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This one’s for all of you trying to do it all.

I sat down with my subbie for a real-life, messy, honest talk about something we don’t hear enough about: what happens to your dynamic when you also have a family to raise? Can you still lead? Submit? Play? Hold space for kink and power exchange while also packing school lunches and managing bedtime routines?

This episode was sparked by an article I read on boldpleasures.com about parenting and equality—and it hit me hard. Because so much of what we do in our FLR works because we communicate. And also because we fumble. And figure it out. And get it wrong. And come back to each other.

So whether you’re trying to raise good humans while keeping your subbie in line, or just wondering if you can be a Domme and a damn good mom at the same time… let me tell you: you can. And I’ve got stories to prove it.

Inside This Episode:

• Why “submission” has zero place in parenting—but mutual respect does
• How we balance our FLR with equal parenting responsibility
• The quiet ways power dynamics can still show up at home
• What our daughter sees, what we want her to know, and how we talk about it
• How we stay connected when the schedule’s full and the sink’s overflowing
• The truth about being a “24/7 Domme” (spoiler: I’m usually barefoot and tired)
• How to raise kids with healthy examples of leadership, love, and emotional safety
• Why obedience doesn’t disappear just because the dishwasher needs emptying

Ask Yourself:

• What do your kids see when they watch you and your partner?
• Is there a clear understanding of power, love, and respect in your home?
• Are you creating the kind of relationship your children can learn from—not just tolerate?
• Do your dynamic and parenting style actually complement each other?

My Favorite Quote This Episode:

“I want my daughter to know she doesn’t have to do something she doesn’t want to do. I want her to be confident in her ability to say fucking no—and not feel guilty for someone else’s disappointment.”

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Look… I tried to keep this one focused. I really did. But when you’re sitting around a fire at kinky summer camp with my subbie, Carli, and Bill (and a few surprise voices), things take on a life of their own.

This episode is all about the chaos and connection of progressive swinging — and how it intersects with pegging, cuckolding, roleplay, parenting, lifestyle identity, and yes… poop talk. I know. It always circles back to poop. You’ll hear me talk openly about how this lifestyle works in real life, not fantasy. From awkward first swings, to learning what turns us on, to dealing with logistics when your partner’s testicles are too big for the cage (true story).

So whether you're just exploring the lifestyle, or deep into FLR with some swinging sprinkled on top — this one’s for the real ones who are out here making it work through laughter, trial, error… and a lot of love.

What You'll Hear in This Episode:

• Our real-life campfire conversation about swinging, FLR, and power play
• Honest (and messy) stories from our first time trying the lifestyle
• How pegging, teasing, and chastity fit into swinging dynamics
• What progressive swinging actually looks like when the kids are around
• The reality of poop talk, parenting overlaps, and trying to stay sexy in the chaos
• Conversations about The Story of O, Exit to Eden, and kink lit favorites
• Submissive chair drips, pink panties, and surprise toys like the Lovense button
• Why laughter might be the biggest kink in the room

This Episode Is For:

• FLR couples exploring kink and swinging
• Curious listeners wondering what “real life” looks like in a Female-Led marriage
• Dommes navigating pegging, parenting, and personal identity
• Submissive men trying to figure out where they fit in this mess
• Anyone who’s ever tried to keep it sexy... while covered in bug spray

Call to Action:

If this episode made you laugh (or cringe), share it with your favorite kink-curious friend.
 And if you’ve ever felt alone in your exploration, come join the conversation on

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We're kicking off Peg-tember with a bang—and a paddle. This re-released episode dives into the often misunderstood world of pegging and spanking in female-led relationships, right in time for Labor Day weekend (again). MY subbie and I unpack feedback from TikTok, share personal anecdotes from their FLR journey, and tackle the misconceptions around mental health, dominance, and kink dynamics with humor, heart, and clarity. 

This is your reminder that pleasure, power, and partnership can all coexist in healthy, grounded ways—even in a camper.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• The TikTok backlash that inspired this conversation
• Pegging basics, myths, and practical tips from a Facebook post Krystine couldn’t stop thinking about
• Why spanking and dominance aren't always about punishment
• Mental health, kink, and the very real emotional dynamics of FLR
• Reclaiming control and respect through open, ongoing communication

Why It Matters:
Whether you're just curious about FLR or you're already living it, this episode gets real about what happens after the fantasy. It’s not all whips and chains—sometimes it’s body language, poop logistics, safe words, and deep emotional connection. And sometimes? It’s just a hodgepodge.

Links & Extras:
Worksheet for FLR Communication & Consent (Patreon Exclusive)
Want more on pegging? Check out the companion post for Peg-tember on Patreon

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Today we’re diving into one of the most overlooked—but absolutely crucial—parts of any FLR dynamic: financial control.
Who holds the money? Who decides how it gets spent? And how do we build structure around money without turning it into a battlefield?

Spoiler alert: I hold the debit card. And it’s not just about power—it’s about respect, ritual, and responsibility.

What I Talk About in This Episode:

• Why dominance isn’t just in the play—it’s in the practice
• Real-life examples from our FLR money rituals
• How communication builds trust around finances
• What to do when your sub tops from the bottom (and how to recover)
• Weekly money check-ins as emotional regulation tools
• Chore-based point systems that build structure without infantilizing
• How I reclaimed my power after years of being the “default manager”
• The deep emotional empowerment that comes from owning the finances

“You don’t have to be a CPA to run an FLR household. You just need trust, clarity, and the confidence to say, ‘This is what’s best for us—and I’m deciding it.’”“We forget that holding the money is a kink for some of us. It’s symbolic. It’s ritual. And it’s real fucking power.”

Five Tips for Starting a Financial Control Dynamic:

1. Start with a conversation, not a command. Ask, but be firm.
2. Define clear categories. Needs, wants, fun, rituals.
3. Set financial rituals. Weekly check-ins, allowance transfers, updates.
4. Use symbolic tools. Apps, charts, envelopes, or even a ritual wallet.
5. Reinforce with structure. Consistency is where confidence is built.

Listener Invitation:

Got rituals around money? Creative systems that work for your FLR?
Tell me. I want to hear it all. Your ideas may inspire an upcoming episode (confidentiality always respected).

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This one is real talk about parenting, boundaries, and keeping your kink alive when your life is anything but quiet

So… you’re kinky and you have kids? Welcome to the club.

In this episode, I’m diving into something that every kink-positive parent wrestles with at some point:
"How do you stay connected to your identity—and your dominance—when the kids are home, the bedroom has no door, and your sex life feels like it’s on permanent hold?"

I pulled from a couple of excellent articles (linked below) and shared how I’ve navigated being a Domme, a mother, and a woman with a wild, creative, and very adult job. This one’s a little raw, a little funny, and hopefully a whole lot helpful.

What I Talk Through:

• My own challenges with maintaining a kinky dynamic in a house full of people
• The exact conversation I had with my daughter about setting boundaries and owning her pleasure
• How I balance sex positivity with age-appropriate parenting
• The time a toddler brought a butt plug into the living room 😳
• Creative ways to store toys when space (and privacy) are limited
• My thoughts on nudity, shame, and breaking generational trauma around body image
• Being honest (but not explicit) with your kids when they ask questions
• Using what’s in your kitchen drawer as your next spanking tool 🔪🥄💥

“Just because you had kids doesn’t mean your kink card expires. It just means you need a lockbox, a little creativity, and a hell of a lot of communication.”“We don’t need to tell our kids everything—but hiding from who we are? That’s where we lose ourselves.

Discussion Prompts:

• How do you navigate being kinky and being a parent?
• Have your kids ever stumbled on a toy or overheard something… spicy?
• What boundaries do you hold around your identity as a Dominant partner and a parent?

Come share your story in the Patreon community—because you're definitely not alone in this.

Articles Referenced:

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Let’s be honest—spanking your husband might sound like something out of a cartoon fetish meme or a punishment from the 1950s. But today? We’re unpacking the truth: spanking can be connection, structure, release, and hell yes—pleasure.

In this episode, I walk through a cheeky (literally) article titled “Spanking Your Husband: The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide”—but we go way deeper than the clickbait.

If your life feels a little too vanilla lately, this episode just might be your hot fudge drizzle. 

What I Talk Through:

• Why I’ve struggled with spanking—even when he asks for it
• The mental shift from “bad toddler” to submissive man serving with intention
• How spanking can be a reset button in high-stress seasons
• The tools, positions, and rituals that can make it sexy and grounding
• Communication (yes, again), boundaries, and safe words as non-negotiables
• Why "punishment" isn’t always the right mindset—and how to reframe it
• My honest thoughts on paddles, floggers, ticklers, and that damn camper life

“Spanking doesn’t have to be erotic. It can be connective. It can be healing. Hell, it can just be an emotional reset for two people who are doing their best.”“Sometimes the most powerful thing I can do is take control even when I don’t feel like it. That’s when it becomes a ritual of reclamation.”

Reflection Prompts:

• How does the word “spanking” feel to you—silly, sexy, uncomfortable?
• Is there something in your relationship that could use a new ritual?
• Are you using your power to punish—or to reconnect?
• When was the last time your subbie really felt your authority through physical play?

Article Referenced:

• Spanking Your Husband: The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide
  [No longer available, but give it a Google—there are lots of other options]

Let’s Talk:

• Do you spank your partner?
• Do they ask for it?
• Does it feel awkward? Empowering? Confusing?

Drop into the comments

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Chaos, Chastity, Confidence… and a Whole Lot of Honesty

And NOT a re-release!!

Life lately? An absolute fucking circus.
But I’m back—with a raw, unfiltered brain-dump about what it means to hold power when your whole world feels like it's spinning off its axis.

In this episode, I take you through:

• Real updates from my summer of survival
• A powerful email that reminded me why this podcast matters
• And a mind-blowing blog post that reframed dominance for me completely

If you’ve ever questioned your role, your energy, or your ability to lead when your tank is empty—this one’s for you.

What You’ll Hear Me Process (in real time):

•  Navigating FLR while caring for a parent with dementia
•  Work-camping drama, bus life upgrades, and parenting on the go
•  How to order kinky things without your kids discovering them
•  A heartfelt listener email about not topping from the bottom
•  The emotional burden of dominance—and why it doesn’t always feel sexy
•  Non-sexual intimacy through dominance (and why it still counts)
•  Letting him serve you even when you feel guilty
•  Faking confidence… until it stops being fake

“Dominance isn’t a reward for being in the right mood. It’s a structure that holds me up when I feel like I’m falling apart.”“Just because you’re touched out, burnt out, or pissed off doesn’t mean you have to lose connection. You get to define what intimacy looks like.”

Questions to Reflect On:

• Do you still feel dominant when your life is falling apart?
• How do you maintain structure and rituals in chaos?
• Are you holding back from giving direction because of guilt?
• How does your sub respond when you're emotionally unavailable?
• What small rituals can you create to reclaim power?

Resource Shout-Out:

• Dominance as the Bridge of Female Emotion and Non-Sexual Sexuality – Evolving Your Man Blog

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We’re back from multiple vacations, we’ve battled bad internet, shady bank activity, and a child-filled Uber—and now we’re hitting you with one of the most essential (but least sexy) parts of a Female-Led Relationship: communication.

This week, I dive into a PsychCentral article about Nine Steps to Better Communication—and, surprise!—I have a lot to say about it.

This episode is raw, real, rambling, and right from the gut. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, unheard, or just flat-out confused in your FLR, you’re not alone.

What You’ll Hear Me Rant (lovingly) About:

• Real-life chaos: Vacations, broken internet, kids, and compromised bank accounts
• Surfacy convo vs. real emotional communication—how to spot the difference
• Why “just listening” is harder than it sounds (and yes, I’m guilty)
• Blended families, arguments, and learning to not hyper-focus on the wrong thing
• Tech vs. touch: Is texting about feelings better or worse than saying them out loud?
• Self-awareness, emotional dicklexia, and why I talk with my arms crossed and no eye contact
• The reality that communication isn’t one-size-fits-all—and that’s okay

Krystine’s Take:

“If you can’t be honest with your partner about how you feel—or what you fantasize about—what’s the point of the dynamic?”“You are allowed to feel how you fucking feel. Don’t ever let anyone shame you out of that.”

Episode Vibe:

Warm, slightly chaotic, a little sweary, and full of heart. You’ll laugh, nod, and maybe rethink how you approach serious conversations with your partner—especially when it comes to your dynamic.

Listener Reflection Questions:

• Do you feel emotionally safe enough to tell your partner everything?
• Have you mistaken casual check-ins for actual connection?
• Are you more open through texting, voice, or face-to-face conversations?
• How often do you validate your partner’s feelings (or ask for validation yourself)?
• Are you guilty of bringing up old stuff during current argumen

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Recorded live(ish) from a Skoolie meetup in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, this episode is part nature walk, part therapy, and part “what-the-hell-are-we-even-talking-about?” (Answer: everything that matters.)

My subbie and I open up about what it really looks like to live the FLR lifestyle while surrounded by real life—kids, campers, swing-curious strangers, and school buses painted like national parks.

If you’ve ever wondered how to blend your kink dynamic with your vanilla life—this one’s for you.

What We Talk About in This Episode:

• Going “on location” to a Skoolie event—and why these nomad spaces feel so aligned with FLR values
•  Integrating parenting and power exchange (with lots of discretion)
• Are there secret swinger Skoolie societies? We’re asking for a friend
• Coming out quietly in cautious community spaces
• The importance of being unapologetic but respectful about your lifestyle
• “Not every episode has to teach”—sometimes we’re just real people, walking in the woods, talking about how the hell we make this all work

Krystine Says:

“You don’t need to be rich, or loud, or even caged all the time to live this way.
 You just need to stay present, stay honest, and maybe flash your subbie now and then when your mom’s not looking.”

Listener Questions to Reflect On:

• How open are you with your kids (or family) about your relationship structure?
• What are your boundaries around sharing your lifestyle in public spaces?
• Do you have “FLR friends” you hang out with outside of kink events?
• If you’re part of the Skoolie/RV/nomad life, have you come across others living this way?

Want More?

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Feeling stuck in a rut with your partner? You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And you don’t need to burn it all down to light a spark again.

This is one of those campfire-style chats, where I show up solo, pour some coffee, and talk about what happens when your relationship starts feeling… flat.

From missing the spark, to appreciating the little things, to being honest about when it’s time to plug back in (yes, that’s exactly what you think it means)—this one is real, raw, and might hit you right where you need it.

I dive into:

• Why reconnecting doesn’t require kink (but it helps 😉)
• The surprising power of gratitude in long-term FLR dynamics
• When to take the cage off—and how that can actually bring you closer
• How to tell the difference between a slump and a breaking point
• What it means to “plug back in” emotionally and physically
• And why it's okay to have hard talks and messy days in a deeply connected relationship

This isn’t about performing dominance. It’s about maintaining intimacy when life gets complicated—and that includes self-reflection, shitty weeks, and maybe crying over coffee.Timestamps (for the jumpers in the room):

• 00:00 – Camper life updates & tattoo plans
• 02:15 – Editing shoutouts, Canon camera chaos & OnlyFans behind-the-scenes
• 06:40 – Feeling disconnected? Here's what “flat” can look like
• 08:10 – A Healthline article sparks ideas on how to bring the spark back
• 10:45 – Writing down what your partner does right
• 14:20 – Gratitude in FLR: why saying thank you changes everything
• 19:30 – Campground escapes, laughing rituals, and creative reconnection
• 24:45 – When the cage comes off: intimacy as reconnection
• 27:40 – How we talk through disconnection before it breaks us
• 33:00 – “Is it worth it?” and knowing when to walk away
• 37:00 – Final words: coffee, connection, and finding your fire again

 Key Quote from This Episode:

“The cage comes off when we need to plug back in. It’s not about control—it’s about connection.”

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Okay, full transparency? I don’t fully understand subspace. Not in the technical, kink-encyclopedia way. And that’s exactly why we hit record on this one—from our camper, with my subbie by my side—to talk through what it means for us.

In this episode, we unpack what subspace looks like from a real-world, real-relationship perspective. This isn’t textbook BDSM theory. It’s about feeling it out (literally and emotionally), recognizing what it might look like in everyday FLR life, and realizing that you don’t need to get it “right” to start exploring.

We also talk about:

• Flogging for the first time (spoiler: I loved it)
• The struggle of noise, schedules, and migraines
• Domspace and why I might be avoiding it
• MommyDom feels… and how I’m working through the guilt of being a soft-hearted boss bitch

If you’re navigating power exchange, learning what turns you on, or just trying to figure out what the hell “subspace” actually feels like—you’re not alone. And I hope this episode makes you feel seen.

Key Points We Talked About:

• What “subspace” technically is… and how it really shows up in our dynamic
• Why wearing a cage might be a form of low-key subspace (yep, I said it)
• Domspace: is it real? Am I avoiding it? Is it my next breakthrough?
• What happens when you mix floggers, photo shoots, and a surprise moment of connection
• How I’m still growing into this lifestyle (and still sometimes feel weird about being too bossy)
• Why caregiving, humor, and guilt sometimes show up in my dominant headspace
• Letting go of shame and learning to own what this relationship structure really gives us

Got a favorite blog post or book about subspace or Domspace? Send it my way—I want to learn more, and I’d love to hear what has resonated with you. Seriously.

Also, if you’re curious about the deeper side of FLR—beyond the cage and into the connection—you’ll love what I share on Patreon. 

And don't forget to check out our unfiltered content on Clapper (@KrystineKellogg) and our day-to-day tiny home adventure on @Uncompa

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