Why are you obsessed with the person who barely texts back, but getting the ick from the one who actually likes you?

In this episode, Louisa unpacks why we’re often attracted to emotionally unavailable people, how childhood attachment patterns shape who we choose, and why chemistry isn’t always the green flag we think it is.

Anxious and avoidant attachment, hot and cold dating, nervous system familiarity, situationships, and how to stop confusing anxiety with attraction. Plus, how to retrain yourself to actually want the safe, secure love you keep saying you want.

Annoying? Slightly. Empowering? Very.

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In this episode, we’re unlearning the “low maintenance” mindset the one that convinces you that needing less will make you easier to love. Spoiler: it won’t. Hello boundaries.Socials, Programs & More from Unlearn with Louisa⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/unlearnwithlouisa⁠⁠⁠Coaching Questions & [email protected] Questions & [email protected]

If you know you’re someone who gets easily triggered in relationships and spirals into an anxious state, save this episode as your next lifeline. This is for when you’re in the thick of it when you want to find sanity, come back to yourself, and swim to safety without drowning in the anxiety or creating a huge mess along the way.

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Found yourself in a situationship? Has it lead to a few late night convos with ChatGPT? My thoughts are with you. However, let's make it, so it works for you, rather than against you.

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Do you have a deep fear of missing out? Do you fear living alone? Or do you always end up in a relationship even when you intended to stay single? Deep down you may have a fear of being alone, and what that would mean for you. In this weeks episode we build awareness around what that fear is and learn, how to unlearn it! Happy listening.

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Do you have an energetic attachment to that one person? Your ex? An old flame? Or that half relationship that never went anywhere? This is the episode where you find freedom from those gut wrenching fantasies for good

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Having doubts about your relationship? This episode helps you unlearn “I should stay” and get curious about what you actually want.

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Welcome to 2026! It's time to get defensive about making this your best year yet, beyond that January high motivation period. Unlock the key to making lasting change in this episode.

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It's time to reflect on the year that was, so you can preserve everything you've learnt and make it work for you in 2026.

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Leaving a relationship rarely happens in one big, dramatic final moment. Instead it happens discreetly, in the stories you stop sharing, the tension you learn to live with, and the gut feelings you keep pushing away.

In this episode, I walk you through six powerful signs your relationship may be coming to an end. Not to convince you to leave, but to help you listen more honestly to yourself about what they may mean.

This isn’t an episode about giving up on relationships.It’s about unlearning the belief that love means enduring at your own expense, and recognising the difference between healthy effort and emotional self-abandonment.

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I don’t know if this is bad enough to leave,” or “is this really it?" this conversation is for you.

By the end of this episode, my hope is that you feel clearer, more grounded, and more connected to your own truth whatever your next move.

With love, always,Louisa

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We’re diving into the art of not completely losing it after a breakup. Emotional regulation isn’t always glamorous, but it is the difference between healing with dignity… and sending your ex a novel at 2 a.m.

Breakups bring big feelings, and without some structure, those feelings can spiral into shame and more overwhelm. It becomes a loop that’s hard to climb out of. So lets avoid that shall we?

Today, we’re breaking down the four key principles of emotional regulation. Let's unlearn.

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