Once upon a time, Yowei felt embarrassed to have a boyfriend—not because of him, but because of what it said about her. 

New episodes of Proxy return April 21.

This story comes from the Love Letters podcast. Listen to more of their episodes here. 

New to Proxy? Start with Bisexual Wife Guy — it’s one of the clearest examples of what this show does.

When Andrea Dunlop's sister was investigated for Munchausen by proxy abuse, it tore her family apart. In this episode of Nobody Should Believe Me, Andrea tries to understand what happened by talking to a proxy family who went through something similar.

New episodes of Proxy return April 21.

Listen to Nobody Should Believe Me and the latest season here. 

New to Proxy? Start with Bisexual Wife Guy — it’s one of the clearest examples of what this show does.

Nicole is an organizer who's good at channeling her anger. The problem is she can't always downshift. 

New episodes return April 21.

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Deborah Gould, a Professor and Chair of Sociology at UC Santa Cruz
• Read Debbie's book Moving Politics: Emotion and ACT UP's Fight Against AIDS
• For liner notes and reading recs from Debbie and Nicole, sign up for our newsletter by becoming a free member of our Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/ProxyPodcast

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• Bob and the Forgiveness Spell (wanting to let go of something, but not knowing how)
• Amanda and the Nonstop Narrator (when your inner voice won’t leave you alone)

Erin wants to forgive the person she's holding a grudge against, but doesn't know how. Is it possible to just disappear resentment?

New episodes of Proxy return April 21.

From the episode: 

• Find Robert Enright's forgiveness program and other free resources at the International Forgiveness Institute: www.internationalforgiveness.com
• Read Bob's book Forgiveness Is A Choice: A Step-By-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope
• Learn more about Bob and his research

Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏

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• JC's Kids Won't Talk To Her (when your version of a relationship doesn't match theirs)
• Bisexual Wife Guy (what it takes to move on from a breakup without closure)

Yaroslava’s town in Ukraine was taken by Russians. She's now safe in the US. But how do you make a new life when you feel guilty about not being home?

New episodes of Proxy return April 21.

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Dignity Beyond Borders at www.dignitybeyondborders.org and follow them on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn @dignitybeyondborders
• Follow Yaroslava on Instagram @yasiiaaaa
• Watch Sariyah Abuzant's film "FordDat" at https://vimeo.com/1101397354?fl=pl&fe=sh

Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏

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• Zakiya Used to Be So Fun (missing a version of yourself you can’t quite get back)
• Mic Chooses the Wrong Life (being pulled toward a life that doesn’t exist anymore)

A historic step in extrovert-introvert relations i.e. a proxy bloodbath roundtable with 2 extroverts and 2 introverts airing our grievances about each other. 

New episodes of Proxy return April 21.

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Aparna Nancherla, read her book Unreliable Narrator, and follow her on Instagram @aparnapkin
• Learn more about Ryan Letts at Pando Integration Coaching
• Learn more about Jennifer Kahnweiler, listen to her podcast Introvert Ally, and read her book The Genius of Opposites

Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏

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• Alex and the Impossible Ask (when you're embarrassed to ask for what you need in a relationship)
• Amanda and the Nonstop Narrator (how the way we talk to ourselves shapes who we are)

At the heart of many family estrangements lies a mystery. Adult kids insist they’ve told their parents why they’re walking away, while parents say they don’t understand. Why is it sometimes so hard for parents to hear their kids? And how to get through?

New episodes of Proxy return April 21.

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Becca Bland and her work with families and people surviving estrangement
• Learn more about Joshua Coleman, subscribe to his newsletter Family Troubles, and read his book New Rules of Estrangement
• Learn more about reporter Kim Nederveen Pieterse

This is a special membership campaign episode! Help us get to 1500 paying Patreon members by Oct. 9th to cover the costs of making another year of emotional investigative journalism! 

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• Yaroslava Can’t Go Back Home (grieving relationships that have changed in ways you can’t undo)
• Is It Time to Break Up the Band? (when a relationship is stuck but not over)

The case of the mom who doesn’t understand, and the daughter who’s done explaining.

New episodes of Proxy return April 21.

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Chess Dugas, subscribe to her YouTube channel The Scapegoat Club, and follow her on TikTok
• Learn more about Joshua Coleman, subscribe to his newsletter Family Troubles, and read his book New Rules of Estrangement
• Learn more about reporter Kim Nederveen Pieterse

Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏

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• An Estrangement Mystery (wanting to understand why a relationship ended—and not being able to)
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Alex used to host a huge podcast (Reply All). He now makes a new independent show and loves doing it. Only problem is, Alex now has to ask for money all the time to survive, which he hates.

New episodes of Proxy return April 21.

From the episode: 

• Listen to Alex Goldman's new podcast Hyperfixed
• Learn more about Haley Bash and Donor Organizer Hub, a support network for people who fundraise for under-resourced causes
• The Accidental Fundraiser, Haley's step-by-step guide to raising money for your cause

Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏

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• The First Ever Extrovert–Introvert Cage Match (when friends just have very different ways of being)
• Bisexual Wife Guy (when a relationship ends without clear answers)

Ever since the election, Sandy Ernest Allen has been clocking a strange silence from cis people about trans rights. So Sandy reached into the void to hear what the silence had to say.

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Sandy Ernest Allen and his work
• Sandy's newsletter What's Helping Today
• For suggestions on how to support trans people, read"To Cis People Who Feel Despair"
• Follow Sandy on Bluesky @sandyernestallen and see the post
• Support Sandy's writing with a tip: https://buymeacoffee.com/sandyallen

Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏

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If this episode resonated, you might also try:

• Nicole Can’t Stop Being Aggro (when the world feels overwhelming—and it starts to take over how you feel)
• Yaroslava Can't Go Home (grieving a life that's changed in ways you can't undo)

Anya Kamenetz was having trouble coping with the state of the world. So she decided to report on those feelings. In this conversation, Anya shares what she learned from talking to scientists, activists, and thinkers about our collective emotions - why we feel the things we do, the limits of those feelings, and how to move through them to take action. 

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Anya Kamenetz and her work
• Read Anya's newsletter The Golden Hour
• Listen to We Are the Great Turning, a podcast Anya produced with eco-spiritual teacher Joanna Macy about love, courage, and connection in the climate crisis

Proxy is an independent podcast and we rely mostly on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get ad-free listening, access to our group Zoom hangs, and bonus episodes, like this extended conversation with Anya Kamenetz. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏

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If this episode resonated, you might also try:

• Nicole Can’t Stop Being Aggro (when the world feels overwhelming and it starts to take over how you feel)
• Yaroslava Can’t Go Back Home (grieving a life that’s changed in ways you can’t undo)