Jillian sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about what “the work” in love actually looks like — in real time. Jay shares why he created Messy Love (his Audible Original), where listeners get to “sit in the room” with real couples as they navigate cheating narratives, unmet expectations, old wounds, and the messy middle between conflict and connection. Jillian and Jay unpack why compassion isn’t permissive — it’s structured, boundaried, and powerful — and why most relationship fights spiral into accusation, criticism, and defense… leaving zero room for love. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking your partner to change…or asking them to be someone they’re simply not, this episode will land.

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What happens when a relationship starts with intensity, reassurance, and “I’ve done the work” — and then slowly turns into jealousy, control, and emotional chaos? In this coaching session, Jillian helps a listener unpack why she keeps choosing emotionally unstable partners, how early red flags get missed, and what emotional stability actually looks like in real life. This episode is about learning to trust your body, stop dating potential, and finally choose a partner who can meet you where you are.

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Dating in 2026 feels harder than ever—but what if the problem isn’t you, it’s how you’re approaching it? In this episode, Jillian breaks down the biggest mindset shifts she’s seen actually work with her clients—from letting go of the pressure to “find the one,” to raising your standards in the right way, slowing down attraction, and learning how to choose connection over fantasy. If you’re tired of repeating the same dating patterns and want to feel more grounded, confident, and clear, this episode will reset how you think about love.

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Have you ever been in a healthy relationship and still felt anxious waiting for it to fall apart? In this coaching episode, Jillian works one-on-one with a woman who can’t stop overthinking as her relationship moves out of the honeymoon phase. Together, they unpack why reassurance fades, how anxiety quietly sabotages connection, and what actually keeps love secure—without creating problems where none exist.

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In this episode, Jillian reads from It Begins With You to break down one of the most painful patterns in modern dating: confusing lust, intensity, and obsession with real love. She explains why chemistry can feel intoxicating—and why it so often leads to confusion, unmet needs, and heartbreak. If you’ve ever felt addicted to someone who couldn’t show up for you, this episode brings clarity back to where love actually begins.

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What if the reason your relationship feels so painful is because you’re loving someone’s potential instead of who they actually are? In this episode, Jillian unpacks why trying to fix or change a partner creates resentment, pressure, and emotional burnout. She explores emotional capacity, radical self-honesty, and how to communicate your needs without turning love into a project.

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In this special coaching episode, Jillian sits down with a 38-year-old listener who’s four dates into a new connection and stuck in her head about one big question: Is he actually interested, or just passive? Together, they unpack why slow, calm chemistry can feel confusing when you’re used to intensity, what to do when someone’s texting and effort don’t quite match your needs, and how to treat early dating as data instead of a referendum on your worth. Jillian coaches her on how to flirt, set the tone without over-pursuing, keep dating other people, and show up as the most confident version of herself—even when there’s still no kiss.

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Many people feel pulled toward someone who isn’t good for them, even when they know the relationship is toxic. In this episode, Jillian breaks down the five core reasons we become addicted to people who mistreat us — from erotic charge, to low self-worth, to boredom and unmet needs. She shares personal experience, clinical insight, and the psychology of desire to help listeners finally understand their patterns. This episode is about clarity, self-compassion, and choosing something better.

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Is it really “embarrassing” to have a boyfriend? In this episode, Jillian unpacks the viral Vogue UK article and the cultural shift that’s convincing women to hide their relationships. She explores the deeper shadow dynamics at play — jealousy, shrinking ourselves to belong, and the fear of being judged if a relationship ends. Jillian makes a powerful case for owning your joy, celebrating healthy love, and refusing to dim your light for anyone.

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In this episode, Jillian breaks down ten of the most important — and sometimes painful — lessons she’s learned about love. From why chemistry without safety creates chaos, to how habits shape happiness, to the truth about readiness, accountability, and emotional maturity, she walks through the mindsets that actually build lasting connection. These lessons are equal parts grounding and liberating, helping you step into relationships with more clarity, strength, and self-trust.

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In this special live coaching session, Jillian speaks with a woman who is struggling to end her 17-year marriage to a good man—and wrestling with overwhelming guilt about breaking up her family. As they unpack the story, a deeper truth emerges: the real turning point wasn’t “lack of growth” or “misaligned goals,” but a painful and confusing experience in which her husband repeatedly encouraged her to date other men in hopes of fixing their intimacy. Jillian helps her name the hurt, the rejection, and the sense of being unseen that she’s been carrying alone. This conversation is a powerful look at consent, self-advocacy, and the courage required to tell the full truth—both to yourself and to your partner.

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