Why is it that the person you love most can also trigger the fears you thought you left behind? What if your partner’s most irritating habit isn’t really about them at all, but a faint echo from your childhood still asking to be healed? And what if that same repetitive fight about laundry or tone of voice isn’t a sign something’s wrong but actually a sacred doorway, a classroom, for your deepest growth?

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, clinical psychologist, Northwestern professor, author of Taking Sexy Back, host of the Reimagining Love Podcast, and the beloved voice behind Relational Self-Awareness. As two “talking doctors” who have been married for a combined 52 years, we ditch the theory and dive straight into the real, messy, sacred work of modern love.

We explore why today’s relationships demand so much more from us than past generations ever had to navigate, and why true intimacy now requires a “soul to soul” connection rooted in deep self-awareness. 

We also delve into: 

• The surprising reason relational self awareness is the real heartbeat of modern love
• How childhood wounds secretly script your adult conflicts without you knowing
• Whether some healing must happen alone or can truly happen inside the relationship
• How to tell when it’s a trigger… and when it’s genuine emotional danger
• What to do when a partner can name their wounds but refuses to change the pattern
• The exact moment your trigger gets activated and how to catch it in real time
• The hidden story your emotional pain is trying to tell you
• Why tone is often louder than words and how it shapes safety
• Alexandra’s go to regulation tools for coming back to calm fast
• How shorter, slower conversations create deeper intimacy
• The power of conscious pauses to stop spirals before they start
• How to truly witness your partner’s feelings so they feel seen and safe
• Why certain tones feel like danger and how to talk about it without blame
• Fast, body based tools to steady your nervous system in the middle of conflict
• How to offer a real, repair focused apology that actually rebuilds trust
• What it really means to be a relational leader and how to step into that role
• Alexandra’s five micro moments that instantly strengthen connection and bonding

Remember to check out her groundbreaking book, Taking Sexy Back, for a deeper dive into moving from performance to presence in love and life.

You can also explore my book, Quantum Love, for the science and spirituality behind using energy to transform your relationships.

For workshops, teachings, and her wonderful podcast Reimagining Love, visit alexandrasolomon.com.

Find Alexandra on Instagram @dralexandra.solomon for daily wisdom.

And if this conversation opened something in you, if you saw your own “relational ghost” in our stories, I’d love to hear about it. Email me anytime at [email protected]. Your story matters.

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When someone you love dies, people tell you to “move on,” but what does that even mean? How do you move forward when your heart still feels stuck in yesterday? 

In this Language of Love session, I answer a question from Susan, who lost her partner a year ago and still feels like she’s just going through the motions. We talk about why grief has no timeline, why some hearts feel it more deeply than others, and how to begin healing not by letting go, but by learning to hold love differently. Because grief isn’t something to get over, it’s something to move through.

We explore: 

• Why there’s no “right time” to stop grieving

• How to move through pain without getting lost in it

• Why feeling your feelings is the only way to release them

• The six pillars of grief healing and how they can support you in your journey

• Why your loved one’s energy never disappears, it simply changes form

• How to stay connected to someone you’ve lost through love, not longing

• What it means to become a more awakened version of yourself through grief

If you’ve ever felt pressure to “get over it,” this episode will remind you that healing is not about forgetting. It’s about remembering differently.

Remember to visit my website and explore The Grief Healing Collective, a community designed to support your healing with resources, practices, and connection. You can also check out my Good Grief Course for deeper guidance on navigating loss with compassion and understanding. And if you’d like to send your questions or join a future Language of Love session, reach out at [email protected],  I’d love to hear from you.

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Why is it that some men leave an imprint on a woman’s body, her heart, her energy, her memory, and sometimes even her soul… while others are forgotten by morning? What if the only difference is that the unforgettable ones have mastered powerful sex magic secrets, not the basic bedroom tips everyone already knows?

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into sex magic, not porn magic, not pickup tricks, but the real energetic, emotional, spiritual practices that turn sex from mechanical into magnetic.

I break down the five sex magic secrets that give you more control, more depth, and more connection than any technique ever could. From breathing that expands your arousal instead of cutting it short, to intention-based touch that opens her body and her trust, to the one move most men skip that opens her body and her soul like nothing else. You really can’t afford to miss that bonus move.

I explore:

• Why sex isn’t just an activity but an energetic transaction that imprints you on her body, mind, and memory

• The shocking reason you should stop “releasing” your orgasm energy/sperms  aimlessly  and start harnessing it like fuel

• How circulating your sexual energy turns you into the man who feels powerful, magnetic, and impossible to forget

• Why presence is the real aphrodisiac and how women can sense it before you even touch them

• How your breath secretly controls your arousal, your stamina, and the depth of the connection

• The hidden power of intentional touch that opens her body and unlocks her trust

• Why orgasm isn’t the finish line but a doorway to deeper pleasure, insight, and intimacy

• The heart to heart connection move she will never forget and the one most men don’t even know exists

Let me know in the comments which one of these secrets you are trying first. And if you want to go even deeper or learn more about sex magic, check out my book Sex Magic. Have comments or questions? You can always reach me at [email protected]

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In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with theologian and author Meggan Watterson, whose books Mary Magdalene Revealed and The Girl Who Baptized Herself have transformed the way countless people understand Christ, the Divine Feminine, and their own inherent worthiness.

Meggan opens up about her own spiritual journey as a child, having profound experiences of divine love that her secular, feminist upbringing couldn't explain. She shares how her first encounter with the traditional New Testament literally made her break out in hives, a visceral reaction to the missing feminine essence she intuitively knew belonged there.

We explore the Gospel of Mary Magdalene and the Acts of Paul and Thecla, texts that were deliberately excluded from the Bible, and how they reveal a Christianity that was originally subversive, egalitarian, and empowering for women. Meggan explains how these texts teach us that heaven isn't a destination after death, but a state we can access now, in these very bodies.

We get into the beautiful, practical concept of the "mind of the heart" or the "spiritual eye of the heart," the internal compass that guides us to our truth when the thinking mind fails. Meggan shares a simple, powerful "three breaths" practice that anyone can use to access this inner wisdom, even in the busiest moments of life.

We explore: 

• How patriarchal erasure shaped our spiritual inheritance and why reclaiming feminine texts matters
• The radical teachings of the Gospel of Mary and why Jesus chose to reveal them to a woman
• Thecla’s story and why her three days of silence mirror a modern spiritual awakening
• The difference between the inner critic and the authentic voice of the soul
• Why our worth is inherent, not earned
• How childhood wounds shape our patterns of choosing unavailable love
• The seven stages of spiritual transformation and how they unfold in real life
• What it means to embody divine love in the physical body
• How to access the mind of the heart and connect with the Beloved within
• The simple three-breath practice that anyone can use to return to their inner truth

Remember to check out her latest book, The Girl Who Baptized Herself, a profound reimagining of Thecla’s hidden gospel.You can also explore Mary Magdalene Revealed to discover the seven powers and the heart-centered teachings Jesus entrusted to Mary.

For workshops, retreats, and upcoming teachings, visit megganwatterson.com. Find Meggan on Instagram and LinkedIn for her latest writings and teachings.

And if this conversation opened something in you, I’d love to hear your story. Email me anytime at [email protected].

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Are you worried and feeling tension in your bedroom because of very different sex drives? You want to address it, but the last thing you want is for either of you to feel rejected or pressured. How do you solve uneven desire? 

In this Language of Love session, I answer a question from Ashley, who writes in about her and her partner’s very different sex drives. It’s one of the most common struggles I see in couples, and one that can actually bring you closer when you understand what’s really going on.

We talk about why sex drive naturally changes over time, how the early infatuation stage gives way to the sweeter (but calmer) attachment phase, and what it takes to keep intimacy alive when spontaneous horniness disappears. Because it’s not about waiting for fireworks, it’s about choosing connection.

We explore: 

• Why almost every couple experiences uneven desire at some point

• What really happens when the infatuation phase fades

• How to source desire from connection, not just horniness

• Why scheduling sex doesn’t make it mechanical, it makes it happen

• How hormones, stress, and medical issues can quietly affect libido

• Why quickies count (and how to make them meaningful)

• When to see a sex therapist and why earlier is always better

• How to rebuild closeness before addressing the “sex part”

• Why trauma changes the approach to intimacy and how to honor that

• The simple truth: sex is the glue that keeps romantic love feeling alive

If you’ve ever wondered how to keep desire alive when you and your partner aren’t on the same page, this episode is your gentle reminder that it’s not about doing more. It’s about being more open, more aware, and more intentional.

Remember to visit my website to explore resources and take the quiz “What Do You Really Want in Love?” I’m always here to help you love and be loved better. You can send your questions or join a future Language of Love session at [email protected]

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So many guys think they have manual stimulation all figured out, but most are still doing it in a way that leaves her less than thrilled. The truth is, manual stimulation is not just a warm-up before penetration. When you know how to use your hands or her hands with the right rhythm and presence, it can be one of the most powerful ways to give her mind-blowing pleasure.

In this Language of Love Bite, I am breaking down exactly how to take fingering from awkward to amazing. We will talk about the build-up most men skip, how to find and stimulate the clitoris and G-spot without rushing, and the one golden rule that will completely change the way she experiences your touch. Plus, I will give you a simple rhythm-training exercise you can practice at home that makes your hands smoother, steadier, and way more confident in bed.

We cover:

• The biggest mistakes men make when fingering (and how to avoid them)

• Why slowing down makes everything hotter

• How to sync clitoral and G-spot stimulation for maximum impact

• The golden rule of fingering that most men forget

• A finger rhythm exercise you can try tonight to instantly improve your touch

It’s not just about technique. It is about patience, presence, and paying attention to her body. When you do it right, your hands alone can bring her to orgasm.

If you are ready to step up your game, check out my book Sex Magic for even more step-by-step practices to deepen intimacy and pleasure. And do not forget to subscribe to the Language of Love podcast for more bite-sized tools to totally transform your love life.

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What if being a “good partner” has been quietly costing you your aliveness? We’ve been taught to shrink, to please, to perfect, to wear the mask of goodness so well that we forget what it feels like to truly be. We keep trying to be the “good partner,” the perfect child, the devoted spouse, the reliable coworker, all while losing touch with the fire that makes us feel alive.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Elise Loehnen, author of Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness, to explore how centuries of conditioning have shaped women into believing their worth depends on how selfless, small, and compliant they can be. Elise’s work builds on the success of her bestseller On Our Best Behavior, but this time she offers a guide for transformation that takes you from awareness to real, embodied change.

We dive deep into shadow work and the ways women unconsciously inherit narratives that limit their freedom, from “I shouldn’t need help” to “I’ll only be loved if I make life easy for everyone else.” Together, we explore how to spot these stories, name them, and finally release them.

We explore:

• Why being “good” often means abandoning your true self

• How inherited stories from culture and family silently shape your choices

• The difference between worth and value and why it changes everything

• What the “core process” reveals about fear, control, and the desire to be needed

• How to distinguish facts from stories and reclaim your power

• The real currency of abundance and how to break free from scarcity thinking

• How to recognize your personas, from the overfunctioner to the pleaser, and set them free

• Why self-care isn’t indulgent but sacred maintenance for your aliveness

Remember to check out Elise’s new book Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness: A Process for Reclaiming Your Full Self. You can also tune into her podcast Pulling the Thread or join her Substack community for more reflections on living fully and authentically. Want to connect with her? Visit her website or find her on Instagram. And if this conversation moved something in you, I’d love to hear it, share your thoughts or story at [email protected].

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When was the last time you felt completely alive with your partner, not because of what you did, but because of how connected you felt? No new toys, no faraway trips, no clever tricks. Just presence. Just energy. Just the spark that comes from truly seeing and being seen.

In this Language of Love Session, I sit down with Rachel, a listener and student of Sex Magic, who joined one of my live events in New Jersey and left with a notebook full of questions and a heart full of curiosity. Together, we explore what really fuels passion after the honeymoon fades. It’s not dopamine or novelty, but the deeper vibrational energy that connects two people soul to soul.

We explore: 

• Why true intimacy starts with awareness, not more techniques
• How to tell the difference between dopamine-fueled excitement and deep energetic connection
• How curiosity can dissolve judgment and open your heart wider
• What to do when one partner feels the energy instantly and the other doesn’t (yet)
• How to hold your vibration without taking on someone else’s emotions
• The concept of the Quantum Love Map and its relevance to vibrational matching
• Why we attract emotionally heavy people and how to stop being their anchor
• How raising your frequency naturally transforms your relationships
• Simple Sex Magic practices to clarify desire and realign with what you truly want
• The importance of being in a high energetic state during sex to enhance the manifestation process.

This conversation is for anyone who’s ever looked at their partner and wondered, Can we ever feel that spark again? The answer is yes, but it doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from being more: more present, more attuned, more alive. Passion never really dies; it just waits for you to come back home to your body, your energy, and your heart.

And if this episode lit something up in you, keep the flame going. Grab your copy of Sex Magic and explore the free meditations and tools at healwithlaura.com. I’d love to hear your story or your question for our next book club, just send me an email at [email protected]

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Let’s be honest, every long-term relationship has seasons where sex gets pushed aside. Between changing bodies, kids, work stress, money stress, and just plain exhaustion, months can slip into years without intimacy. So what do you do when you want sex again, but it feels awkward, foreign, or even impossible to bring up?

In this Language of Love Bite, I walk you through how to gently break the silence, rebuild emotional closeness, and take small but powerful steps back into an erotic connection with your partner. You will see that reigniting passion is not about pressure or performance, it is about safety, communication, and rediscovering each other in a playful, sensual way.

We discuss:

• Why passion fades in long-term relationships (and how resentment sneaks in)

• The role of emotional safety and non-sexual touch in reawakening desire

• How to use “sensate focus” to rebuild intimacy step by step

• The surprising power of non-demand kissing to spark erotic energy

• A sensual awakening ritual you can try tonight to gently reignite connection

• When and how to seek support from a certified sex therapist (AASECT.org)

Desire is never truly gone, it is just waiting for permission to return.

If you want to go deeper into creating sacred, satisfying intimacy, check out my book Sex Magic for step-by-step practices to awaken erotic pleasure and deepen connection. And do not forget to subscribe to the Language of Love podcast for more bite-sized tools to transform your love life.

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What do you do when everything you’ve built, everything you’ve believed in, suddenly means nothing, and all that’s left is heartbreak, silence, and the question, “How do I go on?” 

In this profoundly moving episode of The Language of Love Session, I sit down with author, mother, and speaker Nikki Mark, whose journey through unimaginable loss became a blueprint for healing, transformation, and connection across worlds.

In 2018, Nikki had lost her 12-year-old son, Tommy. Doctors had no answers, only silence. But what followed wasn’t the end of their story. In the depths of grief, Nikki began to experience undeniable signs, powerful dreams, and moments of connection that defied logic but spoke directly to the heart.

With no spiritual background to lean on, Nikki did what she knew best: she treated herself like a startup. One small step each day toward two goals: survive for her younger son, and honor her older one. From that resolve grew Tommy’s Field, a community soccer space dedicated to play, healing, and love, and a new mission to transform grief into purpose.

In this Conversation, we explore:

• How to find meaning when life makes no sense.
• The powerful “conversation” that foretold her son’s passing and the signs that followed.
• What it means to “treat yourself like a startup” and rebuild a life from the ashes.
• The role of dreams, signs, and synchronicities in grief healing.
• The connection between generational trauma and soul contracts, and how healing yourself can heal those who came before you.
• What it really means to “keep playing” when your heart is broken.
• The choice that changes everything: choosing life again.

If you’ve ever wondered whether love really continues beyond this world, or how to live again after loss, Nikki’s story is living proof that we can find grace even in grief and purpose where we once saw only pain.

To learn more about Nikki’s work, visit nikkimark.com and read her book Tommy’s Field: Love, Loss, and the Goal of a Lifetime.

And if you’re ready to take your next brave step toward healing, visit lauraberman.com to explore The Good Grief Course,  a heart-centered journey that helps you transform pain into peace and reconnect with the love that never ends.

If this conversation touched your heart, I’d love to hear your story. Email me at [email protected]. Your healing, your heart, and your voice matter.

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Did you know that if you keep leaving relationships because you’re tired of having the same arguments, you’ll probably end up having those same fights in the next one too? It doesn’t always mean you’re not compatible. Most of the time, it simply means there’s something still needs healing.

In this episode of The Language of Love Sessions, I answer a question from a listener named Carrie. She wrote in because she and her partner keep fighting in circles. Same argument, same frustration, and she’s starting to lose hope that things will ever change.

I get it. It’s exhausting. But what I’ve learned after decades of working with couples is that repeating arguments aren’t just about who’s right or wrong. They’re often a mirror showing us the patterns and pain we haven’t yet healed. Our relationships have this beautiful way of bringing up the stuff that’s ready to be worked on if we’re willing to look at it.

In this session, I talk about:

• Why you keep finding yourself in the same kind of fights

• How to take responsibility for your part in the pattern

• The difference between incompatibility and unhealed wounds

• How to turn conflict into a chance for connection instead of disconnection

• Why doing your own healing work changes every relationship you have

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this always happen to me?”, this episode is for you. Because real change doesn’t start by finding someone new. It starts by getting curious about yourself.

If you’d like me to answer your question on the show, send me an email at [email protected] or leave me a voice note at speakpipe.com/languageoflove.

Remember, love isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about learning from it, healing through it, and growing together.

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