In this deeply insightful episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz — a former Buddhist monk turned mindfulness teacher and men’s recovery coach — to explore how compulsive behaviours like porn addiction can quietly undermine men’s sexual health, relationships, and sense of self. 

Jeremy shares his personal journey from genetics research at Duke University to living as a monk, and how mindfulness, neuroscience, and self-compassion became the tools that helped him (and now others) break free from addiction. Together, Melissa and Jeremy unpack the neuroscience of porn use, its impact on intimacy and erectile function, and how men can rewire their brains to rediscover genuine connection and confidence. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• Jeremy’s unique path from scientist to monk to men’s recovery coach 

• How porn addiction develops — and why it’s often hard to recognise early 

• The neuroscience of addiction: dopamine, neuroplasticity, and “amygdala hijack” 

• How compulsive porn use impacts erectile function, libido, and intimacy 

• The truth about porn, body image, and unrealistic sexual expectations 

• The role of mindfulness and meditation in rewiring the brain and regaining control 

• How to “urge surf” — using 90 seconds of awareness instead of autopilot 

• The power of community and accountability in creating lasting change 

• How mindfulness helps men face emotions rather than escape them 

Key Takeaways: 

• Addiction isn’t about weakness — it’s about avoiding uncomfortable emotions. 

• Porn rewires the brain to crave novelty, dulling connection and satisfaction in real life. 

• Mindfulness builds awareness and self-control, allowing men to choose consciously rather than react automatically. 

• Healing comes through connection, compassion, and understanding — not shame. 

• You don’t have to be perfect to make progress; awareness is the first step to change. 

About Jeremy Lipkowitz: 

Jeremy is a certified mindfulness and emotional intelligence teacher, former Buddhist monk, and founder of Unhooked Academy — a global community helping men break free from compulsive behaviours and build discipline, purpose, and fulfilling relationships. He also hosts the Unhooked Podcast, where he interviews experts and shares practical tools for self-mastery and recovery. 

Learn more: www.UnhookedAcademy.com 
Follow Jeremy: @jeremylipkowitz 
Listen to his podcast: Search “Unhooked” on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz 

 
 Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

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 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this deeply human episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa sits down with former NRL legend and now men's mentor Ryan Girdler, whose life after professional football has taken an unexpected and transformative turn. 

Ryan talks candidly about growing up in a blue-collar household in the 70s, the pressures of masculinity, and how being driven hard as a child shaped his identity. He reflects on his footy career, the unspoken expectations to “be tough,” and how those patterns carried over into life after retirement—leading him to overwork, burnout, and eventually, a total personal reset. 

Through meditation, breathwork, and support from his wife, Ryan found a new path. Today, he mentors men through profound emotional, physical, and spiritual work, helping them reconnect with themselves, develop healthier expressions of masculinity, and live with more balance, softness, and purpose. 

This conversation goes far beyond sport. Ryan opens up about parenting, vulnerability, inner dialogue, relationships, and why so many men feel lost in today’s world. He also explores his work with Reconnected Men, breathwork retreats, and his partnership with the enigmatic healer, Imrah, known to many as “the alchemist.” 

This Episode, We Cover: 

Ryan’s early life & sporting beginnings 

• Growing up under pressure in a hardworking family and feeling driven to please others 

• How internal and external expectations pushed him into rugby league 

• The emotional impact of a “boys don’t cry” upbringing 

Masculinity, identity & the struggles men face today 

• Why modern masculinity feels confusing—and why “toxic masculinity” breaks Ryan’s heart 

• The lack of healthy male role models 

• Balancing discipline with vulnerability 

• Why many men feel they must fix everything rather than be present 

Life after professional sport 

• Losing identity and purpose at 30 

• Overworking to fill a void—“trying to beat yoga at yoga” 

• How breathwork and meditation became lifesaving tools 

• The profound influence of his wife in redirecting his path 

Breathwork, nervous system regulation & healing 

• Ryan’s introduction to meditation through a big wave surfer 

• Using pranayama as the “cheat code” to stillness 

• How breathwork helped him “wield the mind” rather than be controlled by it 

• Why he believes every man should experience nervous-system regulation 

Reconnected Men & the work he does now 

• One-day and three-day men’s retreats in Queensland and Sydney 

• Holotropic/transformational breathwork sessions 

• Corporate breathwork and team integration sessions 

• His mentoring program combining discipline, stillness, personal story, and emotional growth 

The story of Imrah – “the alchemist” 

• How Ryan reconnected with Imrah after 25 years 

• Imrah’s unusual upbringing in the Pilbara and his unique abilities 

• Their partnership in retreats and breathwork events 

• Why I have named Ryan  “the conduit”  

Parenting, relationships & emotional presence 

• Raising daughters with boundaries, connection, and regulated technology use 

• Letting go of control in relationships 

• How softness, listening, and heart-led responses change family dynamics 

Ryan’s message to men 

"You don’t always have to be in control. And you don't have to do it on your own." 

Key Takeaways: 

• Masculinity isn’t the problem—disconnection is. 

• Men thrive when they learn discipline and vulnerability. 

• Breathwork, meditation, and nervous system tools can fundamentally shift a man’s internal world. 

• Healing begins with self-awareness, not fixing others. 

• You can be strong and gentle at the same time—and your family will feel the difference. 

• Sometimes your partner sees your path before you do. 

• Life after high-performance sport requires finding new meaning, not new metrics to “win.” 

Connect with Ryan Girdler & Reconnected Men 

• Reconnected Men (retreats & programs): https://www.reconnectedmen.com  

• Instagram: @ryangirdler 

• Transformational Breathwork & Retreats 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

• https://breathworkforsurfers.com.au/ Mentioned in the podcast Ryan did this program with tom Carroll 

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 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this heartfelt and humorous episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett is joined by husband-and-wife duo David and Denise Price — a couple who’ve faced prostate cancer together with courage, curiosity, and a lot of laughter. 

David, a professional speaking coach and keynote presenter, and Denise, a writer and storyteller, open up about how prostate cancer changed (and strengthened) their relationship — from navigating continence and erectile recovery to rediscovering pleasure, communication, and connection in new ways. 

They share how pelvic floor exercises became a “couples’ activity,” why David calls his penis “Neville,” and how humour, love, and teamwork helped them through the challenges of treatment and recovery. 

This episode is equal parts informative, real, and uplifting — a reminder that intimacy isn’t just about sex, and that open communication can transform even the toughest times into opportunities for growth and connection. 

Episode Highlights 

• The importance of humour and resilience in prostate cancer recovery 

• “Erection parties” and finding levity in hard (and not-so-hard) times 

• David’s flagpole story — and what it taught him about raising more than flags 

• How exercise and pelvic floor rehab changed his life 

• Rediscovering intimacy through outercourse, toys, and open communication 

• Denise’s journey from sexual repression to pleasure and confidence 

• The emotional impact of “dry orgasms” and how couples can adapt together 

• Why men should talk openly about prostate health — and get tested 

Key Takeaways:  

• Communication is everything — before, during, and after prostate cancer treatment. 

• Pelvic floor exercises are for life (and for both partners!). 

• Intimacy after surgery is possible — it just might look a little different. 

• Pleasure and connection go far beyond penetration. 

• Being informed, asking questions, and involving your partner make the journey smoother for everyone. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

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 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: [email protected] 
 

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https://makehardeasy.com.au  

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TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa reconnects with Mike and Shirley from the USA, who first joined us back in 2023. Now celebrating an incredible 48 years of marriage, they share how life, love, and sex have evolved nearly four years after Mike’s prostate cancer surgery. 

Together, they open up about recovery, resilience, and rediscovering intimacy after cancer — proving that sexual function and emotional connection can keep improving long past the two-year mark many men are told is the “limit”. Their journey is one of teamwork, trust, and trying everything from pumps to performance rings to injections — the famous “four Ps” as coined by Mike: Pills, Pump, Puncture, and Performance Ring. 

Key Takeaways:  

• Recovery doesn’t stop at two years. Erections and sensation can continue to improve with regular therapy and effort. 

• Devices aren’t kinky — they’re medical tools. Pumps, rings, and injections all have a role in penile rehabilitation. 

• Partner support changes everything. Involving both people in the journey helps reduce shame and increases success. 

• Hope is powerful. With the right approach, couples can enjoy a “new normal” that’s deeply satisfying and connected. 

• Sex is more than orgasm. Connection, laughter, and closeness are what really matter. 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett 

“Just like you wouldn’t skip physio after a hip replacement, penile rehabilitation after prostate surgery takes consistent effort. 
Devices like vacuum pumps, injections, and rings aren’t gimmicks — they’re proven ways to restore blood flow, preserve function, and build confidence. Mike and Shirley’s story shows what’s possible when couples stay curious, keep communicating, and don’t give up.” 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

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https://makehardeasy.com.au  

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 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this powerful and uplifting episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett is joined by Dr Jane Foster, an educator and author who’s spent more than 40 years helping people understand and manage their emotions. 

Jane’s groundbreaking “steering-wheel” metaphor teaches us that while we can’t control life’s bumpy roads, we can control how we steer through them. Her simple, evidence-based approach to emotional resilience encourages us to replace judgment and blame with choice and responsibility. 

Together, Melissa and Jane explore how our emotions, stress responses, and everyday habits shape mental and physical well-being — from coping with anxiety and overwhelm to managing relationship challenges and recovering from life’s rough patches.  

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• How emotional resilience begins with understanding your “steering wheel” — you choose how you respond. 

• Why rough roads (stress, setbacks, grief) are vital for personal growth. 

• The importance of shifting language: swapping “good and bad” for “rough and smooth” to remove self-judgment. 

• Jane’s research on how simple daily SMS reminders transformed emotional well-being — and even saved lives. 

• The concept of TEPS and PETS: identifying everyday triggers (TEPS) and creating healthy coping strategies (PETS). 

• How partners can use this model to communicate better and manage intimacy challenges after illness or surgery. 

• Practical tools for dealing with overwhelm, from mindful breathing to setting boundaries and creating space for recovery. 

Key Takeaways:  

• You can’t control the road, but you can control your steering. 

• Emotional resilience is a skill — built by practicing calm responses on life’s rough roads. 

• Reframing our language reduces guilt and self-criticism, improving relationships and mental health. 

• Stress, anger, and anxiety aren’t “bad” — they’re part of a healthy pulse of life. 

• Small daily actions (your PETS) can prevent emotional overload and support long-term well-being. 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett 

• Melissa reflects on how Jane’s approach can be applied in men’s health — especially for those recovering from prostate cancer or experiencing sexual dysfunction. 
  Learning to recognize emotional “rough roads” and respond with awareness can make a huge difference to physical recovery, relationship harmony, and confidence. 

Resources & Links: 

• Dr Jane Foster 
  Website: emotionalresiliencetraining.com.au 
  Book: It’s In Your Hands – Your Steering Wheel, Your Choice (available via website & Audible) 
  Follow Jane on Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

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• LinkedIn: Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: [email protected] 
 

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https://makehardeasy.com.au  

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this Episode which marks the 5th anniversary of the Penis Project Podcast, Kate and Melissa, practitioners from Restorative Health Clinic talk to Kirk (59), who shares his very recent journey with prostate cancer — from vigilant PSA screening due to a strong family history, through biopsy and robotic prostatectomy(Gleason 9), to an unusually swift return of continence and erections (yes, really… at 5 weeks!). We chat about why a good GP relationship matters, common myths (no, PSA screening is not a finger-up-the-bum), and practical rehab steps that set you up for the best outcome. We also touch on the challenges recent Medicare telehealth changes pose for rural men and why community conversations save lives. 

Key Takeaways: 

•    PSA screening saves lives: It’s a blood test. Many men still believe screening means a rectal exam — that misconception stops blokes from testing. 

• Early and regular checks matter, especially with family history. Kirk and his GP were “on it,” which likely changed his trajectory. 

• Rehab starts before surgery: Pre-op pelvic floor coaching and early, structured penile rehab support faster continence and sexual recovery. 

• Expectations matter: Being clear about how important sex is to you helps the team tailor a plan (medications, devices, or injections) so intimacy continues post-treatment. 

• Modern prostate cancer care is not what it was 20 years ago — minimally invasive surgery, targeted radiation, and better side-effect profiles. 

Episode Highlights 

• Family history matters: Kirk, a 59-year-old anaesthetist, always knew prostate cancer was a “when, not if.” Vigilant PSA screening caught it early. 

• PSA test = blood test: Many men still mistakenly think screening means a rectal exam — this myth stops blokes from testing. 

• Gleason upgrade: Biopsy showed 7, but post-surgery pathology was 9 — reinforcing why early surgery was lifesaving. 

• GPs are gold: A trusted GP relationship ensures timely checks and continuity of care. 

• Rehab starts before surgery: Pelvic floor exercises and penile rehab education gave Kirk the best start. 

• Fast recovery: At 5 weeks post-op, Kirk is dry, pad-free, and already regaining erectile function with support strategies. 

• Community conversations: Kirk shared his diagnosis with ice-hockey teammates — most had no idea PSA was just a blood test. 

• Rural barriers: Medicare telehealth changes risk limiting access for country men as of November 1st 2025 — highlighting the importance of policy that supports remote care. 

• Positive outlook: Kirk’s story proves recovery can be quicker than many expect, and modern treatments offer far better outcomes than in the past. 

• Take-home message: Don’t wait for symptoms — get your PSA blood test done and talk to your mates about it. 

Shareable quotes 

• “Good news — PSA screening is a blood test. That’s it.” 

• “Pre-hab matters: start pelvic floor and penile rehab before surgery.” 

• “Sex after prostate cancer is absolutely possible — the toolkit is bigger and better than ever.” 

• “Men will talk footy all day — let’s talk our health the same way.” 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

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We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: [email protected] 
 

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https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

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https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

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Linkedin: 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa sits down with world-leading urologist Dr Landon Trost to unpack Peyronie’s disease, traction therapy, and what’s next in men’s sexual health. Dr Trost shares his journey from training under Professor Wayne Hellstrom to leading research and innovation in Peyronie’s management, fertility, and penile rehabilitation. Together they explore the Restorex device, emerging treatments, and the vital role of early intervention.

Episode Overview:

• What Peyronie’s disease is and how common it really is
• How to tell the difference between a natural curve and a problem curve
• The new classification system for penile curvature
• The psychological impact of Peyronie’s, including anxiety and dysmorphic disorder
• Restorex traction therapy – why it works when others don’t
• The importance of early treatment vs “waiting until stable”
• What options exist when surgery is (or isn’t) the right answer
• Partner perspectives and how relationships are affected
• Emerging therapies, from nutraceuticals to genetic testing
• Where treatment might head over the next decade

Key Takeaways:

• Peyronie’s is often under-diagnosed and misunderstood.
• Not all curves are Peyronie’s – some are congenital or age-related and not necessarily a problem.
• Restorex is unique in its ability to generate therapeutic force and counter-bend effectively.
• Early intervention with traction, PDE5 inhibitors (like sildenafil), and anti-inflammatories may prevent progression.
• Surgery is effective but comes with risks and regret can be high – conservative options should be maximised first.
• The psychological toll is often greater than the physical curve – reassurance, partner involvement, and counselling are vital.
• Future treatments may include new collagenase drugs, natural compounds, and even gene-based therapies.

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:

At Restorative Health Clinic, we see many men early in their Peyronie’s journey. This conversation reinforced the importance of not dismissing early symptoms. Doing “something” – whether traction, PDE5 therapy, or anti-inflammatories – can help men feel in control, protect their erections, and preserve penile length. Just as you wouldn’t ignore a broken bone, Peyronie’s deserves timely care.

Resources & Links:

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic
• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com
• Dr Landon Trost https://malefertilityandpeyroniesclinic.com/about/
• To access references that were mentioned by Dr Trost in this episode please go to https://malefertilityandpeyroniesclinic.com/about/ and scroll to the bottom of the page.

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Email: [email protected]

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https://melissahadleybarrett.com

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 TEDX

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA

In this raw and refreshingly honest episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa chats with Mitch—a 21-year-old who opens up about his journey with primary premature ejaculation (PE). From rural farm life and open family chats to medication mishaps and sexual self-esteem struggles, Mitch shares his experience with warmth and humour. 

Mitch talks about: 

• Growing up with PE and its emotional toll 

• Navigating sexual intimacy and relationships as a young man 

• His experience with online men’s health services like Pilot 

• The turning point that led him to seek help at Restorative Health Clinic 

• Finding the right treatment—and relief—through personalised care 

This episode is a must-listen for any man who's felt alone with PE, and for partners or parents who want to better understand the experience from a younger male’s perspective. 

 In This Episode, We Cover: 

• What it’s like living with lifelong (primary) premature ejaculation 

• How a father’s prostate cancer treatment led to a cheeky encounter with penile injections—and eventually helped Mitch seek help 

• The cost, pros and cons of online health platforms like Pilot 

• Why in-person or telehealth consults with a practitioner can make all the difference 

• The emotional impact of PE: shame, self-doubt, and how it affects confidence in and out of the bedroom 

• The power of humour and honesty in breaking sexual health stigma 

Key Takeaways: 

• PE can affect men of all ages—including young blokes—and it’s more common than you think. 

• Medication isn’t one-size-fits-all. Finding the right dose and drug with a skilled clinician can be life-changing. 

• Open conversations with family, partners, and mates can reduce shame and build resilience. 

• Telehealth can be a more accessible, cost-effective way to get specialist support—especially in rural areas. 

• Tackling PE early builds long-term sexual confidence and can improve relationships. 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: 

Premature ejaculation can feel devastating for men, but it’s both common and treatable. We see men every day at Restorative Health Clinic who’ve been told to “just relax” or “it’ll go away with age,” but that doesn’t always happen. Treatment is individual and may include: 

• Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) 

• Behavioural therapy 

• Mindfulness and arousal control strategies 

• Support for partners to reduce pressure and enhance intimacy 

Every man deserves to enjoy sex without anxiety—and we’re here to help you do just that. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this episode, Melissa chats with David, who was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2023 and underwent a prostatectomy. David candidly shares his journey—how a routine PSA test led to a life-saving diagnosis, what recovery was really like, and how he’s taken a scientific, data-driven approach to his penile rehabilitation. 

With warmth, wit and wisdom, David opens up about his experience with erectile dysfunction (ED), continence concerns, vacuum pump rehab, and using the FirmTech ring to monitor nocturnal erections—describing it as a “FitBit for your dick.” He also talks about the importance of talking openly about men's health and encouraging others, including his sons and mates, to get checked early. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• Why tracking PSA trends—not just the number—can save lives 

• David’s experience with no symptoms and the surprise diagnosis 

• The emotional toll and stigma around ED and incontinence post-surgery 

• Why using a penile pump isn’t weird—it’s essential rehab 

• Real-world side effects of tablets vs low-dose daily Tadalafil 

• Monitoring erections with FirmTech and what the data can reveal 

• The surprising link between erectile function, heart health, and alcohol 

• The power of talking: How David's openness has led others to get tested 

• Tips for men navigating life post-prostatectomy 

• Why your penis might be the first clue your heart’s in trouble 
  
  

Key Takeaways: 

• Prostate cancer is often silent—many men have no symptoms at all. 

• Early detection matters. David’s long-term PSA monitoring saved his life. 

• Erectile rehab works best when started early. Pumps, Tadalafil, and data help. 

• Talking saves lives. One conversation might be what pushes someone to get checked. 

• Nocturnal erections are a sign of good health—and you can measure them. 

• FirmTech isn’t just about sex—it's a window into your cardiovascular system. 
  
  

 Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: 

“As a sexologist and nurse practitioner, I see too many men suffer in silence after prostate cancer. David’s story shows that recovery is possible—with data, determination and a bit of humour. Erectile function is not just about sex—it’s a vital sign of your overall health. So yes, monitoring your function might just save your life.” 
 

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Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our experienced sexual health team at Restorative Health Clinic 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this milestone 200th episode, the tables are turned as Dr Amy Pearlman interviews The Penis Project's own Melissa Hadley Barrett. From wet hair and time zone mix-ups to powerful patient stories and favourite sex toys, this episode is a heartwarming, hilarious, and deeply honest look into what Melissa has learned after 200 interviews about penises, pleasure, relationships, and recovery.

Amy has been a popular guest on The Penis Project and a friend and colleague to Melissa over the past few years and for something different the tables have turned, and Amy is interviewing Melissa to see what she has learnt being a part of The Penis Project community for 200 episodes and just under 5 years of posting. On the 14th of September the Penis Project will have been live for 5 years. This may not seem like a long time for most people but for Melissa it has been huge. Keeping the interviews coming and arranging editing and show notes etc. whilst running a busy growing practice has been hard but worth it, and she has learnt way more from her patients and interviewees than she thought possible.  

Together, Melissa and Amy explore: 

• How a podcast that began during COVID lockdowns with Melissa and Dr Jo Milios (Physiotherapist) and then without realising became a global resource for men’s health 

• Why it’s time to stop joking about penises and start listening 

• The emotional side of male sexuality and how assumptions miss the mark 

• What men really want after prostate cancer (hint: it isn’t just erections) 

• How patients have reshaped Melissa’s clinical approach over time 

• Products that have changed lives—and a few that scared her husband 

• New conversations about sounding, Tantra, and intimacy beyond intercourse 

• What Melissa hopes to do with the next 200 episodes—and who she dreams she will interview next and her dream to be interviewed by…. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• How the podcast began as a way to help patients and became so much more 

• Learning from patients about loss, masculinity, and connection 

• Rethinking the urgency of "getting it up" and embracing broader definitions of intimacy 

• The importance of not making assumptions as clinicians 

• Sex toys and tools Melissa now recommends—and the ones she avoids 

• What a Tantra workshop has taught her about relationships 

• Sounding: safety, stigma, and why we need to talk about it 

• The power of podcasts to create change and community connection 

Key Takeaways: 

• Empathy, humour and curiosity matter more than bravado 

• Real stories help others feel seen, supported, and less alone 

• Sexual health is about connection, not just erections 

• There is no one-size-fits-all solution, but there is always a way forward 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: "My goal is to open up the conversation. Whether it’s about erectile dysfunction, sex after cancer, or pleasure in new ways. Men and their partners deserve honest support and practical options. This podcast has become my passion project, and it’s changed how I practice. Most of all I want to thank the people who have let us interview them for sharing stories and teaching me so much I could never have learnt from a book or another health professional. I hope my patients and listeners realise how important they are to me, my growth as a human and as a health professional." 

Useful Mentions: 

• FirmTech erection ring ("Fitbit for your dick")https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/firmtech-techring , Manta by The Fun Factory  https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/fun-factory-manta-deep-sea-blue  

• VaxAid pump – TGA approved hydro pump for ED 

• Tantra retreats by Sanctuary of Ananda 

• Beaming Beaver organic lubricant 

• My Ilo Australian-designed sex toys 

• Steve "The Poet Who Didn't Know It" and his book Words Woke Me 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

Listen & Subscribe 

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Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: [email protected] 
 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

 Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this episode, Melissa is joined by Dr. Eric Chung, to dive deep into a topic that many men feel too embarrassed to ask about: tight/painful/unretractable foreskin- phimosis. Whether you've never been able to retract your foreskin or it's become tight and uncomfortable later in life, you're not alone—and you're not without options. This issue affects 2-6% of men worldwide. 

This episode explores the two main types of phimosis, how to recognise it, what causes it, and what treatments are available beyond circumcision, including the innovative Novoglan device. They also bust myths around hygiene, sensitivity, and when tight foreskin becomes a medical emergency. 

This is a must-listen for anyone experiencing foreskin issues, for clinicians wanting better tools for patient care, and for partners who want to understand more about this issue. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• What phimosis is—and why it only affects uncircumcised men 

• The difference between congenital phimosis and BXO (balanitis xerotica obliterans) 

• Common causes: scarring, trauma, infection, and stretching injuries 

• What is Novoglan and how does it work to gently treat phimosis? 

• Why circumcision isn’t the only answer? 

• Risks of ignoring phimosis—urinary issues, infections, and paraphimosis 

• How tight foreskin can cause sexual dysfunction and distress 

• The role of steroids and soap-free hygiene in treatment 

• Empowering men to make informed choices about their bodies 

 Key Takeaways: 

• You’re not alone. Phimosis is common but often hidden behind shame. 

• Not all tight foreskins need to be cut. Devices like Novoglan offer non-surgical options. 

• BXO is a progressive condition. Early management can preserve both function and comfort. 

• Paraphimosis is a medical emergency. Know the signs and don’t delay seeking help. 

• Sexual function is more than physical. The psychological impacts of phimosis are real and valid. 

• Gentle hygiene is key. Avoid soaps—use warm water and a cotton cloth to keep things clean and healthy. 

 Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: 
“As a nurse practitioner and sexologist, I see firsthand how foreskin issues like phimosis affect not just a man’s body, but his confidence, relationships, and sexual wellbeing. The good news is—we can help. There’s more to treatment than just circumcision, and men deserve options, dignity, and evidence-based care. That’s what we’re all about at Restorative Health Clinic.” 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

• The Penis Project podcast Episode 107- Penis Skin Conditions with Dermatologist Dr Ahmed 

• Check out our Youtube for more information on phimosis 

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• Australia: Ships via Restorative Health Clinic 

Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: [email protected] 
Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

 Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA