In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, explores how to strengthen desire in long-term relationships by cultivating deeper intimacy and passion. She begins by highlighting the contrast between the brain regions responsible for daily functionality and those that fuel emotional and sensual connections. Dr. Alexandra explains how educated and successful individuals can transcend mere functionality in marriage to achieve both emotional and erotic fulfillment. She emphasizes the significance of non-sexual touch, sharing new experiences, and giving erotic attention to one's partner. 

 

Also in this episode:

• Engaging in new activities as a couple breaks routine patterns and introduces excitement and novelty, strengthening the bond. 

• Simple, affectionate touches without the expectation of sex builds intimacy and comfort, making partners feel more connected. 

• Paying focused and admiring attention to a partner significantly enhances intimacy and sexual desire.  Attending to feelings and sensations, both physical and emotional, is critical for deepening romantic connections.

 

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, delves into the challenges couples face when aiming to rekindle erotic passion and shares her perspective on how to maintain a passionate, intimate relationship over the years. Dr. Alexandra addresses a listener's heartfelt question about whether it's even possible to reignite the erotic spark in a marriage, especially when young children and life's demands take center stage. She emphasizes the importance of both partners being committed to the quality of their connection and offers practical advice for couples, particularly for men, on how to revive intimacy that has waned. This includes carving out dedicated time for closeness, engaging all the senses to foster connection and excitement, and maintaining open, non-blaming communication to deepen emotional bonds.

 

Also in this episode:

• Both partners must be fully invested in rekindling their intimate life. If one isn't ready, it's important to address and process any grievance about that in a healthy way, which includes finding out if the other partner wants to focus on this in the future. 

• Let intimacy develop naturally through sensory engagement and emotional connection, rather than rushing into sexual activity.

• For a deeper connection, engage all five senses—sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. Set aside regular, dedicated time for intimacy, free from daily distractions, to focus entirely on one another.

• Honest, non-blaming conversations about needs and desires are key to understanding each other and reigniting the passion in your relationship. This helps create a safe space for emotional and physical closeness.

 

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, explores the impact of multitasking drains the depth and efficiency of work and she dives into how this shows up in marital interactions. She discusses the importance of giving undivided attention in communication and the profound impact it has on resolving conflicts and deepening connection. Dr Alexandra offers listeners concrete steps to enhance their connection and intimacy by avoiding the pitfalls of multitasking and opting for more successful strategies while in conversation.

Tune in to learn how compartmentalizing perspectives and fostering genuine curiosity can break through a relational impasse, thus paving the way for uncompromising intimacy. 

 

Also in this episode: 

• Multitasking during conversations with your spouse diminishes the quality and efficiency of interactions, just as it does in professional settings.
• Giving full attention to one’s partner's perspective before responding leads to enhanced understanding and deeper connection.
• Feeling seen and heard is crucial for resolving conflicts and reconnecting emotionally.

 

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, MD, explores the hidden addictions of high performers with guest Roland Cochrun, focusing on the complex issue of sex and porn addiction and how it plays out in the lives of highly successful individuals. Dr. Alexandra sets the stage for a profound discussion on addiction, recovery, and sustaining fulfilling relationships. Roland shares his personal journey and the innovative strategies he has developed to support high achievers in overcoming sex and porn addictions. Together, they articulate the multifaceted nature of these addictions, highlighting the differences between substance addictions and process addictions. Roland sheds light on how societal norms and masculine stereotypes contribute to the development of addictive behaviors, and underscores the importance of tailored recovery pathways for high-performing individuals.

 

Also in this episode:

• Discussion on how societal expectations and masculine norms influence and perpetuate addictive behaviors.

• The importance of creating recovery programs that cater specifically to the lifestyles and needs of high achievers.

• The successful outcomes of high achievers who commit to recovery and the significant improvements they experience in their relationships.

 

About the Guest:

Roland Cochrun is the founder of The Successful Addict, a specialized sex and porn addiction recovery program tailored for high achievers and entrepreneurs. Recognizing the crucial role of human connection in recovery, Roland established a mastermind-style group that brings together like-minded men on their journey to overcome addiction. His program offers a deeply connected support network, featuring weekly calls, daily accountability, and transformative 4-day in-person retreats. With a focus on finding your tribe, Roland’s approach empowers high achievers and entrepreneurs to achieve long-term recovery and reclaim their lives. If you are a high performer seeking a supportive community and a path to sustained recovery, The Successful Addict is the group for you - https://successfuladdict.com

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, MD, addresses politically polarized marriages, offering perspectives and strategies for navigating political disagreements with your spouse, especially during the 2024 presidential election. She shares insights from her own experiences in her family, and times spent living in rural Kansas in a community with members holding different political, religious, and educational values than her own. Dr. Alexandra emphasizes prioritizing connection over content as she shows couples how to maintain intimacy and respect even when they support different political parties. 

This episode provides practical advice for couples facing major differences in opinions whether it’s in a politically polarized marriage or on other issues, and offers guidance on how to leverage your differences in order to build a stronger, more connected relationship.

 

Also in this episode:

• Learn strategies for maintaining a respectful and loving marriage despite political disagreements.

• Focus on the foundation of your relationship by appreciating differences and aim to deeply understand each other rather than trying to change one another’s viewpoints.

• Engage in structured conversations about political viewpoints with set start and end times, and avoid discussions when emotions are high.

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, MD and Erica Bove, MD discuss the concept of sensual awakening. Together, they explore the complexities of balancing a high-powered professional life with the emotional demands of romantic relationships, emphasizing nurturing connection despite hectic schedules and times apart. This episode provides a variety of practical strategies to help couples preserve intimacy and passion, even in the face of busyness and other common challenges. 

 

Also in this episode:

• Strategies and perspectives on keeping romance alive with professional responsibilities and physical distance.

• Introducing the Rose, Bud, Thorn exercise and the importance of matching communication styles to avoid misunderstandings.

• Practical ways to pivot from feeling obligated in daily check-ins to making them meaningful and connective.

• Techniques to awaken sensuality and presence despite a very busy schedule.

• Understanding that the pace of a relationship doesn't need to fit a predefined timeline; it’s best to trust the organic progression.

 

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About the Guest:

Erica Bove, MD, is a double board certified OB-GYN and Reproductive Endocrinologist (REI) physician at the University of Vermont, as well as a certified life coach through The Life Coach School. She is also the founder of Love and Science: Thriving Through Infertility. She has a keen interest in marrying an evidence-based approach with intuitive knowing in the context of a trusting relationship. She empowers professional women to build their families with confidence and self compassion. Her mission is to heal and support the healers and to create a legacy she is proud of. If you're curious: Undergrad: University of Notre Dame Med school: University of Vermont Residency: New York Presbyterian Hospital-Columbia Fellowship: University of Michigan.

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, MD discusses how to reimagine date nights. She challenges conventional thinking and advocates for more intentional, meaningful relationship-building activities. This must-listen episode is perfect for any couple eager to strengthen their bond beyond routine and uninspired outings. Dr. Alexandra critiques the overly simplistic view of date nights as a magic cure-all for relationship woes and offers invaluable advice for couples at every stage—whether they’re struggling to find time for each other or looking to elevate an already strong relationship. She encourages couples to tailor their quality time to suit their unique needs, whether it’s through shared adventures, intimate conversations, or even taking naps together.

 

Also in this episode:

• Traditional date nights are not a cure-all and need to be intentional and customized to benefit the relationship.

• Focus on meaningful interactions rather than simply spending time together if you want to cultivate emotional and sensual intimacy.

• Discover activities that bring joy and connection, like learning new skills together, engaging in heartfelt conversations, or even spending quiet, restful time in each other's company.

• Reserve date nights for enriching dialogues and avoid logistics and other routine discussions.

 

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the topic of erotic intimacy after 40 in the context of a captivating conversation with holistic health coach Leah Vachani. They explore the intricate dynamics of maintaining intimacy and passion in long-term relationships, particularly during and after menopause. Dr. Alexandra and Leah debunk the myth of libido mismatch, and explore the crucial roles of self-awareness and emotional intimacy, while covering practical strategies to rekindle desire and pleasure in the bedroom. The conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing daily pleasures, fostering open and honest communication with partners, and challenging the idea that compromise is the foundation of a happy marriage.

 

Also in this episode:

• Genuine intimacy comes from being true to oneself and sharing those truths with a partner.

• Deepening emotional intimacy paves the way for richer, more fulfilling sexual experiences.

• Practical advice includes improving non-sexual daily pleasures, having vulnerable conversations with partners, and focusing on sensual quality over sexual quantity.

 

About the Guest: 

Leah Vachani is a seasoned Holistic Health & Hormone Coach with nearly two decades of experience in the wellness industry. Her journey began with a personal mission to reclaim her energy and health as she navigated the challenges of her forties. Realizing that her old strategies were no longer effective during perimenopause, Leah embarked on a transformative exploration of new foods, supplements, lifestyle habits, and biohacks. Now, feeling more vibrant and energetic than ever, Leah is dedicated to helping women thrive through menopause and beyond. Her unique approach focuses on stress management, circadian rhythm balance, and integrating simple yet impactful lifestyle changes.

Connect with Leah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leahvachani/

 

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, dives into the importance of nurturing long-term relationships and how to prevent gray divorce, the term referring to divorce among older adults. She explains that having a fulfilling marriage requires constant attention and nurturing, much like tending to a garden. Dr. Alexandra dispels outdated myths about divorce rates and emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning and growth in a marriage. This episode is filled with practical tips and strategies to keep your marital connection vibrant and strong.

 

Also in this episode:

• Thriving marriages require constant nurturing and should not be taken for granted, especially when life gets busy with careers and children.

• Having a fulfilling marriage is a learnable skill, essential for emotional and physical well-being; it's never too late to learn.

• Actionable advice includes holding hands, spooning, non-sexual caressing, and having regular relationship check-ins to maintain intimacy and connection.

 

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the significance of sex in marriage and explores whether a sexless marriage can be a happy one. She breaks down the various dimensions of intimacy and connection within marriages, noting that societal trends show a decline in sexual activity. Even as collaborative companionship and emotional intimacy are crucial, the enriching experiences brought by sexual intimacy are invaluable. Dr. Stockwell notes that some couples attempt to overcome challenges and dissatisfaction in sex by opening their marriage, and others do so by letting go of sex–the most fulfilling option is to learn how to have really great sex with your partner so that you want more and more of it!

 

Also in this episode:

• Emotional and physical intimacy are both essential components of a thriving marriage.

• Societal trends show a decline in sexual activity, but individual fulfillment should not be dictated by statistics.

• Enhancing one’s sex life and relationship quality are learnable skills requiring attention and intention

• Building emotional intimacy sets the foundation for improved sexual connections.

 

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD and Annie Lalla discuss how to enhance emotional intimacy in relationships. Annie shares her insights on the importance of emotional fitness and how feelings manifest as physical sensations in the body. She describes subconscious fears that often keep couples from experiencing deeper intimacy, and provides actionable advice on overcoming these barriers. They also delve into the intricate dynamics of power within relationships, discussing how unresolved power imbalances can manifest as sexual disinterest or withholding.

 

Also in this episode:

• The speed of recovery from an upset or conflict is a key indicator of emotional fitness in a relationship.

• Exploring and addressing unconscious power dynamics within a relationship is crucial to resolving sexual disinterest and enhancing intimacy.

• Even in busy lives, short but fully present moments significantly enhance intimate connection.

• Sexual intimacy is essential for nourishing the relationship, just as food is to a growing child. 

• Addressing emotional disconnections revitalizes sexual desire.

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https://www.instagram.com/lallabird/

 

About Annie Lalla:

As a cutting edge Relationship Coach, Annie maps the complexities of romance and upgrades emotional skills. Specializing in love, sex & conflict resolution, Annie's created a suite of practical tools that resolve unconscious relational patterns, attachment wounds and recurrent conflict. She helps clients cultivate relational esteem and develop collaboration skills that go beyond power struggles, shame or blame. Annie is a fierce stand for creating intimate relationships that last a lifetime.

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