Nicole is an organizer who's good at channeling her anger. The problem is she can't always downshift. 

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Deborah Gould, a Professor and Chair of Sociology at UC Santa Cruz
• Read Debbie's book Moving Politics: Emotion and ACT UP's Fight Against AIDS
• For liner notes and reading recs from Debbie and Nicole, sign up for our newsletter by becoming a free member of our Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/ProxyPodcast

Radiotopia’s fall fundraiser is in full swing! Proxy is a part of Radiotopia, a collective of independent, creator-owned podcasts. Not only does your donation support Proxy and every show in the network, it’s a vote of confidence in independent media. Help us reach 1,500 supporters by Dec 31st by making your gift today at http://bit.ly/4hyFNhi

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This week, we're presenting an episode of one of our favorite podcasts. 

Heavyweight, hosted by Jonathan Goldstein, creates space for difficult conversations and resolving long-standing regrets and unanswered questions. Balancing humor and empathy, host Jonathan Goldstein helps his subjects pinpoint the moment things went wrong and joins them on a quest to make them right.

This episode is about Anita, who, on her flight, to emigrate from Italy in 1959, was tasked with babysitting a two-year-old boy being brought to the US for adoption. During the flight, Anita fell in love with the child, and for the rest of her life, she wondered what became of him.

Find Heavyweight wherever you get your podcasts.

Erin wants to forgive the person she's holding a grudge against, but doesn't know how. Is it possible to just disappear resentment?

From the episode: 

• Find Robert Enright's forgiveness program and other free resources at the International Forgiveness Institute: www.internationalforgiveness.com
• Read Bob's book Forgiveness Is A Choice: A Step-By-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope
• Learn more about Bob and his research

This week kicks off Radiotopia’s fall fundraiser! Proxy is a part of Radiotopia, a collective of independent, creator-owned podcasts. Not only does your donation support Proxy and every show in the network, it’s a vote of confidence in independent media. Help us reach 1,500 supporters by making your gift today at http://bit.ly/4hyFNhi

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Yowei and bedraggled podcast spouse Kyle broadcast (sorta) live from their car about where the campaign is at. 

Today Oct. 31st is the last day of our drive to reach 1000 paying Patreon members, so we can get an additional $25k from a generous listener and cover the costs of making a year two.

We're so close! Latest count: 946!

https://www.patreon.com/cw/ProxyPodcast

Yaroslava’s town in Ukraine was taken by Russians. She's now safe in the US. But how do you make a new life when you feel guilty about not being home?

For one week every summer at Dignity Beyond Borders, young people from all over the world who've suffered a traumatic loss due to political violence come together to kayak, make art, and have proxy conversations about topics like this. 

A special conversation between Yaroslava,  a 1st-time camper, and Sariyah Abuzant, a 26-year-old woman from Palestine, sho's been to the camp a few times. 

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Dignity Beyond Borders at www.dignitybeyondborders.org and follow them on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn @dignitybeyondborders
• Follow Yaroslava on Instagram @yasiiaaaa
• Watch Sariyah Abuzant's film "FordDat" at https://vimeo.com/1101397354?fl=pl&fe=sh

Help us get to 1000 paying Patreon members by Oct. 31st to cover the costs of making a year two of Proxy! We're so close. We're at 851 right now. 

Proxy is an independent podcast and we rely mostly on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get exclusive premium episodes, ad-free episodes, and access to the chat. To just get our newsletter, join our Patreon for free 🍏

Get 15% off OneSkin with the code PROXY at https://www.oneskin.co/ 

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How close are we to getting to 1000 paying Patreon members so we can cover the costs of making a year two?!

Plus, a conversation with introvert ally (and extrovert) Jennifer Kahnweiler on the changes she's made to get along better with the introverts in her life. 

To listen to the full exclusive premium episode, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get ad-free episodes, exclusive premium episodes, access to the chat, and other goodies. To just get our newsletter, join our Patreon for free 🍏

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Jennifer Kahnweiler, listen to her podcast Introvert Ally, and read her book The Genius of Opposites

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A historic step in extrovert-introvert relations i.e. a proxy bloodbath roundtable with 2 extroverts and 2 introverts airing our grievances about each other. 

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Aparna Nancherla, read her book Unreliable Narrator, and follow her on Instagram @aparnapkin
• Learn more about Ryan Letts at Pando Integration Coaching
• Learn more about Jennifer Kahnweiler, listen to her podcast Introvert Ally, and read her book The Genius of Opposites

This is a special membership campaign episode! Help us get to 1000 paying Patreon members by Oct. 31st to cover the costs of making another year of emotional investigative journalism! 

Proxy is an independent podcast and we rely mostly on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get exclusive premium episodes, ad-free episodes, and access to the chat. To just get our newsletter, join our Patreon for free 🍏

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At the heart of many family estrangements lies a mystery. Adult kids insist they’ve told their parents why they’re walking away, while parents say they don’t understand. Why is it sometimes so hard for parents to hear their kids? And how to get through?

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Becca Bland and her work with families and people surviving estrangement
• Learn more about Joshua Coleman, subscribe to his newsletter Family Troubles, and read his book New Rules of Estrangement
• Learn more about reporter Kim Nederveen Pieterse

This is a special membership campaign episode! Help us get to 1500 paying Patreon members by Oct. 9th to cover the costs of making another year of emotional investigative journalism! 

Proxy is an independent podcast and we rely mostly on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get exclusive premium episodes, ad-free episodes, and access to the chat. To just get our newsletter, join our Patreon for free 🍏

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The case of the mom who doesn’t understand, and the daughter who’s done explaining.

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Chess Dugas, subscribe to her YouTube channel The Scapegoat Club, and follow her on TikTok
• Learn more about Joshua Coleman, subscribe to his newsletter Family Troubles, and read his book New Rules of Estrangement
• Learn more about reporter Kim Nederveen Pieterse

Help us get to 1500 paying Patreon members by Oct. 9th to cover the costs of making another year of emotional investigative journalism!

Proxy is an independent podcast and we rely mostly on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get exclusive premium episodes, ad-free episodes, and access to the chat. To just get our newsletter, join our Patreon for free 🍏

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Alex used to host a huge podcast (Reply All). He now makes a new independent show called Hyperfixed. He loves making it. Only problem is, Alex now has to ask for money all the time to survive, which he hates doing.

From the episode: 

• Listen to Alex Goldman's new podcast Hyperfixed
• Learn more about Haley Bash and Donor Organizer Hub, a support network for people who fundraise for under-resourced causes
• The Accidental Fundraiser, Haley's step-by-step guide to raising money for your cause

Proxy is an independent podcast and we rely mostly on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get exclusive premium episodes, ad-free episodes, and access to the chat. To just get our newsletter, join our Patreon for free 🍏

Help us get to 1500 Patreon members this month, to cover the costs of making another year of emotional investigative journalism! https://www.patreon.com/ProxyPodcast

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Ever since the election, Sandy Ernest Allen has been clocking a strange silence from cis people about trans rights. So Sandy reached into the void to hear what the silence had to say.

From the episode: 

• Learn more about Sandy Ernest Allen and his work
• Sandy's newsletter What's Helping Today
• For suggestions on how to support trans people, read"To Cis People Who Feel Despair"
• Follow Sandy on Bluesky @sandyernestallen and see the post
• Support Sandy's writing with a tip: https://buymeacoffee.com/sandyallen

Proxy is an independent podcast and we rely mostly on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get exclusive premium episodes, ad-free episodes, and access to the chat. To just get our newsletter, join our Patreon for free 🍏

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