Heartbreak can feel like the end of everything, but it’s often the beginning of healing. In this raw episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina shares the three biggest heartbreaks of her life and what they taught her about anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, limerence, and self-worth. From childhood trauma to toxic relationships and loss, this episode explores how heartbreak shapes our dating patterns and beliefs about love.

If you’re struggling with breakups or repeating unhealthy relationship cycles, this episode breaks down why heartbreak hurts so deeply and how healing actually begins.

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Chapters

00:00 Heartbreak and Healing Journey

03:10 Childhood Trauma and Attachment

06:25 Emotional Neglect Core Wounds

09:40 How Trauma Shapes Dating Patterns

13:05 Limerence and Anxious Attachment

17:10 Toxic Relationships and Manipulation

21:45 Breakups, Grief, and No Contact

25:30 Losing Yourself in Relationships

29:00 Healing Core Beliefs and Self Worth

32:20 Choosing Emotionally Safe Love

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Three years ago, Sabrina Zohar hit rock bottom after losing everything she thought defined her. In this raw anniversary episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, she reflects on the journey from heartbreak, identity collapse, and losing her sense of direction to rebuilding her life through self-trust, nervous system healing, and emotional growth. This episode explores grief, attachment patterns, worthiness, and what happens when the path you were certain about disappears.

Joined by her partner (romantic and business) Ryan halfway through, Sabrina unpacks anxious and avoidant dynamics, boundaries, communication, and why healing doesn’t mean never being triggered again. If you’ve ever felt lost after a breakup, attached to outcomes, or afraid of being seen, this episode is a reminder that you’re not broken. You’re becoming.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 – When Your Life Doesn’t Go the Way You Planned

03:12 – Losing Your Identity After a Breakup or Career Collapse

07:05 – Hitting Rock Bottom and Rebuilding From Scratch

10:48 – Why We Attach Our Worth to Relationships and Success

14:32 – Healthy Relationships Still Trigger Your Nervous System

18:10 – Anxious and Avoidant Attachment in Real Life

22:05 – Boundaries, Communication, and Emotional Safety

26:18 – Why Being “Too Much” Was Never the Problem

30:12 – Letting Go of Control, Validation, and External Approval

34:40 – Healing Without Perfection or Constant Positivity

38:20 – Final Takeaways: Self-Trust, Growth, and Becoming Yourself

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In this deeply personal episode, Sabrina Zohar is joined by her longtime best friend Paige Homan to reflect on Sabrina’s growth journey from anxious attachment, dating anxiety, and emotional dysregulation to self-trust, nervous system regulation, and secure love. Through honest conversation and real-life reflection, they explore personal transformation, healing patterns in relationships, emotional maturity, and what it actually takes to evolve into a grounded, emotionally secure version of yourself over time.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 – Sabrina Zohar’s Anxious Dating Era and Why This Episode Matters

02:10 – Meet Paige: The Friend Who Witnessed Sabrina’s Growth Journey Firsthand

05:00 – What Sabrina Was Like During Her Anxious Attachment and Dating Anxiety Phase

08:40 – How Overthinking, Texting Anxiety, and Emotional Dysregulation Showed Up in Dating

12:30 – The Turning Point: When Sabrina Realized Her Dating Patterns Had to Change

16:15 – Childhood Trauma, Abandonment Wounds, and How They Shaped Relationships

20:10 – Nervous System Regulation, Slowing Down, and Learning Emotional Safety

25:00 – Healing vs Intellectualizing: Why Growth Only Happens in Real Relationships

30:05 – From Chaos to Self-Trust: What Secure Love Actually Looks Like Now

35:10 – The Role of Boundaries, Self-Awareness, and Accountability in Personal Growth

40:00 – What Sabrina Wishes She Could Tell Her Past Self About Healing and Love

45:10 – Proof That Change Is Possible: Reflections on Transformation and Growth

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In this In The Trenches listener Q&A episode, Sabrina answers real dating and relationship questions submitted by the community, covering workplace flirtation, mixed signals, age gaps, anxious attachment, and what to do when someone doesn’t say “I love you” back. She breaks down how uncertainty, overthinking, and “going with the flow” often lead to self-abandonment instead of clarity.

From navigating emotionally unavailable partners to trusting your gut and having uncomfortable but necessary conversations, this episode is a raw, no-nonsense deep dive into choosing self-respect over confusion. If you’re stuck reading between the lines, questioning someone’s intentions, or struggling to trust yourself in dating, this episode is for you.

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Chapters

00:00 – Why You Don’t Trust Yourself in Dating

04:18 – In The Trenches: Mixed Signals With a Coworker

09:42 – Flirting at Work vs Real Romantic Interest

14:36 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Self-Abandonment

18:55 – Saying “I Love You” First and Rejection Sensitivity

23:44 – Anxious Attachment, Overthinking, and Fear of Loss

28:31 – Reconnecting With an Emotionally Unavailable Ex

34:52 – When Chemistry Isn’t Intention or Commitment

40:05 – Dating Apps, Bans, and Being Honest With a New Partner

44:05 – Final Takeaways: Clarity, Boundaries, and Self-Trust

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Why do people who “try the hardest” in relationships often end up feeling unseen, resentful, or stuck in situationships? In this episode, Sabrina breaks down how people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and anxious attachment patterns quietly sabotage intimacy. Drawing from psychology, attachment theory, and trauma research, she explains why fawning is not love but a nervous-system survival response, and how suppressing your needs leads to emotional disconnection, resentment, and unhealthy power dynamics in dating and relationships.

This episode dives deep into boundaries, self-abandonment, and why being willing to walk away is the most underrated relationship skill no one teaches you. Sabrina explores how fear of abandonment, low self-worth, and childhood conditioning keep people stuck accepting breadcrumbs, avoiding conflict, and performing for love. If you’re struggling with anxious attachment, people-pleasing, situationships, or feeling lonely inside a relationship, this conversation offers neuroscience-backed insight and practical tools to help you stop losing yourself and start building secure, authentic connection.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

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Chapters

0:00 Why Being “Too Loving” Is Blocking Real Connection

2:10 People-Pleasing Isn’t Love, It’s a Trauma Response

5:10 Fawning, Anxious Attachment, and Self-Abandonment

8:20 Why the “Cool Girl / Easy Partner” Always Loses

11:30 Conflict Avoidance Is Quietly Killing Your Relationships

15:10 The Psychology of Power: Why Being Willing to Leave Matters

18:40 How Fear of Abandonment Keeps You Accepting Breadcrumbs

22:10 What Secure Relationships Actually Look Like (Repair Over Perfection)

26:00 How to Stop Self-Abandoning and Start Speaking Up

30:10 Tool of the Week: The Self-Abandonment Check-In

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A new year doesn’t change your dating life. Your patterns do. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down why New Year’s dating resolutions fail, why manifestation without behavior change keeps you stuck, and why “this is my year for love” doesn’t work if you keep showing up the same way.

This episode focuses on shifting patterns, not chasing outcomes. We dive into anxious attachment, emotionally unavailable partners, self-abandonment, and what it actually means to be ready for a healthy relationship. If you’re tired of repeating the same cycles and want to start the year by showing up differently in dating and relationships, this episode is your reset.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 – Why a New Year Won’t Fix Your Dating Life

01:55 – The New Year Dating Lie Everyone Believes

04:30 – Outcome Goals vs Pattern Change in Dating

08:15 – Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners

12:20 – Wanting Love vs Being Ready for Love

16:30 – How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck

20:05 – Pick-Me Energy vs Choosing for Yourself

23:45 – What Healthy Relationships Actually Require

27:45 – The 3 Lists Exercise: Leave, Call In, Become

33:20 – Becoming Someone Who Can Keep Love

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What does “going with the flow” actually mean in dating, and why does it so often lead to situationships, resentment, and self-abandonment? In the final episode of the Clarity Series, Sabrina breaks down how passivity, fear of asking for more, and chasing chemistry over availability keep people stuck in almost-relationships. This episode explores the psychological and nervous system reasons we suppress our needs, tolerate ambiguity, and confuse flexibility with emotional safety.

You’ll learn the difference between dating with intention versus dating from control or fear, how to identify your real non-negotiables, why situationships persist, and what it actually looks like to stop auditioning for love and start choosing yourself. If you’re tired of waiting to be chosen, afraid of being “too much,” or stuck in cycles of undefined connections, this episode gives you the framework to leave self-abandonment behind and date with clarity, confidence, and self-trust.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Quiet Self-Abandonment

03:20 – The Clarity Series Recap: From Rumination to Intention

06:40 – Why We Suppress Our Needs to Avoid Being Left

10:05 – Situationships: How Ambiguity Keeps You Stuck

14:45 – Chemistry vs Availability (And Why We Choose Wrong)

18:55 – Intention vs Control in Dating

23:30 – Non-Negotiables: What You Actually Walk Away Over

27:10 – Limerence, Fantasy Relationships, and Dopamine Loops

31:45 – What to Leave Behind and What to Bring Into 2026

35:10 – Tool of the Week: Dating With Real Intention

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Do you need to be fully healed before you can have a healthy relationship? In episode 3 of 4 in the Clarity Series, Sabrina dismantles one of the biggest myths in dating and personal growth: that you must be perfect, secure, or “done healing” before you’re worthy of love. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and real-life dating dynamics, she explains why so many people feel fine when they’re single but get triggered the moment they start dating and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed your healing journey .

This episode explores the difference between awareness and real change, healing alone versus healing in relationships, and how avoidance can masquerade as self-work. You’ll learn what “being ready to date” actually looks like, how to stop hiding behind healing, and how to build self-trust by responding differently when you’re triggered. If you struggle with anxious attachment, dating anxiety, relationship patterns, or feeling stuck despite therapy and self-work, this conversation will reframe how you approach dating, growth, and emotional safety moving forward.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 Do You Need to Be Fully Healed to Be in a Relationship?

01:45 Why Healing Feels Like It Disappears When You Start Dating

04:10 The Myth of Being “Healed Enough”

07:00 Healing Alone vs Healing in Relationships

10:10 Why Feeling Fine When Single Doesn’t Mean You’re Ready

13:15 Awareness vs Real Change in Dating Patterns

16:05 When “Working on Yourself” Is Actually Avoidance

19:05 What Being Ready to Date Really Means

22:10 Why Triggers Are Information, Not Failure

25:00 How Secure Relationships Are Actually Built

28:00 How to Build Self-Trust While Dating

31:10 Final Takeaway: You’re Not Broken, You’re Human
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Neuroscientist Chris Lee joins me to break down what’s really happening in the brain when someone pulls away, shuts down, or spirals. We cover avoidance as a regulation strategy, why anxious activation hits so hard, and how state–story–strategy explains your patterns better than any TikTok soundbite. If you struggle with mixed signals, overthinking, or reacting fast in dating, this episode gives you clear, science-backed answers.

We also get into emotional availability, communication during conflict, and how to create safety without overfunctioning. You’ll learn how to recognize your patterns, rebuild trust in yourself, and stop taking someone else’s regulation personally. Whether you’re dating or partnered, this conversation helps you understand connection with far more clarity.

Learn more: https://www.drchrislee.com/

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In this In The Trenches episode, we dig into the psychology of mixed signals, friendzones, breadcrumbing, and almost-relationships. From slow-burn connections that feel safe but confusing to flirty “friends” who keep you close for validation, we break down how to tell the difference between a secure slow build and self-friend-zoning. You’ll learn why some people want your emotional support without offering real intimacy, how to stop filling in the blanks with fantasy, and what mixed messages actually reveal about someone’s intentions.
We also get into situationships with no clarity, avoidant communication, and the ego-hit that keeps you hoping things will change. You’ll learn the markers of genuine interest vs passive connection, how to initiate the conversations that create clarity, and how to stop outsourcing your worth to inconsistency. If you’re stuck in limbo, questioning the dynamic, or tired of reading between the lines, this episode gives you the tools to see the pattern and choose what actually serves you.
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This episode breaks down why waiting for someone to come back feels so intoxicating — and why it keeps you stuck. We unpack the psychology behind ambiguous loss, ego-driven attachment, the fantasy loops your brain clings to, and the deeper wounds waiting protects you from. If you’re torn between “I hope they come back” and “God, I hope they don’t,” this will give you clarity you’ve never had.
You’ll learn how to tell the difference between missing them vs. missing the validation, why waiting functions as avoidance, what “they always come back” actually means, and the exact questions to ask yourself if they do reappear.
If you’re tired of living in the “maybe,” this episode will hit home.
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