How to Do It with Stoya and Rich

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Other people's sex lives might just save yours.

  • 25 minutes 4 seconds
    My Boyfriend Loves Dirty Talk. But He Doesn’t Say the One Thing I Want.

    This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer whose partner isn’t saying the right things, and they discuss a letter from a woman who can’t bear to touch herself.

    Mentioned in this episode:

    My New Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein

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    Production by Chau Tu.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    27 March 2022, 9:00 am
  • 10 minutes 26 seconds
    My Husband Went on a Date With His Ex-Girlfriend

    Stoya and Rich discuss a letter from a woman whose experiment with “ethical non-monogamy” isn’t going the way she expected.

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    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    20 March 2022, 9:00 am
  • 11 minutes 8 seconds
    No One Tells You What Happens When You’re Suddenly a Hot Guy

    This week, Stoya and Rich discuss a letter from a man whose attractiveness is getting in the way of his life and work.

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    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    13 March 2022, 9:00 am
  • 20 minutes 19 seconds
    I’m Overwhelmed by My Boyfriend’s Sexual Demands

    This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer who is overwhelmed by her partner’s daily sexual needs, and they discuss a letter from a man who wonders if his post-sex feelings are normal.

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    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    6 March 2022, 10:00 am
  • 22 minutes 6 seconds
    The One Thing My Partner Desires in Bed Makes Me Gag

    This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer who wonders what they can do to have a better experience giving oral sex, and they discuss a letter from a woman looking for advice on how to explain her specific dating needs. 

    Mentioned in this episode:

    Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor

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    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.


    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    27 February 2022, 10:00 am
  • 19 minutes 38 seconds
    I’m a Woman With a Very Male Sex Problem

    This week, Stoya and Rich advise a woman whose partner complains that she orgasms too quickly, and they discuss a letter from a woman who’s puzzled by why her boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex very often.

    Mentioned in this episode:

    So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner

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    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    20 February 2022, 10:00 am
  • 20 minutes 25 seconds
    The Simple Way to Have Better Sex After Marriage

    This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter for Valentine’s Day from a man who’s looking for tips on how to spice up his sex life with his wife, and they discuss a letter from a man who’s wondering how to involve himself with his wife’s other relationship.

    Mentioned in this episode:

    Curious Pleasures by The Reverend Dr Eramus St Jude Croom DD

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    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.



    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    13 February 2022, 10:00 am
  • 23 minutes 42 seconds
    I (Unfortunately) Know What My Husband Has Been Doing in Garage

    This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who’s worried about her husband’s secret habit, and offer suggestions for oral sex to a letter writer who has a unique problem. 


    Mentioned in the episode:

    Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers

    Is Porn Addiction a Real Thing?

    Moody Bitches by Julie Holland

    TMJ and Intimacy” by S. Michael Plaut


    Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now and get $25 off.


    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    6 February 2022, 10:00 am
  • 30 minutes 1 second
    I’ve Only Just Discovered What Really Turns Me On. But What Is This Even Called?

    This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a man who’s just made a new sexual discovery about himself. Then they hear from a woman who’s feeling judged for her boundaries.

    Guest: Ryan Scoats

    Mentioned in the episode:

    ‘I don’t mind watching him cum’: Heterosexual men, threesomes, and the erosion of the one-time rule of homosexuality.

    Understanding Threesomes by Ryan Scoats

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    Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now for just $1.

    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    30 January 2022, 10:00 am
  • 29 minutes 43 seconds
    What Everyone Gets Wrong About Herpes

    This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who has a tricky question about herpes and a new man she’s seeing. Then they hear from a man who didn’t like the surprise he got in bed.


    Mentioned in this episode:

    “How Herpes Became a Sexual Boogeyman,” by L.V. Anderson, Slate, Dec. 2, 2019.


    Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now for just $1.

    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    23 January 2022, 10:00 am
  • 17 minutes 36 seconds
    I'm Worried About Cheating on My Girlfriend With My Wife

    This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a man who’s concerned he’s cheating on his girlfriend—with his wife. Then they hear from a woman who wonders how bad it is that she kept a secret from a new romantic interest.


    Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now for just $1.

    Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

    Production by Chau Tu.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    16 January 2022, 10:00 am
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