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Ever wonder what really happens inside a sex therapist's office? Dr. Jenni Skyler, certified sex therapist, founder of the Intimacy Institute, and co-host of Sex and the Psyche, pulls back the curtain on what couples are really struggling with, why low desire is more normal than you think, and the two metaphors that change everything: the erotic piggy bank and the car on the highway.

We also get personal about Vyleesi. Our own experiences, the side effects, and what it actually feels like when desire comes back online. Spoiler: it gets good.

And yes, we go there. The myths, the duty sex, the midnight shoulder tap, the pressure to have simultaneous orgasms like it's a Hollywood movie. All of it on the table.

In this episode:- The erotic piggy bank: rebuilding desire through non-sexual deposits- Why spontaneous sex is a myth and what to do instead- The ten-minute invitation technique that changes everything- Vylisi vs. Addyi: our honest, personal take

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Website: ⁠The Intimacy Institute

Podcast: ⁠Sex and the Psyche

Instagram: ⁠@drjenniskyler

YouTube: ⁠Sex and the Psyche Podcast

Coming Soon: SavvySex – The App

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Have a question for me? Just ask: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/pages/ask?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=yt-B_NJuDUJF5I&utm_content=description Real people. Real questions. No filters. In this hotline episode I take live calls from listeners navigating some of the most common and least talked about sexual dilemmas — from a woman in a good relationship who can’t stop fantasizing about women, to a 19-year-old whose birth control has wiped out her desire entirely, to a man trying to reconnect with his wife after a miscarriage, and more. These are the conversations people carry around for years without ever knowing who to ask. Let’s talk about them. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT:

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Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go t⁠o http://sexwithemily.com/coachin⁠g to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Live Hotline: Real Questions About Sex, Desire, and Connection 1:19 Call 1: I’m Fantasizing About Women But I’m in a Relationship With a Man 3:30 Why Moving In Together Can Kill the Spark 5:45 Does He Get to Decide Which Fantasies You Can Have? 8:00 How to Tell Your Partner Exactly What You Want in Bed 10:30 The Yes No Maybe List and Why Every Couple Needs It 12:55 Call 2: Birth Control Took My Sex Drive to Zero 14:45 How the Pill Quietly Affects Desire and Mood 16:30 Learning Your Own Body for the First Time 19:00 Call 3: I’m Bisexual and Leaning More Toward Men 21:00 The Double Standard Around Male vs. Female Bisexuality 23:30 Call 4: My Wife Only Wants Sex When She’s Ovulating 26:00 Sex After a Miscarriage: What Couples Get Wrong 30:00 How to Keep Your Sex Life Alive While Trying to Conceive 32:30 Call 5: My Partner Says She’s Lazy in Bed 35:00 Mutual Masturbation as a Learning Tool 37:00 Call 6: 25 Years Married and Suddenly Insecure About My Body 38:15 What to Do When Insecurity Is Getting in the Way of Intimacy

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Whether it's a body pattern you've never been able to break, a sex life that went quiet during a hard season, or a relationship where desire just doesn't match up — these are the questions people carry around for years without knowing where to take them. Let's talk about real listener questions on orgasm habits, how to restart intimacy after illness, navigating power dynamics in a relationship, and what to actually do when your partner seems completely uninterested in sex.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

0:00 Real Sex Questions You Were Too Embarrassed to Ask

2:00 Q: I Can Only Orgasm One Way. Can I Change That?

3:47 How to Retrain Your Body for Full-Body Orgasms

6:23 The Breathwork Practice That Changes Everything

8:30 Q: How Do We Restart Our Sex Life After Six Months Off?

10:19 How to Ease Back In Without Pressure or Awkwardness

12:43 Q: I Want to Switch Roles But My Partner Won't

14:27 Top and Bottom Dynamics and Masculine Feminine Energy

17:05 How Age and Experience Shape Power in Relationships

19:17 Q: My Wife Just Wants It Over Quickly. What Do I Do?

21:00 When Culture and Shame Shut Down Desire

23:25 Sexual Health Is Overall Health. Here Is Why That Matters

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If you’re in a relationship where sex has quietly disappeared, you already know it’s not just about the lack of sex. It’s the questions that start creeping in—is she still attracted to me? Did I do something wrong? Why does every touch now feel loaded?

Let’s talk about what actually happens to men emotionally and relationally when a marriage goes sexless, and what you can do to start changing things without making it worse.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

0:00 – Intro
0:40 – What a mismatched-desire marriage feels like
1:15 – Listener question: no sex in almost a year
2:35 – Effect 1: You start taking it personally
3:35 – Why this hits men especially hard
5:00 – Effect 2: You pull away, even from affection
6:35 – Taking sex off the table to rebuild touch
7:35 – Effect 3: You feel disconnected and lonely
8:10 – Seeking outside validation
9:15 – What do you actually know vs. what are you assuming
10:20 – Mismatched desire is common: building a growth mindset around sex

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What if the secret to getting turned on has nothing to do with what happens in the bedroom?

Sometimes the best foreplay starts hours earlier, with the right kind of adventure, connection, or touch that works with your brain chemistry instead of against it. Let’s talk about the trust, titillate, and touch framework for bonding activities that actually prime your nervous system for desire — plus I’m answering your questions on sexual incompatibility, rebuilding your sex drive after having a baby, reigniting a stalled marriage, and reclaiming your sexuality after a relationship that made you feel unseen.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Let’s talk about the questions men are too embarrassed to ask about sex… because most of what men learn about sex comes from porn, from friends who are also just figuring it out, or from nothing at all. And then they spend years wondering if they’re broken, performing wrong, or missing something everyone else seems to already know. In this episode I’m answering seven of the most common questions I get from men, and I promise you are not the only one who has been too embarrassed to ask.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

0:00 – Intro: the questions men are too embarrassed to ask
0:55 – Is it bad to masturbate every day?
2:39 – How long is sex actually supposed to last?
3:53 – Why most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone
4:46 – Why you can lose your erection even when you’re attracted to her
6:55 – Should you worry if you don’t wake up with an erection?
8:11 – Why you can orgasm alone but not with a partner
10:34 – If you finish before your partner, is sex over?
12:45 – Send in the questions you’ve been too embarrassed to ask
13:19 – How to tell your partner you’re anxious about sex
15:10 – Why perfect sex isn’t the goal: presence, communication, and patience

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Let's talk about 69… because whether you love it, hate it, or have been too intimidated to try it, chances are nobody ever actually taught you how to do it well. In this episode I'm breaking down everything you need to know about giving and receiving oral sex simultaneously, including the modifications that turned me from a 69 skeptic into someone who actually gets it. I'm also answering your oral sex questions, from what to do when size makes a blowjob feel impossible to the listener who discovered the most unexpected erogenous zone of her life mid-session. If you've ever written off 69 or felt like you were doing oral sex wrong, this one is going to change some things for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

01:37 Why People Love and Hate 69

03:30 What Research Says About Giving Oral Sex and Happiness

05:00 How to Be a Better Giver in the 69 Position

07:30 Your Hands Are Your Best Friend in 69

09:00 How to Actually Receive Pleasure While Giving

11:00 Mindful Masturbation as a Tool for Better Receiving

13:00 The Sideways 69 and the Power 69

15:30 How to Stop Getting in Your Own Head During Oral

18:00 Question 1: I Discovered My Ear Is an Erogenous Zone Mid Session

21:00 The Science Behind Extra Genital Erogenous Zones

23:00 Question 2: How Do I Give Oral to a Much Larger Penis

25:00 Hands Lube and Permission to Mix It Up

27:00 The Only Rule That Actually Matters in Oral Sex

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Great oral sex isn’t about mastering a technique, memorizing tutorials, or finding one magic trick. It’s about being present enough to listen to your partner’s body.

In this episode, I’m sharing how to build a sexual language with your partner through attention, communication, and responsiveness. We’re talking about why starting slow matters, how to read the signals your partner is giving you, what it means to follow the “yes,” and why feedback like “don’t stop” or “softer” is an invitation—not a critique.

If you want oral sex to feel more connected, more pleasurable, and less like a performance, this episode is for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

0:00 – Intro: what this episode covers
1:24 – The oral sex skill nobody teaches: no secret move, just paying attention
2:49 – Step one: start way slower than you think you need to
4:29 – Why arousal needs a runway
5:52 – Step two: read the body and be a detective
7:35 – Step three: follow the yes
9:29 – What to do when the yes goes away
10:32 – Step four: talk about it
11:22 – Why feedback is direction, not criticism
12:36 – The question to ask: "What was your favorite part?"
14:08 – The real skill: attunement and the full feedback loop

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Let's talk about why foreplay might be the most misunderstood thing in your sex life… because the way most couples think about it is exactly backwards. In this episode I'm breaking down why foreplay doesn't start in the bedroom and what to do when your partner goes straight to penetration every single time, when the sex has gone stale and neither of you knows how to say it, when one person won't reciprocate, and when a medical situation forces you to get creative in all the best ways.

If you have ever wished your partner understood what you actually need before sex even starts, this one is for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:15 Foreplay Starts After the Last Orgasm

04:00 Why Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire Changes Everything

06:00 The Psychology of Arousal and What Gets You There

07:30 Call 1: He Goes Straight to Penetration Every Time

10:00 How to Tell a Sensitive Partner What You Actually Need

13:00 The Compliment Sandwich and Why It Works

15:30 Call 2: Our Sex Has Gone Stale and I Don't Know How to Fix It

18:00 What to Do When Foreplay Has Disappeared From Your Relationship

21:00 Call 3: My Partner Won't Reciprocate Foreplay

24:00 How to Ask for What You Want Without Making It a Fight

27:00 Call 4: I Have Never Had an Orgasm

30:00 Why Most People Skip the Most Important Step

33:00 Your Homework: 30 Minutes Three Times a Week

35:00 Call 5: I Can't Have Sex for 6 Weeks After My Procedure

36:00 How to Stay Sexually Connected When Penetration Is Off the Table

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Sexual communication isn’t a sign that something is wrong—it’s how sex gets better. When your partner says “slow down,” “stay right there,” or asks for something different, they aren’t rejecting you. They’re giving you the roadmap to what feels good for them right now.

In this episode, I’m talking about how to create the safety to give and receive direction during sex without anyone getting defensive, embarrassed, or shutting down. We’ll explore why learning basic anatomy is only the beginning, how bodies and desires change over time, and why staying curious is the real secret to being a great lover.

If you want more connected, responsive, and satisfying sex, this episode is for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

0:00 - What Nobody Taught You About Vaginas
1:24 - The Vagina Is Not the Whole Thing — Here's Your Anatomy Refresher
3:00 - The Sex Ed We Got Was Basically Useless (And What Was Missing)
4:00 - Step 1: Learn the Map — What You're Actually Working With
5:30 - Why We've Been Treating Penetration Like the Main Event (And Why That's a Problem)
7:00 - What Actually Happens in Your Body When You Become Aroused
8:30 - Look at Your Vulva — Yes, With a Mirror. Here's Why It Matters
10:30 - We Know Our Skincare Routine Better Than Our Own Pleasure Anatomy
12:00 - Step 2: Stop Assuming — There Are No Universal Settings
13:30 - The "Starting Gun" Problem: Why Timing Is Everything
15:00 - Closing the Tabs: How to Actually Get Fully Present During Sex
16:30 - When Your Body Is Telling You Something Needs Attention — Don't Ignore It
17:30 - Step 3: Keep Talking — Stop Saving the Conversation for When It Goes Wrong
18:30 - The GPS Analogy for Sexual Communication
19:45 - What Great Lovers Actually Have in Common

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Let's talk about what actually gets in the way of connected, present, pleasurable sex… because it is almost never what you think it is. In this episode I'm taking live listener calls from people who are done settling for sex that feels disconnected, performative, or just plain stuck. A divorced mom of two who spends every sexual encounter watching herself from the outside instead of actually feeling anything. Someone navigating intimacy after leaving a religion that made sex feel like something to be ashamed of. A 19 year old who wants to take control in the bedroom but freezes every time. And more. If you have ever felt like you were in the room but not really there, this episode is going to give you a way back in.

ABOUT EMILY:Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

0:00 – Cold open: why we don't talk about sex like we talk about everything else
2:21 – Caller #1: breaking free from "spectatorship" during sex
8:33 – Caller #2: what to do when your partner won't go down on you
12:33 – Caller #3: postpartum libido and not enjoying receiving oral
17:07 – Caller #4: performance anxiety and disconnecting during sex
22:17 – Why focusing on your partner's pleasure can ease performance anxiety
25:22 – The trap of people-pleasing in relationships
27:07 – Caller #5: how to finally make the first move
29:11 – Caller #6: freezing up during a casual hookup
33:52 – Healing sexual shame with EMDR therapy
37:53 – Caller #7: learning to take control in the bedroom

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