• 55 minutes 34 seconds
    The New Dark Ages: The Death of Reading and the Dawn of the Post-Literate Society

    You can't help but notice, in yourself and in others, how much less people are reading these days. When it comes to content consumption, we're often replacing articles and books with videos and, well, podcasts.

    My guest says that this shift is having consequences, not only for our shrinking individual attention spans, but for society, and Western civilization writ large. 

    His name is James Marriott, and he's a columnist at The Times of London and the author of The New Dark Ages: The Death of Reading and the Dawn of the Post-Literate Society. Today on the show, James explains how people thought and interacted before the rise of reading and writing, how literacy changed our minds and made possible everything from democracy to modern science, and how television and smartphones may be returning us in some ways to a preliterate age. We then explore how our increasingly visual culture is making public debate more emotional and influence more personality-driven, and what it might mean for the future.


    After the show is over, check out the show notes at aom.is/darkages

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    0:00 Introduction

    0:39 The Decline of Reading

    5:14 The Golden Age of Mass Literacy

    8:24 How Literacy Changed the Mind

    12:06 The Preliterate Mind

    14:51 Truth and Conflict in Oral Culture

    19:18 How Literacy Built Civilization

    21:34 The Gutenberg Press & the Reading Revolution

    30:45 Television and the Decline of Reading

    33:16 Amusing Ourselves to Death

    42:03 The Smartphone & the Post-Literate World

    50:50 The Future of Reading

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    27 October 2026, 10:00 am
  • 41 minutes 52 seconds
    The Lost Art of Mingling: How to Talk to Anyone, Anywhere

    It's always been intimidating to enter a room where you don't know everyone, or anyone, and to initiate conversation with people at a wedding, holiday party, or work event. But it's never felt more potentially awkward and anxiety-generating than in an age dominated by screen-mediated interactions, when we don't get much practice in mixing at social events and making small talk in real life.

    Here to help us get a lot more confident and comfortable in this area is Jeanne Martinet, author of The Art of Mingling, which is out in a newly updated edition. Jeanne last joined me on the podcast nearly a decade ago, and today she's back to share why the ability to mingle is more important than ever and how to get better at it.

    We discuss why small talk is more valuable than you might think, and can not only lead to finding a potential romantic partner or lifelong friend, but is something worth doing for its own sake. Jeanne then shares practical tips you can put to use at your next social gathering or simply when you're out and about. She explains how to identify people who are open to conversation, four ways to break the ice with them, as well as an opening line to avoid, how to keep a conversation going, how to gracefully extract yourself from an interaction that's gone on too long, how to recover from putting your foot in your mouth, and more. We end our conversation with how to find more opportunities to socialize and practice your mingling skills.

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    0:00 – Introduction

    1:19 – Why a New Edition of The Art of Mingling

    5:23 – What Is Mingling and Why It Matters

    7:14 – The Value of Small Talk

    11:10 – What Holds People Back from Mingling

    12:43 – How to Spot Someone Open to Conversation

    16:17 – The Thin Room, Wingmen & Arriving with a Partner

    19:14 – Four Ways to Break the Ice

    23:21 – Keeping the Conversation Going

    26:41 – Navigating Politics and Sensitive Topics

    28:56 – How to Gracefully Exit a Conversation

    33:54 – Mingling Anywhere & Finding Opportunities to Socialize

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    20 October 2026, 10:00 am
  • 39 minutes 25 seconds
    Brandon Flowers, Frontman of the Killers, on Family, Faith, and Becoming a Thrasher

    If you’ve been following the Art of Manliness for a while, you know that I typically interview the authors of books on this podcast. But,

    if you’ve been following the Art of Manliness for a while, you’ll know why I had to make an exception for today’s guest.

    Brandon Flowers is my very favorite musical artist. He is the frontman for the multi-platinum-record-earning band The Killers and has also put out three solo albums.

    I recently had the chance to talk to Brandon backstage before one of his shows in Las Vegas. My wife Kate, as well as a couple of friends, were also on hand, and you’ll hear me allude to them a couple times during the interview.

    Brandon and I had a great conversation. We discuss his third and latest solo album, Thrasher and why he went country-western on it, what his dad taught him about what makes a good man, what he’s currently reading (hint: it involves the author of my all-time favorite novel), his top five favorite country songs, the influence of faith in his life and music, what’s on his mind in midlife, and how he balances work and family.

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    13 October 2026, 10:00 am
  • 53 minutes 4 seconds
    Silence, Solitude, Stillness: The Spiritual Disciplines We Need in a Noisy World

    We live in a world of pervasive noise. Even when we're alone and our surroundings are quiet, our devices bombard us with an endless stream of inputs — messages, news, opinions, entertainment — and we feel constantly connected.

    My guest argues that this lack of both silence and solitude isn't just generating stress and fragmenting our attention, but doing real damage to our souls. 

    His name is John Mark Comer, and he’s a pastor and the author of Into the Quiet. Today on the show, we discuss what noise is doing to the deepest parts of us and how engaging in silence and solitude can help us cultivate inner stillness. We explore the monastic tradition behind these spiritual disciplines, why engaging in them can sometimes feel like a negative experience, and what happens when all our usual distractions disappear. We also get into simple ways to bring more quiet into everyday life.

    After the show’s over, check out the show notes at aom.is/silence.


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    0:00 Introduction

    1:33 What Prompted "Into the Quiet"

    5:42 Soundless Noise in the Digital Age

    7:39 What Noise Does to Our Souls

    11:02 Loneliness vs. Solitude

    13:57 Cultivating Inner Stillness

    19:02 The Eremos: Jesus' Practice of Solitude

    23:58 The Desert Fathers & Monastic Tradition

    29:06 What Happens in the Silence

    39:17 Confronting Inner Demons in Solitude

    47:36 Practical Ways to Practice Silence & Solitude

    51:47 Outro



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    6 October 2026, 10:00 am
  • 52 minutes 53 seconds
    Why Modern Convenience Feels So Inconvenient

    Modern life is filled with conveniences designed to make things easier. We can order dinner without leaving the couch, check ourselves out at the grocery store, communicate instantly with anyone, and stream nearly every movie and song ever made.

    So why do we often feel busier, more stressed, and more, well, inconvenienced than ever?

    My guest today argues that many supposed advancements don’t actually save us time, money, or energy — and that even when they do, they can eliminate forms of friction that made life richer, more enjoyable, and more human.

    His name is Gabe Bullard, and he’s the author of Against Convenience. Today on the show, Gabe and I discuss how self-checkout, mobile ordering, digital communication, streaming services, food delivery, and even smartphone cameras can paradoxically make life more annoying and less satisfying. Gabe also shares questions to ask yourself to decide which conveniences are worth keeping, and why deliberately adding a little friction back into your life can sometimes make it better.

    0:00 Introduction

    1:45 Why Convenience Isn't Working

    4:22 Self-Checkout & Starbucks App Failures

    11:29 The Illusion of Technological Progress

    17:28 Phones as a Single Point of Failure

    18:20 How Digital Communication Hurts Relationships

    23:49 Dating Apps & Making Friends

    27:15 Smartphone Cameras & the Value of Photos

    32:41 Streaming & Entertainment Disappointment

    40:10 Food Delivery Problems

    46:30 Wendell Berry's Questions for New Tech

    50:12 Practical Tips for Embracing Friction


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    29 September 2026, 10:00 am
  • 54 minutes 23 seconds
    The One-Skill-a-Year Plan for a More Interesting Life

    We all have things we’ve always wanted to know how to do, but have never gotten around to learning. Speak a foreign language. Play an instrument. Write a book. Take up surfing. Maybe you’ve even started one of these pursuits a few times, only to drop it after a couple of weeks.

    My guest calls this collection of abandoned or deferred desires your “invisible list” and is the author of a book of the same name.

    Today on the show, Ravi Gupta presents a plan for tackling the things on your invisible list by picking one hobby-like activity each year and working your way to an intermediate level in it. He explains the different categories these pursuits can fall into, from the liftoff project to the mental marathon to the skillbatical, and how to pick the right one for your season of life. We also discuss how camps for grownups can make skill acquisition more enjoyable, why you should consider taking up an adult-appropriate sport like tennis, why Ravi decided to take the MCAT even though he doesn't plan to become a doctor, and how working on your invisible list can give your life chapters and, over the course of a decade, turn you into a Renaissance-man badass.

    After the show is over, check out the show notes at aom.is/invisiblelist

    0:00 — Introduction

    1:45 — What is the Invisible List?

    4:38 — Examples & Bucket List Comparison

    8:46 — Why a Year Creates Life Chapters

    11:10 — Making Time: Family & Constraints

    15:44 — Five Rules of the Invisible List

    18:39 — Why Aim for Intermediate?

    21:19 — The Five Archetypes

    26:50 — Liftoff Year: Powerlifting & Journaling

    37:30 — Skill-Batical: Surfing & Adult Camps

    43:17 — Age-Appropriate Sports: Tennis

    45:46 — Mental Marathon: Taking the MCAT



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    22 September 2026, 10:00 am
  • 46 minutes 29 seconds
    The 3-Step System for Simplifying Your Work and Life

    When people are faced with problems and complexity, our instinct is to add instead of subtract. As a result, we have a tendency to make our work and our lives more and more complex, and less and less effective and fulfilling. Even when what we add is new technology that promises to make us more productive, it often only seems to bog us down and give us even more to do.

    My guest says that to fight this drift toward complexity, especially in the modern age, you’ve got to be ruthless about cutting out the superfluous and focusing on what’s most important. His name is Jim VandeHei, and he’s the co-founder and CEO of Axios and the co-author of Simplify.

    Today on the show, Jim explains how to simplify your work and personal life using a three-step process: confront, delete, and amplify. We discuss how to identify the “slop” we’re all inundated with (and he’s not just talking about what’s generated by AI), rules of thumb for what to say no to, why you should spend more time developing your strengths than fixing your weaknesses, and the importance of getting clear on what you want out of life, both personally and professionally.


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    0:00 Introduction & Website Redesign

    0:48 The Problem with Complexity

    1:56 Interview Begins: Why Another Book on Simplifying?

    3:00 How AI Makes Life More Complex

    5:42 The Confront, Delete, Amplify Framework

    8:14 Why Complexity Creeps Into Everything

    11:35 Identifying Slop in Work and Life

    17:43 How to Confront Your Habits

    24:59 Rules for Saying No

    29:48 Amplify Strengths Over Weaknesses

    37:35 Simplifying Communication at Work

    42:29 Using AI to Simplify Your Life


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    15 September 2026, 10:00 am
  • 48 minutes 2 seconds
    If I Don’t Return: A General's Wartime Journal for His Sons

    When Mark Hertling learned he was deploying for Operation Desert Storm, he decided to start a journal.

    Back then, Mark was an Army major and cavalry officer with two young sons. His unit would be out in front of the main force, and during an intelligence briefing, he was told it could suffer casualties as high as 50 percent. Mark realized there was a real chance he might not come home. So he began writing down what he was experiencing, along with the lessons about life, leadership, and character that he wanted his boys to know if he wasn’t there to teach them himself.

    Mark did come home, and went on to serve 38 years in the Army, including as an assistant division commander in Baghdad and later commander of the 1st Armored Division in Iraq during the 2007–2008 surge, before finishing his career as commander of U.S. Army Europe.

    Decades later, that wartime journal became the basis for his new book, If I Don’t Return. Today on the show, retired three-star General Mark Hertling and I talk about the reflections it contains on making every day count, planning for friction, marriage and friendship, handwritten notes, casual profanity, the moral weight of war, and what it means to build a man.


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    8 September 2026, 10:00 am
  • 55 minutes 59 seconds
    To Change Yourself, Change Your Situation

    Professor of psychology Angela Duckworth is famous for her work on grit — the combination of passion and perseverance that leads to high achievement. But she’s come to an increasing appreciation for the fact that success isn't just a matter of the qualities inside you; it's also driven by what's outside you — your peers, your mentors, and even your zip code.

    Today on the show, Angela, whose latest book is Situated: Find the People and Places That Bring Out Your Best, shares how our environments play a much bigger role in shaping us than we realize. She explains the three-box model of behavior, why relying on willpower is a fallible strategy for altering your habits, and why the most effective way to change yourself is to change what’s around you. We discuss how different situations bring out different versions of ourselves and how to shape your surroundings to encourage good habits, mitigate bad ones, and become who you want to be — whether that means rearranging what’s on your desk or moving across the country.


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    0:00 Introduction

    1:42 From Grit to Situated

    4:18 Michael Phelps: Grit Meets Environment

    8:43 The Three-Box Model Explained

    12:28 Why Willpower Fails

    19:18 Multiple Selves & Code Switching

    26:30 Saving a Marriage Through Situational Change

    31:51 Curating Your Physical Space

    38:26 Shaping Your Digital Environment

    43:14 Social Environment & Accountability

    47:05 Culture, Microcultures & the Flywheel

    53:15 Start With Situational Awareness


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    1 September 2026, 10:00 am
  • 53 minutes 5 seconds
    The Lost Virtue of Thumos (And Why Men Need It)

    The ancient Greeks believed the human soul had three parts: reason, appetite, and something called thumos. Thumos is difficult to translate into English. It encompasses anger, noble spiritedness, pride, ambition, a sense of honor, and the drive to act. The Greeks thought it was essential to living a life of manly virtue, and my guest thinks we could use a lot more of it.

    His name is Mike LeBlanc, and he’s a decorated Marine, a Harvard Business School grad, a tech founder, and the author of What If Anger Is the Answer? Today on the show, Mike and I discuss how the angry energy of thumos can help you close the gap between who you are and who you should be. We discuss why physical training helps cultivate thumos, how it can be an aid in overcoming appetites, overthinking, passivity, and cynicism, and the role it can play in being an effective leader.


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    0:00 Introduction

    1:42 Meet Mike LeBlanc: Marines, Great Books & Robotics

    5:45 A Letter to His Son: What It Means to Be a Man

    8:07 Socrates' Metaphor: The Little Man, the Hydra & the Lion

    15:26 The Attributes of Thumos: Dignity, Pride & Shame

    17:36 Thumos and Action: The Soul's Three Parts at Work

    20:19 Thumos in Defending Boundaries

    25:31 Thumos and the Physical Body

    31:36 Thumos vs. Overthinking: The 70% Solution

    36:03 Thumos, Power & Authority in Leadership

    44:42 Overcoming Cynicism with Thumos

    49:46 Raising Boys with Thumos & Where to Find the Book


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    25 August 2026, 10:00 am
  • 45 minutes 6 seconds
    The Secrets of Supercommunicators

    Note: This is a rebroadcast.

    Have you ever known one of those people who seemed to be able to connect with anyone? The kind of person who had the ability to make others feel understood and smoothly navigate even the trickiest of conversations?

    Charles Duhigg calls these folks “supercommunicators,” and he’s the author of a new book by the same name. Today on the show, Charles explains that what underlies supercommunicators’ skill in connection is something called the matching principle, and he unpacks how it works and how you can put it to use in your own conversations. We discuss several techniques for how to figure out what kind of conversation you’re having, so you can align your language and energy with the other person. And because emotional conversations can be particularly difficult, we dig into tactics for successfully navigating them, even when they contain a high degree of conflict. We also get into how to carry the skills of connection into your digital conversations.

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    0:00 — Intro & Rebroadcast Notice

    0:32 — Why Communication Matters

    2:08 — The Matching Principle

    5:07 — Deep Questions & FBI Negotiator Felix Sigala

    9:50 — Identifying What Kind of Conversation You're Having

    10:52 — Setting Goals & Preparing for Conversations

    15:06 — Conversations as Quiet Negotiations

    19:07 — Navigating Emotional Conversations

    24:11 — Turning Shallow Questions Into Deep Questions

    28:00 — Mood, Energy & NASA's Emotional Intelligence Test

    32:34 — Looping for Understanding & High-Conflict Conversations

    38:38 — Digital Communication & Closing


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    18 August 2026, 10:00 am
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