We're revisiting the juiciest lesson on foreplay and initiation with none other than Haylin Belay. Haylin is a sexual health educator, bodyworker, and pleasure witch who is ready to CHANGE YOUR DAMN LIFE.

We cover:

• Expanding your definition of foreplay
• How to turn yourself ON
• Understanding the phases of sexual arousal and USING that to your advantage
• How to feel ENTITLED to your needs
• How to make communication feel ✨sexy✨
• Low-stakes ways to initiate sex
• How to engage in foreplay ALL DAY

Connect with Haylin:

• On Instagram
• On her website

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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a whole lot of vulnerability. 

The Question: "My best friend and I have been inseparable for years, but now we’re in different life stages—she’s focused on her career and dating and I’m starting a family. It’s hard to stay as close as we were. How can we keep this friendship strong while growing in different directions?"

We cover:

• Expert tips for navigating change within a friendship

• Questions you need to ask yourself

• Conversations you need to be having with your friend

• Ways to support one another

• Permission to just be sad... because honestly change sucks sometimes (even when it's a good thing)

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If the sex you're having is overly focused on penetration, you're missing out on a WORLD of pleasure. Treating P in V as the main event is keeping us from exploring the endless buffet of sexual options, which is why we're learning to broaden our menu with Claire Perelman, a Certified Sex Therapist. In this episode we dive into:

• WHY you need to start decentering P in V sex
• The BENEFITS of focusing on sexual acts outside of penetration
• How to tell your partner you want to stop prioritizing penetrative sex
• What to try instead of penetration

Connect with Claire:

• On her website
• On Instagram

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Ever had sex that didn't live up to your expectations? Maybe you didn't feel the way you thought you "should" or things didn't turn out the way you imagined. Moments like these can lead to some serious negative feelings, making you want to avoid sex altogether. Luckily, Sex Therapist Jessa Zimmerman is equipping us with all the tips, tools and knowledge to navigate these tricky times. We cover:

• What sexual avoidance is, how it can feel, and WHY it happens
• Redefining all the "shoulds" that come with sex
• Tools for navigating sexual avoidance
• Understanding low libido
• Rethinking the belief that "the low desire partner needs to change"

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Ever wish you could hit refresh on a few of your personality traits? Maybe you want to be less nervous, more outgoing, or become a little more organized. Olga Khazan, author of the new book "Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change" is chatting us through the HOW TO's of all that and more, so grab a pen and buckle up. We cover:

• The "Big 5" personality traits-- emotional stability, extraversion, openness, agreeableness & conscientiousness
• How to figure out where you rank on each of the Big 5 traits
• Are you still being "authentic" if you try to change your personality?
• Olga's tips (based on years of research and personal experience) for changing your personality
• Action steps you can take to become more extroverted, less neurotic, more open and/or more conscientious

Take the personality test Olga took HERE!

Get Olga's Book HERE!

Read Olga's other work at The Atlantic HERE!

Connect with Olga on her Substack HERE!

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Chances are your masturbation practice could use a little *refresh*. That's why we're giving you a step by step guide to crafting your PERFECT solo play ritual. We cover:

• What our current masturbation practices look like (HINT: not ideal lol)
• WHY you should be prioritizing masturbation
• The MANY physical, emotional, mental, AND relationship benefits of masturbating
• How to set up your space for a peaceful practice
• Extra steps you can take to make yourself feel special
• 3 example masturbation practices

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References In the Episode:

• Passion Fruit Fizz Mocktail Recipe
• Liz Moody's Creamy Strawberry Cinnamon Aphrodisiac Mocktail
• Silk Sheets Playlist
• BB Outlet by Bellesa

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Whether you're looking to take charge in the bedroom, feel more confident in your everyday life, or learn wtf it means to be a lifestyle dom, then this episode is FOR YOU. We're talking with Mistress Damiana Chi, a legendary Dominatrix with over 25 years of experience and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology who uses BDSM as a healing modality. We cover:

• A refresher on what BDSM is and what it means to be a Dominatrix
• What it's like to be a lifestyle dom and a deep dive into the master/slave dynamic within BDSM
• The 4 Dominatrix Archetypes and how YOU can start embodying each one
• How BDSM can be used as a healing modality for both the giver and receiver
• Simple strategies you can use to come across as more confident (in and outside the bedroom)
• How to be more dominant in the bedroom as a beginner
• PLUS Damiana walks us through what a session with her looks like!

Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi HERE!

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BIG transitions are a part of life. Whether you're moving in together, getting married, having a baby or experiencing some other form of change, your relationship is bound to feel a little (or a lot) different. Cue Tarah & EJ Kerwin, two therapists on a mission to provide couples with the tools they need to GET THROUGH these transitions without giving up on one another. In this episode, we cover:

• The most common transitions couples go through and WHY they're so f*cking hard (even if they're "supposed" to be good)
• Habits to start incorporating NOW so you can navigate big transitions with ease
• A weekly check in you can do with your partner to feel seen, heard & supported
• Simple tools to help keep you on track during a fight
• Questions you can ask to reignite the intimacy in your relationship
• And at what point you should consider WALKING AWAY

Connect with EJ and Tarah:

• Listen Relationship Renovation HERE!
• Check out their website HERE!
• Follow them on Instagram HERE!
• Watch their YouTube HERE!

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We're diving DEEP into the history of PORN with our friends over at Right Answers Mostly, Claire and Tess. From the dawn of time to the creation of the internet, porn has captivated us horny little humans for basically EVER. So in this episode we're covering:

• Ancient porn (because, again, humans have been horny from the start)
• Porn in the 1800's (including erotic novels, naughty nudes & Stag Films) 
• The Golden Age of Porn
• Porn & Pop Culture
• A lesson on ethical porn (what is it, why it's cool & how to know if YOUR porn is ethical)
• The types of porn people are actually watching (in 2016, 2021 & 2024)
• PLUS a few benefits of watching porn!

Listen to Right Answers Mostly HERE!

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SEX IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN! Which is why we're introducing you to a BUTTLOAD of games you can start playing in the bedroom and beyond. We cover:

• WHY you need to start playing sex games and their MANY benefits
• Games to help you and your partner get to know each other
• Teasing games to help build the (sexual) tension
• Orgasm denial games
• Food games
• Games to play with sex toys
• Timed games
• & actual board games (including a special Honeydew Me game you can get if you subscribe to our Patreon!)

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We're diving into long term relationships with Dr. Frankie Bashan, a sex therapist and founder of Little Gay Book, an LGBTQIA+ matchmaking service!  We cover:

• Whether or not long term relationships should feel EASY + other common misconceptions about LTRs
• The tools you NEED to build a strong relationship 
• The common (and toxic) mistakes we're making in our relationships
• How to navigate with dreaded "roommate phase"
• What being "clingy" actually means and what you can do to address it
• Daily + weekly habits you can start incorporating into your life to benefit your relationship

Connect with Dr. Frankie:

• On YouTube
• Through Little Gay Book or Little Black Book 
• Watch Her Ted Talk HERE!

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