Solo sex is one of the most powerful tools you have for better partnered sex — and most people are barely scratching the surface. In this throwback episode, Dr. Emily makes the case for why your relationship with yourself might be the most important sexual relationship you'll ever have.

From finding out what actually turns you on to using masturbation as a way to manage stress and boost confidence, Emily covers everything you need to know about flying solo — including how to bring toys into the mix without awkwardness. She also takes listener calls about navigating different libidos in relationships, dealing with performance anxiety, and figuring out how to ask for what you want in bed.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why masturbation is essential for sexual self-awareness — not just a fallback when you're single

 • How to explore fantasies and toys on your own so you can communicate better with partners

 • The connection between solo pleasure, stress relief, and overall sexual confidence

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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:30 - Why Masturbation Matters (Even If You Have a Partner)

3:05 - The G-Spot Myth: Why It's Really a "G-Area"

4:50 - First-Time Masturbation Guide for Women

8:17 - Choosing Your First Vibrator: What to Know

10:54 - Can You "Retrain" Your Body to Orgasm Without a Vibrator?

14:00 - Edging Explained: How to Intensify Your Orgasms

17:38 - Overcoming Shame and Religious Guilt Around Self-Pleasure

24:01 - The We-Vibe Melt: Why It's a Game-Changer

30:40 - Rapid Fire: Mismatched Libidos, BDSM, and Confidence Tips

When the wedding’s over and real life kicks in, it’s so common for sex to shift — sometimes fast. In this throwback live show, Dr. Emily tackles the myth that marriage equals the end of your sex life, and breaks down how to bring back that “honeymoon energy” without forcing it or turning intimacy into another chore.

Emily shares a simple framework for staying connected long-term (including her idea of “sex vows”), then takes calls from listeners navigating a sudden post-marriage libido drop and the emotional whiplash of being single while everyone around you is getting engaged.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 • Why desire often drops after commitment — and how to address it before resentment builds

 • Practical ways to revive novelty and reconnect (including “sex vows” you can actually use)

 • How to handle the pressure and loneliness when it feels like everyone else is getting married

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

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This episode is sponsored by…

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:26 - Current Trends in Sex and Relationships

5:25 - Essential Conversations Before Marriage

7:40 - Writing Your Sex Vows

9:49 - Planning Your Pleasure: Yes/No/Maybe List

12:39 - Recreating Honeymoon Sex Energy

16:00 - Q&A: When His Sex Drive Plummets After Marriage

22:30 - Q&A: Exploring Bisexuality in a Committed Relationship

25:24 - Q&A: Building a Sex Life You've Never Had

30:56 - Q&A: When Your Partner Doesn't Want Marriage

You want to talk to your partner about sex. You really do. But every time you try, your throat closes, your chest tightens, and suddenly it feels easier to just… not. You're not bad at communication — your brain is literally wired to treat these conversations like threats. In this live show, I break down exactly why sex talks trigger fight-or-flight, how shame keeps us mute in the bedroom, and what to do when you've been together for years and never actually talked about what you want.

This episode was recorded LIVE across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs.

You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being LIVE together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good, without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.

In this episode, you'll learn: 

• Why your brain treats sex conversations like danger (and how to override it)

• How to find your sexual voice and stop cringing when you try to speak up

• A husband's honest question about rekindling intimacy after kids

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

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• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

06:45 - The Clitoris Has 12,000 Nerve Endings (Full Anatomy Explained)

13:20 - How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Cringey

18:15 - Mutual Masturbation: Why It's a Top Sex Tip

22:40 - Squirting: The Truth vs The Pressure

28:10 - Breaking Down Shame & Performance Anxiety

35:50 - Sex After Kids: Rekindling Intimacy (Live Caller Question)

38:25 - Medications Killing Your Libido (What to Do About It)

40:15 - Finding the Right Sex Therapist (Somatic vs Talk Therapy)

You're in love. You're committed. So why does sex feel like it dropped off the priority list somewhere between laundry and meal prep? You're not broken — you're just busy, stressed, and maybe a little stuck in your head. In this live show, Dr. Emily answers your unfiltered questions about what happens when desire fades, how to talk to a partner who clams up about what they want, and why the "how often should we be having sex?" question is missing the point entirely.

This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

In this episode, you'll learn: 

• Why "how often should we have sex?" is the wrong question — and what to ask instead 

• The three pleasure thieves silently wrecking your libido 

• How to help a shy partner open up about their desires (without making it awkward)

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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• Let’s text: Sign up here

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:04 - How often should couples have sex?

5:57 - Getting your partner to communicate about sex

8:39 - Do most couples talk about sex?

10:57 - Why your sex life shouldn't stay the same for decades

15:34 - Navigating intimacy with chronic illness

18:44 - Myth: Good sex should be spontaneous

21:06 - Myth: Orgasms are the ultimate goal

23:16 - Sex during pregnancy when your partner pulls back

26:57 - Dealing with early ejaculation

30:28 - Helping a stressed partner get in the mood

33:56 - Top sex toy recommendations

34:28 - Myth: Lube is only for older women

Let's be honest — for all the progress we've made, most of us still don't know how to talk about sex. We can talk about work, money, kids, literally everything else. But ask your partner what actually turns them on? Cue panic.

In this live show, Dr. Emily opens up the gates for your questions and wow, you did not hold back. She tackles why sex stops feeling fun and starts feeling like a chore, what's really going on when desire disappears, and how to flip the script from obligation back to connection.

This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast.

After over two decades of talking about sex, I’ve learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You’ll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Don't forget to tune in on most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, Tiktok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why sex becomes "just another item on the to-do list" and what that really means 

• The difference between duty and desire — and why confusing them breeds resentment 

• How to rebrand sex as connection instead of obligation

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by… 

Bellesa 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:36 - "Pick Up Laundry, Do Dishes, Have Sex... Check"

6:07 - When You're Not in the Mood to Give

12:25 - How to Ask Someone Out (Live Caller)

14:26 - Can You Make Her Squirt? Techniques That Actually Work

22:22 - How to Get Your Partner to Want Intimacy Again

30:53 - Finding a Third: Dos and Don'ts for Couples

36:08 - The Power of Edging

40:38 - "Desire Needs Space, Not Stress"

47:29 - How to Make Sex Feel Like Connection Again

EPISODE SUMMARY

Dolly Josette is a somatic sexologist and intimacy coach known as "The Pleasure Muse" who helps people reconnect with their bodies to unlock deeper pleasure. In this episode, Dolly returns to the show to explore why so many of us feel disconnected from our own sensations, where trauma actually lives in the body, and how a few minutes of daily practice can transform your relationship with pleasure. She and Dr. Emily get into embodiment work, why your genitals might be holding onto more than you realize, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself for others.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What somatic sexology actually is and how it differs from talk therapy

• Why your body stores emotions and trauma in your fascia and genitals

• The simple exercise that can help you release blocks you didn't know you had

• Why you can't figure out what you want sexually until your body feels safe

• How to do a "vulva hug" and why your genitals might be craving your attention

• The real reason pleasure fades after the honeymoon phase

• Why embodiment isn't another thing on your to-do list — it's how you live

• How long it actually takes to build an embodiment practice that sticks

• The one song a day practice that can pull you back into your body

• What your body is trying to tell you when you feel frozen or shut down

• How to access your partner's prostate for maximum pleasure

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by… 

Bellesa 

"EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast"

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:12 - What is Somatic Sexology and Body Work?

5:02 - Why You Can't Feel Pleasure Until Your Body Feels Safe

9:03 - How Trauma Gets Stored in Your Genitals

14:54 - The Power of Slowing Down During Intimate Touch

20:51 - Hungry Hungry Vagina: HRT and Hormonal Changes

27:02 - Finding Your Pleasure Spot at the Vaginal Entrance

29:36 - How to Stimulate the Prostate for Maximum Pleasure

36:40 - Why You Need More Non-Sexual Touch in Your Life

41:03 - Your Body is Craving Your Attention

EPISODE SUMMARY

Mark Groves is a human connection specialist who transformed his own painful relationship patterns into wisdom he now shares with millions. In this episode, Mark opens up about the Thanksgiving dinner betrayal that shut him down at 19, the years he spent as an emotionally unavailable guy, and the breakthrough that finally let him receive love. In this episode we dig into codependency, why chemistry fades, and what it actually takes to build a relationship where you can be fully yourself.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why a failed one-night stand taught Mark more about himself than years of relationships

• The real definition of codependency and why it's not just about addiction

• How to identify your "Thanksgiving dinner moment" that shaped how you love

• Why the space between partners disappears and chemistry dies in long-term relationships

• The question that reveals if you're being codependent in the bedroom

• What "liberated love" looks like and why truth-telling is the foundation

• How Mark and his wife broke up, had a closing ceremony, and came back stronger

• Why your capacity to love equals your capacity to lose

• The three things you can do now to get on the path toward the love you want

• How parenthood changes intimacy and why the six-week clearance is misleading

• What to do when you can't stop fantasizing about past flings while in a relationship

More Dr. Emily: 

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by… 

Bellesa 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:13 - How Mark Started Sharing Vulnerable Relationship Advice 

8:31 - The Thanksgiving Dinner That Changed Everything 

16:00 - Finding Your "Moment" That Shapes How You Love 

20:13 - What Is Codependency Really? 

30:04 - Signs You're in a Codependent Pattern 

33:51 - Why Couples Stop Having Sex (It's Not What You Think) 

39:17 - How Parenthood Changes Your Sex Life 

51:01 - Use Your Relationship to Become Everything 

54:53 - Listener Question: Can't Stop Thinking About Past Flings 

1:02:55 - Quickie Q&A

EPISODE SUMMARY

Dr. Emily visits the office of urogynecologist Dr. Patricia Wallace to explore the hidden world of pelvic health—and why it matters so much for sexual pleasure. From the muscles that control your orgasms to the hormones that fuel desire, Dr. Wallace breaks down what's actually happening in your body and what you can do about it at every age.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What your pelvic floor actually is and why 80% of women can't properly contract it

• The connection between pelvic floor strength and orgasm intensity

• How to do a kegel correctly using yogic breathing techniques

• Why recurrent UTIs happen and the supplement hack that prevents them

• The truth about hormone therapy and why that 20-year-old study shouldn't scare you

• What "optimal" hormone levels mean versus just "normal" lab ranges

• How testosterone affects women's sex drive—and when supplementation helps

• The real timeline for postpartum sexual recovery (hint: it's not 6 weeks)

• Why the Emsella chair delivers 12,000 pelvic floor contractions in one session

• How core strength affects everything from incontinence to back pain to sexual confidence

More Dr. Emily: 

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• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by… 

Bellesa 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:53 - What Is Your Pelvic Floor & Why Should You Care

4:41 - The UTI Hack Most Women Don't Know About

6:52 - First Steps When You Suspect Perimenopause

9:01 - The 80% Orgasm Problem (And How to Fix It)

10:20 - How to Do a Kegel Correctly (Live Tutorial)

14:04 - What the Emsella Chair Actually Does to Your Body

17:06 - How Hormone Replacement Changes Sexual Function

20:05 - Pregnant Sex & Postpartum Recovery Truth

24:00 - Protecting Your Pelvic Floor Before Problems Start

29:01 - Why Core Strength Makes You Sexy From the Inside Out

EPISODE SUMMARY

Dr. Emily sits down with relationship expert Matthew Hussey to decode modern dating, from confusing chemistry with compatibility to knowing when someone's actually emotionally available. Matthew breaks down why we keep choosing the wrong people, how to set boundaries without sabotaging connection, and the texting behaviors that reveal true interest levels.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The difference between chemistry and compatibility—and why excitement often masks anxiety

• How to identify emotional availability in the first few dates

• Why having standards matters more than having a "type"

• The art of expressing needs without coming across as needy

• Red flags in texting culture and what silence really means

• How to break patterns of settling and choose better partners

• Why vulnerability creates attraction (and how to practice it)

• When to walk away from situationships that aren't serving you

• How self-worth directly impacts who you attract and keep

• Strategies for building sexual tension while deepening emotional intimacy

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by…

Qualia: 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro: The Dolphin Metaphor - Understanding Our Conditioning

1:36 - Meet Matthew Hussey: Dating Expert & Confidence Coach

6:48 - Matthew's Journey with Chronic Pain & The Concept of "Happy Enough"

13:18 - Matthew's Evolution & The Pain of Helping Others

18:26 - Lighting the Fuse: Detonating Your Own Life Before It Implodes

25:17 - Anxiety in Relationships & The Wall We Keep Crashing Into

32:45 - The Dolphin Tank: How Our Past Shapes Our Reality

37:41 - Core Confidence: You Don't Need to Be Special to Love Yourself

42:15 - Giving Yourself Closure & Modeling Healthy Standards

48:26 - Five Quickie Questions & Outro

EPISODE SUMMARY

Dr. Emily shares three listener success stories that prove honest communication transforms sex lives. Graham's pegging journey opened up conversations he and his wife never had before. Calvin and his wife of 20+ years had their first spontaneous threesome after a night of dancing. And Jasmine finally experienced her first penetrative orgasm after years of frustration—by standing up for her needs and incorporating breathing techniques.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why scheduling difficult sexual conversations (outside the bedroom) leads to breakthrough moments

• How embodiment during sex—staying present with both sensations AND emotions—deepens connection

• The grinding technique that helps many vulva owners orgasm during penetration

• Why breathing and edging practices intensify orgasms

• How to guide your mind back when it wanders during sex

If you have a sexy story to share, send it to [email protected] with "sexy story" in the subject line.

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• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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• Let’s text: Sign up here

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This episode is sponsored by… 

Bellesa 

"EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast"

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:36 - Graham's Pegging Success: How Communication Transformed Their Marriage

4:18 - Why Pegging Is Vulnerable for Men & Breaking Masculine Taboos

7:38 - Calvin's First Threesome: From Dance Floor to Bedroom

11:48 - The Importance of Being Embodied During Sex

13:44 - Jasmine's Journey: Overcoming Abuse to Achieve Her First Penetrative Orgasm

17:04 - Standing Up for Your Sexual Needs in Relationships

20:00 - The Grinding Technique & Clitoral Stimulation During Penetration

21:44 - Using Breath & Fantasy to Stay Present During Sex

23:37 - Wrap-Up & How to Share Your Story

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode, Emily sits down with volleyball legend Gabby Reece—professional athlete, podcast host of The Gabby Reece Show, entrepreneur—to talk about the unsexy truths that actually keep long-term relationships alive. Gabby pulls no punches as she reveals her controversial "48-hour sex rule," and how treating sex like going to the gym (just get your shoes on and show up) has sustained their passion for decades.

This conversation dismantles the romanticized version of marriage and replaces it with raw honesty about vulnerability, stoicism almost ending her relationship, and why "misogynists are bitches" but real masculinity is powerful, protective, and tender. Gabby shares her four rules for keeping an alpha male happy (hint: food and sex made the list), the farmer versus flower dynamic that prevents resentment, and why her self-care hierarchy puts herself first, her relationship second, and her kids third—unapologetically.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The 48-hour sex rule works—scheduling sex isn't sexy, but it's sexier than one partner begging and the other constantly rejecting; Gabby and Laird have sex every other day, and she admits she strategically loads her calendar the day after because she "doesn't have to answer to anyone"

• Clear the decks daily to avoid divorce—Laird confronts everything immediately (every look, tone, word) so resentments never build; Gabby credits this practice with saving their marriage after years of her being too stoic nearly ended it

• Understanding the farmer vs. flower dynamic—sometimes one partner is in the spotlight (the flower) while the other supports (the farmer), and the roles switch; when one person is always the farmer, resentment builds and relationships suffer

• Real masculinity isn't misogyny—true masculine strength includes compassion, protection, and tenderness; we've trained men to feel bad about their masculinity, and bringing kindness (not anger) while setting boundaries helps everyone thrive

• You have the goods—ask for what you want—Gabby's advice to young women about sex is radical: stop performing, start demanding your pleasure, and remember that good sex is about mutual understanding, not just one person's orgasm

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

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This episode is sponsored by… 

Common Confidential  Use code SEXWITHEMILY! https://commonconfidential.com/s/sexwithemily

Bellesa 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:21 - The Challenge of Bringing More Play Into Life

7:06 - 28 Years Together: Gabby's 3 Keys to a Strong Marriage

9:03 - Clear the Decks: Daily Communication That Saves Relationships

14:19 - Farmer vs Flower: Understanding Relationship Roles

22:48 - Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish (Especially for Moms)

28:34 - Lifting Weights: The Real Anti-Aging Secret for Women

29:04 - The 4 Rules for Keeping Your Partner Happy

39:18 - The 48-Hour Rule

42:26 - When You're Doing It for Them (And Why That's OK)

50:01 - Biggest Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice for Young Women