When someone betrays you, it’s easy to believe they get to move on with their life while you’re left carrying the pain. In this episode, Jillian challenges that belief and explains why no one truly “gets away” with the harm they cause—because the psyche always remembers. She explores how unresolved guilt, shame, and avoidance show up in our bodies, relationships, and mental health, and why letting go of the story about someone else is one of the most powerful steps toward your own healing.

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In this coaching session, Jillian helps a listener untangle what he thought was anxious attachment and reveals what may actually be happening instead: he’s getting emotionally invested before a real relationship has even begun. She breaks down the difference between pursuing and chasing, why texting can create a false sense of intimacy, and how to stop wasting energy on people who aren’t truly showing up. This episode is also a powerful reminder that the more alive, engaged, and fulfilled you feel in your own life, the less likely you are to confuse attention with connection.

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What actually makes a relationship healthy—and why do so many couples miss the basics? In this episode, Jillian shares the seven principles that keep love alive, from the way you talk about your partner to the small daily habits that build connection, intimacy, and trust. Inspired by a viral post that criticized a spouse online, she breaks down why respect, praise, physical touch, honest conversations about sex, and protecting your relationship from outside distractions matter more than grand romantic gestures.

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Actress and author Sarah Shahi joins Jillian for an unfiltered conversation about heartbreak, childhood wounds, and the patterns that shape the way we love. Sarah shares the painful story of her upbringing, how it led her to chase emotionally unavailable partners, and the turning point that forced her to change how she shows up in relationships.

They talk about people-pleasing, why difficult conversations are essential for real intimacy, and the moment you realize you deserve emotional safety—not uncertainty.

Sarah also discusses her book Life Is Lifey and the lessons she learned about choosing partners from a place of honesty and self-respect.

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The biggest threat to your relationship might not be your communication — it might be the story you’re telling yourself. In this episode, Jillian explores how negative narratives, overthinking, and fear-based assumptions quietly turn partners into enemies and create resentment where love still exists. She breaks down why the mind becomes a battlefield in relationships and shares practical tools to help you step out of destructive thought patterns and back into connection.

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What if the story you’ve been telling yourself — that you’re “too much,” too sensitive, or too difficult — was never actually true? In this listener call, Jillian helps a woman unpack a lifelong belief that she’s “too much” and shows how that story can follow you into adulthood—especially in relationships. They explore what happens when sensitivity gets labeled as “difficult,” how a parent’s emotional limits shape your self-image, and why heartbreak can pull you back into old wounds.

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Jillian is joined by Harvard psychologist Dr. Ellen Langer, the pioneer of mindfulness research, for a conversation that challenges everything you think you know about stress, healing, and being present. Dr. Langer explains why mindfulness isn’t about meditation—it’s about noticing. They unpack how our mindset shapes our relationships, our health, and even how we age. From letting go of labels to rethinking forgiveness, this episode is a masterclass in conscious living.

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With Valentine’s Day around the corner, Jillian dives into one of the biggest obstacles to real love today — the growing resentment and distrust between men and women. In this episode of Jillian on Love, she explores how past hurt and social media narratives have pushed us into seeing the opposite sex as the enemy, and why that mindset quietly sabotages connection. Jillian unpacks the different fears men and women carry into relationships and how compassion and emotional safety are the foundation of lasting love.

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Jillian works with a listener who’s spent most of her adult life in long-term relationships and is now learning how to trust herself in choosing love differently. After leaving a seven-year relationship and starting over on her own, she opens up about adapting too much in past partnerships, fearing the wrong choice, and struggling to know what she truly wants.

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Jillian sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about what “the work” in love actually looks like — in real time. Jay shares why he created Messy Love (his Audible Original), where listeners get to “sit in the room” with real couples as they navigate cheating narratives, unmet expectations, old wounds, and the messy middle between conflict and connection. Jillian and Jay unpack why compassion isn’t permissive — it’s structured, boundaried, and powerful — and why most relationship fights spiral into accusation, criticism, and defense… leaving zero room for love. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking your partner to change…or asking them to be someone they’re simply not, this episode will land.

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What happens when a relationship starts with intensity, reassurance, and “I’ve done the work” — and then slowly turns into jealousy, control, and emotional chaos? In this coaching session, Jillian helps a listener unpack why she keeps choosing emotionally unstable partners, how early red flags get missed, and what emotional stability actually looks like in real life. This episode is about learning to trust your body, stop dating potential, and finally choose a partner who can meet you where you are.

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