In this episode, Dr. Pooja Lakshmin challenges the modern self-care industry and explains why meditation apps, bubble baths, and wellness routines often fail to address the real causes of burnout. She shares a more meaningful approach to well-being, one built on boundaries, self-compassion, values, and power. Pooja also discusses how to let go of guilt, stop chasing perfection, and create a life that reflects what truly matters, even in a world that constantly asks us to do more.

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Key Takeaways:

• Why modern self-care often fails to address the root causes of burnout
• The difference between faux self-care and real self-care
• How systems and expectations shape our well-being
• Why boundaries are essential—not selfish
• The hidden role guilt plays in keeping us stuck
• Practicing self-compassion without lowering your standards
• Aligning your choices with your deepest values
• Reclaiming your personal power in everyday decisions
• Building sustainable habits that support long-term well-being
• Why true self-care helps you show up more fully for yourself and others

For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, check out these other episodes

How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab

How to Integrate Behavior Change with Your Values with Spencer Greenberg

Crafting a Meaningful Life with Emily Esfahani Smith

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In this episode, Matthew Quick returns to discuss his powerful new memoir, Dad, Love, Me. He explores what it means to choose love after a lifetime of hurt, reflecting on caring for a father who never fully knew how to love him. Along the way, Matthew unpacks how childhood wounds shape us, why healing doesn’t depend on getting the apology we deserve, and how reclaiming our own story can lead to greater compassion, freedom, and meaning, even in relationships marked by deep hurt.

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Key Takeaways:

• Why "good" and "bad" aren't enough to understand ourselves
• How childhood trauma quietly shapes adult relationships
• The deeper pain addiction is often trying to numb
• Why we repeat unhealthy relationship patterns
• The surprising difference between blame and responsibility
• Healing without the apology you've been waiting for
• What caring for an aging parent can teach us about ourselves
• Why choosing compassion can be more healing than resentment
• How telling your own story helps you reclaim your life

For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with Matthew Quick, check out these other episodes:

A Journey to Self-Discovery and Sobriety with Matthew Quick

What We Can Learn From Our Bad Wolf with Matthew Quick

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In this special episode, we’re sharing Eric’s recent appearance on The Jordan Harbinger Show. Eric joins Jordan to explore the ideas behind his book, How a Little Becomes a Lot, including why lasting change rarely comes from one dramatic breakthrough, how all-or-nothing thinking keeps us stuck, and what it means to build a better life through small, repeatable choices. They also discuss Eric’s journey through addiction and recovery, the hidden forces that derail our best intentions, and how reducing resistance can help us keep moving toward what matters—even when motivation disappears.

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Key Takeaways:

• Eric shares his story of addiction and the small choices that led him to recovery.
• Why dramatic turning points matter less than the daily decisions that follow.
• The "little by little" approach to creating lasting behavioral change.
• How all-or-nothing thinking keeps us stuck—and what works instead.
• Why motivation is unreliable and consistency matters more.
• Making habits easier by reducing resistance and lowering the barrier to starting.
• Breaking big goals into small wins that build momentum.
• The six common ways we sabotage our own self-control.
• Why changing your actions can reshape your thoughts and emotions.
• How flexibility—not perfection—is the key to sustaining change over time.

For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠!⁠⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation between Jordan Harbinger and Eric Zimmer, check out these other episodes:

How Small Changes Lead to Lasting Transformation in Your Life with Eric Zimmer

How to Make Lasting Changes with John Norcross

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In this episode, Bruce Feiler explores why rituals have been essential to human life for thousands of years—and why they're more important than ever in today's rapidly changing world. Drawing from his new book A Time to Gather, Bruce explains how meaningful rituals can help us navigate grief, celebrate milestones, strengthen relationships, and create a greater sense of connection during life's biggest transitions. Along the way, he and Eric share personal stories of loss, family, and the healing power of gathering with intention.

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Key Takeaways:

• Why humans instinctively create rituals during times of change
• How personalized rituals are replacing traditional ceremonies
• Bruce's five essential life rituals for today's nonlinear lives
• How rituals help us process grief and strengthen relationships
• The surprising role of the "group keeper" as a peacemaker
• A simple framework for creating meaningful rituals of your own

For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠!⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with Bruce Feiler, check out these other episodes:

How to Harness the Power of Rituals with Michael Norton

Science and the Sacred with Sasha Sagan

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In this episode, Anne Lamott explores why waiting for the perfect community, the perfect version of ourselves, or the perfect moment keeps us from the very connection we're searching for. She discusses overcoming perfectionism, quieting the inner critic, finding the courage to walk into unfamiliar rooms, and embracing the messy, imperfect relationships that help us heal. Along the way, Anne shares her signature blend of humor, wisdom, and honesty about recovery, self-compassion, and discovering that a more meaningful life begins when we stop trying to do it all perfectly.

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Key Takeaways:

• Why perfectionism keeps us from the connection we're looking for
• How changing what we pay attention to can transform the way we experience life
• Why healing is a process of returning to who you were meant to be—not becoming someone new
• The difference between chasing validation and finding lasting serenity
• Why showing up to imperfect communities can change your life
• How to quiet your inner critic with awareness, acceptance, and self-compassion
• The relationship between shame, perfectionism, and emotional healing

For full show notes, ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Anne Lamott, check out these other episodes:

068: Byron Katie- The Work

The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober with Catherine Gray

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In this episode, Amy Kurtz explores the challenges of when your health feels like a roller coaster and finding stability in the chaos of chronic illness. She shares her journey through years of misdiagnosis before finally being diagnosed with late-stage Lyme disease. Amy also discusses living in the "grey area" between sickness and wellness and introduces her concept of "Medical Trauma Brain" (MTB), describing the emotional and neurological impact of chronic illness. You'll discover practical tools, including her "Four Rs" framework, to help people regulate their nervous system and reclaim agency over their health and wellbeing.

Free Guide: Outsmart the Hidden Saboteurs of Self-Control. What's been holding you back lately? In this free guide, Eric shares the six common saboteurs that quietly derail our best intentions—like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, and emotional escapism—and offers practical strategies to help you regain control and move forward. Download your free copy at oneyoufeed.net/ebook.

Key Takeaways:

• Personal journey with chronic illness and late-stage Lyme disease diagnosis
• Challenges of misdiagnosis and the struggle for clarity in health
• Living in the "grey area" between being sick and well
• Concept of "Medical Trauma Brain" (MTB) and its emotional impact
• The complexity of diagnosing chronic conditions with overlapping symptoms
• Mental health struggles following physical recovery from illness
• Importance of self-advocacy and agency in healthcare
• Tools and strategies for managing anxiety and trauma related to chronic illness
• The "Four Rs" framework for regulating the nervous system
• The ongoing process of acceptance and change in the context of chronic illness

For full show notes, ⁠click here⁠!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Amy Kurtz, check out these other episodes:

How to Find Joy and Healing While Living with Chronic Illness with Meghan O’Rourke

Living with Chronic Illness with Toni Bernhard

How To Live with Uncertainty and Find Hope in the Midst of Chronic Illness with Marisa Renee Lee

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In this episode, Paul Millerd explains why the safe path in life isn’t always the right one. He explores what happens when the life that looks successful on paper no longer feels like your own. Paul also discusses why we often stay in situations that no longer fit, how fear and uncertainty shape our decisions, and what it means to define success on your own terms. You’ll learn about the tension between security and freedom, the importance of self-awareness, and how asking better questions can help you build a life that aligns with what truly matters.

Free Guide: Outsmart the Hidden Saboteurs of Self-Control. What’s been holding you back lately? In this free guide, Eric shares the six common saboteurs that quietly derail our best intentions—like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, and emotional escapism—and offers practical strategies to help you regain control and move forward. Download your free copy at oneyoufeed.net/ebook.

Key Takeaways:

• Concept of the “pathless path” and its challenge to traditional career trajectories
• Personal journey of leaving a corporate career for a more authentic life
• Exploration of fear, self-awareness, and coping mechanisms
• Tension between financial security and pursuing meaningful work
• Importance of questioning and reflecting on life choices
• The parable of the two wolves and its relevance to personal growth
• The impact of societal expectations on individual career paths
• Balancing ambition with freedom and personal values
• The role of self-awareness in aligning work with personal passions
• Strategies for navigating discomfort and uncertainty in life choices

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In this episode, Simone Stolzoff explores why the need for certainty is holding you back and how learning to live with uncertainty can lead to greater resilience, better decisions, deeper relationships, and a more meaningful life. Drawing from psychology, neuroscience, philosophy, and his own deeply personal experiences, Simone explains why our brains crave certainty, why that instinct often fuels anxiety and overthinking, and how embracing the unknown can become a source of growth rather than fear. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck waiting for the “right” answer before moving forward, this conversation offers a wiser—and more freeing—way to navigate life’s inevitable uncertainty.

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Key Takeaways:

• The concept of uncertainty and its discomfort in a world that demands quick answers.
• The parable of the two wolves and its relation to embracing uncertainty.
• Biological and evolutionary reasons for the discomfort associated with uncertainty.
• The impact of technology and instant answers on our tolerance for uncertainty.
• Psychological traps related to certainty: comfort, hubris, and control.
• The importance of reframing uncertainty as a source of possibility and growth.
• Decision-making strategies and insights from experts on navigating uncertainty.
• The role of doubt as a positive force in decision-making and personal growth.
• The balance between exploration and exploitation in life choices.
• Personal experiences with uncertainty and their impact on life perspectives.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Simone Stolzoff, check out these other episodes:

Embracing Uncertainty: The Key to True Intimacy and Connection in a Chaotic World with Prince EA

How to Embrace Change for an Authentic Life with Najwa Zebian

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In this episode, Julie Holland explains why connection may be the medicine we’ve been missing. She explores how genuine human connection helps regulate the nervous system, why disconnection can keep us stuck in fight-or-flight, and how our phones often give us a synthetic version of connection that never fully satisfies. Julie also discuss oxytocin, stress, loneliness, addiction, psychedelics, and the simple ways we can return to the real relationships and embodied experiences that help us heal.

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Key Takeaways:

• Discussion of the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems and their impact on mental health.
• Exploration of the science of human connection and the biological need for social interaction.
• Personal anecdotes from working in a psychiatric emergency room and the challenges faced in that environment.
• The effects of social disconnection on physical and mental health, including stress responses.
• The importance of physical, face-to-face interactions for emotional well-being.
• Examination of the role of digital communication versus in-person connection.
• Insights into addiction, including the distinction between classical psychedelics and other substances.
• Discussion of process addictions and their underlying causes related to existential distress.
• The therapeutic potential and risks of psychedelics in treating addiction and mental health issues.
• Emphasis on local action and personal agency in addressing mental health and community well-being.

For full show notes, click here!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Julie Holland, check out these other episodes:

Neuroscience Behind Our Reality with James Kingsland

232: Michael Pollan

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In this episode, Michelle Segar explores why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you from exercising, and why the problem may not be a lack of motivation or willpower. Drawing on groundbreaking new research, she reveals how rigid exercise standards, perfectionism, and the belief that workouts only “count” if they’re done a certain way often lead people to do nothing at all. Michelle also discusses the hidden psychology behind sustainable change, the power of flexibility at life’s inevitable choice points, and why “a little bit of something is better than a lot of nothing” may be the most important mindset shift for long-term success. You’ll gain a new understanding of the limitations of habit formation, the role of behavioral resilience, and how learning to adapt rather than start over can help us build a healthier and more meaningful life.

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Key Takeaways:

• Research on sustainable behavior change in physical activity and exercise.
• The impact of all-or-nothing thinking on exercise habits.
• The concept of “choice points” in decision-making regarding exercise.
• The influence of rigid standards and idealized criteria for exercise.
• The role of motivation and enjoyment in maintaining exercise routines.
• The prioritization of exercise compared to other daily responsibilities.
• The unconscious nature of rigid standards and avoidance behaviors.
• Societal messaging around exercise guidelines and its effects on motivation.
• Strategies for flexibility and resilience in exercise routines.
• The idea of a “movement menu” to encourage varied physical activity choices.

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Understanding Choice Points for Lasting Changes in Eating and Exercise with Michelle Segar

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In this episode, Dr. Rick Hanson explores why choosing harmony over truth in our relationships often leaves us with neither. Drawing on decades of experience as a psychologist, relationship expert, and mindfulness teacher, Rick shares practical wisdom for navigating conflict, communicating with greater skill, and building stronger connections with the people who matter most. Rick discusses the delicate balance between keeping the peace and speaking honestly, the power of empathy and healthy remorse, and how small moments of awareness can transform the way we relate to ourselves and others. Whether you’re navigating challenges with a partner, family member, friend, or colleague, this conversation offers simple yet profound practices for creating relationships built on honesty, understanding, and genuine connection.

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Key Takeaways:

• Cultivating positive mental states and emotional resilience
• Managing relationships effectively and resolving conflicts
• The importance of consciously choosing which qualities to nurture within ourselves
• The impact of savoring positive experiences for lasting change
• Balancing harmony and truth in relationships
• Practical strategies for admitting fault and fostering healing
• Understanding the dynamics of impact versus intent in communication
• The concept of “unilateral virtue” and focusing on personal growth
• Enhancing empathy and its role in improving relationships
• Frameworks for effective communication and transforming relational dynamics

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