The Psychology of your 20s

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<p>A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. </p> <p> </p> <p>For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a></p> <p>New merchandise here: <a href="https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/">https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/</a> </p>

  • 37 minutes 4 seconds
    407. Loving yourself, will make you more attractive

    We are bombarded with ideas about how we should look, behave, and be. But instead of trying to constantly strive for the societal ideal, we can cut through the noise another way - and that’s by cultivating self-love. The funny thing is, psychology actually shows us that the more confident and self-loving we are, the more attractive we become. It’s a win-win… if we can get there. Today, we're going to talk about how loving ourselves makes us more attractive.

    We unpack: 
    •  The power of the mind-body link and self-esteem
    •  Why plastic surgery might not make us happy 
    •  The damaging physical effects of negative self-talk
    •  How simple behavioural changes affect how others see us
    •  Why cultivating self-love is the greatest gift we can give ourselves

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

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    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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    16 April 2026, 4:00 pm
  • 37 minutes 42 seconds
    406. How to romanticise your 20s (even when they suck)

    Your 20s are sold to you as the “best years of your life” - which is hilarious, considering how many of us spend them underpaid, overthinking, heartbroken, living in transitional housing, and finding a new identity every 6 months. So what does it actually mean to ‘romanticise your 20s’? In this episode, we break down romanticising as a real psychological skill - how your brain constructs meaning, why attention shapes what feels like reality, and why building a coherent life story matters most when your life feels messy.

    We explore:
    •        Why your attention changes your experience
    •        The neuroscience and cognition of meaning-making
    •        The role of emergent adulthood
    •        Why narrative psychology is so important
    •        Five grounded ways to romanticise your life

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

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    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

    Our favourite sources: 
    https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4324396/
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224545.2025.2563539
    https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3045747/

    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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    13 April 2026, 4:00 pm
  • 43 minutes 36 seconds
    405. The psychology of betrayal

    Betrayal doesn’t just ‘hurt your feelings.’ It shatters your nervous system, hijacks your sense of reality, and rewires your brain for fear and hypervigilance. We can be betrayed - or betray someone else - in a myriad of ways, with life-shattering results. In this episode, we explore the psychological impact of betrayal, delve into the reasons people betray us, and explore ways we can heal.

    We explore:

    • Why betrayal can appear in many forms
    • How the act of being betrayed affects our brain
    • Why someone might betray us
    • Betrayal blindness and institutional betrayal
    • Why the betrayal grief cycle is similar to losing a loved one
    • How we can heal, move on, and learn to trust ourselves again

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

    Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

     

    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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    9 April 2026, 4:00 pm
  • 29 minutes 38 seconds
    404. I want to do everything, so I do nothing

    Why is it that we can have a million visions, dreams and goals for how we want our life to be, but we can't seem to execute any of them? Is it laziness? Lack of discipline? Or fear? In today's episode, we break down the analysis paralysis that comes with wanting to do everything, and instead doing nothing at all. Our discussion includes: 

    • The three types of fear keeping us stuck
    • The most famous study on decision making! 
    • The psychology of regret
    • How to choose what path to follow first
    • Dealing with the judgement of others

    And so much more! Happy listening! 

     

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

    Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

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    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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    6 April 2026, 4:00 pm
  • 34 minutes 41 seconds
    403. How to do hard things (using psychology)

    The best things in life aren't always the easiest and it's often this exertion and extra effort that holds us back from diving in or fully committing. Whether it's a new routine, an ambitious study schedule or workout plan, knowing how we can use psychology and neuroscience to make hard tasks easier is incredibly valuable. In today's episode we discuss:

    • The 5 minute rule
    • The power of a persona
    • Using mental imagery and visualisation to do hard things
    • The power of learned industriousness
    • The 3 forms of motivation to know and implement

    This episode will make all the hard things you've been putting off infinitely easier. Listen now!

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

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    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

     

    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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    4 April 2026, 4:00 pm
  • 47 minutes 56 seconds
    402. Why trauma bonding feels so much like love ...

    We’ve all heard the phrase trauma bonding, often used in jest to talk about two people who became friends after meeting in difficult circumstances. But trauma bonding is actually a psychological phenomenon which defines a relationship characterised by an abuser and their target, and a cycle that can be very hard to break out of. In this episode, we unpack the characteristics of a trauma bond, how you can identify if you might be experiencing one, and steps you can take to break away from one.

    We explore:

    • What a trauma bond looks like
    • Why trauma bonds can happen
    • What a trauma bond ISN’T
    • Why trauma bonds can play out in a variety of relationships
    • How to identify if you are experiencing a trauma bond
    • Steps you can take to move away from a trauma bond

    A few resources to help you if you are struggling with a trauma bond: 

    The Attachment Project: HERE

    Choosing Therapy: HERE

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

    Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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    2 April 2026, 4:00 pm
  • 46 minutes 46 seconds
    401. The psychology of microtrends

    We all want to feel that we fit into a social group. But how does this play out when it comes to trends? From ‘mob wife energy’ to ‘cottagecore’, rapidly-evolving microtrends put more aesthetic-driven content in front of us than ever before, and it can feel hard to keep up. In this episode, we explore the ways that social media, fast fashion and ‘dopamine culture’ can pressure us to buy, how microtrend fatigue is giving way to a new type of self-expression, and how we can healthily navigate our own consumption of microtrends.

    We explore:

    • The 5 stages of a trend, and how microtrends are different
    • How world events influence microtrends
    • Why social contagion, social conformity, and individual expression influence our behaviour
    • Why social media and fast fashion have led to an explosion in microtrends
    • The role of ‘dopamine culture’ on our brains
    • Microtrend fatigue, and how ‘vibes’ might be replacing them
    • When to buy, and when to wait

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

    Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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    30 March 2026, 4:00 pm
  • 48 minutes 14 seconds
    400. 15 things everyone should do in their 20s

    It's our 400th episode! Today is a special episode. Feeling stuck, behind, or like you’re wasting your 20s is not a rare experience. But you might just be focusing on the wrong milestones... In this episode, we break down 15 unconventional things I think everyone should do in their 20s and the psychology behind why. 

    Some of the bucket list items we discuss: 

    • The best money lessons you learn through experience 
    • The importance of yearly challenges and quitting the things you depend on
    • The plan you can make for your life, today
    • Why we all need to do a social audit 
    • Solitude, relationships and the love you should find in your 20s

    Happy listening!

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

    Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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    26 March 2026, 5:00 pm
  • 47 minutes 57 seconds
    399. The psychology of exercise

      We all know exercise is ‘good for us’, but why is it that a walk can calm your brain, why a workout can feel like emotional release, or why movement can become either self-care or self-punishment. In this episode, we unpack the psychology of exercise – what’s happening to our brains over time, where the ‘exercise as antidepressants’ claim came from, and what happens when it crosses into obsession.

    We explore:
    •        The role of endorphins and endocannabinoids
    •        How movement can regulate our emotions
    •        Identity and motivation in exercise
    •        How exercise changes our brains
    •        The role of exercise in treating depression
    •        How to build a healthier relationship with exercise

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

    Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

    Our favourite sources: 

    https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10813489/

    https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/56/2/101.abstract

    https://insight.jci.org/articles/view/126190

    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    23 March 2026, 5:00 pm
  • 23 minutes 11 seconds
    398. 5 ways to get unstuck in your 20s

    Feeling stuck in your 20s is a rite of passage, but it's can also feel deeply hopeless when nothing in your life seems to be moving or changing in the way you want it to. In today's episode, we break down some of the reasons we feel stuck and the five things you can do in the next 6 months to change that, including: 

    • The 10 minute mind map tool to get you out of a funk 
    • Why you need to stop asking other people for advice
    • The 6 month challenge project 
    • Plus so much more

    Happy listening! 

    The episode I mentioned: How to feel like yourself again

    The book I mentioned: The Anatomy of a Breakthrough

     

    Watch on Netflix: HERE

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

    Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

     

    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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    21 March 2026, 10:33 am
  • 36 minutes 48 seconds
    397. The psychology of office politics

    When we think about office politics, you might think gossip, favouritism, or power plays - the kind of behind-the-scenes drama that makes work feel draining. But office politics isn’t just about one-upmanship or ambition. At its core, it’s a very human process: how people build trust, navigate competition, and influence decisions in the workplace.

    In this episode, we break down the ‘unwritten’ dynamics of office politics - why they exist, how they affect your daily work life, and what you can do to navigate them without compromising your values.

    We explore:
    •        The types of influence and power at work that you can leverage for yourself
    •        Why office politics feels inevitable
    •        How to recognise unspoken rules and social dynamics
    •        Advice on office gossip
    •        The 5 things you should be doing at work to get ahead (ethically)

    If you want to go into the office with less dread and more clarity, this episode is for you.

    Watch on Netflix

    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

    Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

    Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

    For business: [email protected] 

     

    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    19 March 2026, 5:00 pm
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