On the Intro, a public service announcement regarding Log Cabin Republicans and MAGA gays: Don't Breed Em, Don't Feed 'Em.

An Australian woman would like advice on pegging a military man.

Our guest is NYT writer Christine Emba. Her book Rethinking Sex: A Provocation made a big splash, and added to a cultural conversation about feminism and female desire. She and Dan talk about "looks maxers," the emotional intelligence gap between men and women, and why Gen Z folks aren't dating. A bit of this great convo is on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum.

And, a woman reconnected with an old high school classmate that she had a crush on back in the day. It turns out she still does! But he's married. The question is, is he happily married? And are they open?

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Somewhere, deep in the woods in Holland, in cabins patrolled by volunteers, there's a very, very kinky gathering. Meet Tom, who indulged his new friend's girlfriend and helped to abduct her, throw her in a van and speed her off to an adventure in consensual non-consent.

This is varsity level stuff and not for the faint of heart. Hear all about it.

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A woman in a new relationship isn't sure this one's going to work out. He's a great guy, but the sex is lacking because his penis is too small for her. Is there a way to learn to enjoy the sex eventually?

Here's a question for you: "How long til anal?" After seeing Heated Rivalry, a married man and his wife are exploring anal sex. They are taking their sweet time, but he wonders how long they should expect it to take before it becomes comfortable for them both. (Who's doing whom? He never says!) 

On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Natalie Davis. She is the author "Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory" and the editor of the online publication "Polyamory Today." They talk about her journey from PUD to enthusiastic advocate for open relationships.

Last week, a woman wondered how many *other* women could experience 60-70 orgasms, like she does. This week, we close with a man who "worries" that he's having SO MUCH SEX that he's coming too much. Should he call 911?

People. Really?

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Have you ever wanted to be a fly on the wall during a MFM threeway?

Listen in as the F tells the tale. How did she set it up? What was it like when they first met and shook hands? Who did who and where? Which one had a food sensitivity? You’ll have to listen to find out.

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A kinky, submissive woman's last relationship went down in flames when her dom insisted on a power exchange, all-the-damn-time lifestyle. She is raising kids and caring for her sick father. She doesn't have time for this kind of commitment. How can she set reasonable boundaries in the future?

A married man despairs that he'll never kiss his wife again. Smooching is central to his experience of sexual pleasure, and the wife is repulsed by it. Sounds grim.

Speaking of kissing, on the Magnum, it's a "What You Got?" with Dr. Matilda Brindle. The evolutionary biologist recently published a paper looking at whether early primates or even Neanderthals kissed. They also talk about kink in the animal kingdom, which leads to the story of one very freaky monkey. Do not miss this. Pay attention.

And, a woman humble-braggingly wonders if OTHER women come 60-70 times per session she like does.

72,73, 74...

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Meet Trina, who indulged her dom's desire. Did she love it? Did she hate it?

Listen and learn.

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Naturally, on this sex and relationship podcast, many of you are thinking about the Epstein files. One caller used to be a dom/daddy for younger women who sought him out and enjoyed themselves. Still he feels guilty. And another caller is having their libido crash when they read the news.

Meanwhile a straight man has discovered a bizarre and rare disorder: he goes limp when he has to put a condom on. Somebody make a documentary about this guy!

On the Magnum, a trans woman is grappling with the anger she feels at cis and non-binary people. Dan brings on trans, queer comedian and writer Hayden Johnson, to offer advice and to commiserate. They talk about how being a trans woman forces you to confront misogyny, the jarring difference in how people treat you when you present as a man vs. a woman, and how fun it is to mess with people's heads onstage as a trans comic.

And, a 34 year-old woman is leaving her abusive husband. She knows it's the right thing to do, but worries she won't get another shot at marriage and family. She asks for a pep talk from Dan Savage, and from YOU.

Leave her an inspiring comment!

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Vanilla. Straight. Cis. Monogamous. How could this story possibly be sexy?
A monogamous couple tried a dual massage in a foreign country. Mirrors on the ceiling. Pillows on the bed. Jacuzzi. Steam room. At first they wondered if they were allowed to have sex.

They were.

Hear the tale!

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When does subbing morph into self-harm? The relationship between a man and his much younger trans woman lover involves intense physical abuse. The girl has a wretched history, and engages in self harm. Although she gives consent, there's also a language barrier that makes everything they do seem out of control and destructive.

A bisexual woman took the plunge and came out to her conservative Catholic mother. Although her mother didn't completely melt down, she has a ways to go before she reaches acceptance. What will it take to move her mother into the light?

Our guest this week is Intimacy Coordinator Yehuda Duenyas. He and Dan talk about what an Intimacy Coordinator does, and whether they should be required on a movie set. How a director's prompt can sometimes be as vague as "They Have Sex" and it's up to the IC to flesh out how that should look to the audience. How portraying scenes of abuse can be wrenching for sensitive male actors. And of course, Dan has Yehuda answer a couple of sex questions too. A little of this conversation is on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum.

Finally, is it possible for a man to both come and pee at the same time...in his girlfriend's mouth? Sadly, this is not a theoretical question.

Ask Dan ANY kind of question.

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They designed, engineered and built their own fuck box. Dan's question: "So did you upholster it?"

Hear all about it, how it fit into the sex party and whether they enjoyed it or not.

Do YOU have a perverted tale to tell? Write it up and send it in to [email protected].

A 60 year old woman wonders where she can score some poppers.

A lesbian would like to score a queer dominatrix to work her over.

On the Magnum, Dan chats with Rich Juzwiak of Slate's love and sex advice column, "How to Do It." They talk about how to make anal sex pleasurable when your partner is very, very, (some might even say "too") well endowed. How too many sex partners can be dangerous. And they discuss age gap relationships: are we are in an age of peak daddy?

And, a woman's boyfriend complains that his wiener slips out during sex because she is "too wet."

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