The Sabrina Zohar Show is your no-BS guide to dating, relationships, and coming home to yourself. Hosted by @sabrina.zohar, this podcast dives deep into the realities of modern love, anxious attachment, and the personal growth it takes to build meaningful connections- not just with others, but with yourself. Formerly known as “Do The Work” the show is all about cutting through the noise. Whether you’re navigating dating burnout, relationship struggles, or learning how to stop overthinking every text, Sabrina brings raw, unfiltered conversations that challenge your patterns, shift your mindset, and help you reclaim your power. Because the real work isn’t just about finding the right person, it’s also about becoming the version of you that feels whole, secure, and unapologetically authentic. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and watch on YouTube. A podcast on dating, anxiety, and doing the work to heal with @Sabrina.zohar (https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar) . Instagram: @thesabrinazoharshow (https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow) TikTok: @sabrina.zohar (https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar) Instagram- @thesabrinazoharshow (https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow) TikTok- @sabrina.zohar (https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar)
For the 200th episode, Sabrina tackles the question she gets asked more than anything: how do you actually believe you're enough? This one breaks down where insecurity really comes from, why "just have more confidence" is bullshit advice, and what social psychologist Mark Leary's sociometer theory reveals about self esteem, rejection, and why one mean comment drowns out a hundred compliments.
If you grew up with conditional love, keep dating emotionally unavailable people, or can't stop missing someone who ran hot and cold, this episode is for you. Sabrina covers how to build real self trust, the difference between anxiety and intuition, why intermittent reinforcement feels like addiction, and the five source check questions that will show you exactly whose voice has been running your internal monologue. Plus the "for now" reframe that will change how you think about being single, stuck, or starting over.
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 Why You Feel Like You're Not Enough
01:39 Self Worth Is Not Bubble Baths
04:40 Insecurity Is An Adaptation
06:21 Why Confidence Comes Before Action
10:36 The Sociometer Self Esteem Gauge
12:24 Why You Pick Emotionally Unavailable People
23:43 Building Self Trust In Dating
25:50 Anxiety Vs Intuition
28:40 Missing Someone Who Was Bad For You
32:17 Tool Of The Week: The Source Check
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The author of Attached, Amir Levine, M.D., is back with a new book called Secure and a whole new framework for understanding why your relationships feel the way they do. In this episode, we get into the biggest misconceptions about anxious and avoidant attachment, the truth about whether you can actually change your attachment style, why avoidants shut down instead of showing up, what a "closeness overdose" is and why it kills perfectly good relationships, and the five pillars of a secure life built around his CARP framework: consistent, available, responsive, reliable, and predictable.
If you've ever been stuck in anxious hyper-vigilance, wondered how to build a secure relationship with someone more avoidant, struggled with limerence and obsessive attachment, or just wanted to stop letting your nervous system run the show, this episode gives you real, research-backed tools to start rewiring your brain toward earned secure attachment starting today.
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE!
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Chapters:
0:00 Intro: Amir Levine & Secure
2:17 From Attached to Secure
3:44 Biggest Attachment Myths Debunked
6:18 The Truth About Avoidant Attachment
7:47 What Is a Closeness Overdose
11:08 Anxious Avoidant Relationships
15:23 The CARP Framework Explained
22:46 Micro Interactions Rewire Your Brain
25:32 Anxious Attachment as a Superpower
35:22 Limerence and Obsessive Attachment
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Are you so afraid of losing someone that you have already lost yourself? In this bonus episode, Sabrina answers listener questions about self-abandonment, emotionally unavailable partners, and why holding on to hope in a low-effort dynamic keeps you stuck in childhood core beliefs instead of building the healthy relationship you deserve. She breaks down dating with detachment, the difference between attention and intention, and how to stop performing for people who are not showing up for you.
Sabrina also gets real about fear of rejection, chasing validation, and the mantras that changed her entire dating life. Plus, she reviews a listener's dating profile and shares exactly what makes a profile memorable versus forgettable. Whether you are navigating the apps, stuck in a situationship going nowhere, or struggling to use your voice and set standards, this episode will help you start choosing yourself first.
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE!
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Chapters:
00:00 Stop Losing Yourself in Dating
02:47 Red Flags You Keep Excusing
04:11 Attention vs Intention in Dating
06:16 Why You Hold On to Hope
10:26 Texting Is Not a Relationship
13:39 What Healthy Relationships Take
16:46 Fear of Losing People
18:08 How to Date With Detachment
23:53 Dating Profile Review With Ryan
31:10 Using Your Voice to Set Standards
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What happens when you have to end a relationship with someone who did nothing wrong? This episode covers the breakup nobody prepares you for: leaving someone good, or being left by someone who simply "isn't feeling it." Sabrina breaks down why love and alignment are not the same thing, how to tell the difference between a rough patch and real incompatibility, and why these breakups can hurt more than the ones with an obvious reason.
Whether you're carrying the guilt of leaving or the confusion of being left with no explanation that makes sense, this episode helps you stop internalizing someone else's feelings as a verdict on your worth. Sabrina shares her own story, the science of breakup recovery, and a tool of the week with journaling prompts for both sides.
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 The Breakup Nobody Talks About
01:54 When Nothing Is Wrong on Paper
06:46 Choosing Yourself Feels Scary
09:22 Why Love and Alignment Differ
15:30 The Brain Science of Heartbreak
21:15 Guilt vs Grief After a Breakup
23:23 Stop Outsourcing Your Validation
26:32 You Were Enough, It Was the Fit
28:17 How to Know If You Should Leave
31:27 Tool of the Week: 7 Day Journal
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Closure is a lie, and waiting for it is keeping you stuck. In this episode of the Hard Truth Series, we get into why closure doesn't come from another person, what your brain is actually doing after a breakup, and why the conversation you keep replaying in your head would never be enough even if you got it. We cover the neuroscience of heartbreak, why searching for "why" makes things worse, and how identity loss after a relationship ends is what's really driving your distress.
If you can't stop thinking about your ex, feel like you need one more explanation to move on, or keep putting your life on hold waiting for them to come back, this one is for you. We break down the difference between processing and rumination, why no contact feels impossible, and how to actually grieve a breakup so you can stop outsourcing your healing to someone who already walked away.
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 Closure Doesn't Come From Them
03:15 Why Your Brain Craves an Explanation
06:30 Audience Questions: Stuck After a Breakup
09:45 The Neuroscience of Heartbreak
13:00 How to Actually Stop Thinking About Your Ex
16:15 Why Journaling Can Make It Worse
19:30 Identity Loss After a Breakup
22:45 What Grief Actually Looks Like
26:00 Reframing Closure as Grief
29:15 Tool of the Week: The Grief Inventory
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If you've ever lost interest the moment someone became available, or stayed obsessed with someone who kept you at arm's length, this episode is for you. Part three of the Hard Truth Series breaks down the most common pattern nobody wants to admit: using relationships to collect proof of your worth instead of building real partnership.
Backed by research on rejection sensitivity and anxious attachment, Sabrina unpacks why chasing external validation creates a cycle no amount of love can fix, how to tell if you are dating for connection or reassurance, and what it actually takes to stop performing and start showing up.
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 Dating for Validation vs Partnership
03:17 Why You're Not Ready for Real Love
07:00 Proof Seeking vs Building Partnership
10:37 Rejection and Self-Worth
15:00 Core Beliefs and the Validation Trap
19:00 Why External Validation Never Fills the Void
23:35 The Research Behind Approval Seeking
26:28 What Validation Dating Actually Costs You
29:21 Are You Performing or Showing Up
32:10 The Validation Check Tool of the Week
Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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Why do you overreact in relationships when the situation doesn't match the emotion? Sabrina sits down with Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist, to break down inner child wounds, how your nervous system stores childhood trauma before you have words to process it, and why certain dating triggers send you spiraling. They dive into emotional attunement, generational trauma, shame, and anxious attachment patterns.
Dr. Nicole shares reparenting tools from her new book, Reparenting The Inner Child, including how to regulate your nervous system and stop self-abandoning in relationships. If you've ever said "I had a great childhood" but still struggle with dating anxiety or abandonment fears, this one's for you.
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
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Chapters:
0:00 Your Reaction Doesn't Match Reality
1:24 Meet Dr. Nicole LePera
3:16 What Is Your Inner Child
5:07 "I Had a Perfect Childhood"
10:00 How Your Nervous System Stores Trauma
14:02 Nature vs Nurture in Attachment
17:32 Body Signals of Inner Child Wounds
19:59 Why Dating Triggers Hit So Hard
23:47 Shame and Self-Sabotage in Love
29:19 Recognizing Triggers in Real Time
36:15 What Reparenting Looks Like
40:44 Nervous System Regulation Tools
46:03 Inner Child Patterns in Relationships
53:24 Healing Is Not a Destination
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You've done the therapy, read the books, and know your attachment style... so why does nothing change? In part 2 of the Hard Truth Series, Sabrina breaks down why you cannot heal your way out of incompatibility. Drawing on real research, she unpacks how to tell the difference between a wrong match and relationship anxiety, why therapy language can become a cage that keeps you stuck, and the line between actual growth and emotional gymnastics.
If you've stayed way past the expiration date convinced the work would eventually pay off, this episode is for you. Sabrina covers the fear-of-being-single trap, why your anxiety isn't always an attachment wound, and introduces the Responsibility Audit. Some relationships don't fail because you're broken, they fail because two people want fundamentally different things.
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
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Chapters
00:00 Hard Truth Series Part 2 Intro
03:14 The Self-Improvement Trap
05:33 Anxiety or a Bad Match?
08:03 When Self-Work Becomes Self-Blame
11:40 Compatibility Is Not a Wound
17:16 What Doing the Work Can't Fix
24:32 When Therapy Speak Keeps You Stuck
26:42 Growth vs. Emotional Gymnastics
31:11 The Knowing vs. Leaving Gap
34:10 The Responsibility Audit Tool
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Dating with an open heart sounds beautiful until your nervous system has other plans. In this solo In The Trenches audience Q&A episode, Sabrina answers your most raw questions about how to let someone in without losing yourself, how to date after grief, and what it actually looks like to stay present when fear or anxiety is running the show.
From navigating new love after loss to the hard truth about anxious attachment and self-accountability, this episode covers the real work of building a healthy relationship: nervous system regulation, emotional ownership, and learning the difference between communicating and controlling.
Want your question answered on a future episode? Send in your inquiries, stories, and dating profiles to [email protected]
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
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Chapters
00:00 Dating Without Losing Yourself
03:06 Dating After Grief and Loss
05:02 How to Make Space for Grief While Dating
07:51 When and How to Share Your Grief
09:42 Dating with Courage After Hard Times
11:28 What Is Sapiosexuality in Dating
19:30 Nervous System and Emotional Intimacy
24:30 Anxious Attachment and Gaslighting
27:06 Codependency and Emotional Regulation
29:42 Anxious Attachment and Accountability
Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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Ever caught yourself saying "when it's good, it's so good"? In this first episode of the 4-part Hard Truth Series, Sabrina breaks down why you keep falling in love with who someone could be instead of who they actually are — and why potential is just a placeholder for the grief you're avoiding. She dives into the neuroscience of the "prospective brain," the impact bias that keeps you chasing a fantasy, and the 13-year longitudinal study that explains why you lower your standards for the wrong people but can't appreciate the ones who actually show up.
Sabrina gets vulnerable about her own patternsand gives you the exact reframe to stop confusing anxiety with connection. Plus, this week's tool: the Potential vs. Reality Audit, a two-column exercise to see whether you're in a relationship or a fantasy. If you've ever wondered why the available person feels boring or why you keep choosing people who need to become someone else for it to work, this one's for you.
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!
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Chapters
00:00 Hard Truth Series Part 1
01:50 Gratitude & Setting Boundaries
04:59 What "I See Potential" Really Means
08:00 The Pattern Is the Real Them
11:08 Real Potential vs Fantasy Potential
15:54 Neuroscience of Dating a Fantasy
20:36 3 Questions Keeping You Stuck
25:51 Are You a Partner or a Fixer
28:21 What If They Change For Someone Else
33:47 Tool: Potential vs Reality Audit
Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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Who pays on the first date? When should you talk about money in a relationship? How do you split finances with your partner — and what happens when you don't? Sabrina sits down with Jean and Cherie, the Tiger Sisters, to tackle every uncomfortable money question in dating and relationships — from first-date expectations and financial red flags to prenups, combining finances, and protecting yourself before marriage. If you've ever avoided "the money talk" with someone you're dating, this episode is your wake-up call.
The Tiger Sisters bring their Wall Street, Silicon Valley, and business school backgrounds to break down the business side of love — why financial independence matters (especially for women), how to set boundaries around money without killing the romance, and why who you choose to marry is the single most important decision you'll ever make. Whether you're single, dating, or already in a relationship, this conversation will change how you think about love, money, and building a life with the right partner.
Close the Loop: Mastering 2026 Dating
Live Practice + Q&A with Sabrina Zohar
I'm hosting a free live session on March 4, and this is the last one I'm planning for a long time. If dating keeps ending the same way and you can't figure out why, this is for you.
📅 March 4 🕘 4PM LA / 7PM NYC
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Chapters
00:00 Money & Dating: What No One Says
06:01 Should You Date a Coworker?
12:11 Date Like You're Hiring a CEO
15:24 Why Going Slow in Dating Works
20:53 Dating While Being a Successful Woman
26:20 Who Pays on the First Date?
36:08 Financial Independence for Women
42:30 When to Talk About Money & Debt
49:09 Moving In Together & Finances
54:23 Do You Need a Prenup?
Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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