Why do I keep choosing the wrong people? Why can't I let go of someone who won't choose me? If you're stuck asking "why," this episode is for you. Sabrina breaks down why self-awareness alone won't heal anxious attachment, how childhood patterns follow you into dating and relationships, and what Mary Ainsworth's Strange Situation study shows about anxious and avoidant attachment: avoidants feel the panic too, they just hide it.

She also reads from Chapter 4 of her new book, Why Am I Like This?, about a dating story that taught her what self-abandonment really looks like. Learn the better questions to ask yourself, how nervous system regulation changes the story you tell yourself, and how to stop people pleasing and start choosing you.

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Chapters:

00:00 Stop Asking Why: Ask Better Questions

04:03 Why Self-Awareness Isn't Enough

07:06 How to Trust Yourself and Choose You

09:41 The Strange Situation Attachment Study

13:10 Family Patterns and Outgrowing People

16:04 Feeling Insecure? Stop Being Perfect

18:37 Childhood Trauma and Anxious Attachment

21:42 Abandoning Yourself to Get Chosen

25:09 Self-Abandonment Is a Trauma Response

28:41 Third-Person Self-Talk Stops Rumination

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Why does healing feel so hard, and why doesn't "regulating your nervous system" fix it? Nervous system expert Masha Kay returns to break down what the internet gets wrong about nervous system regulation, why regulation has become the new perfectionism, and what capacity really means in dating and relationships. We talk about why someone can love you and still not meet your needs, how to handle being triggered by a text, why "if he wanted to, he would" is bad advice, and what's actually going on when an avoidant partner shuts down.

Masha explains somatic experiencing and titration in plain terms, how to stop ruminating and overthinking, and why building stability in your whole life matters more than any quick trick for calming anxiety. If you're dealing with anxious attachment, a painful breakup, emotional triggers, or healing from childhood patterns, this episode gives you real tools for healing trauma, feeling safe in your body, and building healthier relationships.

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Chapters:

00:00 Nervous System Regulation Myths

05:16 What Dysregulation Really Looks Like

10:44 Why Love Isn't Enough in Relationships

16:43 Healing Your Whole Life, Not Just Dating

22:27 Feeling Safe Around Difficult Family

27:08 Somatic Experiencing Explained

33:11 Titration: Why Slow Healing Works

38:38 Are You Really Doing the Work?

43:34 How to Handle Triggers in Dating

50:20 Avoidant Attachment and Overthinking

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How do you get over a breakup without making it mean something is wrong with you? In the final episode of the Things To Do and Not To Do series, Sabrina breaks down what to do and what not to do during and after a breakup, from why no contact matters (and why it shouldn't be used to make your ex miss you) to how to handle the urge to text your ex, stop ruminating, and accept that closure is a decision you make, even when you never get the conversation. She also covers processing anger and grief, moving on from someone who broke up with you months ago, staying civil with an ex you work with or co-parent with, and seeing your ex on dating apps.

Whether you got dumped or did the dumping, this episode will help you stop tying rejection to your self-worth, let go of who you hoped they would become, and heal after heartbreak without rushing it. Plus, Sabrina shares her tool of the week, the unsent letter, a simple exercise for releasing what you never got to say so you can finally move on.

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Chapters:

00:00 How to Handle Getting Dumped

03:12 Don't Make a Breakup About Your Worth

06:34 Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Your Ex

09:08 Processing Anger and Grief After Breakup

11:48 Breakup Withdrawal and No Contact

14:30 How to Walk Away From an Ex

17:23 How to Get Closure After a Breakup

20:08 When You're the One Who Ended It

22:15 Seeing Your Ex on Dating Apps

24:42 Unsent Letter Exercise for Heartbreak

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The dos and don'ts of dating and relationships, from the first date to years in. Sabrina covers what to do and not do before, during, and after a first date: stop the endless texting, set boundaries and non-negotiables, watch for reciprocity and consistency, and stop falling for potential and breadcrumbs.

Then the relationship dos and don'ts: responding to bids for connection, communicating so your partner actually hears you, handling jealousy without surveillance, and keeping the dating habits that build a healthy, secure relationship.

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Chapters:

00:00 Breadcrumbs and Bare Minimum Dating

04:22 Dating Dos and Don'ts Before a Date

07:18 Falling for the Idea of Someone

11:04 Big Conversations on a First Date

15:20 What to Do on a First Date

18:26 Why Texting Builds False Intimacy

22:36 Reciprocity and Consistency in Dating

25:25 Relationship Dos and Don'ts

29:11 Jealousy and Opposite Sex Friendships

33:46 How to Track Bids for Connection

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This one is about feeling behind. The belief that you missed your window, that everyone else got the memo, that whatever you want is off the table now because of your age. We are answering the questions you keep sending in: how to date after divorce without carrying the last relationship into the next one, how to stop treating the apps like a second job, whether age gaps actually work and where they stop working, and how to make the kids decision when everyone has an opinion about it except you.

We also get into why so many of us stay in relationships that are hurting us and call it love, what it actually takes to rebuild after a divorce or a breakup that flattened you, and why perimenopause is a conversation you should be having in your 30s instead of finding out at 47. Tamsen Fadal, journalist and author of How to Menopause, joins me for it. Nobody is behind. You are just on your own timeline.

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Chapters:

00:00 From News Anchor To Menopause Advocate

05:24 What You Look For Changes With Age

09:15 Divorce, Debt, And Starting Over

13:38 Knowing When To Leave A Relationship

18:48 What A Healthy Relationship Feels Like

24:19 The Pressure To Have Kids

29:35 How To Decide If You Want Children

35:58 Do Age Gaps Actually Work

40:12 Dating App Burnout And Discouragement

45:48 How To Stop Feeling Behind

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You already know the answer. You just keep asking everyone but yourself: him, your friends, your therapist, a stranger with a podcast, anyone who will confirm what you already feel. Sabrina gets into why outsourcing your worth feels safer than trusting your own read, and what happens when you let someone else's behavior become the verdict on your value. He pulled away, so you must be too much. She chose someone else, so you must be nothing.

Listener questions on telling a gut feeling apart from relationship anxiety and ROCD, love bombing and ghosting, staying in a situationship that keeps regressing, and chasing emotionally unavailable men while writing off the available ones as doormats. Anxious and avoidant attachment, reassurance seeking, the abandonment wound, boundaries, and how to stop handing over the pen so your own knowing finally counts.

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Chapters:

00:00 Are They Into Me Or Am I Reading In

03:09 Would You Be Proud Of Your Life

05:23 Gut Feeling Or Relationship Anxiety

08:02 Why Green Flags Feel Uncomfortable

11:23 Owning Your Part In What Repeats

15:45 Stop Romanticizing The Bare Minimum

19:16 How To Validate Yourself

23:11 Chasing Someone Who Is Pulling Away

27:18 The Red Flags You Ignore Early On

31:34 Losing Weight Won't Make Them Stay

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How do you actually get okay being alone? In part one of a three part series, Sabrina answers your questions about being single: how to stop wanting a relationship so badly, how to grieve a breakup or a divorce without rushing the healing, and how to rebuild your identity when it was wrapped up in someone else. She gets into why making dating your hobby keeps you stuck, and the difference between feeling lonely and just being bored.

She also covers the dating app validation loop and the delete then re-download cycle on Hinge and Bumble, why anxious and avoidant people are drawn to each other, the research on how fear of being single leads people to settle for less responsive partners, and the three non-negotiables and boundaries that changed her dating life. Plus a tool of the week and a product of the week.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why Being Single Feels Like Failure

03:24 Build A Full Life While Single

06:52 Don't Make Dating Your Hobby

10:25 Choose People Who Choose You

13:26 No One Is Coming To Save You

17:26 Stop Wanting A Relationship So Bad

20:53 When Are You Ready To Date Again

24:14 Rebuild Your Identity After A Breakup

26:57 Dating App Validation Loop

30:23 Take Yourself Out This Week

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What does loving yourself actually look like when it isn't bubble baths, face masks, or affirmations you don't believe? Sabrina breaks down the real difference between self-love and self-esteem, what the self-compassion research says about anxiety and resilience, and why your inner critic isn't your enemy but a survival strategy you learned somewhere. She also tells the story of the guy who said he wasn't attracted to her two months in, why she walked away that night, and how she met her partner five days later.

This one covers how to stop self-abandoning in dating, three questions to ask yourself on every first date, why proximity and timing matter more than love, how to find closure after being ghosted, how to rebuild self-worth after getting dumped, and how to set boundaries when someone disrespects your time. If you keep accepting low effort, treating rejection like proof you're not enough, or waiting to feel worthy before you act like it, this is your episode on how to actually choose yourself.

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Chapters:

00:00 What Self-Love Actually Means

03:47 3 Questions To Ask On A Date

05:55 Story Time: Before I Met Ryan

08:59 The Red Flags I Ignored

11:28 When He Said He Wasn't Attracted

13:56 Why Timing Matters More Than Love

16:06 How To Stop Judging Yourself

19:52 Self-Worth After Getting Dumped

23:02 The Client Who Wasted My Time

26:34 Loving Yourself After Being Ghosted

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Discernment in dating is not about spotting every red flag, it's about not creating green ones that were never there. Sabrina opens with the story of the emotionally unavailable man she spent years making excuses for, then breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, why your gut is quiet and your anxiety comes with a story, and how the halo effect keeps you ignoring obvious incompatibility. She covers boundaries versus walls, whether "high standards" are self-trust or self-protection, how to trust yourself again after being lied to, and why limerence and fantasy keep you stuck in situationships that were never going anywhere.

If you're tired of overthinking texts, playing detective with attachment styles, and hoping someone becomes who you need them to be, this one is for you. See it for what it is, not for what you want it to be.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why The Spark Can Be Dangerous

02:42 Falling For The Fantasy Not Him

05:52 Anxious Texting And Chasing Crumbs

09:30 What Discernment Actually Means

11:47 Is It Your Gut Or Your Anxiety?

14:11 Boundaries Vs Walls In Dating

17:17 High Standards Or Fear Of Intimacy

19:26 Trusting Yourself After Being Lied To

21:40 The Evidence Vs Story Exercise

25:04 Stop Hoping They'll Change

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What does it actually mean to do the work? In this solo episode, Sabrina breaks down how therapy talk gets weaponized to dodge accountability, and what real healing looks like when you stop intellectualizing and start implementing. She digs into sitting in discomfort, regulating your nervous system, the difference between ruminating and processing, why journaling rewires your brain, and how inner child work changes the way you show up in dating and relationships.

She also answers a listener question about telling a healthy, secure partner you're not ready, unpacks anxious and avoidant attachment, and shares why detaching from the outcome is the number one lesson of doing the work. If you're tired of surface level advice and ready for the real, unsexy practice of becoming secure in yourself and your relationships, this one is for you, babes.

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Chapters:

0:00 Therapy Talk Is Killing Accountability

3:10 What Doing The Work Actually Means

5:59 Stop Using AI To Replace Therapy

8:16 Ruminating vs Processing

11:20 Inner Child Work In Practice

13:43 Healing Doesnt Erase The Pain

16:34 Detaching From The Outcome

19:21 There Is No Being Fully Healed

22:30 Single vs Relationship Healing

25:48 Tool Of The Week + Product Of The Week

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Why do you keep chasing someone who only shows up halfway? Sabrina breaks down the difference between choosing yourself and waiting to be chosen, and why hope works exactly like a slot machine when you are stuck in a situationship. She reads a listener letter about falling for a married man from the gym, unpacks why ghosting and mixed signals feel so addictive, and explains how intermittent reinforcement turns a fantasy into an obsession you cannot shake.

Plus the first ever listener voice note on modern dating and dating app burnout, why early intensity says nothing about someone's intention, and a rapid fire round covering how to get over not being chosen, surviving a long distance breakup, handling core wounds and triggers that pop up out of nowhere, and what to demand when someone comes crawling back. If you are done with breadcrumbs, low effort dating, and being the one who always texts first, this one is for you.

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If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Two Dates Then They Went Cold

03:00 Why Going Slow Beats Intensity

06:00 Gym Crush Turned Out To Be Married

09:00 Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Them

12:00 Asking Why Keeps You Stuck

15:00 You Weren't Replaced, Reframe It

18:00 Core Wounds That Randomly Pop Up

21:00 Has Modern Dating Actually Changed

24:00 Attention Versus Intention In Dating

26:39 Tool Of The Week: Choosing Yourself

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