The case of the dog trainer who loves her dogs, but doesn't feel close to them anymore. 

Please note: This story contains brief mention of suicidal ideation. If you or someone you know may be considering suicide, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by dialing 9-8-8, or the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741741.

Funding for this story was provided by the University of California, Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, as part of its “Spreading Love Through the Media” initiative, supported by the John Templeton Foundation.

From the episode: 

— Jen Blough, LPC — therapist, compassion fatigue educator,  and author of To Save a Starfish: A Compassion Fatigue Workbook for the Animal Welfare Warrior — learn about her compassion fatigue certification program and more: www.animalwelfarewellness.com

Resources on compassion fatigue, pet caregiving, and pet loss:

—Compassion fatigue resources from ASPCApro

—Professional Quality of Life Scale (ProQOl) — a free self-assessment tool for compassion satisfaction, burnout, and secondary traumatic stress

—Pet caregiver burden resources from Insight Animal Behavior Services

—Cornell Pet Loss Support Hotline

New to Proxy?

— Try Bisexual Wife Guy — one of the clearest examples of what this show does

— Or Brian Can't Stop Fact-Checking His Mother-In-Law — when love, duty, and resentment get tangled up

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The case of Caitlin Myer, a writer who relied on her internal narrator... until one day it disappeared. 

Proxy is back with new cases every other Tuesday. Follow the show so you don’t miss the next one.

From the episode: 

— Caitlin Myer — author of Wiving— support her on Patreon and learn more: www.caitlinmyer.com

— Greta Morgan — author of The Lost Voice — sign up for her Patreon and newsletter: www.gretamorganmusic.com

New to Proxy?

— Try Bisexual Wife Guy — one of the clearest examples of what this show does

— Or Mic Chooses the Wrong Life — when the road not taken won’t leave you alone

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Once upon a time, Yowei felt embarrassed to have a boyfriend—not because of him, but because of what it said about her. 

This story comes from the Love Letters podcast. Listen to more of their episodes here. 

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Nicole is an organizer who's good at channeling her anger. The problem is she can't always downshift. 

Proxy is back with new cases every other Tuesday. Follow the show so you don’t miss the next one.

From the episode: 

— Deborah Gould — Professor and Chair of Sociology at UC Santa Cruz, and author of Moving Politics: Emotion and ACT UP's Fight Against AIDS

New to Proxy?

— Try Bisexual Wife Guy — one of the clearest examples of what this show does

— Or Zakiya Used to Be So Fun — on missing a version of yourself you can’t quite get back

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Erin wants to forgive the person she's holding a grudge against, but doesn't know how. Is it possible to just disappear resentment?

From the episode: 

— Find Robert Enright — find his forgiveness program and free resources at the International Forgiveness Institute: www.internationalforgiveness.com

— Read his book Forgiveness Is A Choice: A Step-By-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope 

New to Proxy?

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— Or JC's Kids Won't Talk To Her — when your version of a relationship doesn't match theirs

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Yaroslava’s town in Ukraine was taken by Russians. She's now safe in the US. But how do you make a new life when you feel guilty about not being home?

From the episode: 

— Dignity Beyond Borders — learn more about their work: www.dignitybeyondborders.org, Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn: @dignitybeyondborders

— Yaroslava — on Instagram: @yasiiaaaa

— Sariyah Abuzant — watch her film FordDat:https://vimeo.com/1101397354?fl=pl&fe=sh

— Dignity Beyond Borders — learn more about their work:
 www.dignitybeyondborders.org
Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn: @dignitybeyondborders

— Yaroslava — on Instagram: @yasiiaaaa

— Sariyah Abuzant — watch her film FordDat:
https://vimeo.com/1101397354

New to Proxy?

— Try Bisexual Wife Guy — one of the clearest examples of what this show does

— Or Mic Chooses the Wrong Life — when the road not taken won’t leave you alone

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A historic step in extrovert-introvert relations i.e. a proxy bloodbath roundtable with 2 extroverts and 2 introverts airing our grievances about each other. 

From the episode: 

— Aparna Nancherla — wrote Unreliable Narrator and is on Instagram @aparnapkin: www.aparnacomedy.com

— Ryan Letts — runs Pando Integration Coaching

— Jennifer Kahnweiler — hosts Introvert Ally and wrote The Genius of Opposites: www.jenniferkahnweiler.com

New to Proxy?

— Try Bisexual Wife Guy — it's one of the clearest examples of what this show does

If this episode hit something for you: 

— Try Mic Chooses the Wrong Life — when the road not taken won’t leave you alone

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At the heart of many family estrangements lies a mystery. Adult kids insist they’ve told their parents why they’re walking away, while parents say they don’t understand. Why is it sometimes so hard for parents to hear their kids? And how to get through?

From the episode: 

— Becca Bland — follow her work with families and people surviving estrangement: www.beccabland.com

— Joshua Coleman — read New Rules of Estrangement, subscribe to his newsletter Family Troubles, and learn more: www.drjoshuacoleman.com

— Kim Nederveen Pieterse — listen to more of her reporting: www.kimnp.org

New to Proxy?

— Try Bisexual Wife Guy — one of the clearest examples of what this show does

— Or Yaroslava Can’t Go Back Home — on grieving relationships that have changed in ways you can’t undo

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The case of the mom who doesn’t understand, and the daughter who’s done explaining.

From the episode: 

— Chess Dugas — makes The Scapegoat Club on YouTube and TikTok: @thesscapegoatclub

— Joshua Coleman — wrote New Rules of Estrangement and publishes the newsletter Family Troubles: www.drjoshuacoleman.com

— Kim Nederveen Pieterse — listen to more of her reporting: www.kimnp.org

New to Proxy?

— Try Bisexual Wife Guy — it's one of the clearest examples of what this show does

— Or An Estrangement Mystery — wanting to understand why a relationship ended—and not being able to

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Alex used to host a huge podcast (Reply All). He now makes a new independent show and loves doing it. Only problem is, Alex now has to ask for money all the time to survive, which he hates.

From the episode: 

— Alex Goldman — host of the podcast Hyperfixed: www.hyperfixedpod.com

— Haley Bash — founder of Donor Organizer Hub, a support network for people fundraising for under-resource causes: www.donororganizerhub.org

— The Accidental Fundraiser — Haley's step-by-step guide to raising money for your cause

New to Proxy?

— Try Bisexual Wife Guy — one of the clearest examples of what this show does

— Or The First Ever Extrovert–Introvert Cage Match — when friends just have very different ways of being

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Ever since the election, Sandy Ernest Allen has been clocking a strange silence from cis people about trans rights. So Sandy reached into the void to hear what the silence had to say.

From the episode: 

— Sandy Ernest Allen — writes the newsletter What's Helping Today:  www.sandyernestallen.com

— "To Cis People Who Feel Despair" — Sandy's guide to supporting trans people

— The post on Bluesky: @sandyernestallen

— Support Sandy's writing: https://buymeacoffee.com/sandyallen

New to Proxy?

— Try Bisexual Wife Guy — one of the clearest examples of what this show does

If this episode hit something for you: 

— Or Nicole Can’t Stop Being Aggro — when the world feels overwhelming—and it starts to take over how you feel

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