The Art of Charm
The Art of Charm
- 9 minutes 17 secondsHow to Grow Your Network Effortlessly (Even If You’re Introverted) | Social Intelligence Briefing
If networking feels exhausting, you’re doing it wrong.
AJ and Johnny break down new research showing that closeness doesn’t require deep conversations — it requires brief, real exchanges. A 2025 Heliyon study found that even under-five-minute interactive chats significantly increased interpersonal closeness compared to non-interactive writing.
Connection compounds through small, repeatable micro-moments. Weak ties don’t just comfort you — they move you. This episode explains why tiny social deposits beat rare grand gestures.
Chapters
00:00 – Why introverts actually win at networking
01:45 – The belief that kills momentum
02:05 – The Heliyon study on brief interaction
03:10 – Topic doesn’t matter — exchange does
04:00 – Weak ties and the compound effect
05:30 – Stop networking. Start compounding.Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com
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19 February 2026, 8:01 am - 1 hour 1 minuteThe Secret Service Guide to Influence | Brad Beeler
Former Secret Service agent Brad Beeler joins AJ and Johnny to break down what actually gets people to open up — especially when the stakes are high.
From reading digital breadcrumbs and mastering first impressions to spotting deception and using tactical empathy, Brad shares the practical tools he used to get confessions and uncover truth under pressure. This episode reveals how preparation, presence, and calm control shape every conversation — whether you're leading a team, navigating conflict, or trying to build real trust.
00:00 – From Secret Service to reading people under pressure
08:00 – First impressions, handshakes, and presence
18:00 – Curiosity without the “me too” mistake
28:00 – Tactical empathy and influencing without manipulation
41:00 – The truth about detecting deception
49:00 – De-escalation and staying calm under pressureA Word From Our Sponsors
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16 February 2026, 8:01 am - 6 minutes 51 secondsWhy You “Click” With Some People (It’s Mostly Timing) | Social Intelligence Briefing
Why do some conversations feel effortless — while others fall flat even when you said nothing wrong?
AJ and Johnny break down the neuroscience of “clicking,” including a 2022 PNAS study showing that connection often comes down to milliseconds. The secret isn’t better stories or smarter answers — it’s timing. Shorter response gaps signal attunement, alignment, and shared rhythm. Longer gaps quietly erode chemistry.
If you’ve ever felt “off” despite saying the right things, this episode explains why — and how timing becomes social body language.
00:00 – The gap you can feel
01:00 – Why chemistry isn’t personality
02:00 – The PNAS timing study
03:15 – Same words, different timing
04:15 – Why rhythm equals connectionStop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com
Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel
The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout.
Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
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13 February 2026, 8:43 am - 1 hour 8 minutesHow to Get Your Brain to Turn Goals Into Habits | Emily Falk
AJ and Johnny sit down with neuroscientist Emily Falk to explore why our goals so often collapse after January, and what the brain is actually optimizing for when we make decisions.
Emily explains how the brain’s value system prioritizes the present self over future goals, why environment beats willpower, and how identity, social influence, and habit systems quietly shape what we do every day. From New Year’s resolutions to loneliness, leadership, and purpose, this episode reveals how to design choices that stick by working with the brain instead of against it.
00:00 – Why resolutions fail after January
05:00 – The brain’s value calculator and present bias
10:00 – Identity, purpose, and what we think is “fixed”
15:00 – How social influence shapes what we value
20:00 – Loneliness, power, and perspective loss
25:00 – Designing environments that change behaviorA Word From Our Sponsors
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The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm
Curious about your influence level?
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Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence.
Episode resources:
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
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decision making, values, behavior change, habits, motivation, identity, purpose, social influence, environment design, loneliness, human connection, neuroscience, choices, meaning, leadership, well-being, resolutions
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9 February 2026, 8:01 am - 12 minutes 57 secondsHow to Train Your Social Skills (Based on Science) | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down why high performers train everything except the moments that decide outcomes: conversations. Most people rely on experience and hope, but without feedback, social skills don’t improve — they calcify.
This episode explains why structured reps and real feedback are the missing piece, how bad habits get reinforced without a loop, and why social skill is now a survival skill in careers, relationships, and leadership.
Chapters
00:00 – The moments that decide everything
02:00 – Why experience without feedback fails
04:00 – How social skills are actually learned
06:00 – Small reps, real feedback, real change
08:00 – Why social skill beats technical skill now
10:00 – Stop winging what matters mostStop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com
Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel
The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout.
Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm
Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence.
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
AJ on LinkedIn
Johnny on LinkedIn
AJ on Instagram
Johnny on Instagram
The Art of Charm on Instagram
The Art of Charm on YouTube
The Art of Charm on TikTok/
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6 February 2026, 5:00 am - 1 hour 15 minutesWork Is Taking More Than You Think | Guy Winch
Episode Description:
AJ and Johnny sit down with psychologist Guy Winch, author of Mind Over Grind, to unpack how grind culture quietly erodes our mental health, relationships, and sense of self — often without us realizing it.Guy explains why stress no longer stays at work, how rumination turns unpaid overtime into chronic burnout, and why many high performers confuse exhaustion with productivity. They explore the blurred boundary between work and home, the hidden damage of always-on thinking, and how modern workplaces amplify anxiety, resentment, and emotional withdrawal.
This conversation offers practical ways to reclaim control: recognizing harmful rumination, creating transition rituals, recharging instead of just resting, and redesigning workdays to protect focus, relationships, and meaning — without sacrificing ambition.
Chapters:
00:00 – The hidden cost of grind culture
05:00 – When work never actually ends
10:00 – Rumination vs. productive thinking
15:00 – How stress spills into relationships
20:00 – Burnout, resentment, and modern work
25:00 – The Goldilocks zone of stress
30:00 – Rest vs. recharge: why downtime fails
35:00 – Rituals to transition out of work mode
40:00 – Managing email, boundaries, and control
45:00 – Curating your workday instead of reacting
50:00 – Reclaiming meaning without quitting your jobA Word From Our Sponsors
Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com
The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence.
Episode resources:
Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life
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2 February 2026, 8:01 am - 8 minutes 13 secondsThe Psychology of Reaching Out — and the Easiest Win You’re Not Taking | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down why reconnecting with old friends feels harder than it should — and why the hesitation isn’t rejection, it’s symmetry. Both people usually care. Both people assume the other doesn’t. And nothing happens.
Drawing on behavioral research and social psychology, this episode explains how dormant friendships get miscategorized by the brain as “risky,” why we overestimate awkwardness and underestimate meaning, and how one simple move cuts through years of silence instantly.
You’ll learn why old friendships are more valuable than new ones, how shared memory bypasses social friction, and the exact message that reliably reopens connection — without apology, explanation, or pressure.
Chapters:
00:00 – Why reconnecting feels awkward
00:45 – The silent standoff: both people waiting
01:30 – Why old friends start feeling like strangers
02:15 – The hidden value of dormant friendships
03:00 – Why memory beats words
03:40 – The photo message that reopens connection
04:30 – Friendship durability vs. fragility
05:10 – What social intelligence really isStop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com
Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel
The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout.
Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm
Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence.
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
AJ on LinkedIn
Johnny on LinkedIn
AJ on Instagram
Johnny on Instagram
The Art of Charm on Instagram
The Art of Charm on YouTube
The Art of Charm on TikTok
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30 January 2026, 9:00 am - 55 minutes 19 secondsThe Myth of Self-Made Success | Daniel Coyle
AJ and Johnny sit down with Daniel Coyle, bestselling author and culture researcher, to explore what it actually means to flourish — and why flourishing is never a solo pursuit. Drawing from his research into thriving communities around the world, Daniel explains why growth, meaning, and fulfillment emerge from connection, friction, and shared purpose rather than individual achievement.
They unpack how modern life fragments attention, why efficiency and isolation undermine belonging, and how small, human-scale practices — from rituals to shared meals to “yellow door” moments — can reawaken connection. This conversation reframes success away from optimization and toward aliveness, showing how community, presence, and intentional messiness create lives and workplaces that truly thrive.
Chapters:
00:00 – Why flourishing is mutual, not individual
05:00 – The problem with modern efficiency and isolation
10:00 – Task attention vs. relational attention
15:00 – Friction, annoyance, and the price of community
20:00 – Rituals, stillness, and grounding practices
25:00 – Why collision creates creativity and growth
30:00 – Building communities that flourish at work
35:00 – Designing productive mess instead of control
40:00 – Yellow doors, fear, and unexpected connection
45:00 – Creating community instead of waiting for itA Word From Our Sponsors
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The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence.
Episode resources:
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
AJ on LinkedIn
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AJ on Instagram
Johnny on Instagram
The Art of Charm on Instagram
The Art of Charm on YouTube
The Art of Charm on TikTok
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26 January 2026, 8:01 am - 13 minutes 44 secondsHidden Logic of High-Status Networks Infiltration | Social Intelligence Briefing
Episode Description:
AJ and Johnny reveal two tactical moves from their infiltration method — the same framework they’ve used to train special forces, federal agents, and high performers — that explain how real access works inside elite networks.You’ll learn why gatekeepers aren’t blocking you, they’re filtering for alignment — and how to respond when someone says, “They’re too busy right now.” They also break down the psychology behind silence — the quiet moment after your pitch or point — and why most people destroy their credibility by filling it.
This episode shows you how high-value rooms actually operate, what gatekeepers are signaling, and how to move with confidence through tension, power, and hierarchy without chasing approval or forcing entry.
Chapters:
00:00 – Why credentials stop working at the top
01:30 – How elite networks actually filter for access
03:00 – The gatekeeper moment: “They’re too busy right now”
05:00 – The one question that flips power dynamics
06:30 – The silence trap: what decision-makers are really doing
08:00 – How to hold tension and signal alignment
09:30 – The infiltration mindset: how access really worksA Word From Our Sponsors
Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com
Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel
The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout.
Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm
Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence.
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
AJ on LinkedIn
Johnny on LinkedIn
AJ on Instagram
Johnny on Instagram
The Art of Charm on Instagram
The Art of Charm on YouTube
The Art of Charm on TikTok
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23 January 2026, 8:01 am - 1 hour 10 minutesModern Dating Is Broken | Paul Eastwick
AJ and Johnny sit down with Paul Eastwick, relationship scientist and author of Bonded by Evolution, to unpack what modern dating has gotten wrong — and what the science actually says about love, attraction, and connection.
They explore how online dating has distorted our view of desirability, why the search for “the perfect person” makes us miserable, and how real connection comes from shared time, not algorithms. Paul breaks down how our brains evolved for small-group bonding — not endless swiping — and reveals the truth about compatibility, attachment, and the misunderstood “friend zone.”
From evolutionary psychology to modern dating anxiety, this conversation is a masterclass in how to build real relationships in a world built on comparison.
Chapters:
00:00 – Why love advice is so confusing
05:00 – How online dating rewired attraction
10:00 – The confidence gap and lost social skills
15:00 – The danger of treating dating like a marketplace
20:00 – Algorithms, ego, and authenticity in the AI era
30:00 – How relationships actually form and last 35:00 – Compatibility is built, not found 40:00 – Why men should stop fearing the friend zone
45:00 – Redefining masculinity and modern loveA Word From Our Sponsors
Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com
The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence.
Episode resources:
Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection
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19 January 2026, 8:01 am - 10 minutes 33 secondsWhy High Social Skills Win in the Age of AI | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down the real competitive edge in the age of AI — emotional regulation and social intelligence.
As automation levels the playing field for output, human connection has become the new performance multiplier. This episode unpacks why the smartest person in the room isn’t always the most successful, and how tension management, emotional safety, and neural synchrony have replaced raw intelligence as the markers of influence.
You’ll learn how to turn moments of silence, pushback, or disagreement into trust and authority — and why your ability to regulate emotion, not your technical skill, now drives your career, your relationships, and your reputation.
Chapters:
00:00 – When AI disappears: where human skill still matters
02:00 – The data: social skills now outperform analytical skills
05:00 – Intelligence is common — judgment is rare
08:00 – How safety and emotional regulation drive influence
12:00 – The neuroscience of trust and neural synchrony
16:00 – Why technical skill without presence stalls your career
20:00 – The tension gap: learning to stay calm under pressure
24:00 – How to turn pushback into authority
28:00 – From output to interaction: the new advantage
32:00 – How to become the person people trust under uncertainty
A Word From Our SponsorsStop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com
Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel
The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout.
Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm
Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence.
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
AJ on LinkedIn
Johnny on LinkedIn
AJ on Instagram
Johnny on Instagram
The Art of Charm on Instagram
The Art of Charm on YouTube
The Art of Charm on TikTok
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