The KYLO Show

Loving on Purpose

The KYLO show is a weekly podcast hosted by Danny Silk and Brittney Serpell. Each week they’ll discuss the principles and practices of keeping your love on and how to build, protect, and pass on healthy families from one generation to the next.

  • 22 minutes 21 seconds
    Correction, Connection, and Calling Boys to Become Men

    Live from Cleveland, Danny and Brittney Serpell close out the KYLO Show Live Tour with a deeply practical and wide-ranging conversation on correction, connection, and cultivating healthy relationships—in families, workplaces, and the Church. This episode covers everything from navigating hypersensitivity to correction in marriage, to creating gossip-free communities, to raising sons in a culture that devalues masculinity.

    Packed with wisdom and humor, this episode is a reminder that truth, accountability, and love are essential to building Whole Healthy Families and strong communities.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • How to stay powerful in a relationship when your correction is rejected
    • What to do when your spouse (or loved one) is hypersensitive to feedback
    • How to process problems without turning conversations into gossip
    • How to bring the culture of revival into your workplace
    • What healthy masculinity looks like—and how to model it for the next generation
    • Why brotherhood and accountability are essential for calling boys into manhood

    Key Takeaways:

    • When correction turns into judgment or punishment, connection breaks down—keep your love on and stay in the light.
    • Your goal isn’t agreement—it’s understanding and connection. Stay clear on your goal and surround yourself with people who help you live it.
    • Healthy community culture calls people to direct communication, not venting behind closed doors. Accountability protects relationships.
    • Revival in the workplace looks like integrity, generosity, and honor—people should want to retire at your company because of how they’re treated.
    • Boys don’t become men on their own. They need fathers, brothers, and healthy examples of masculine strength, sacrifice, and covenant.

    Join the Conversation:
    What are you doing to build connection and culture in your home, workplace, or church? Share your story—we’d love to hear how you’re putting these principles into practice.

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    15 December 2025, 1:00 pm
  • 27 minutes 2 seconds
    How to Build a Culture That Heals

    Broadcasting live from Cleveland, Ohio, Danny and Brittney Serpell tackle some of the most urgent and complex issues facing the Church today—from fallen leaders and disconnected marriages to the everyday challenge of offering correction without losing connection. With real audience questions and vulnerable stories, this episode unpacks how a lack of accountability and self-awareness is tearing apart families, marriages, and ministries—and what we can do to build cultures of truth, trust, and transformation.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • Why so many churches and leaders are breaking down—and how to prevent it
    • The dangers of “king-style” leadership and how it isolates pastors from correction
    • How to offer correction in marriage without punishing or controlling
    • The difference between healthy shame and toxic shame—and how to tell which one you’re using
    • How to build a marriage culture where truth is welcome, not weaponized
    • What repentance actually looks like (it’s not just saying “I’m sorry”)

    Key Takeaways:

    • Unaccountable leaders aren’t just at risk—they’re already isolated. Culture breakdown starts at the top when connection is replaced by control.
    • Marriage correction without self-awareness leads to resentment and disconnection. You can’t disciple your spouse into being like you.
    • Healthy shame leads to change and reconnection. Toxic shame leads to punishment and hiding.
    • If you’re spending more than 5 minutes explaining how hurt you are, you're probably doing it wrong. Tell the truth about you—not them.
    • Repentance isn’t confession. It’s change. And it only works when both parties stay connected and do the work.

    Join the Conversation:
    Have you experienced correction that restored trust—or caused disconnection? What helped you grow through it? We’d love to hear your story.

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    1 December 2025, 1:00 pm
  • 25 minutes 12 seconds
    Navigating Disconnection in Family, Church, and Leadership

    In this heartfelt and unfiltered episode from their stop in North Tonawanda, Danny and Brittney Serpell dive deep into some of the hardest relational dynamics—what to do when connection seems impossible. From family members who resist correction to church leaders who reject feedback, this episode explores how to keep your love on when everything in you wants to shut down.

    Through honest audience questions and raw discussion, Danny and Brittney model what it means to stay powerful, protect your peace, and lead with love in your family, church, and community.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • How to communicate needs without demanding behavior change

    • Why your goal in conflict must be connection—not being right

    • What to do when your parent (or child) values control over relationship

    • How to maintain boundaries without turning your love off

    • Why accountability in leadership is essential for a healthy church

    • The difference between harmony and true connection in marriage and parenting

    Key Takeaways:

    • Love doesn’t require agreement—it requires ownership. You can tell someone what you need without trying to control them.
    • Correction that flows through connection brings change—anything else feels like punishment.
    • When someone chooses being “right” over being in relationship, you still get to choose love and protect your peace.
    • Healthy leadership starts with accountability. If no one can give you feedback, you're not leading—you're ruling.
    • Raising whole and healthy kids is about consistent love, not perfection. Connection, not control, is your greatest legacy.

    Join the Conversation:
    Have you struggled to stay connected to a parent, child, or leader who resists feedback? Tell us your story—your vulnerability can inspire healing in others.

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    17 November 2025, 1:00 pm
  • 25 minutes 36 seconds
    Connection Before Correction: How to Guide Your Kids Without Losing Their Hearts

    In this live episode from North Tonawanda, New York, Danny and Brittney Serpell respond to powerful audience questions about parenting, correction, and connection. From overcorrected kids and resistant teenagers to “I don’t know” shutdowns and sibling conflict, this episode is full of real-life moments, raw honesty, and practical tools for parenting with love and leadership.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • How to shift from punishment to wisdom when offering correction

    • Why connection is the foundation for lasting influence with teens

    • How to draw out your child when they shut down or avoid engagement

    • What to do when sibling rivalry becomes the norm

    • How to model repentance and rebuild trust as a parent

    Key Takeaways:

    Correction without connection breeds resistance—prioritize relationship over being right.
    When kids say “I don’t know,” it’s often self-protection—create safety by managing your reaction.

    You can’t control your kids, but you can control your access to resources, opportunities, and permission.

    Sibling relationships are training grounds for love—don’t settle for conflict as the norm.
    Leading your family well means owning your mistakes, leading with humility, and choosing connection every time.

    Join the Conversation:
    Have you navigated resistance, shutdowns, or sibling rivalry in your home? We’d love to hear what helped you reconnect. Share your stories and continue the conversation.

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    3 November 2025, 1:00 pm
  • 29 minutes 4 seconds
    Launching Kids with Love and Restoring Trust in Family

    In the final stop of their Northwest tour at Risen King in Redding, California, Danny and Brittney unpack the emotional terrain of parenting adult and soon-to-be-adult children, navigating grandparenting, and repairing fractured relationships. This episode is rich with wisdom, heart, and practical tools for maintaining love, connection, and grace in every season of family life.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • How to transition from parent to consultant as young adults gain independence.

    • The importance of sustaining connection with children who feel ready to launch—and when things get messy.

    • What supportive grandparenting looks like (and isn’t!).

    • Steps you can take to repair relationships that were strained by criticism or control.

    • How to foster oneness in marriage through vulnerability, honest communication, and mutual trust.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Launching adult kids is less about permission and more about staying connected—your love and availability matter most.

    • As a grandparent, your role shifts to support—not control—and that “yes space” becomes your sweet spot.

    • Restoration begins with humility: admit your mistakes, apologize, and invite connection without insisting on change.

    • Healing relationships is rooted in curiosity, not advice: ask how you’re experiencing them and what they need to feel understood.

    • True marriage oneness comes from shared vulnerability, speaking truth about your experience, and inviting your spouse into your heart—not pointing out theirs.

    Join the Conversation:
    Are you navigating the “launching” season, a grandparenting role, or relationship restoration? Share your stories and insights—we’d love to hear how connection is being cultivated in your home.

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    20 October 2025, 12:00 pm
  • 26 minutes 36 seconds
    Narcissists, Responsibility, and Big Emotions

    Live from Risen King Church in Redding, California, Danny and Brittney tackle some of the most asked-about topics in relationships and parenting—including how to deal with someone labeled a narcissist, how to raise responsible children, and how to guide kids through big emotions without losing connection. Whether you're navigating disrespect in your marriage, parenting toddlers with tantrums, or raising teens who resist chores, this episode offers deep wisdom, practical tools, and real talk from two leaders who’ve walked it out.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • Why trying to fix or change someone else (especially a narcissist) is a losing strategy.

    • How to use the KYLO 5 to protect yourself and preserve connection.

    • What it really means to set boundaries with love, not rejection.

    • How to cultivate responsibility in kids through feedback and connection.

    • Strategies for guiding children through sadness and anger with maturity and empathy.

    Key Takeaways:

    • You can’t change someone who doesn’t think they have a problem—focus on managing yourself.

    • Boundaries are not punishment; they are a message of hope for reconciliation.

    • A ten-year-old isn’t too young to begin learning how to steward their part of the relationship.

    • Emotionally explosive moments are opportunities to teach—not control—your children.

    • As a parent, your job isn’t to stop emotions but to protect the culture of your home with self-control and leadership.

    Join the Conversation:
    What stood out to you in this episode? Have you been in a relationship where you tried to fix someone? How do you approach parenting through connection rather than control?

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    6 October 2025, 12:00 pm
  • 21 minutes 13 seconds
    Humility, Anger, and Parenting Through Disconnection

    Live from Empowered Life Church in Talent, Oregon, Danny and Brittney dive deep into three of the most challenging relational dynamics: humility in marriage, anger and emotional regulation, and the evolving role of parenting teens and adult children. With powerful personal stories and practical strategies, they model how to keep your love on even when emotions are high, triggers are firing, or relationships feel strained. Whether you’re navigating covenant in marriage or coaching your teenager through anxiety and independence, this episode is packed with real talk and transformational truth.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • How humility can de-escalate conflict and restore connection in marriage.

    • Why disconnection is more dangerous than you think—and what to do about it.

    • Practical tools for recognizing anger before it turns into destruction.

    • How to guide your children from childhood into adulthood with wisdom, empowerment, and connection.

    • The power of co-regulation and feedback in a healthy home environment.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Humility isn’t weakness—it’s a superpower that diffuses disrespect and fosters trust.

    • Disconnection is like a couch on fire: don’t ignore it. Move toward the people you love quickly.

    • Learn to recognize the signs of fight-or-flight in your body—and hit pause before reacting.

    • Parents move from cop to coach to consultant; don’t try to skip stages or cling to control.

    • Empower your kids by building trust, not fear. They’ll keep you in their life if they know you can handle their mess.

    Join the Conversation:
    What’s your go-to strategy for reconnecting after conflict? Share your experience with us online, or let us know which part of today’s episode hit home for you.

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    22 September 2025, 12:00 pm
  • 27 minutes 15 seconds
    Hosting God at Home and Healing in Marriage

    Live from Talent, Oregon (just outside Ashland), Danny and Brittney share insights on cultivating spiritual connection and growth in everyday family life. From hosting the presence of God with your kids in creative and playful ways to managing triggers in marriage with mature, loving responses—the conversation is rich with practical wisdom, heartfelt encouragement, and replay-worthy truths.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • How to invite God into your home in fresh, age-appropriate ways.

    • Why holding space for creativity and play shapes spiritual growth in kids.

    • How to identify—and lovingly address—when someone lacks awareness of deeper issues.

    • The “Kylo Five” model for regulating yourself with intention in relationships: Power, Love over Fear, Connection, Respectful Communication, and Healthy Boundaries.

    • How to respond to triggers with love, humility, and spiritual fuel instead of defensiveness or shame.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Spiritual connection doesn't require perfect formats; it thrives where there's playfulness, honesty, and openness to God’s work.

    • Ease off “doing church everywhere.” God shows up most powerfully in everyday life when you're paying attention to your kids and how they're connecting.

    • Don't try to fix someone who hasn’t acknowledged a problem—scaffolding help only works when it’s invited.

    • Choose to respond from strength, not from pain: “My God has called me. I am prepared. I may not feel prepared—but I am.”

    • In conflict, say, “My goal with you is connection,” and communicate your experience first—then extend grace and set boundaries.

    Join the Conversation:
    Which idea resonated most—“How are you experiencing me?” or choosing connection over distance? We’d love to hear how this insight is showing up in your home or relationships.

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    8 September 2025, 12:00 pm
  • 24 minutes 8 seconds
    The Five Words That Heal Disconnection

    In this heartfelt live episode from a historic church in Springfield, Danny and Brittney reflect on their visit to Kairos Church and dive deep into one of the most crucial topics in relationships: repairing disconnection. With humor, authenticity, and practical tools, they offer steps for addressing hurt and restoring connection. The conversation also explores how our view of God impacts our ability to receive love, the power of community in healing, and memorable God-moments that have shaped their journeys. This episode is rich with insight for anyone longing for deeper connection with God and the people they love.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • How to identify and express disconnection using five simple words

    • Why taking ownership is essential for restoring relationships

    • Practical ways to shift from judgment to vulnerability in conversations

    • How to receive God’s love and confront lies rooted in shame

    • Keys for single parents to raise their children in a godly home

    Key Takeaways:

    • You can’t restore connection by judging others—healing starts with “let me tell you about me.”

    • Avoiding vulnerability only delays healing; honesty invites restoration.

    • Unresolved lies will keep you trapped in self-righteousness—truth sets you free.

    • Children learn what love looks like by watching how their parents live it out.

    • God’s love rushes in when we stop hiding and allow His truth to wash over us.

    Join the Conversation:
    What stood out to you in this episode? Share your insights on social media, leave a review, or send us a message—we love hearing from you!

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    25 August 2025, 12:00 pm
  • 21 minutes 22 seconds
    How Are You Experiencing Me?

    In this special live episode from Springfield, Oregon, Danny and Brittney take audience questions that range from pursuing ministry after a life-changing injury to creating a culture of connection and growth in your home. From practical parenting tips to the power of asking, “How are you experiencing me?”, this episode is full of wisdom, humor, and heartfelt encouragement. Whether you’re building a new path forward or just trying to maintain peace in your household, this episode offers the tools and truth you need to stay connected and keep growing.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • How to transition into a ministry career while supporting your family.

    • Why courage is a key part of developing confidence and calling.

    • The importance of unity with your spouse when stepping into ministry.

    • What it means to stay hungry for growth and embrace discomfort.

    • Simple, powerful ways to protect connection in marriage and parenting.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Commitment precedes courage, and courage builds the confidence needed to follow your calling.

    • Ministry is a team effort—your spouse needs to be fully on board to walk in unity and power.

    • Growth requires discomfort. Staying in the process brings clarity, fruit, and family breakthrough.

    • “How are you experiencing me?” is one of the most transformative questions you can ask in any relationship.

    • In a culture of connection, disconnection is treated like a four-alarm fire—nothing else matters until it’s resolved.

    Join the Conversation:
    What stood out to you in this episode? Share your insights on social media, leave a review, or send us a message—we love hearing from you!

    Stay Connected:
    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    11 August 2025, 3:00 pm
  • 15 minutes 20 seconds
    Family Revival, Foster Parenting and the Fear of the Lord

    In the final episode recorded live at Jesus Pursuit Church in Albany, Danny and Brittney tackle two powerful questions. First, they speak directly to foster parents navigating the challenges of building family culture when children come from difficult backgrounds. Then, they offer deep insight into the biblical meaning of “the fear of the Lord,” clarifying how it differs from the fear of punishment. This episode is full of wisdom, practical parenting tools, and spiritual clarity for anyone walking through uncertainty or leadership in their home.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • How to create a healthy home culture as a foster or first-time parent.

    • Practical tools for building trust, structure, and stability with a child in transition.

    • The difference between punishment-based parenting and love-based leadership.

    • What the fear of the Lord truly means—and how it leads to wisdom.

    • Why heaven’s justice is always about reconciliation, not punishment.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Lead on purpose: Whether you're parenting biological or foster children, the culture of your home should be built intentionally, not accidentally.

    • Aim small, miss small: Start with attainable goals and celebrate every win—especially when parenting in difficult circumstances.

    • Punishment isn’t power: True power in parenting and leadership comes from consistent love, not control.

    • Fear of the Lord = fear of disconnection: It’s not about punishment; it’s about protecting your relationship with God.

    • God’s justice reconciles: Unlike the world’s justice that demands retribution, heaven’s justice leads to repentance, reconciliation, and restoration.

    Join the Conversation:

    Are you a foster parent or navigating a new season of parenting? Have you wrestled with the meaning of “fear of the Lord”? We’d love to hear your reflections—join the conversation at www.thekyloshow.com.

    Stay Connected:

    Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
    Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
    Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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    28 July 2025, 12:00 pm
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