The Art of Manliness

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The Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness Podcast aims to deepen and improve every area of a man's life, from fitness and philosophy, to relationships and productivity. Engaging and edifying interviews with some of the world's most interesting doers and thinkers drop the fluff and filler to glean guests' very best, potentially life-changing, insights.

51 minutes 11 seconds

Why You Don’t Follow Through on Your Health Goals — and How to Fix It
Most of us know what we should do to be healthier: eat better, move more, sleep well. The real challenge? Actually following through.
On today’s show, I talk to behavioral psychologist Amantha Imber, author of The Health Habit, who argues that the missing piece in most health advice isn’t more information — it’s learning how to bridge the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it.
Amantha first outlines four “habit hijackers” that sabotage your best-laid plans and shares practical, research-backed tactics to overcome each one. We then dive into some specific health habits that will give you a lot of transformative bang for your buck. We discuss how restricting your sleep can help you sleep better, the truth about the popular 10,000 steps a day recommendation, the underrated power of an after-dinner walk, and more.

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9 December 2025, 6:00 am
49 minutes 59 seconds

Masculinity as Confident Competence
There’s a lot of debate these days about what it means to be a man. But maybe the answer is simpler than we think, and a lot of masculinity just comes down to confident competence. A broad set of know-how. The ability to get stuff done. The capacity to move through the world with purpose and skill.
As someone who's lived several lives in one, Elliot Ackerman certainly embodies that ethos. He's a decorated Marine, a former CIA paramilitary officer, a National Book Award-nominated novelist, and now the writer of A Man Should Know, a column at The Free Press that explores the small but significant skills that shape a man’s life.
Today on the show, Elliot and I talk about why young men are struggling, how intention, discipline, and competence can change the way a man carries himself, and a few of the specific skills a man should know — from how to wear a watch to how to give a eulogy.
Resources Related to the Podcast
- Elliot's novels
- Elliot's "A Man Should Know:" columns:
- How to Introduce Yourself
- How to Be a Friend
- How to Own a Watch
- Fields of Fire by James Webb
- The Things They Carried by Tim O'Brien
- The Catcher in the Rye by J. D. Salinger
- AoM Article: 100 Skills Every Man Should Know
- AoM Skills Archives
- AoM Podcast #307: Make Your Bed, Change the World
- AoM Article: 10 Ways to Be a Better Husband Today
- AoM Article: How to Choose a Watch
- AoM Article: How to Give a Eulogy
- AoM Article: A Eulogy for My Grandfather, William D. Hurst
- The Poetics of Manhood: Contest and Identity in a Cretan Mountain Village by Michael Herzfeld
- AoM Article: MacGyver Manhood and the Art of Masculine Improvisation
- Free Press discount code: subscribe at thefp.com/manliness, and save 10% off your first year
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- Elliot on IG
- Elliot on X
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2 December 2025, 11:00 am
49 minutes 34 seconds

A Butler’s Guide to Managing Your Household
Note: This is a rebroadcast.
It’s a tough job to manage a household. Things need to be regularly fixed, maintained, and cleaned. How do you stay on top of these tasks in order to keep your home in tip-top shape?
My guest knows his way all around this issue and has some field-tested, insider advice to offer. Charles MacPherson spent two decades as the major-domo or chief butler of a grand household. He’s also the founder of North America’s only registered school for butlers and household managers and the author of several books drawn from his butlering experience, including The Butler Speaks: A Return to Proper Etiquette, Stylish Entertaining, and the Art of Good Housekeeping.
In the first part of our conversation, Charles charts the history of domestic service and describes why the practice of having servants like a butler and maid ebbed in the mid-20th century but has made a comeback today. We then turn to what average folks who don’t have a household staff can do to better manage their homes. Charles recommends keeping something called a “butler’s book” to stay on top of household schedules and maintenance checklists. We then discuss how to clean your home more logically and efficiently. Charles shares his golden rules of house cleaning, the cleaning task you’ve probably neglected (hint: go take a look at the side of the door on your dishwasher), his surprising choice for the best product to use to clean your shower, how often you should change your bedsheets, and much more.
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25 November 2025, 11:30 am
56 minutes 13 seconds

How the World Wars Shaped J.R.R. Tolkien and C.S. Lewis
When people think of J.R.R. Tolkien and C.S. Lewis, they often picture tweedy Oxford professors and beloved fantasy authors. But their writing wasn't drawn only from their bucolic days teaching at Oxford and walking in the English countryside; it had a darker, deeper backdrop: the trenches of World War I and the cataclysm of World War II. Lewis and Tolkien weren't just fantasy writers — they were war veterans, cultural critics, and men with firsthand knowledge of evil, heroism, and sacrifice.
In today’s episode, I’m joined by Joseph Loconte, returning to the show to discuss his latest book, The War for Middle Earth. We explore how both world wars shaped the perspectives of Tolkien and Lewis, found their way into works like The Lord of the Rings and The Chronicles of Narnia, and infused their literary masterpieces with moral weight, spiritual depth, and timeless themes of resistance, friendship, and redemption. We also talk about the legendary friendship between Tolkien and Lewis, the creation of the Inklings, and how the men demonstrated the countercultural power of imaginative storytelling.

Resources Related to the Podcast
- Related AoM podcasts:
- #178: The Inklings Mastermind Group
- #272: Lewis, Tolkien, and the Myth of Progress (Loconte’s first appearance on the AoM podcast)
- #430: Why You Need to Join the Great Conversation About the Great Books
- #499: A Fascinating Primer on Norse Mythology
- #594: How Churchill (and London) Survived the Blitz of 1940
- #723: Men Without Chests
- #765: C.S. Lewis on Building Men With Chests
- #951: The Hobbit Virtues
- Related AoM articles
- The Power of Conversation: A Lesson from CS Lewis and JRR Tolkien
- Lessons in Manliness from Viking Mythology
- Lessons in Manliness: The Hobbit
- Men Without Chests
- “Blood, Sweat, and Tears” speech by Winston Churchill
- 4 Classic Chapter Books to Read Aloud With Your Kids
- Related outside articles:
- Tolkien’s Deadly Dragons
- Munich Agreement
- Owen Barfield
- Tolkien books mentioned:
- The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien
- Beowulf translated by Tolkien
- The Hobbit
- The Lord of the Rings
- Beren and Luthien
- Letters from Father Christmas
- Lewis books mentioned:
- The Letters of C.S. Lewis
- The Collected Poems of C.S. Lewis
- The Pilgrim’s Regress
- The Chronicles of Narnia
- The Great Divorce
- The Screwtape Letters
- The Space Trilogy
- The Four Loves
- Mere Christianity
- The Reading Life
- Related books by other authors:
- Tolkien and the Great War by John Garth
- The Somme by Martin Gilbert
- The Guns of August by Barbara Tuchman
- The Future of an Illusion by Sigmund Freud
- The Aeneid by Virgil
- Phantastes by George MacDonald
- The Vinland Sagas
- The Iliad and The Odyssey by Homer
- The Divine Comedy by Dante Alighieri
- Le Morte d’Arthur by Thomas Malory
Connect With Joseph Loconte
- Joseph's website
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18 November 2025, 6:00 am
41 minutes 33 seconds

Family Culture and the Sibling Effect — What Really Shapes Who You Become
When we think about what shaped our life trajectory, we often focus on the way our parents raised us. But what about our siblings? What role do they play in who we become?
My guest today makes the case that siblings may be just as influential as parents in impacting how we turn out.
Her name is Susan Dominus, and she’s a journalist and the author of The Family Dynamic: A Journey into the Mystery of Sibling Success. Susan and I start our conversation by unpacking the broader question of what drives human development more — nature or nurture. We then dig into how siblings shape us, from the impact of birth order to how rivalry can raise our ambitions and alter our life paths. Along the way, we also explore the influence parents do have on their kids — and why it may not be as strong as we often think.

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11 November 2025, 11:00 am
58 minutes 27 seconds

Hercules at the Crossroads — Choosing the Hard Path That Leads to a Good Life
In a story from ancient Greek philosophy, Hercules faces a choice between two paths: one promising pleasure and ease; the other, hardship and struggle — but also growth and greatness. According to today’s guest, this ancient parable is more relevant than ever.
Dr. Paul Taylor, a psychophysiologist and the author of the new book The Hardiness Effect, returns to the show to argue that comfort has become our default mode — and it’s making us mentally and physically sick. To reclaim health and meaning, we must actively choose the path of arete — a life of effort, engagement, and challenge.
Paul first outlines the four traits that define a psychologically hardy person and how we grow by embracing and even relishing discomfort. We then dive into the physiological side of hardiness. We discuss how intentionally seeking stressors can strengthen both body and mind and some of the practices and protocols that lead to optimal health. We end our conversation with what tackling heroic, Herculean labors looks like today.

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4 November 2025, 11:00 am
53 minutes 3 seconds

Make Friends With Death to Live a Better Life
We live in a culture that does everything it can to keep death at a distance. We hide it behind hospital curtains, euphemize it in conversation, and hustle through grief like it's just another item on the to-do list. We don't want death to get in the way of living.
But my guest would say that making friends with death is the key to fully embracing life. Joanna Ebenstein is the founder of Morbid Anatomy, a project that uses exhibitions, lectures, and classes to explore how death intersects with history and culture. She's also the author of Memento Mori: The Art of Contemplating Death to Live a Better Life. Today on the show, Joanna shares why we lost a more intimate relationship with death and the life-stifling consequences of that disconnect. We discuss practices for coming to terms with death and removing our fear of it, including looking at memento mori art, meditating on death, talking to the dead, and simply taking care of the practicalities surrounding our inevitable departure.

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- Morbid Anatomy website
- Joanna's website
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28 October 2025, 10:00 am
50 minutes 51 seconds

Chasing the White Whale — Into the Depths of Moby-Dick
If you went to high school in America, you probably read Moby-Dick — or, more likely, you skimmed the CliffsNotes and wondered why this dense, whale-obsessed novel was considered a classic.
That was me in 10th grade.
But earlier this year, I decided to revisit Moby-Dick in midlife, and it hit me completely differently. What once seemed like a tedious story about a guy chasing a whale revealed itself to be a profound meditation on free will, perception, self-reliance, leadership, and obsession. It’s now one of my favorite novels.
To help unpack why Moby-Dick endures — and why it might be worth picking up again— I’m joined by Mark Cirino, a professor of American literature. Today on the show, we discuss why Moby-Dick was initially overlooked, the novel’s major themes, and the timeless mystery of Captain Ahab’s monomaniacal quest.

Resources Related to the Podcast
- Mark's previous appearances on the AoM podcast:
- Episode #786: The Writing Life of Ernest Hemingway
- Episode #922: For Whom the Bell Tolls
- One True Podcast
- The Norton Library Podcast
- Mark's Norton Library Edition of A Farewell to Arms
Connect With Mark Cirino
- Mark’s faculty page
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21 October 2025, 10:00 am
48 minutes 8 seconds

The 6 Practices of the Ultimate Morning Routine
There's been a lot of talk about morning routines in the last few years. But the idea is hardly new; famous men from Thomas Aquinas to Benjamin Franklin structured their mornings to accomplish great deeds and live flourishing lives.
A modern advocate of this age-old practice is Hal Elrod, author of The Miracle Morning, first published nearly twenty years ago. Long before morning routines became a trend, Hal was experimenting with his own — researching and refining what actually works. Through his experiences and those of the millions who’ve tried his approach, he’s cut through the aspirational noise to offer a doable, effective framework for starting your day right. Today on the show, Hal shares the six practices of the Miracle Morning routine, why he chose them, and how they set up your day for success. We also discuss how long the routine takes and how a shortened version can be done in just six minutes, as well as how to make it work if you're not a morning person. Along the way, I share what my own morning routine looks like.
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14 October 2025, 10:00 am
59 minutes 51 seconds

The Classical Code of Manhood
What does it mean to be a man? It’s a timeless question that's been answered in different ways across the ages. For the ancient Romans, the word for manliness was virtus — the root of our word virtue. To be a man meant living a life of virtuous excellence.
Waller Newell takes up that same definition in his book The Code of Man, first published twenty years ago and now released in a new edition. Today on the show, Waller, a professor of political science, argues that we need to recover an older vision of manhood rooted in the traditions of Western antiquity. He shares the five paths that, in his view, form the classical code of manliness and how they can continue to be lived out today.

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7 October 2025, 10:00 am
52 minutes 41 seconds

Why You Need the Good Stress of Socializing
You may have heard of hormesis — the idea that intentionally embracing small stressors activates the body’s repair and defense systems, building resilience, improving how the body and even the microbiome function, and ultimately protecting against the harms of chronic stress.
We typically think of these hormetic stressors in terms of things like exercising, taking ice baths, sitting in a sauna, and ingesting certain plant compounds. But you ought to consider adding socializing to that list.
As my guest today explains, while we tend to avoid socializing as we do all stressors — even the good ones — it's something that can strengthen our health, resilience, immunity, and sense of meaning. Jeffrey Hall, professor of communication studies and co-author of The Social Biome: How Everyday Communication Connects and Shapes Us, joins me to discuss why relationships are harder to build in the modern world, how our adolescent approach to making friends needs to evolve, and why we must intentionally “exercise” our social muscles in a world where they'll otherwise atrophy.

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30 September 2025, 10:00 am
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