Bloated, dealing with stomach pain, or running to the bathroom every time you eat, and told it's nothing? In this episode, you'll learn the gut symptoms you shouldn't ignore, how much fiber you really need a day, and three simple changes that can help improve your gut health, plus how to speak up when a doctor brushes you off.

On The Tamsen Show, Tamsen Fadal's guest is NBC News correspondent Chloe Melas, co-author with Judy Batalion of The Girl's Guide to Guts. Chloe lived with ulcerative colitis, a chronic inflammatory gut disease, in silence for more than 15 years. She shares what finally helped, from more fiber to less alcohol, and why "you can have a big beautiful life while also dealing with a chronic illness."

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Which gut symptoms to stop brushing off, including blood in your stool

- How much fiber you need a day (about 30 grams), and how to do the math

- Three simple changes to improve your gut health: less alcohol, more movement and more fiber

- What to eat when your gut flares, and why inflammation matters

- When colorectal cancer screening starts (now 45 for adults at average risk)

- How to speak up, and when to switch doctors if you feel dismissed

- How to talk about "embarrassing" symptoms without shame

- How to support a partner or friend living with a chronic illness

If you've been quietly living with bloating, pain or gut symptoms, this episode is your permission to speak up.

The Girl's Guide to Guts is out Tuesday, November 10.

If you liked this episode, then you'll like: The Menopause Gut: How to Beat Bloating and Belly Fat and Alcohol 101: Belly Fat, Bad Sleep and the Real Cost

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Women are often taught to treat everyone else’s time as protected and their own as endlessly available. Over time, that can affect their careers, relationships, confidence, and sense of identity.

New York Times bestselling author Eve Rodsky joins Tamsen to explain Fair Play, a system that makes invisible work visible and gives one person complete ownership of each responsibility, from noticing that it needs to happen through planning and execution. Eve shares the “blueberries breakdown” that led her to create it, why “Just tell me what to do” still leaves women managing the work, and how boundaries, systems, and communication can change the way a family runs.

If you are the person who remembers every appointment, manages an aging parent’s care, or follows up when no one else does, this episode offers a practical way to stop carrying everyone else’s responsibilities in your head and start treating your own time as equally valuable.

They get into:

- How Fair Play applies beyond marriage and motherhood

- How to tell whether the problem requires a boundary, a system, or a conversation

- When guilt is really a response to someone else’s discomfort

- Why fairness does not always mean a 50-50 split

- What it takes to build an identity beyond being needed

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Should I stay or should I go? If you’re asking yourself “Should I get a divorce?”, I sat down with divorce attorney Jenny Hutt, who is separated from her husband, to talk about why gray divorce has doubled since 1990, why midlife divorce so often hits when the kids leave and an empty nest marriage goes quiet, and what to know before facing divorce after 50. If you’ve looked across the table at the person you’ve built a life with and realized you have nothing to say, you’re not alone.

In this episode, Tamsen sits down with divorce attorney Jenny Hutt, a New York family law attorney and certified divorce mediator, Of Counsel at Wisselman Harounian Family Law, and host of the Just Jenny podcast, to talk about why so many marriages end in midlife and how to make an honest decision about your own.

Jenny, who is separated from her husband, explains why so many couples wait until the kids are out of the house, how losing a parent can bring up the question “How much time do I have left?”, and why the “guns blazing” divorce you see on TV is not how it really works. Tamsen opens up about her own divorce 15 years ago, the shame she felt, and the $100,000 in marital debt she had to dig out of.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- Why so many marriages end after the kids leave home, and what the empty nest can reveal

- How losing a parent and facing your own mortality can change the way you see your marriage

- What gray divorce is, and why divorce after 50 has doubled since 1990

- Why it’s okay not to know yet: “If you wanna reconcile tomorrow, go reconcile. There is no judgment.”

- The four things every divorce comes down to: assets, support, parenting and custody

- Why a good settlement is one where “nobody’s happy, but everybody can live with it”

- How a consultation with a divorce attorney can help you understand your rights before you decide anything

- Why the identity shift, from taking off your rings to hearing “Just one?”, can be as hard as the financial hit

Jenny practices family law in New York, and divorce laws vary from state to state, so talk with an attorney where you live about your own situation.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage can be saved or whether it’s time to go, this episode will help you think it through honestly, without shame and without judgment.

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Ever been told you're too much, too different, or too late? Misty Copeland heard it all and became a legend anyway. In this episode, she shares how to stop shrinking to fit, how to speak up for yourself even when the room isn't built for you, and what she's learned about perimenopause and a body that changes every day.

Sitting down with Tamsen Fadal on The Tamsen Show, Misty looks back on a career built on proving people wrong. She didn't take her first ballet class until 13, was told she was "too athletic," and still became the first Black woman promoted to principal dancer at American Ballet Theatre. She tells Tamsen how she rehearsed hard conversations before walking into the director's office, danced Firebird at the Met on six stress fractures, and gave her farewell performance with ABT in October 2025. After a full hip replacement in December 2025, she was performing at the Oscars three months later. And when Tamsen asks about perimenopause, Misty admits she was skeptical "until it hit me."

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How to stop shrinking yourself to fit someone else's idea of "right"

- How to speak up when the room isn't built for you, and how to prepare for those hard conversations first

- Why a late start doesn't have to hold you back

- How to find a safe place, and the mentors, who help you grow

- What perimenopause can really feel like, and why not all symptoms look the same

- How to be patient with a body that changes every day

- How to take on something new after a setback, one step at a time: "Let's see what happens"

- How to use your seat at the table to open doors for the women coming after you

If you've ever been made to feel like you don't fit, this conversation will remind you that you get to decide what's next.

If you liked this episode, then you'll like: How This Woman Became a Trailblazing Airline Pilot at 50 After Waiting 15 Years and “It Can't Rain Forever”: Kandi Burruss on Reinvention and What Comes Next

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Bethany Joy Lenz, star of One Tree Hill and author of the new novel The Betrayal of Cora Wexford, spent years on TV every week while secretly living inside a cult.

She opens up about why becoming a mother gave her the reason to leave, why the leaving was survival and the real healing came after, and how being on set kept her grounded through it all.

Tamsen and Joy talk about why so many capable women end up doubting themselves, why psychological abuse behind closed doors is so rarely taken seriously, and how her new novel, set in 1888, mirrors so much of her real life.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How a good thing can slowly turn into control

- Her rule now: "If you feel like something's weird, it's weird"

- The 1 question that reveals how someone really treats you, and the response to watch for

- How to trust your gut again after years of second-guessing yourself

- What her late ADHD diagnosis taught her about how hyperactivity shows up in women

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Most of us have been taught that when something is not working, the answer is more discipline, more willpower, and more effort. Angela Duckworth, the University of Pennsylvania psychologist and bestselling author of Grit, built her career studying that idea. Her new book, Situated, asks us to look at everything surrounding that effort.

In this conversation, she explains how the people, places, objects, and cultures around us shape our motivation, behavior, and even who we become.

Angela shares the terrifying moment she nearly lost her mother during a snorkeling trip—and why it taught her to stop fighting the current and ask for help. She also opens up about a difficult period in her marriage that showed her how easily we can mistake the effects of someone’s circumstances for flaws in their character.

Tamsen and Angela discuss why we attach moral value to doing things the hard way, how the people closest to us change what feels possible, and where to begin when we cannot simply leave the job, home, or situation shaping us.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- Why trying harder can keep us trapped in a losing situation

- The four parts of your environment to examine when you feel stuck

- How objects within three feet of you influence your behavior

- Why different people bring out different versions of who you are

- What you can change when your biggest circumstances are outside your control

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Is walking enough? Is Pilates enough? How heavy should you actually be lifting? If you’ve ever wondered which exercise really protects your brain as you age, especially through perimenopause and menopause, this conversation gives you the exact weekly plan.

In this episode, Tamsen sits down with clinical neurophysiologist and Alzheimer’s researcher Louisa Nicola, founder of Neuro Athletics and host of The Neuro Experience podcast, to talk about why she calls exercise medicine for the brain. Louisa explains that, outside of medication, exercise is the most powerful intervention we have to lower our risk of Alzheimer’s disease and dementia, a disease that affects far more women than men.

Tamsen opens up about the short-term memory loss and brain fog that scared her during perimenopause, and Louisa breaks down what happens inside your brain when you walk, sprint and lift, from BDNF and lactate to the myokines your muscles release. Then she builds out a workout plan for your brain: two days a week of heavy compound lifting at around 80% of your one-rep max, one Norwegian 4x4 interval session, zone 2 cardio and 10,000 steps a day.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- Why exercise is the best non-drug intervention for lowering Alzheimer’s risk

- How heavy to lift for brain health, and why compound moves like squats and deadlifts matter most

- Why Pilates is a great add-on, but not enough on its own

- The surprising link between leg strength and brain aging: “the larger the legs, the larger the brain”

- What zone 2 training (about 65% of your max heart rate) does for the hippocampus and memory

- How to raise your VO2 max with the Norwegian 4x4, how to estimate it with the 12-minute Cooper test, and why she wouldn’t rely on your wearable

- What she says about creatine for the brain, omega-3s, and the p-tau217 blood test and APOE4 gene test you can ask your doctor about

If you’ve ever wondered whether your workouts are doing anything for your brain, this episode will help you build a plan that protects your memory now and decades from now.

If you liked this episode, then you’ll like: How Getting Stronger as You Age Can Change Everything with The Muscle Doctor, Dr. Gabrielle Lyon and The #1 Pharmacist Phil Cowley: Creatine, Greens, Electrolytes, What’s Worth Buying and What Isn’t

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- Dr. Lisa Mosconi on The Tamsen Show

- Walking and hippocampus study (Erickson et al., PNAS, 2011)

- Leg power and cognitive aging in older female twins (Steves et al., Gerontology, 2016)

- The Norwegian 4x4 interval study (Helgerud et al., Medicine & Science in Sports & Exercise, 2007)

- The 12-minute Cooper test (Cooper, JAMA, 1968)

- Creatine monohydrate pilot study in Alzheimer’s (Smith et al., 2025)

- Creatine and sleep deprivation study (Gordji-Nejad et al., Scientific Reports, 2024)

- FDA clears the first blood test used in diagnosing Alzheimer’s (p-tau217)

- APOE4 and Alzheimer’s genetics (Alzheimer’s Association)

- The 14 modifiable dementia risk factors (2024 Lancet Commission)

- Sleep regularity and mortality study (Windred et al., Sleep, 2024)

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Menopause and perimenopause can leave you with questions about belly fat, brain fog, sleep problems and whether hormone therapy could help. Your jeans fit differently. You’re losing your train of thought. You’re exhausted, but you can’t sleep. Where do you start when so much feels unfamiliar?

For World Menopause Month, Tamsen brings eight leading doctors and researchers together in one episode to help you understand what’s changing and what deserves attention. These are the conversations she wishes she’d heard before she was struggling to read the teleprompter at work, leaving herself notes and wondering why she didn’t feel like herself.

You’ll hear from Dr. Sharon Malone, Dr. Lisa Mosconi, Dr. Shelby Harris, Dr. Rocio Salas-Whalen, Dr. Vonda Wright, Dr. Kelly Casperson, Dr. Avrum Bluming and Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz. Eight experts, different perspectives and answers you can come back to—all in one place.

Inside the episode:

- Why you can still have periods and be in perimenopause—and why a single hormone blood test may be misleading

- Whether menopause brain fog can improve, and why women’s experiences vary

- Why more time in bed may not mean better sleep, and how cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) works

- The difference between visible belly fat and visceral fat around your organs

- Why bone health needs attention earlier than you might think

- How menopause can affect sexual anatomy, arousal and orgasm

- What to understand about hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and breast cancer risk

- How to evaluate menopause supplements and “hormone balance” claims before spending your money

You don’t have to remember everything or make eight changes tomorrow. Start with the moment that makes you think, “Wait, that’s happening to me.” Write down your question and bring it to your next appointment.

If a woman in your life keeps telling you she doesn’t feel like herself, share this episode with her. And if these conversations have helped you, follow The Tamsen Show and leave a rating and review.

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Why do we keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners? And why is it so hard to break unhealthy relationship patterns, even when we know better? In this episode of The Tamsen Show, dating and relationship expert Sabrina Zohar joins Tamsen Fadal to explain anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, relationship anxiety, and how childhood experiences shape the way we love, date, and connect with others.

Tamsen opens up about her own history of chasing unavailable men, including her real-life Mr. Big, and how finding a secure relationship later in life changed her understanding of love.

Sabrina, author of Why Am I Like This?, breaks down the four attachment styles, why anxious and avoidant partners get caught in painful relationship cycles, and why some of us keep choosing people who can’t give us what we need. More importantly, she explains how to recognize these patterns and start changing them.

You’ll learn:

- The four attachment styles and how they affect your relationships

- Why anxious and avoidant partners get caught in a painful push-and-pull cycle

- Why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people

- How childhood experiences can influence your adult relationships

- The question to ask yourself when rejection or abandonment triggers you

- How to build a more secure attachment style

- What to know before dating again after divorce or heartbreak

- Why choosing to stay single can sometimes be rooted in fear

Whether you’re single, dating, married, or starting over, this conversation will help you understand the patterns you bring into relationships and how to stop repeating the ones that hurt you.

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Women learn early which parts of themselves make other people comfortable. After enough years, that performance can begin to feel like our identity, and the intuition underneath it goes quiet.

Dr. Ellen Vora spent much of her life inside that worldview. A Yale- and Columbia-trained psychiatrist, she built her life around science and skepticism. Then, during an acupuncture treatment, Ellen received a message she couldn’t explain away, and it opened a question her training couldn’t answer: When someone dies, does the relationship actually end? That experience forced her to reconsider what she believed about grief, intuition, and the limits of what we can prove.

Today, Ellen shares the full story behind her new book, Season of the Witch: A Psychiatrist’s Case for Magic, and why women are taught to give up essential parts of themselves in order to be taken seriously. She argues that we’ve been missing something, and the way back starts in the body.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- How being agreeable and low-maintenance can become a form of self-abandonment

- Why women have been taught to distrust their intuition

- How to distinguish intuition from anxiety, and the ways the body signals yes and no

- Why menopause can represent a rebirth rather than a disappearance

- What grief can teach us about continuing relationships with the people we have lost

- Why the “witch” archetype has always been connected to women who are no longer easily controlled

- Simple ways to become more receptive to meaning, guidance, and magic in everyday life

This is a conversation about returning to the parts of ourselves we learned to suppress, and letting life become a little more mysterious and alive.

If you liked this episode, then you’ll like: Why You Feel So Lost Right Now (And How to Finally Heal)

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What do women need to know about menopause care, menopause treatment, insurance coverage and their rights in the workplace?

Jennifer Weiss-Wolf, attorney, women’s health advocate and author of When in Menopause, joins me to talk about the systems surrounding perimenopause and menopause that most of us never think about until we need them.

Jennifer has spent years fighting for women, from helping lead the movement to end the tampon tax to advocating for better menopause care, research, treatment access and workplace protections. In this conversation, we break down what is changing, where women are still falling through the cracks and what we can actually do about it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- Why menopause care and treatment still aren’t uniformly covered by health insurance

- Why vaginal estrogen isn’t currently covered by Medicare

- What states are doing to expand access to menopause treatment

- What rights women actually have when it comes to menopause in the workplace

- Why workplace accommodations without discrimination protections can be complicated

- What to consider before disclosing menopause symptoms at work

- How to better advocate for yourself in the doctor’s office

- How to navigate the explosion of menopause supplements, creams and products being marketed to women

- Why Jennifer believes better care, education, research and treatment access could make a bigger difference than workplace accommodations alone

- How women can get involved in menopause advocacy without becoming policy experts

This is one of those conversations that makes you realize how much of the menopause experience is shaped by systems most women have never been taught to think about. The more we understand how they work, the better equipped we are to ask for what we need.

Learn more about menopause advocacy, policy, and how to drive change HERE

If you liked this episode, you'll love: Estrogen 101: What I Learned From the World’s Top Menopause Doctors

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