- 23 minutes 45 seconds179: Stop Being the Good Girl. Become BOSSY.
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They called you bossy. They called you demanding. They called you difficult.
Good.
In this episode Margarita makes the full case for being self led, why women are trained from childhood to outsource their own lives to
other people's comfort, and why the burnout, brain fog and confusion so many women are feeling right now is coming from one place.
You have stopped leading yourself.
In this episode:
1. Self led women know what they want and are not afraid to say it
2. We are taught as little girls that being easy is rewarded
3. Being self led is not controlling others it is running your own life
4. Indecisiveness is one of the most expensive things you can do to yourself
5. Confidence looks bossy when people are not used to it
6. Women apologize before they even finish the thought
7. The fear is not of being bossy it is the fear of rejection
8. Every successful woman has been called bossy at some point
9. Someone is always steering your life if it is not you
10. What would you do if nobody was watching and nobody cared
If you say I do not mind so often you have forgotten what you do mind, if you apologize before you even finish the thought, or if you feel like you are living someone else's version of your life, this one is for you bossy girl.
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23 August 2026, 10:30 am - 16 minutes 19 seconds178: Emotional Independence Will Change Your Life
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Every man's ex is crazy. Have you noticed that?
In this episode Margarita reclaims the word crazy and breaks down why emotional sovereignty is one of the most powerful things a woman can develop, why the cool girl performance is slowly killing you, and why feeling your emotions deeply is not your weakness.
It is your greatest asset.
In this episode:
1. Emotions are information not instructions to act
2. Emotional independence means stopping expecting others to regulate you
3. A regulated woman still cries and still gets angry
4. Stop treating every feeling like an emergency
5. Femininity is not emotional chaos it is leading your own emotions
6. Learn the difference between intuition and activation
7. Peace is not something a man gives you it is something you build
8. Stop outsourcing your self worth
9. Emotional maturity is the most attractive thing you can develop
10. The goal is not crazy amounts of happiness it is stability and joy
If you have been called crazy for having a completely valid reaction, if you suppress your emotions just to seem cool, or if you are handing your emotional regulation to everyone around you, this one is for you.
Welcome to emotional sovereignty.
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16 August 2026, 10:30 am - 22 minutes 6 seconds177: Stop Being Low Maintenance. It’s Making You Easy to Ignore.
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You have been trying so hard to be easy. Easy going. Easy to love. No requirements. No fuss.
And yet here you are.
In this episode Margarita makes the full case for being high maintenance and why the women who know what they want, ask for it unapologetically, and refuse to shrink themselves are the ones who get everything.
In this episode:
1. High maintenance is just a person who knows themselves
2. We are taught as little girls that being easy is rewarded
3. Low maintenance often becomes emotional dishonesty
4. How can a man meet the needs he does not know exist
5. Stop confusing standards with entitlement
6. The psychology of self silencing and why it kills relationships
7. Your needs are not problems, they are preferences
8. The fear of being high maintenance comes from a scarcity mindset
9. The healthiest women are actually quite specific
10. Stop trying to be easy to love because it does not exist
If you have been making yourself small so people will like you more, pretending to be fine when you are not, or following him around and forgetting to have preferences of your own, this one is for you.
Welcome to the high maintenance club.
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9 August 2026, 10:30 am - 20 minutes 4 seconds176: The More Useful You Are, The Less You’re Valued
The more you do for him the more he will love you. That is what they told you. That is wrong.
In this episode Margarita breaks down the psychology of why making yourself useful is actually costing you the love, respect and value you are trying to earn.T his one is going to change how you show up in every relationship in your life.
In this episode:
1. Women are taught that love is earned through usefulness
2. The IKEA effect and why effort creates value
3. Stop robbing men of the chance to contribute
4. Useful is not memorable, it just fades into the background
5. Being needed and being loved are not the same thing
6. Every yes teaches people what to expect from you
7. Difficulty creates investment, not manipulation
8. Being low maintenance becomes self abandonment
9. Make people earn access to you through standards not games
10. Become unforgettable, not indispensable
If you do everything and still do not feel valued, if you have made yourself so convenient you have disappeared, or if you are needed but not truly chosen, this one is for you.
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2 August 2026, 10:30 am - 21 minutes 41 seconds175: You’re Not Lazy. You’re Exhausted From Proving Yourself.
Busy is not a badge of honour. It is a trap. And if you are reading this while doing three other things, this episode is specifically for you.
In this episode, Margarita makes a full unapologetic case for laziness. Why the pressure on women to be endlessly productive is not ambition. It is performance. And it is running you into the ground.
We talk about why your body is not a machine, why the 9 to 5 was literally built around male hormones and not yours, why productivity can become a sneaky way of avoiding yourself, and why the women who are actually winning are the ones who know when to stop.
In this episode:
Why a busy woman is not always a good woman
Why laziness and efficiency are a lot closer than you think
Why productivity can become a way of avoiding yourself
Why your 28 day cycle means the 9 to 5 was never built for you
Why nature does not rush and neither should you
Why women carry two shifts and still get called lazy
The difference between performative busyness and productive ambition
Why slower is not smaller and your ambition is yours to define
If you have ever felt guilty for resting, constantly busy but not actually going anywhere, or like you are performing productivity
rather than actually creating, this one is for you. Lazy cow.
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26 July 2026, 10:30 am - 24 minutes 21 seconds174: You Need To Risk Being Disliked
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They taught you that being mean would get you ostracised. They taught you that having boundaries made you difficult. They taught you that disappointing people made you a bad person.
They were wrong.
In this episode, Margarita breaks down why the fear of being called mean is keeping you stuck, small, and silently resentful and why direct, honest, boundaried women aren't mean at all.
They're just no longer convenient.
In this episode:
1. Causing discomfort is not the same as causing harm
2. Mean usually just means you're no longer convenient
3. Niceness without limits becomes unpaid labour
4. Nice girls use niceness to control how people see them
5. Over explaining is fear dressed as communication
6. Women who avoid being mean often become it anyway, through resentment
7. Anger is not a flaw it's a service announcement
8. Kindness without limits becomes slavery
9. The difference between power and cruelty
10. Freedom means you will eventually disappoint someone, choose whose
If you've ever said yes when you meant no and then resented it, over explained yourself just to be liked, or become passive aggressive without meaning to.. this episode is for you.
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19 July 2026, 10:30 am - 21 minutes 1 second173: Why Vain Women Win
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They told you vanity was shallow.
They told you caring about how you look made you stupid.
They told you self beautification was selfish and vain and bad.
They were afraid of what would happen if you started liking yourself.
In this episode, Margarita breaks down the truth about beauty, vanity and self adornment, why it's never been about men, why it's one of the most powerful things a woman can do, and why the women who invest in themselves get more of everything.
In this episode:
1. Everyone cares what they look like, drop the pretense
2. Pretty privilege is real — use it strategically
3. Looking good changes how you behave, and that changes everything
4. The word bimbo was invented to keep you from investing in yourself
5. Vanity is self investment and self sacrifice is not love
6. Your appearance is your first communication
7. If you're a mother, being vain is your duty
8. Vanity and self hatred are completely different things
9. To be desired, you have to desire yourself first
10. Beauty and youth are temporary. Self adornment doesn't have to be
If you've ever felt guilty for caring how you look, disconnected from your femininity, or like you're waiting to glow up after something
instead of right now, this episode is for you.
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12 July 2026, 10:30 am - 24 minutes 48 seconds172: Selfish Girl Blueprint: Stop Being Nice and Get The Life You Want
Your nice girl personality has got you this far. But it's also why you're exhausted, resentful, and running on empty.
In this episode, Margarita breaks down why selfishness isn't a flaw it's the missing ingredient keeping you from the life you actually want.
– Nice girls abandon themselves before anyone else can
– The world rewards agreeable women until it doesn't
– Selfless women become resentful — and it poisons everything
– People don't respect women who don't respect themselves
– Being needed is not the same as being loved
– Stop auditioning — you already have the role
– Selfish women ask for more and get more
– Boundaries don't lose good people — they expose bad ones
– Stop managing everyone else's emotions
– Every successful woman disappoints someone
– Selfish women actually give more — that's the paradox
– Becoming your own favourite person
If you've ever felt like you give everything and still feel invisible, resentful but unable to explain why, or like your whole identity is
built around being useful — this episode is for you.
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5 July 2026, 10:30 am - 17 minutes 46 seconds171: How to Deal With Jealous People
Not everyone in your life is going to like you. Your mother in law. Your colleagues. People online. And the harder you try to convince them otherwise, the worse it gets.
In this episode, Margarita breaks down exactly what to do when you're surrounded by people who don't like you, are jealous of you, or quietly resent you and why trying to be "enough" for them will never work.
In this episode:
— Stop trying to convince people who've already decided who you are
— Jealousy is usually not about you, it's about them
— Not everyone deserves access to you
— Never shrink yourself to make others comfortable
— Success reveals people
— The opposite of jealousy is inspiration
— Never complain, never explain
— You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to
— Stop making peace your responsibility alone
If you've ever felt exhausted from trying to explain yourself to people who won't listen, or like your success makes certain people uncomfortable this episode is for you.
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28 June 2026, 10:30 am - 20 minutes 54 seconds170: Why Selfish Women Get The Life You Want
You were taught that selfishness is a bad word for a woman to be.
Margarita disagrees and she's about to prove it.
In this episode, Margarita breaks down why selfishness is the missing ingredient in your manifestation, your relationships, your boundaries, and your life and why self-sacrifice has been quietly running you dry.
05:46 – #1: Selfish women ask for what they want
08:04 – #2: Selfish women don't volunteer for self sacrifice
10:23 – #3: Selfish women are not afraid to disappoint people
12:11 – #4: Selfish women spend money on themselves
14:56 – #5: Selfish women protect their energy
16:24 – #6: Selfish women have higher standards
17:39 – #7: Selfish women understand the irony of life
If you've ever felt depleted from doing everything for everyone, resentful in your relationships but unable to say why, or afraid to
ask for what you actually want this episode is for you.
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21 June 2026, 10:30 am - 22 minutes 56 seconds169: 7 Things Unbothered Women Never Do
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In this episode, Margarita breaks down the 7 things unbothered women never do — the habits, patterns, and behaviours that keep you stuck, small, and auditioning for a life that should already be yours.
02:38 – #1: They never chase clarity (it's just begging)
08:16 – #2: They never make men the centre of their lives
11:37 – #3: They never audition for love
13:18 – #4: They never let anxiety make decisions
16:43 – #5: They never confuse being chosen for being valuable
18:26 – #6: They never over function
21:28 – #7: The unbothered mindset — I want this, not I need this
If you've ever felt anxious, overlooked, and exhausted in love and life, this episode is going to hit.
Because an unbothered woman isn't a woman who cares less. She's a woman who trusts herself more.
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