At 22, Tai Tupou learned that the man who raised him wasn't his biological father. He told no one. For three years he isolated himself, burned bridges and had no idea he was living with depression — until a colleague asked him a simple question. Twice.

In this episode, Tai — founder of the The Last Chance Project and a mental health advocate of 14 years — talks about growing up in a Samoan household where you only spoke when spoken to, the "traffic light" system he now uses to help men name what they're feeling and why he believes "if you care enough, that's more than qualified" to check in on someone.

Hit play to hear Tai's story.

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Five years ago, Meg Vardy was a UK-based researcher studying treatment for anorexia. What most of her colleagues didn't know: she'd been living with anorexia herself for 15 years.

She's since stepped away from academia to launch JourneyED, a Dunedin-based charity offering free peer support to people across Aotearoa navigating eating disorders — because, in her words, no one should have to go through it alone.

This week on Take It From Us, Meg shares her story and her vision for what recovery-focused, lived-experience-led support can look like. Hit play.

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"Who the f*** you really are underneath all the other shit." That's the question Rob Brown puts to every man he coaches — and it's the one he couldn't answer himself for most of his life. Two businesses built and lost, a marriage that ended and a throat cancer diagnosis at 45 - Rob finally sat down with it.

In this episode, Rob takes Kent through the anger that surfaced the day after his father's funeral, the "I'm not going to fight this" decision he made in a hospital room and why he now coaches senior leaders who look like they've got it all together but feel like something's missing underneath.

Please note: this episode includes a discussion of suicide.

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"I'm a catastrophiser," admits Grant Robertson, New Zealand's former Deputy Prime Minister. 

It's a confession that sits behind a high-profile political career — years of COVID decisions, and eventually, a panic attack he didn't see coming. As pressure mounted for him to take over from Jacinda Ardern, Grant was ready to reluctantly say yes, until one sentence from his partner Alf stopped him cold. 

In this episode, Grant opens up about the physical toll of "giving 110%," the counselling that got him through his final year in politics, the homophobia that was a constant and the phrase he still leans on today to interrupt his own worst-case thinking. 

This is what a 'recovering politician' looks like. Listen now to hear Grant's full story.

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Blain Collinge was once the reason his parents started Red Door Recovery — refusing help, deep in addiction, with "no desire to change." Over a decade later, he co-leads the very organisation built to save him.

Justine Hamill came to Red Door after her own relapse and recovery, bringing a background in psychotherapy and yoga. Together, they now run a 24/7 recovery service in Upper Hutt — and they don't do it from behind a desk. They lead from lived experience.

In this episode, Blain and Justine talk honestly about the toll of running a business built on crisis, and the story of one young client who arrived labelled "the most difficult client in the mental health system" — and who's now finding her way home.

Hit play to hear why Red Door doesn't do healing by the textbook.

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She took her first drink at 14 — and for a moment, everything made sense.

Suzy Morrison chased that feeling for years, through other substances and eventually heroin, before it nearly cost her everything. She's been in recovery since 1987 — not as an endpoint, but as an ongoing practice she's still learning. 

Now a counsellor and clinical supervisor, Suzy sits down with Kent to talk honestly about what actually pulls people toward addiction, what pulled her back out and why recovery isn't the straight, narrow road most people imagine.

If you've ever wondered what real recovery looks like — this one's for you. Hit play.

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Jamie Summers thought he was invincible. At 39, working in construction, high stress and no downtime felt like just part of the job.

Then he had a stroke.

Six and a half years later, he's still living with it — fatigue that doesn't let up, and a mental health toll he doesn't sugarcoat.

Now co-founder of Health15, Jamie goes onto construction sites testing workers' blood pressure and checking for atrial fibrillation. The numbers are stark: only 30% test normal. Some have needed an ambulance on site.

Jamie's not here to lecture. He's here because he didn't see it coming — and he doesn't want anyone else to find out the hard way.

Hit play to hear what changed for Jamie, and why he's not waiting for the industry to catch up.

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Heidi McIlroy teaches kids who can't make it into a regular classroom. They're too anxious, struggling with their mental health, autistic - kids who carry shame because they think they're broken.

She gets it because she's been there. Years of agoraphobia, hiding it, convinced something was wrong with her.

So she created a book called "This Is How It Feels". It's not advice or expert opinions. It's just real people explaining what their struggles actually feel like - a kid with anxiety, someone who self-harms, what withdrawal feels like, what panic looks like.

The impact has been real. Parents reading it and finally understanding their kids. Teachers using it. Young people picking it up and going, "Yes, that's what I'm trying to say." 

You can pick up a copy of Heidi's book here.

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A different kind of episode this week. Host Kent recently slept rough for one night at the Big Sleepout. He bedded down on cardboard at the AUT campus, part of a group of 70 community leaders raising funds and awareness for people experiencing homelessness in Auckland.

One night. Terrible sleep. But he was safe, fed, warm and dry. Which made him realise something: people living on the streets don't get that. They go to bed not knowing what tomorrow looks like.

In this episode, Kent reflects on what that one night taught him. Plus, a conversation with Daryl Bishop, CEO of Ember Korowai Takitini, who has his own story of sleeping on the streets when he was younger...  and now fights for systemic change.

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Joe Daymond is a Kiwi comedian who makes you laugh about the hard stuff - the things most of us hide. He talks about things like mental health and relationships on stage in a way that makes people feel less alone.

He's had low times, including two periods where he slept rough in his car for a bit. The first time in 2018, nobody knew. The second time three years later, after he'd already been on TV. He didn't tell his closest friends either time that he was struggling.

His parents raised him to show up for people. They volunteered, they helped, they made it their priority. Now Joe supports Lifewise's Big Sleepout, raising funds for people experiencing homelessness. 

He's also learned the hardest lesson: showing up to therapy isn't the same as doing the work. The real change happens between the sessions, when you're alone with yourself.

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Todd Muller was elected leader of the National Party in May 2020, a tantalising final step towards achieving a boyhood dream of one day being Prime Minister. 

Within five days, he was experiencing waves of anxiety he'd never felt before - panic attacks so severe he could barely get through speeches, the words on the page constantly moving and disappearing.

After 53 days, he stepped down as leader. He spent the next three years trying to rebuild. He got reelected. He climbed back to the front bench. But he couldn't sustain it. In 2023, Todd made the hardest decision of his life and walked away from Parliament entirely.

Based in Tauranga, he's now rebuilding around family, fitness, and community. His willingness to be vulnerable has opened conversations with hundreds of men who've said the same words back to him. "I've had a bit of that too."

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