It's Not Me, It's You

John Kim and Vanessa Bennett

A therapist couple explores and processes their own issues, disproving the misconception that therapists have their shit together and that their relationships are perfect.John Kim, aka The Angry Therapist, is a licensed marriage and family therapist ...

  • 31 minutes 23 seconds
    Ep 19 Navigating Growth and Differences

    In this episode, we discuss ways to approach communicating your needs and desires with a partner and we also examine our still forming thoughts about balancing feminine and masculine energies through introspection, ownership and self-awareness.


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    19 July 2021, 1:00 pm
  • 30 minutes 14 seconds
    Ep 18 Examining Ambivalence

    In this episode, we record a live Q&A from inside a TAT Lab session. We discuss how self work can sometimes feel like 2 steps forward and 1 step back, and how when ambivalence shows up in ourselves and in relationships we need to examine and act on it. 


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    15 June 2021, 11:45 pm
  • 31 minutes 39 seconds
    Ep 17 Fantasizing About Others

    In this episode, we discuss how fantasy and jealousy can present themselves in relationships and where the line between healthy and not healthy can be drawn for both.


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    11 May 2021, 4:15 pm
  • 32 minutes 42 seconds
    Ep 16 Letters to Our Exes

    In this episode, we share letters that we’ve written to our partners of the past. We discuss the lessons gathered from those relationships, how they’ve transcended over time, and how they show up in our partnership today.


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    27 April 2021, 1:26 pm
  • 37 minutes 42 seconds
    Ep 15 Equality in Partnerships

    In this episode, we share some exciting news about a new project that we’re working on together and what it’s bringing up for us. We discuss how there tends to be power differentials in relationships and how we can cultivate a dynamic where we’re true partners bringing our own unique things to the table.


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    13 April 2021, 2:50 pm
  • 25 minutes 51 seconds
    Ep 14 Answering Your Questions

    In the first of a new series within the podcast, we answer questions submitted by the listeners. We talk through and sometimes disagree on questions around how to not be the toxic one in a relationship, how you can make a relationship with an Avoidant work, the reality of “getting over” a relationship, and when two people’s sexual drives aren’t aligned.


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    6 April 2021, 1:00 pm
  • 25 minutes 45 seconds
    Ep 13 Needs Are a Two-Way Street

    An extra hard day of parenting can test your relationship in many ways, especially in terms of having your needs met. Getting your needs met isn’t just about asking for them. Your partner should move toward you as well, especially if you have difficulty expressing your needs. Needs are a two-way street. Let us explain.


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    29 March 2021, 2:00 pm
  • 29 minutes 22 seconds
    Ep 12 Our Top 3 Relationship Killers

    Each of us goes over what we think our top 3 relationship killers are. We discuss how they show up, how we can be more aware of them, and how we can work to ensure they don’t show up in our relationships or how to work on them if they do.


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    22 March 2021, 1:00 pm
  • 39 minutes 9 seconds
    Ep 11 Two Types of Desire

    Sexual Desire. It’s a topic that is always coming up, for us and our clients. How much sex is enough? How come I always want it and they don’t? What’s wrong with me / with them? 

    We break down the two distinct types of desire and why understanding them both can be a massive shift in your relationship. This was a huge lightbulb moment for Vanessa.

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    11 March 2021, 3:49 pm
  • 36 minutes 11 seconds
    Ep 10 Love and Money
    Money is one of those topics that can make or break a relationship. We discuss how our upbringings and our personal beliefs about money shape us individually but also as a partnership.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others.

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    22 February 2021, 4:26 pm
  • 34 minutes 36 seconds
    Ep 9 The Relationship Dance

    So many relationship dances, so little time: Avoidant/Anxious, Overfunctioner/Underfunctioner, CODA/Compulsive, Enabler/Enabled. We dive into how we are always trying to become more aware when the cycles start and old patterns take over, and how we can work to break them through naming them.

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    8 February 2021, 4:25 pm
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