Would you let your 10-year-old walk to the store alone? Have a sleepover at someone else's house? Bring a phone to school at nine? Fail a test you KNOW they didn't study for? Tell you they don't like the way you've been parenting them?

By bestie demand, we're BACK with Part 2 of “Would You Let Your Kid...?” and somehow, the questions are even more controversial this time. Deena came prepared with a whole new list of parenting dilemmas that Kristin had absolutely ZERO warning about. Which is great, except apparently she made a list of every single parenting decision that keeps Kristin up at night. We get into some of the super tricky stuff in parenting like:

- Sleepovers: Why we went from a HARD no to changing our minds (and the very specific circumstances that made us reconsider).

- Phones at nine: Why we're holding off, the pressure parents are facing, and the complicated reasons some families make a different choice

- Letting kids fail: Would we let our kids bomb a test they didn't study for? And when is there something deeper going on than simply not trying?

- Independence vs. safety: Would we let our 10-year-olds walk to a store alone? This one sent us into a full-blown spiral.

- The friend you secretly can't stand: What to do when your kid has THAT friend, and why telling them how you really feel might backfire.

- Letting your kids call YOU out: Why we actually invite our kids to tell us when we've hurt their feelings, even when we think we've done nothing wrong.

And because apparently we hadn't debated enough, we finish with a rapid-fire round involving a $400 LEGO set, a pet snake, face tattoos, and whether we'd legally let our child change their name to Chicken Nugget. Yes, seriously. We're sharing what we actually do in our own homes, where we disagree, and the parenting decisions we're STILL figuring out ourselves. Come for the hot takes. Stay for Kristin's existential crisis.

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Why does your kid only listen when you FINALLY lose it and yell? Are you accidentally making meltdowns worse? And how the hell are you supposed to raise a confident, resilient kid when every day feels like one giant power struggle??

If you’ve ever asked your kid to put their shoes on 12 times, felt judged for accommodating their needs, or watched your kid get rejected by friends and wanted to march straight onto that playground yourself, this episode is for YOU.

Today, child therapist Deena is tackling the real-life parenting problems - sent in by the besties - that leave us exhausted, second-guessing ourselves, and wondering, “Am I handling any of this right?”

And she’s sharing the practical, research-backed shifts that can completely change how you handle them. We’re getting into:

• Why yelling actually WORKS (and why that’s a problem): The surprising reason your kids ignore the first 14 requests, but magically listen when you explode - and how to break that cycle.
• The Halloween candy trap: The common mistake that can make your kid even MORE obsessed with sugar, and how to end the candy battles for good.
• Meltdowns, fears, and big feelings: What to do when your child is completely overwhelmed, and the simple preparation trick that can prevent a whole buncha meltdowns before they start in the first place.
• Sensory struggles vs. “giving in”: Is accommodating your child’s needs making them less resilient?? Deena gets personal about what she’s learned raising an autistic child.
• When your kid is excluded by friends: How to protect their confidence, know when to step in, and teach them to handle rejection without believing something is wrong with them.

Here’s the thing: You can be doing everything you THINK you’re supposed to do as a parent and still be making your life harder than it needs to be. Let’s take the pressure off and calm the chaos. Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs come from changing one small thing in how you respond.

This episode is packed with those moments - the kind that make you go, “WAIT. Why has nobody explained it to me like that before?!” And translate into real life results - less yelling, fewer power struggles, and more confidence in yourself AND your kids.

Press play. You’re going to want these tools in your back pocket.

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A listener favorite, back by popular demand! This conversation feels more relevant than ever. We're revisiting one of our most important episodes about raising boys and the small, science-backed things we can do today to shape the men they'll become. Because how we raise our boys today matters for the world they'll help shape tomorrow.

If you’re raising a boy, this episode will light a fire in you - in the best, most empowering way. Because here’s the truth: The kind of men our boys become is not random - it’s not just personality, or fate. It’s shaped - day by day - in childhood. In how we respond to their anger, their tears, their mistakes.

Parents are not just witnessing who their sons become; we are actively building the men they will be - through parenting. And the most hopeful part? There are concrete, science-backed things you can start doing today that measurably shift your child’s emotional trajectory - and the kind of partner, friend, and human he will one day be.

In this bold, honest, sometimes funny-so-you-don’t-cry episode, Deena goes straight at the stuff that feels big and scary to say out loud: male entitlement, emotional shutdown, aggression, consent failures, unequal partnership, and why “boys will be boys” has quietly lowered the bar for generations. Then, she flips the script - with science, real stories, and concrete parenting tools you can start literally today - so you walk away knowing exactly how to raise a boy who feels deeply, respects boundaries, takes accountability, and is safe to love.

Here are the 10 daily actions that turn little boys into great men - starting TODAY:

• Why emotional skills in men are built - or blocked - in early childhood

• The critical difference between allowing anger vs. allowing harm

• How to teach consent and bodily autonomy starting in toddlerhood

• Why boys receive less emotional coaching (and how to change that)

• Rough play, wrestling, and what it’s actually doing in the brain

• Teaching boys about periods, care work, and partnership early

• How to build empathy and perspective-taking in daily moments

• Accountability and repair: the skill many men never learned

• Why punishment and shame backfire - especially for boys

• The core message boys need about love, power, and safety

You’ll leave this episode feeling seen in the weight of raising boys today, and radically empowered in how much influence you actually have. Because you’re not just raising a child; you’re shaping the kind of man the world will one day meet. And once you hear this, you’ll parent your son differently tomorrow morning.

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Have you ever spent your entire life feeling like you're too much, too sensitive, too scattered, too difficult, or just somehow failing at things that seem SO easy for everyone else? Or maybe you're raising a child who hears those exact same things. This episode will completely change the way you see yourself AND your child.

Today, fan favorite, my husband Tyler (VP Hype Squad) is joining me for one of our most personal conversations yet. We were both diagnosed with neurodivergence at 37. I have ADHD, Tyler has autism and ADHD, and as it turns out, we're raising a whole lot of neurospicy kids ourselves. We're sharing what we wish we'd known about our brains decades ago, and the things we've learned that have completely changed how we live and parent.

In this episode, you'll learn:

•The hidden cost of masking: What actually happens when you spend your entire life forcing yourself to appear "normal," and how that constant effort to fit in can lead to exhaustion, burnout, and losing your sense of who you really are.

•Why ADHD and autism are so often missed, especially in women: And why you might have spent decades calling yourself lazy, dramatic, difficult, or a failure when there was a completely different explanation.

•How to stop fighting against your own brain: The life-changing shifts we've made since our diagnoses that have helped us let go of shame, work WITH our brains, and finally give ourselves some damn grace.

•Exactly how we're parenting our neurodivergent kids differently: The questions we ask instead of assuming our kids are being difficult, how we're helping them build skills that actually work for their brains, and what we're doing to make sure they don't grow up believing there's something wrong with them.

•How to break the cycle of shame: Because we know firsthand what it feels like to spend your childhood trying desperately to be someone else, and we want something radically different for our kids.

Whether you have ADHD or autism, suspect you might, love someone who does, or are raising a child who experiences the world a little differently, this is an episode you need to hear. Because imagine what could change if you finally understood why certain things have always been so hard for you. And imagine what could change for your child if they never had to spend 37 years figuring that out.

Plus, Tyler shares his deeply passionate ranking of public bathrooms around the world. Because apparently that's where this conversation needed to go.

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Everyone’s Bravo husband is in the house: CRAIG CONOVER. We can’t believe AND we get into ALL. OF. IT. Southern Charm. Austen. Shep. The breakup. Growing up on reality TV. Because we’ve basically watched Craig grow up in real time.

We watched him party, get dragged for sewing, navigate ADHD, build a business, fall in love, go through a VERY public breakup, change his relationship with alcohol, and eventually realize… wait, maybe I actually LIKE staying home, going to the gym, sewing pillows, and not waking up hungover? But underneath that evolution is a much bigger story about what happens when you stop trying to be who everyone else expects you to be. Craig gets incredibly open with Kristin about ADHD, bullying, alcohol, loneliness, self-trust, and learning to build a life that actually feels like him.

A little sneak peek of what we get into:

* The ADHD hacks Craig actually uses to get shit done, including one we’re stealing immediately

* Why changing his relationship with alcohol changed way more than his mornings

* The moment he realized some of the people closest to him wanted the “old” Craig back

* What his breakup taught him about loneliness, codependency, and being alone

* What ADHD looked like as a kid, in law school, on reality TV, and now as an entrepreneur

* The bullying he never told his parents about — and how being “different” shaped him

* Austen. Shep. Madison. And where those relationships stand now

* And the ultimate full-circle moment: how sewing went from the thing everyone made fun of to a business, a life, and now a children’s book

Because maybe the thing people told you was weird about you isn’t something you need to get rid of. Maybe it’s the thing that makes you YOU.

Turns out: we should have just let Craig sew.

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You can be wildly self-aware, deeply loving, in therapy, reading all the books, trying your absolute hardest - and still turn into a completely different person the second your relationship gets hard.

Maybe you start explaining yourself, clarifying and clarifying. Or, maybe you shut down and can’t find a single word. Maybe you need to fix it RIGHT NOW while your partner needs hours, or days, to process and be ready to talk about it all. Maybe you say “I’m fine” while internally writing a dissertation called Actually, I Am Not Fine At All and I Want You to Notice. Or, maybe you keep having the same fight in different outfits and cannot figure out why you both keep ending up in the exact same place.

That is what this episode is about. Welcome to the Attachment Styles episode. This is about looking at yourself closely enough to notice the moves you make automatically when connection gets hard, where those moves came from, and whether they are actually helping you build the relationship you want. Because sometimes, the thing that feels completely reasonable in the moment is also the exact thing keeping the cycle alive - until you notice and name it.

Maybe you pursue harder because you want closeness, and your partner pulls away even more. Or perhaps you shut down because you need space, and the other person experiences that as abandonment. Maybe you people-please to keep the peace and then quietly resent everyone involved. Or you wait for your partner to magically know what you need because having to ask somehow makes it feel less meaningful.

Good news: None of this means you are doomed at relationships. It means you have patterns. We all do - and once you can actually see yours, you finally have something to work with.

In this episode, Deena gets into what attachment styles actually mean in real life, how they show up in conflict, and how two people who genuinely love each other can accidentally create a dynamic that leaves both of them feeling completely misunderstood.

You’ll walk away knowing how to:

Spot your own “protective move” before it takes over the entire conversation

Understand why you chase, withdraw, defend, over-function, people-please, or go emotionally offline

Say what you actually need instead of turning your needs into a test your partner doesn’t know they’re taking

Take space without abandoning the conversation

Take accountability for your impact without shaming yourself for having a history

Repair after conflict in a way that changes the pattern instead of just producing another apology

Build more security inside yourself and your relationships without becoming some perfectly regulated robot who never gets triggered

This episode will also be the accountability nudge you might just need to grow. Because understanding yourself isn’t about giving yourself a new excuse; “I have an anxious attachment style” isn’t a free pass to make your partner responsible for regulating every uncomfortable feeling. “I shut down during conflict” doesn’t mean everyone around you has to accept that hard conversations never happen. Your history can explain your reactions, without getting to run the whole damn show. This is where the power is.

You’ll leave this episode empowered - with the new skill of being able to catch the moment where the old pattern usually takes over and ask, “Do I actually want to do this again?” You get to stop making the same move and being shocked when you land in the same place. Learn how to stay connected without disappearing inside the relationship, how to ask for what you need without abandoning yourself, and how to move through conflict without treating every hard moment like proof that something is fundamentally wrong.

So if you’ve ever thought, “Why am I like this in relationships?” or “Why do we keep having this SAME fight?” this episode is your map. Relationship patterns are learned - they’re practiced, they can feel automatic as hell. BUT they do not get the final say. This episode is about growing and healing, and it’ll transform your current relationships - with others, and yourself.

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You walk into a room and have absolutely no idea why you’re there. You can’t find the word you were JUST about to say. You’re exhausted, foggy, forgetful - and everyone tells you: welcome to motherhood.

But… what if we stopped brushing all of it off??

Today, Deena sits down with Emma Heming Willis and clinical psychologist Dr. Nicole Beurkens from Make Time Wellness for a fascinating (and refreshingly non-doom-and-gloom) conversation about women’s brain health and why we should be thinking about our brains LONG before there’s a problem - especially in the context of potential Alzheimer’s disease prevention. 

We’re getting into brain fog, hormones, perimenopause, sleep, movement, stress, dementia risk, and the simple things we can start doing now to support our brains for the long haul. And thankfully, this is NOT another episode telling you to wake up at 5 a.m., meditate for 45 minutes, eat superfoods, hit 10,000 steps and become a completely different person by Tuesday.

You’ll learn:

• When brain fog and forgetfulness are part of a season (and when it’s worth talking to your doctor)
• The five basic pillars that support brain health over time
• What’s actually happening inside your brain while you sleep
• Why you absolutely do NOT need a perfect workout routine
• Why women are at greater risk for Alzheimer’s disease - and why prevention starts decades before we think it does
• How to advocate for yourself when a doctor tells you everything is “normal” but you know something feels off

Plus why 10,000 steps is not the magical number we’ve been led to believe, why the exercise you’ll actually do wins, what your 30s and 40s have to do with your brain decades from now, and how to advocate for yourself when a healthcare provider dismisses what you know you’re feeling.

This isn’t about becoming afraid of getting older. It’s about realizing we have more power than we think - and your brain deserves to be part of the conversation NOW.

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Would you let your kid wear pajamas to school? Forget their homework and face the consequences? Tell Grandma they don’t want a hug? Quit a sport halfway through the season? Eat candy for breakfast? You probably have an immediate answer to at least a few of those. But here’s where it gets interesting: What if the parenting “rule” you’re following is actually making things harder for your kid… and for you?

SO much of parenting is spent wondering: Am I holding a healthy boundary…or am I fighting a battle that literally does not matter? Am I helping my kid…or rescuing them? Am I teaching resilience…or ignoring what my specific kid actually needs? If you’ve ever spiraled over whether you’re being too strict, too permissive, too involved, or somehow doing the exact thing that’s going to screw up your kid forever, this is the episode you need.

We're playing an unfiltered round of “Would You Let Your Kid...?” and get into the parenting decisions that sound black-and-white online but get a whole lot messier IRL.

We get into:

* Pajamas at school and how to know when a battle is actually worth fighting

* Forgotten homework and when helping is NOT the same thing as “rescuing”

* Why your kid should always be allowed to say no to a hug — even with Grandma

* Allowance, chores, and whether you let them blow their own money on something completely ridiculous

* Sleepovers, birthday party exclusions, and quitting a sport mid-season

* How neurodivergence can completely change what the “right” answer looks like

Between the hot takes and spicy debates, we get into the fact that there usually isn’t one clear answer for every kid. Sometimes it's yes. Sometimes it’s absolutely no. And sometimes you just have to know the kid standing in front of you before you can answer at all.

If you’ve been second-guessing your parenting lately, listen to this one. You might walk away realizing you can let go of way more than you thought.

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If you watched Amanda Kloots during the early days of COVID, you probably remember her story. Her husband, Nick Cordero, spent 95 days in the hospital before dying from complications of COVID-19. Their son, Elvis, had just turned one. And Amanda was suddenly living a life she never, ever imagined for herself.

But this conversation isn't just about what Amanda lost. It's about everything that comes after.

Six years later, Amanda sits down with Kristin for an incredibly honest conversation about grief, motherhood, resilience, love, and what it means to keep building a life when the one you planned disappears.

Amanda opens up about something we don't talk about enough: you don't actually "get over" the people you lose. You don't have to stop loving them in order to love someone new. And finding moments of happiness doesn't mean you're grieving them any less.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- The tiny rule Amanda swore by to get her through her darkest days

- Why the best thing her friends did after Nick died involved almost no words at all

- The advice she'd immediately retire when talking to someone who's grieving,

- Why she refuses to pretend her marriage was perfect just because Nick is gone.

- Her perspective on what grieving people ACTUALLY need

We also talk about the signs Amanda still receives from Nick, raising Elvis with his dad's memory woven into their everyday life, her unexpected friendship with Harry Jowsey, and the part of her future she's still scared might never happen.

And maybe the biggest takeaway: grief and joy aren't opposites. You can be devastated and laugh. You can miss someone forever and still want something new. You can deeply love the life you have while still grieving the life you thought you'd have.

You'll leave this episode with a completely different perspective on grief, what it actually means to "move forward," and how to show up for someone you love when there truly are no right words.

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Our last Q&A became our MOST-LISTENED-TO episode, so Besties: WE’RE BACK. You sent us your hardest parenting questions, and once again, we’re answering them all. Your kid was doing GREAT, and then school started and suddenly they’re melting down, fighting everything, and acting like a completely different person. Your three-year-old has turned absolutely feral since the new baby arrived. And what do you do when you KNOW you need therapy, but adding one more thing to your schedule feels literally impossible?

We cover:

Back-to-school meltdowns and why your kid suddenly seems like a completely different person

What’s actually happening when kids hold it together all day at school and completely fall apart at home

How to make the back-to-school transition easier (and why now might be the time to LOWER demands)

Why three-year-olds can feel absolutely feral, and the small shifts that can prevent some of the biggest daily power struggles

New sibling jealousy, meltdowns, and helping your older child adjust to a new baby

What to do when YOU are completely at capacity

How to make time for therapy when you literally do not have one more hour to give

The mindset shift that can completely change how you think about taking care of your own mental health

Plus:

Kristin is in an anxiety spiral, Deena is officially having a midlife crisis, we reveal what we’re watching right now (or why Kristin is watching absolutely fucking nothing), and somehow we land on spa baths as a legitimate mental health intervention. Basically: feral toddlers, back-to-school chaos, nervous systems, therapy, and the real-life strategies that will help your whole family get through this season with a little more ease.

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If your kid has ever looked you directly in the eyes and lied, even when you KNOW they know that you know the truth…you probably know the immediate panic spiral:

Why are they lying to me? Is this normal? Can I trust them? If they're doing this at five, what happens when they're FIFTEEN?!

And suddenly, this isn't about who ate the cookie or knocked over the toy, you're imagining your teenager lying about where they are, who they're with, what happened at the party, or something much, much bigger.

But here's what most of us get wrong: If we want to raise kids who tell us the truth when it really matters, we have to be careful that our reaction to lying doesn't accidentally teach them that telling us the truth is dangerous.

In this episode, Deena puts on her child therapist hat and breaks down what's actually happening when kids lie and why lying doesn't automatically mean you're raising a dishonest kid. In fact, there are several completely different reasons kids lie, and each one needs a different response.

You'll leave this episode knowing why your kid is lying, what their lie is actually trying to accomplish, and exactly how to respond in the moment plus:

- What to say when you know they're lying

- When to use consequences

- Why you don't need to force a confession

- How to hold your boundary without making your kid afraid to tell you the truth next time.

Most importantly, you'll learn exactly what to say and do when your kid lies to your face, without being permissive, letting them "get away with it," shaming them, or turning the whole thing into a 45-minute interrogation.

Someday, the mistake won't be a stolen cookie, an iPad after bedtime, or marker on the table. It'll be something bigger. And in that moment, we want the thought that's louder than I'm going to be in so much trouble to be:

I need to tell my mom.

This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.

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