Sex With Emily

Dr. Emily Morse

  • 27 minutes 24 seconds
    Forget These Myths for Better Sex

    What’s a common stereotype you’ve heard about sex? Maybe it’s that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential. 

    So on today’s show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they’re long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want. 



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    4 April 2025, 7:45 am
  • 35 minutes 23 seconds
    Am I The Asshole for Watching Porn Without Telling My Partner?

    Ever wondered: Am I the asshole for watching porn without my partner knowing? Am I the asshole for feeling a little misled about our sex life before we walked down the aisle? Or how about: Am I the asshole for just feeling plain bored with our sex life? You’re not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I read your AITA questions and let you know if you’re approaching asshole territory.


    In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

    • How to be a supportive partner to someone with sexual trauma
    • How to get clearer on your sexual desires
    • About the experiences of sex workers


    Show Notes:


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    1 April 2025, 10:00 am
  • 29 minutes 22 seconds
    Hotline Calls: Can We Fix Our Chemistry?

    Are you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play.


    Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.


    In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

    • The surprising truth about sexual compatibility—and why mismatched libidos aren’t the end of the road.
    • Why squirting too much can actually be a turn-off (and how to control it if it’s becoming an issue).
    • The best way to respond when your partner’s kink catches you off guard—without killing the mood.


    Show Notes:


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    28 March 2025, 10:00 am
  • 40 minutes 9 seconds
    Am I The Asshole? Is It Cheating If We Were on a Break?

    Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more.


    In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

    • The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies
    • How to work through ultimatums in relationships
    • Why your sex life should evolve over time


    Show Notes:


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    25 March 2025, 10:00 am
  • 30 minutes 4 seconds
    Hotline Calls: How to Fantasize Together

    The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more. 


    First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you?


    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why erectile challenges aren’t just about the penis—and how you can spice things up while finding solutions
    • How to co-create fantasies with your partner for hotter, more connected sex
    • The secret to unlocking prostate pleasure (and why so many men are missing out)


    Show Notes:


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    21 March 2025, 10:00 am
  • 44 minutes 23 seconds
    How to Use Your Hands: Fingering & Handjobs

    Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. 

    Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions.

    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why hand play—fingering and handjobs—is the underrated pleasure tool you need to master.
    • How to turn up the heat with expert hand techniques for both vulvas and penises.
    • The secret to making manual stimulation feel even better than penetrative sex.


    Show Notes:


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    18 March 2025, 10:00 am
  • 28 minutes 40 seconds
    Hotline Calls: Strip Clubs & Sex Boundaries

    It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure.

    When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance?

    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • How to communicate boundaries and advocate for your pleasure in oral sex (without the sore throat aftermath)
    • The best ways to introduce your partner to rimming—yes, even if they’re hesitant
    • How to navigate mismatched libidos, strip club discomfort, and polyamory as a secondary partner


    Show Notes:


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    14 March 2025, 10:00 am
  • 57 minutes 24 seconds
    How to Be a Better Partner w/ John Kim & Vanessa Bennett

    Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals. 

    With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration.

    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why “The One” is a myth and what actually makes relationships last
    • How to turn obligatory sex into erotic collaboration
    • The secret to avoiding resentment before it ruins your connection


    Show Notes:


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    11 March 2025, 10:00 am
  • 34 minutes 6 seconds
    Initiating Sex After a Dry Spell

    Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself.

    Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility.

    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • The secret to orgasming in any position (without wrecking your calves).
    • How to bring back the heat after a dry spell—without the pressure.
    • The power move that gets your partner to switch things up in bed.


    Show Notes:


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    7 March 2025, 11:00 am
  • 30 minutes 21 seconds
    Hotline Calls: Hook-Ups & Opening Up

    When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. 

    First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships?

    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop.
    • How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.
    •  The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms).


    Show Notes:


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    4 March 2025, 11:00 am
  • 38 minutes 19 seconds
    We’re Giving Up Performative Sex

    We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex.

    First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions.

    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop.
    • How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.
    •  The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms).


    Show Notes:


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    28 February 2025, 11:00 am
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