    Why I Opened My Marriage After 20 Years
    7 November 2025, 11:00 am
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