What if authenticity isn't a personality trait—but a sign of nervous system capacity?

Many people believe they struggle to be themselves because they lack confidence, boundaries, or self-awareness. But after trauma, authenticity can feel physiologically dangerous. When the nervous system has learned that honesty risks rejection, conflict, or abandonment, masking, performing, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional editing become intelligent survival strategies.

In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore why authenticity is one of the clearest markers of post-traumatic growth. They unpack the neuroscience behind masking, the relationship between performance and attachment, why "little lies" often emerge from protection rather than manipulation, and how increasing nervous system capacity allows authentic self-expression without collapse or self-abandonment.

The conversation also explores how psychedelic experiences often create temporary feelings of authenticity and forgiveness—but why those insights only become lasting change through preparation, regulation, and integration.

Jennifer also shares a deeply personal reflection on self-forgiveness, relational repair, and how nervous system regulation creates the capacity to tell the truth, remain connected, and experience genuine freedom.

In This Episode, We Discuss

• Why authenticity is a marker of nervous system health—not personality.

• How complex trauma teaches the body that honesty can threaten attachment.

• The neuroscience behind masking, performance, and emotional editing.

• Why perfectionism is a survival strategy rather than a character trait.

• The relationship between authenticity and post-traumatic growth.

• How chronic self-suppression increases allostatic load and nervous system stress.

• Why "little lies" often function as protective nervous system adaptations.

• The difference between visibility and authentic expression.

• Oversharing versus authentic vulnerability.

• How nervous system capacity changes relationships.

• Why psychedelic insight alone does not create lasting transformation.

• The role of preparation and integration after psychedelic experiences.

• Self-forgiveness as a nervous system practice rather than a mindset.

• Why shame blocks neuroplasticity and learning.

• Attunement, emotional processing, and authentic change.

• Forgiveness without bypassing accountability.

• Breaking intergenerational trauma patterns through regulation and capacity building.

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The Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological, or other professional advice or services. The information shared by Jennifer Wallace, Elisabeth Kristof, and their guests is for educational purposes only and should not be used as a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or healthcare advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you have heard on this podcast.

If listening to this podcast brings up significant distress, please pause the episode and seek support from a qualified mental health professional. If you are in crisis, contact your local emergency services immediately. In the United States and Canada, you can also contact or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

While every effort is made to ensure the accuracy of the information presented, neuroscience and trauma research continue to evolve. Trauma Rewired makes no guarantees regarding the completeness, reliability, or ongoing accuracy of the information shared.

The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace, Elisabeth Kristof, BrainBased, or their affiliates.

Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof are educators and practitioners. Unless explicitly stated, they are not acting as licensed medical or mental health providers within the context of this podcast.

BrainBased.com, RewireTrial.com, and associated educational programs are intended for educational purposes only and are not a substitute for individualized medical or mental healthcare.

Discussions involving psychedelics are presented exclusively for educational and harm reduction purposes. Trauma Rewired does not encourage or promote illegal activity or the unsupervised use of psychedelic substances. Individuals should understand and comply with the laws applicable in their jurisdiction and consult qualified healthcare professionals before making decisions related to psychedelic therapies.

Any examples or stories shared on this podcast are for educational illustration. Names and identifying details may be changed to protect privacy.

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Grief is often thought of as an emotional response to death, but grief is much more than that. It is a full-body physiological process that accompanies every meaningful loss, transition, and transformation we experience throughout life.

In this episode, Jennifer Wallace, Elisabeth Kristof, and NSI Director of Operations and Continuing Education Piper Rose explore grief through the lens of neuroscience, attachment, and the nervous system. Together, they examine why grief is not something to "get over," but a biological process that reshapes our brain, body, relationships, and identity.

Whether you're grieving the loss of a loved one, a relationship, your health, a career, a version of yourself, or navigating the changes that naturally accompany healing and post-traumatic growth, this conversation offers a compassionate and science-backed framework for understanding grief as an essential part of being human.

Together, they explore why grief can feel physically painful, how our nervous system adapts to loss, why meaning-making often comes too early, and how building the capacity to stay present with grief ultimately expands our capacity for resilience, connection, and love.

Key Takeaways

• Why grief is a biological nervous system process—not simply an emotional experience.
• How grief reshapes the brain's predictions, physiology, and sense of identity.
• The relationship between grief, attachment, belonging, and post-traumatic growth.
• Why grief often shows up as fatigue, heaviness, physical pain, bracing, or shutdown.
• How survival responses like suppression, over-functioning, and dissociation interrupt the body's natural grieving process.
• Why growth always asks us to grieve who we once were.
• Why meaning-making is most helpful after the body has processed loss—not before.
• Practical ways to support grief through co-regulation, nervous system capacity, and daily "minimum effective dose" grief practice.

If you've ever been told to "move on," "look for the silver lining," or simply "stay strong," this episode offers another perspective: grief is not something to overcome. It is a deeply human process that deserves to be witnessed, supported, and experienced with compassion.

Featured in This Episode

Piper Rose Founder of Shadowplay Coaching and Director of Operations & Continuing Education at NeuroSomatic Intelligence.

Frances Weller Author and psychotherapist whose work on grief, ritual, and community is referenced throughout the conversation.

Kintsugi The Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold, used as a metaphor for healing, resilience, and transformation.

Resources

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Are you ready to become the woman who can carry the vision? Discover nervous system education, preparation, integration, and resources to support your journey at illuminatedwithjennifer.com.

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📖 The Wayfinder Journal https://stan.store/illuminated

Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.

We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being.

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization.

We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional.

The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

Discussions related to psychedelics are provided solely for educational and harm reduction purposes. Nothing shared on this podcast or through Sacred Synapse should be interpreted as medical advice, encouragement to use illegal substances, or a recommendation that psychedelics are appropriate for any individual. Decisions regarding psychedelic use should be made in consultation with qualified healthcare professionals and in accordance with applicable laws.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected]

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Childhood sexual trauma doesn't end when the event is over. It can shape the nervous system for decades, influencing boundaries, shame, relationships, chronic pain, dissociation, and the way we experience safety in our own bodies.

In this deeply personal episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof are joined by NSI practitioner Lovee Bradley to explore the lasting neurophysiological effects of childhood sexual abuse and the path toward healing.

Together they discuss how early violations of body boundaries shape the developing nervous system, why freeze and dissociation become deeply ingrained survival strategies, and how those adaptations continue to influence adult relationships, emotional regulation, shame, intimacy, and self-expression.

Jennifer, Elisabeth, and Lovee also share their own lived experiences with sexual trauma, pelvic pain, chronic bracing, emotional suppression, people-pleasing, and boundary challenges while offering hope through nervous system healing and neuroplasticity.

This conversation is not about reliving trauma—it is about understanding the intelligence of survival responses and learning how to safely reconnect with your body, your voice, and your sense of self.

If you've ever struggled with shame, chronic freeze, difficulty saying no, intimacy challenges, or feeling disconnected from your own body, this episode offers both education and hope.

In This Episode We Discuss

• How childhood sexual trauma shapes nervous system development

• Why freeze is an intelligent survival response—not a personal weakness

• Dissociation, shame, and the long-term effects of developmental trauma

• How chronic muscle bracing and pelvic floor tension develop after trauma

• Sexual fawning, people-pleasing, and body boundary violations

• Emotional regulation and the lasting impact of early attachment wounds

• The relationship between shame, chronic illness, and self-abandonment

• Why boundaries often feel physically unsafe after trauma

• Rebuilding safety, self-expression, and agency through neuroplasticity and nervous system regulation

Resources 🧠 Featured in This Episode

Working with Shame: A Neurosomatic Approach for Practitioners

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Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.

We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being.

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization.

We talk about general neuroscience and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neurosomatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. BrainBased.com and RewireTrial.com are membership sites for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. They are not substitutes for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Jennifer Wallace is also the founder of Sacred Synapse, an educational platform exploring psychedelic neuroscience, applied neurology, Neurosomatic Intelligence, and nervous system-informed psychedelic preparation and integration. Any discussion of psychedelics is provided for educational and harm reduction purposes only. Sacred Synapse does not encourage or promote illegal substance use. Psychedelic experiences carry significant psychological and physiological risks and are not appropriate for every nervous system. Always consult qualified medical professionals and follow the laws applicable where you live before making decisions related to psychedelic use.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others. If you have any concerns regarding our content, please contact us at [email protected].

All rights in our content are reserved.

Shame is one of the most powerful forces shaping the nervous system. It can quietly influence how we think, relate, perform, heal, and even how we experience ourselves. Yet most approaches treat shame as something to challenge cognitively rather than something that has become embodied through years of protective adaptations.

In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore the neuroscience of self-compassion and why it is not simply "being nice to yourself." Self-compassion is a neurobiological intervention that changes brain function, increases emotional regulation, reduces threat activation, and creates the conditions for genuine nervous system change.

Together, they unpack why shame becomes wired into the brain, how protective survival responses reinforce shame over time, and why healing requires more than insight. Through the lens of Neurosomatic Intelligence (NSI), they explain how creating safety within the nervous system allows new neural pathways to develop, making lasting transformation possible.

If you've ever struggled with perfectionism, chronic self-criticism, people-pleasing, burnout, or the feeling that you're somehow "not enough," this conversation offers both the neuroscience and the practical tools to begin rewiring those deeply learned patterns.

In This Episode

• What shame actually is from a nervous system perspective

• How chronic shame changes brain function and reinforces survival patterns

• The difference between guilt, shame, and healthy accountability

• Why self-compassion is a biological process—not positive thinking

• How self-criticism activates threat physiology

• The neuroscience behind safety, neuroplasticity, and emotional regulation

• Why insight alone rarely resolves shame

• How early attachment experiences shape lifelong self-perception

• The relationship between self-compassion and resilience

• Practical ways to begin rewiring shame through Neurosomatic Intelligence

• Why shame is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a character flaw

• How your nervous system learns patterns of self-protection

• Why changing your internal dialogue without changing physiology often doesn't last

• How compassion supports neuroplasticity and nervous system regulation

• Why healing requires increasing capacity—not forcing change

• Small practices that help shift the nervous system toward safety and connection

• Featured in This Episode

• Throughout this conversation, we mention the following resources:

• 🧠 15-Day Nervous System Rewire

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Disclaimer

The Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological, or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.

We share our experiences and explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health, and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue listening if these conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being.

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health or is experiencing a mental health crisis and you are in the United States, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988. If someone's life is in immediate danger, call 911.

We do our best to stay current with research, but older episodes remain available. We do not warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate, or up-to-date information. It is important to speak with a qualified medical professional about your individual needs, as we are not responsible for any actions you take based on the information shared in this podcast.

We occasionally invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we do not independently verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content, and the views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent those of our organization.

We discuss neuroscience and nervous system health in general terms. Every nervous system is unique. These conversations are intended for a broad audience and provide general educational information. They are not personalized recommendations and should never replace individualized care for your specific health concerns, trauma history, or nervous system needs.

We are not physicians or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neurosomatic practitioners and nervous system health and embodiment coaches. We are not your healthcare providers, do not know your individual medical history, and this podcast is not a substitute for working with qualified professionals.

BrainBased.com and RewireTrial.com are membership platforms that provide education and practices for general nervous system health, somatic processing, and stress processing. They are not substitutes for medical care and are not appropriate interventions for individuals experiencing a mental health crisis.

Discussions related to psychedelics are provided solely for educational and harm reduction purposes. Nothing shared on this podcast or through Sacred Synapse should be interpreted as medical advice, encouragement to use illegal substances, or a recommendation that psychedelics are appropriate for any individual. Decisions regarding psychedelic use should be made in consultation with qualified healthcare professionals and in accordance with applicable laws.

Any examples shared in this podcast are for illustrative purposes only. When based on real events, identifying details and names have been changed to protect the privacy of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure that our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others. If you believe any content infringes upon your rights, please contact us at [email protected].

All rights in our content are reserved.

S5 E48 – Why You Shut Down: Freeze, Flop, and Tonic Immobility Explained

Have you ever found yourself unable to speak during an important conversation? Staring at your computer for hours without being able to begin? Feeling emotionally numb, disconnected, or frozen even though you desperately want to move forward?

These experiences are often misunderstood as laziness, burnout, or a lack of motivation. But they may actually be signs of a nervous system that has learned survival through shutdown.

In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore the freeze response in depth, separating several nervous system states that are often mistakenly grouped together: acute freeze, tonic immobility, flop, and functional freeze.

You'll learn why freeze is not simply "doing nothing," but an intelligent neurobiological response that helps the brain assess danger before choosing its next survival strategy. You'll also discover why tonic immobility—a last-resort survival response frequently experienced during sexual assault, childhood abuse, and combat—is fundamentally different from the brief freeze response that occurs during everyday stress.

Jennifer and Elisabeth unpack how chronic trauma can condition the nervous system to rely on freeze and shutdown long after danger has passed, creating patterns of emotional numbness, dissociation, indecision, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and difficulty accessing authentic connection.

The conversation also explores how functional freeze differs from burnout, why emotional numbness is often a loss of access rather than a loss of emotion, and how disruptions in interoception make emotional processing feel nearly impossible. Rather than encouraging people to push through or "snap out of it," they explain why nervous system healing begins with safety, precision, and what Neurosomatic Intelligence calls the Minimum Effective Dose.

Whether you're navigating your own healing journey or supporting clients as a therapist, coach, or practitioner, this episode provides a compassionate neuroscience framework for understanding why shutdown happens—and how the nervous system can gradually learn that it is safe to move, feel, and reconnect again.

In This Episode We Discuss:

• The difference between freeze, tonic immobility, flop, and functional freeze

• Why freeze is a temporary survival pause—not the end of the stress response

• How tonic immobility differs from everyday freeze and why it often follows inescapable threat

• Why survivors often experience shame after tonic immobility

• How chronic trauma patterns freeze into daily life

• Functional freeze versus burnout: understanding the differences

• How freeze affects relationships, communication, and vulnerability

• Why emotional numbness is often a protective nervous system response

• The role of interoception in emotional awareness and processing

• How trauma changes the way the brain interprets internal body sensations

• Why you cannot think your way out of freeze

• The neuroscience behind emotional blunting and dissociation

• Why high performers can live in functional freeze without realizing it

• How freeze impacts motivation, purpose, and emotional connection

• The difference between numbness and apathy

• Gentle, nervous system-informed approaches to thawing out of freeze

• Why healing begins with safety, movement, and minimum effective dose—not forcing emotional breakthroughs

If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who may finally find language for an experience they've never been able to explain.

To learn more about bringing applied neurology, somatics, and nervous system education into your personal or professional practice, visit Neurosomatic Intelligence and explore the Foundations Bundle.

Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the podcast—it helps us continue bringing evidence-informed nervous system education to more people around the world.

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Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected]

All rights in our content are reserved

In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore the flight response through the lens of trauma, nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and Neurosomatic Intelligence.

The flight response doesn't always look like physically running away. More often, it shows up as chronic busyness, overworking, overtraining, perfectionism, emotional avoidance, and the inability to slow down. What many people call discipline, productivity, or high performance may actually be a nervous system mobilized for survival.

Jennifer and Elisabeth unpack how fear becomes wired into the body through developmental trauma, emotional neglect, structural trauma, and chronic stress. They explore why the nervous system learns to associate stillness with danger, how chronic flight becomes reinforced by modern culture, and why so many people feel trapped in constant motion despite desperately needing rest.

In this episode you'll learn:

• What the trauma flight response actually is • Why stillness can feel unsafe after trauma • How fear gets expressed through overworking, urgency, perfectionism, and burnout • The role of interoception in emotional awareness and regulation • Why high-functioning coping strategies often mask nervous system dysregulation • How structural trauma and hustle culture reinforce chronic flight patterns • Practical neurosomatic approaches for building safety, emotional tolerance, and capacity

The conversation also explores CPTSD, burnout, anxiety, emotional suppression, fear, neuroplasticity, and the relationship between nervous system regulation and emotional processing.

If you feel stuck in constant motion, struggle to rest, or find yourself disconnected from your body, emotions, and capacity for presence, this episode is for you.

Subscribe to Trauma Rewired for more conversations on trauma healing, nervous system regulation, emotional health, somatics, neuroplasticity, CPTSD, and post-traumatic growth.

Resources

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Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected]

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Fight response isn't just anger or "being reactive." It's a nervous system adaptation shaped by experiences where safety, protection, repair, or authenticity were missing. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore the neuroscience of the fight response, how suppressed anger turns inward as a harsh inner critic or outward as criticism and control, and why the body stays braced for threat long after the danger has passed.

This conversation explores parentification, emotional suppression, hypervigilance, chronic stress patterns, and the hidden ways fight response impacts relationships, health, and self-trust. The hosts break down how trauma wires survival patterns into the nervous system—and how daily neuro practices can help recondition those pathways toward safety and connection.

You'll learn:

• Why fight response is protection, not a personality flaw

• How suppressed anger impacts the nervous system and body

• The connection between parentification and chronic fight states

• Why the inner critic is often internalized fight energy

• How nervous system patterns shape relationships and emotional reactivity

• The neuroscience of emotional suppression, stress, and survival responses🎧 Listen to more episodes of Trauma Rewired for conversations on trauma, emotional processing, nervous system healing, and post-traumatic growth.

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Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected]

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What if your chronic stress, emotional triggers, anxiety, or exhaustion are not a mindset problem, but signs that your nervous system has learned protective survival patterns? In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Elisabeth Kristof and Jennifer Wallace explore the science of nervous system regulation and unpack a common phrase in trauma spaces: "trauma lives in the body."

While the body plays a central role, they discuss how trauma may be more accurately understood as patterns of brain-body communication, interpretation, prediction, and response shaped through experience. Through the lens of predictive processing and applied neuroscience, they explore how the nervous system uses past experiences to anticipate safety and threat, influencing emotions, behaviors, and physical symptoms in the present.

Together they break down the autonomic nervous system, fight and flight responses, interoception, chronic stress, and why nervous system healing is not about forcing calm or chasing a quick reset. Instead, recovery happens through small, consistent practices that help create greater flexibility, resilience, and new experiences of safety over time.

Timestamps

00:00 – Triggers and the Nervous System 02:15 – The Nervous System as the Body's Operating System 05:35 – Autonomic Nervous System and Stress Responses 08:30 – Sympathetic vs. Parasympathetic States 12:05 – Nervous System States and Emotional Patterns 16:50 – Triggers as Nervous System Reset Opportunities 18:05 – The Stress Response and Survival Mode 23:25 – Trauma and Nervous System Dysregulation 28:40 – Chronic and Complex Trauma Effects 36:10 – Emotional Processing for Nervous System Healing

Topics discussed in this episode:

• How to restore the nervous system after chronic stress and trauma

• How nervous system regulation improves emotional resilience and physical health

• How the autonomic nervous system works (sympathetic vs. parasympathetic explained)

• How trauma imprints on the nervous system and keeps you in survival mode

• How to use nervous system healing practices like breathwork, movement, and interoception

• How to exit fight or flight safely when the danger has passed

• How nervous system reset supports emotional processing and better decision-making

• How to use interoception to sense, interpret, and respond to internal body signals

• How to regulate the nervous system daily with small, consistent practices

• How dysregulation impacts health and the steps to build lasting nervous system resilience

🔗Resources mentioned:

🎯 Start Here

FREE 2-week nervous system training: https://www.rewiretrial.com

Learn more about Neurosomatic Intelligence Coaching: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com

📺 Watch More Trauma Rewired Episodes

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRewired

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trauma.rewired

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846

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Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected]

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You are not overreacting. Your nervous system is not broken. It is doing exactly what it learned to do in environments where threat was the norm.

In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof close out Season Five with one of the most important and least understood concepts in complex trauma: emotional flashbacks. Not the cinematic kind, not a sudden memory of a specific event, but the quiet, whole-system state shift that can color an entire day, week, or month in dread, loneliness, shame, and the bone-deep certainty that nothing will ever be okay.

The episode opens with a reframe that changes everything: an emotional flashback is not a regression to the past. It is a real-time nervous system state that reorganizes how the brain filters reality. Perception shifts. Interpretation shifts. What feels possible shifts. And because it happens at the level of the whole predictive network, not just a single memory, it does not feel like the past. It feels like now. It feels like truth.

Elisabeth and Jennifer trace exactly how this works through the lens of neuro somatic intelligence, constructed emotion theory, and the science of predictive processing. They explain what neuro tags are and how they get activated, why the amygdala hijack model is outdated and what a more accurate understanding of emotional flashbacks actually looks like, and why calling these states irrational or disordered misses the point entirely. The nervous system is not malfunctioning. It is preparing for threat based on what it has reliably learned to expect.

Both hosts share vivid and honest personal examples. Elisabeth describes a recent subtle flashback triggered by being sick, underresourced, and feeling unsupported by her partner, and how quickly the narrative spread to her business, her relationships, and her sense of being completely alone. Jennifer shares the story of a red hummingbird feeder in her backyard that unlocked an entire somatic memory of loneliness and isolation she had not yet consciously connected to childhood.

The episode also addresses something practitioners often ask about: how to tell the difference between emotional dysregulation that needs regulating, and an emotion that needs to be felt and moved through. The answer is not a clean line but a question of capacity, flexibility, and what the nervous system can hold in that moment.

This is the final episode of Season Five and a natural bridge into Season Six, where Jennifer and Elisabeth will be expanding the lens from individual healing to collective nervous system dynamics, cultural structures, and what becomes possible when this work moves beyond the personal.

Chapters

0:00 - Emotional Flashbacks Are Not Regressions. They Are Reality Shifts. 0:38 - Welcome: Closing the Season With Emotional Flashbacks 1:59 - What Neuro Tags Are and How They Get Activated 3:43 - Why Emotional Flashbacks Are Hard to Identify, Especially at First 4:42 - Constructed Emotion Theory and How the Brain Builds Emotional Reality 6:22 - How Physiology Shifts Perception: The Whole System View 7:37 - What It Feels Like From the Inside 9:22 - When You Have Lived in Flashbacks So Long They Feel Like Reality 10:31 - Elisabeth's Recent Subtle Flashback: Sick, Underresourced, and the Narrative That Spread 12:21 - Why Emotional Flashbacks in Complex Trauma Last Days, Weeks, or Longer 14:11 - How to Start Recognizing When You Are In One 15:22 - Moving Beyond Amygdala Hijacking: A More Accurate Model 18:27 - What Modern Neuroscience Actually Says About Emotion and the Brain 21:31 - Emotional Flashbacks as Coherent State Shifts, Not System Failures 23:42 - Why Sensory Precision Matters and What Happens When It Decreases 25:38 - Implicit Memory: How the Past Lives in the Body Without a Story 29:07 - Jennifer's Story: The Red Hummingbird Feeder 30:30 - How Safety States Open New Memory Files 31:41 - The Disproportionate Feeling and the Shame That Comes With It 32:30 - The Flashback Voice Speaks in Absolutes 33:26 - What Triggers Emotional Flashbacks: Sensory Cues, Patterns, and Relational Shifts 36:15 - It Is Not Trying to Remember. It Is Trying to Prepare. 36:42 - Dysregulation vs Emotion That Needs to Be Processed: A Real Question 40:45 - Flexibility as the Key Marker of Growth 41:41 - How NSI Practices Help Shift Neuro Tags in Real Time 43:44 - Closing the Season and a Preview of Season Six

Ways to Engage with Neurosomatics

Join us inside Rewire: This is where you actually experience the practices Jennifer and Elisabeth talk about on the podcast that brought us freedom, self-attunement, a new relationship with food and our body. rewiretrial.com

Explore the neurosomatics of boundaries: boundaryrewire.com

Introduction to neurosomatics for practitioners, coaches and therapists - The NSI foundations Bundle: https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/workshops/

Wayfinder Journal: Track nervous system patterns and support preparation and integration through Neurosomatic Intelligence: https://stan.store/illuminated

Join Jennifer on Sacred Synapse to explore the intersection of neurosomatics and Psychedelic neuroscience: https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23

Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:

FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired

Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.

We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being.

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization.

We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional.

The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected]

All rights in our content are reserved

Social anxiety is often framed as shyness, insecurity, or fear of judgment. But for many people living with complex trauma, social anxiety is a nervous system output shaped by chronic relational stress, sensory overwhelm, hypervigilance, masking, shame, and learned survival patterns.

In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore how complex trauma changes social engagement, why connection can feel exhausting, the role of the inner critic and toxic shame, sensory processing, nervous system overload, people pleasing, social fatigue, masking, emotional suppression, and post-traumatic growth.

We discuss why awareness alone does not create change, how nervous system rehabilitation supports healing, and what becomes possible when safety, capacity, and authentic expression begin to grow. If social situations leave you drained, overthinking, scanning for danger, withdrawing, overperforming, or feeling exhausted afterward, this conversation offers a new lens for understanding why.

Chapters

0:00 - Social Anxiety as a Full Nervous System Output 0:36 - Welcome: Social Anxiety Through the Lens of Complex Trauma 1:30 - Elisabeth: Why She Never Identified as Having Social Anxiety 2:46 - The Post-Social Binge, the Crash, and What the Outputs Were Saying 4:03 - Jennifer: How Alcohol, Food, and Cannabis Got Her Through Social Situations 5:33 - Scanning the Room, Monitoring Everyone, and Masking It All 7:25 - What Shifting Capacity Actually Looked Like at a Recent Social Event 9:09 - Discernment vs Avoidance: Knowing Your Real Capacity 12:17 - The Neuroscience: Social Anxiety as a Protective Output 13:41 - How the Output Becomes the Input: The Spiral Loop 14:07 - Fight, Flight, Fawn, Freeze in Social Settings 16:07 - Why Masking Is Metabolically Costly 17:29 - How the Inner Critic and Toxic Shame Compound Social Anxiety 21:43 - Sensory Mismatch, Sensory Overwhelm, and Why They Drive Social Anxiety 24:39 - Why Social Environments Are Especially Demanding Sensory Spaces 26:43 - HPA Axis Dysregulation and Chronic Relational Stress 32:12 - Tired but Wired: What It Is and Why It Happens 35:28 - Post-Traumatic Growth and Increasing Relational Range 38:22 - Introvert or Trauma Response? An Important Distinction 40:31 - Micro Exposures, Recalibration, and Growth That Does Not Erase Sensitivity 41:00 - Human Design, Boundaries, and Knowing What Is Yours 43:09 - Neurodivergence, Neuro Abundance, and Social Overwhelm 43:29 - Authenticity, Expression, and Feeling Safe in Your Own Body First

Ways to Engage with Neurosomatics

Join us inside Rewire: This is where you actually experience the practices Jennifer and Elisabeth talk about on the podcast that brought us freedom, self-attunement, a new relationship with food and our body. rewiretrial.com

Explore the neurosomatics of boundaries: boundaryrewire.com

Introduction to neurosomatics for practitioners, coaches and therapists - The NSI foundations Bundle: https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/workshops/

Wayfinder Journal: Track nervous system patterns and support preparation and integration through Neurosomatic Intelligence: https://stan.store/illuminated

Join Jennifer on Sacred Synapse to explore the intersection of neurosomatics and Psychedelic neuroscience: https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23

Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:

FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired

Resources and Links

• NSI Foundations Bundle for coaches and practitioners: neurosomaticintelligence.com/foundations

• Two week Rewire Trial of guided neuro somatic training: rewiretrial.com

• Learn more about Elisabeth's work at brainbased.com

• Learn more about Jennifer's work at her YouTube channel: Sacred Synapse https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23

Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.

We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being.

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization.

We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional.

The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected]

All rights in our content are reserved

There is a difference between feeling ashamed and living inside shame. One is a passing signal. The other is the background atmosphere of an entire nervous system.

In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof go deep on toxic shame as the next distinguishing characteristic of complex trauma in their CPT series. This is one of the most personal episodes they have recorded. Both hosts share what shame actually sounded like at its loudest in their lives, the specific words, the body states, the loops that ran for years before they had any way to interrupt them. And they are honest about where they still meet it today.

Toxic shame in complex trauma is not just a feeling that shows up after a mistake. It is an identity state. It shifts from "I did something wrong" to "I am wrong." It shapes posture, vocal tone, breath, gaze, and the way the body interprets every social interaction as potential exposure or rejection. And because it developed in relationship, specifically in environments where expressing needs or emotions led to punishment, abandonment, or humiliation, it becomes deeply tied to every relational experience that follows.

Elisabeth and Jennifer trace the full arc of how shame develops, from the child who cannot afford to see their caregiver as unsafe and so turns the blame inward, to the adult who moves through professional and personal relationships with a chronic bracing for exposure. They cover the neurobiology in depth: what the insula, default mode network, and vagus nerve have to do with chronic shame states, why shame can both amplify and numb internal sensation at the same time, and how shame formation, the physiological pairing of emotional shame states with immune and inflammatory responses, helps explain the health outcomes seen in adverse childhood experience research.

The conversation also covers the double bind of shame in complex trauma, the trap of needing connection while also bracing for what connection has always brought. How shame drives substance use and disordered eating as regulation strategies. How systemic and cultural forces layer onto developmental shame in ways that make the pattern larger than any individual. And what post-traumatic growth actually looks like here: not confidence, not the absence of shame, but a little more space between the wave and the response, a little longer staying present in the body before the collapse happens, and gradually, relationships where being imperfect does not mean being abandoned.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Why toxic shame in complex trauma shifts from an emotion into an identity state
• How shame develops as a survival strategy when caregivers are unsafe and self-blame becomes the only available adaptation
• Why shame is not just cognitive but embodied, showing up in posture, vocal tone, breath, gaze, and gesture
• What shame formation is and how chronic shame states are linked to inflammation, immune dysregulation, and the health outcomes in ACE research
• How the insula, default mode network, and vagus nerve are involved in chronic shame patterning
• Why shame can simultaneously amplify and numb internal sensation and what that means for healing
• The double bind of shame: needing connection while bracing against it
• How systemic and cultural shaming layers onto developmental shame and why the nervous system cannot fully distinguish between them
• How shame drives substance use and disordered eating as regulation strategies and why the shame-use cycle is so hard to interrupt
• What post-traumatic growth looks like in relation to shame: not the absence of it, but increased range, flexibility, and capacity to stay present with it
• How accountability, relational repair, and allowing others to have their own experience gradually shifts the shame pattern

Chapters

0:00 - The Difference Between Feeling Ashamed and Living Inside Shame 0:33 - Welcome: Toxic Shame Through the Lens of Complex PTSD 1:54 - What Shame Actually Is: A Whole Body Physiological Response 2:14 - When Shame Becomes an Identity State 3:01 - Shame in the Body: Posture, Voice, Breath, and Withdrawal 3:34 - Systemic and Cultural Shame: When the Group Itself Is Dysregulated 5:55 - Shame as the Emotion That Represses All Other Emotions 7:15 - How Shame Develops in Complex Trauma: The Child Who Cannot Blame the Caregiver 8:48 - Everything Is My Fault as a State of Being 9:43 - Jennifer and Elisabeth Share What Shame Sounded Like at Its Loudest 11:28 - How Shame Physically Inhibits Expression 12:09 - The Double Bind: Needing Connection While Bracing Against It 14:00 - The Neurobiology: Insula, Freeze, Dissociation, and No Safe Discharge 17:31 - Large Scale Neural Patterning: DMN Loops, Reward Signaling, and Oxytocin 18:36 - What Shame Looks Like Now for Jennifer and Elisabeth 23:51 - Shame Formation: Inflammation, the Vagus Nerve, and ACE Research 26:43 - The Shame and Substance Use Cycle 30:28 - How Both Hosts Used Substances to Regulate Shame 34:15 - Systemic Shame and the Brain's Drive for Belonging 36:10 - What Post-Traumatic Growth Actually Looks Like With Shame 38:51 - Relational Healing: Repair, Accountability, and Letting Someone Love You Imperfectly 41:14 - Allowing Another Person to Have Their Experience Without Collapsing

Resources and Links

• NSI Foundations Bundle for coaches and practitioners: neurosomaticintelligence.com/foundations

• Two week Rewire Trial of guided neuro somatic training: rewiretrial.com

• Learn more about Elisabeth's work at brainbased.com

• Learn more about Jennifer's work at her YouTube channel: Sacred Synapse https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23

Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.

We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being.

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization.

We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional.

The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected]

All rights in our content are reserved