Is it normal for you to forget things until someone nags you about it? Do you ever wonder why your relationships seem shallow or you miss out on career opportunities? And what does this all have to do with brown M&M’s? Today Alyson and I talk about people pleasing, nice guy syndrome, and how being checked out is killing your sex life and career. We discuss the dangers of transactional relating, why the little things matter and how you can become more trustworthy simply by saying “no” more often.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/people-pleasing   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Are you devoted to anything other than money, security, or status? Does living with an open heart make you weak? And how is staying guarded killing aliveness? I grew up guarded and armored. For many years, I thought it was necessary and strong to cut myself off from emotional vulnerability. The truth is that I was fragile and incapable of being in emotionally challenging situations. That way of living almost destroyed me. For the last 20 years I’ve watched my wife Alyson navigate life very differently. She’s one of those rare few that can effortlessly disarm people and help them access their own hearts. Her strength in emotional situations is inspiring. It’s her superpower. So is this just something she was born with or is it a skill that she’s developed? I’ve always wanted to know but never asked. Until today.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/being-guarded   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Are you the best lover your partner has ever had? How could you ever be sure? What if they preferred having sex with someone else more than you? And is sex a place where you strive to prove that you’re good enough? Today we talk about feeling jealous about our partner’s sexual history. We explore what drives that insecurity, how neediness is repulsive, and why trying to prove you’re a rockstar in bed is a big mistake.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/11/jealous-about-sexual-history   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Is a lack of confidence your worst enemy? What does it mean to develop mental, emotional, and spiritual strength? And how does accepting death make you stronger? Jiu Jitsu legend Rickson Gracie returns to The New Man, and we dive into the deeper topics from his new book with Peter Maguire called, Comfort in Darkness. Rickson wasn’t just a devastating opponent in the ring, he’s also a teacher that draws from a deep well of wisdom and intuition. He goes far beyond the mechanics and fundamentals to help others face their fears so that they can discover just how strong and capable they are. Today we discuss what he calls “Invisible Jiu Jitsu” and how we can all utilize it to become mentally, emotionally, and spiritually powerful.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/11/rickson-gracie-comfort-in-darkness   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do obstacles mean you're on the wrong path, or are they simply part of the journey? Is the universe conspiring against your dreams, or is it just your own fear holding you back? And what can you do if you’re struggling to find motivation or inspiration? Whether you're questioning your career path, second-guessing a major life decision, or simply feeling stuck, you’re bound to experience doubt and resistance. In this episode, we discuss finding your calling, facing inner resistance, and the fear that we might be heading in the wrong direction. And we also explore ways to keep moving forward, even when the path ahead seems uncertain.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/10/overcoming-resistance   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

What’s the common link between workaholism, greed, and love addiction? Does your sense of self worth go up and down like a rollercoaster? And is there more to life than protecting our egos? If you’re like everyone else on the planet, then you’ve probably struggled with feeling “enough.” Today Alyson and I dive under the hood to discuss Terry Real’s unhealthy forms of self-esteem so that we can all understand what kills our true confidence. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/10/workaholism-greed-love-addiction COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

If you’re angry, is it better to bottle it up or lash out in retaliation? Do you get stuck in a loop thinking of things you should say to that jerk who pissed you off? And how is emotional constipation draining our aliveness and motivation? In this conversation, Alyson and I discuss the problems that arise with anger. For many, we feel stuck — if we say something with anger it might make the situation worse. But if we bottle it up, we become a toxic balloon that could burst at any moment. So today we explore what really drives our anger in hopes that we can find a more productive way to deal with it. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/09/dealing-with-anger COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Is our drive for more money, more status, or more stuff really just an attempt to fill a God-sized hole in our lives? Do you ever feel awkward when expressing love to others? And how does our need for safety block us from having satisfying relationships? Today Alyson and I try to understand why love can be so challenging to receive. We discuss the ways we armor ourselves to avoid vulnerability and how we can still feel alone even when we’re with others. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/09/feel-empty COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Are you with someone because you really want them or because you’re more afraid to be alone? Are you settling for junk food relationships that never satisfy and leave you feeling empty? And how does loneliness drive us to choose lousy partners? Relationships are hard and the only way to learn is to get in the mix. Today Alyson and I find some friction when it comes to dating and playing the field. We also discuss how we’ve helped ourselves and others face their loneliness so that they don’t have to settle for lousy partners. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/08/fear-of-being-alone COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Is the purpose of therapy to just dig up junk from your past? We talk about why many folks — including therapists we know and love — find the conventional form of therapy to be limiting. Is there another possibility? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/08/frustrated-with-therapy COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Can a nerd become a stud? Alyson and Tripp react to a movie called The Hitman and the topic of reinventing ourselves. This leads us to discuss pickup artists, neutered men, and handling our inner critic. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/07/reinvent-yourself COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book