After 22 years of marriage, well, it was just time.

Hear Trix’s story about writing, filming and performing in her “queer adoring gang bang” story.

And how she feels about the possibility of her kids stumbling across it one day.

How have YOU kept your marriage fresh? Tell us a story at [email protected]

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As this is a wholesome, family-focused show, we bookend the episode with parenting questions. First, a woman's 5 year-old nephew wants to wear a padlock around his neck. He saw this on a stranger in a grocery store and thought it looked cool. Should they let him?

And last, when your five year old asks "What is sex?" What should you say?

Our guest is the incomparable Jane Don't! The break out star of Season 18 of Ru Paul's drag race is here to talk about her upcoming tour, her Miss Congeniality role on Drag Race, growing up gay in a small town, and her abiding love for drag. She and Dan dish and do a deep dive on Drag Race. If you're a fan of the show, you're going to want to listen. A little is in the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum.

And, a woman has been dating her boyfriend for a year now, and he still never comes when he's with her. Dan spells out his technique to get him there.

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Jade is normally a sub with her husband. But when she inserted the sounding rod into his urethra, did she really feel submissive? Really?

It’s a journey…

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Sex & Politics #46

Can we really change?

Welcome to Sex & Politics!
For this bonus episode, Dan chatted with Benoit Denizet-Lewis, an associate professor at Emerson College, a longtime contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine, and the author, most recently, of “You’ve Changed: The Promise and Price of Self-Transformation.” He and Dan talked about the various ways people can change- how prisoners who have the possibility of parole can improve themselves and prove they’ve done so. They talk about the ex-gay movement, specifically Michael Glatze, who went from gay activist to anti-gay activist. And they answered a call from a man whose wife’s weight loss has completely altered their sex life.

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A woman in her 60s has a husband who is into feet. She's planning to get a professional foot massage. Can he come along and watch if he promises to hide his boner?

A woman has a boyfriend who provides financial security and perfectly fine sex. But she finds him so very dull. Is a comfortable but boring relationship enough?

On the Magnum, meet comedian, filmmaker and avowed cuck queen Edy Modica. She and Dan talk about her brilliant performance on Jury Duty, and in her personal life, how she eroticizes jealousy. Then, they take a call from a woman whose boyfriend wants her to put whipped cream up her ass and squeeze it out all over him. So there's that too.

And, a femme person is developing a hot, kinky, fulfilling relationship with...a chat bot. She found "him" on an app, and it's turning her on so hard! Is this gonna be ok?

Maybe! (Probably not.)

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

What’s it like for a trans man at a gay leather convention?Listen and you will find out…

Tell us about your brave excursion.

Write about your experience and send it to Dan: [email protected]

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Her friend's new girlfriend stinks to high heaven. Is this intentional? Is it a kink? What would be the polite way to ask her to wash up?

A woman with super-high libido is trying to convince her husband to have a three-way with another woman. But he doesn't wanna. How can she convince him to do the thing that many straight men would kill for?

On the Magnum, a woman is being drawn in to more and more extreme porn. Now she needs the really intense stuff to get off. Dan discusses this with professor of clinical psychology Dr. Eric Sprankle who has literally written the book on masturbation. ("DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation.") Does the Algorithm influence people's porn tastes? They also talk about blasphemy kinks.

And, a woman and her partner are traveling to Greece. She heard it's legal to hire a sex worker there, but wants to make sure the person they hire isn't being exploited. How?

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“He had a kiddy pool set up by the time we were there…”

Meet Abe, who finally got to *immerse* himself in the world of gunge.
You haven’t heard of gunge, you say? Simply press play.

If you had a sexual experience that called for a LOT of logistics, write about it and send us the details to
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An intersex man had his urethra operated on when he was a toddler. Now he wants to try sounding but his doctors advise against it. He is suspicious of doctors after his non-consensual surgeries. Should he ignore them and pursue his pleasure?

A 66 year-old woman loves to give blow jobs to her lucky husband. But sometimes she gets a bit too enthusiastic and ends up with bruises on her lip. Will people see them and know how she got them?

On the Magnum, have you ever slept with a clown? Meet Barney Muckle, a British kinkster who has turned clowning into an awesome fetish. He and Dan talk about the inherent silliness of sex ("Sex is putting weird things in funny places,") and how we would all do well to take it less seriously. Barney has a dildo that looks like a banana split, and so should you.

Finally, a woman and her girlfriend have decided to take a break from sex. They are both kinky. The caller wonders if they could make this break hot by leaning into a sexy abstinence vibe. Or would they then not be taking a break after all?

Record your question and send it in to Dan.

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Monica is a tried and true, old school Magnum sub. With Dan’s advice in her head, she applied to join a “foot night” where men pay to play…with women’s feet.

Did Monica have a good time?
What did she wear?
And exactly how much money did she make?

All is revealed.

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Ouch! A woman has been fisting her boyfriend to both of their delight. But guess what hurts: Her hand! How can she get in there comfortably?

A woman is trying to convince both her conspiracy-minded friend and her wife that ultra rich people are not really eating babies. Because...they aren't...right?

On the Magnum, Dan chats with Stephen Dubner - host of Freakonomics Radio. His new show, Better in Person, explores how conversations flow when people are in the room together. Dan and Stephen talk about the new show, and dig in to assumptions around long term relationships.

And, a woman was already not getting along with her new landlord. And that was *before* he left behind a ball gag in her bathroom drawer...

You said you wanted to get on the show?

Here's how:

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