From our family to yours, The Sams want to wish you a very Merry Christmas! As we reflect on the year and celebrate the season, we’re grateful for every listener who’s joined us on this journey. May your holidays be filled with joy, peace, and meaningful moments with the people you love. Thank you for being part of our podcast family—cheers to a wonderful Christmas and an even brighter year ahead!

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Christmas is one of the most triggering times of the year, bringing both celebration and danger. This episode summarizes the core strategies from the 5-part "Christmas Clean" series, providing five top, practical tips to ensure you stay clean through the holidays and launch into the New Year with momentum.

The key goal is to avoid the common pattern of accruing significant "debt" (relapses/slips) over Christmas, which can be so large that even the New Year's momentum isn't enough to overcome it. By staying clean now, you can enter a "surplus" in January, allowing you to build something meaningful and sustainable.

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Chapters:

• (00:14) Introduction: Christmas—Triggering Time with Dangers.
• (00:48)The Goal: Stay Clean and Enter the New Year with Momentum.
• (01:14)This is a Summary of the 5-Part Christmas Clean Series.
• (02:14) Resource Plug: The Last Relapse Book.
• (03:19)Tip 1: You Must Know Your Holiday Triggers and Have a Plan.
• (04:50)Tip 2: Maintain the Routines That Mean the Most (Late Nights are Dangerous).
• (05:40)The Red Zone: 10 PM to Midnight.
• (06:00)Tip 3: Participate in Something Bigger Than You (Christmas is Not About You).
• (07:12)Story: The Grandkids Who Cried (The Power of Service Over Consumerism).
• (08:08)Tip 4: Beware the BLT (Boredom, Loneliness, Tiredness).
• (09:07)Tip 5: Have a Spiritual Anchor—Connect with God Every Day.
• (09:36)The Debt vs. Momentum Analogy: Why Staying Clean NOW Matters Most.
• (10:50)Course Correcting Now to Launch Yourself into a Surplus in January.
• (11:57)Final Encouragement and Book Offer.

In the final installment of the five-part Christmas Clean series, we anchor all the practical strategies discussed previously by focusing on the spiritual meaning of Christmas. Christmas, as a Christian holiday, is meant to be about Christ, but this meaning often gets lost in the busyness, consumerism, and chaos of the season.

The host ties together all the parts of the series—holiday triggers, routines, the power of service (It's Not About You), and combating the BLT (Boredom, Loneliness, Tiredness)—by emphasizing that connecting with Jesus is the anchor that makes all other recovery efforts effective.

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Chapters:

• (00:01) Why Christmas Is the Most Triggering Time of the Year
• (01:20) The “Holiday Debt” Analogy & Why Most Guys Relapse in December
• (02:24) Step 1: Identify Your Holiday Triggers
• (03:45) Common Holiday Triggers Explained
• (04:48) Why Christmas Triggers Repeat Every Year
• (06:20) Creating Your Personal Trigger Plan
• (07:25) Real Example: How One Client Prevented a Thanksgiving Relapse
• (08:20) Setting Boundaries on Sleep, Food, Alcohol, and Social Behavior
• (09:18) Closing Advice: Don’t “Wing It” This Christmas

In this conversation, Sathiya shares his transformative journey from being addicted to pornography to becoming a successful entrepreneur and family man. He emphasizes the importance of internal freedom, the impact of pornography on the brain, and practical strategies for achieving personal growth. Through affirmations and understanding the concept of freedom, Sathiya inspires listeners to take control of their lives and make meaningful changes.

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• Join Deep Clean Inner Circle - The Brotherhood You Neeed (+ get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day
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• Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery
• Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This

Chapters:

• (00:00) From Struggles to Success: Sathiya's Journey
• (02:22) The Power of Change: Transforming Lives
• (04:50) Understanding Freedom: The Three Arenas
• (07:48) The Battle for Internal Freedom
• (10:22) The Impact of Pornography on the Brain
• (18:44) Solutions for Internal Freedom
• (26:49) Affirmations and Mindset: Shaping Your Reality

In this part 4 of a part 5 series, Sathiya discusses the challenges men face during the holiday season, particularly regarding triggers for pornography use. He emphasizes the importance of guarding against boredom, loneliness, and tiredness, which are common issues that can lead to relapses. Sathiya provides practical solutions to combat these feelings, encouraging listeners to engage in meaningful activities, foster connections, and prioritize self-care. The conversation aims to equip listeners with strategies to navigate the holiday season clean and spiritually grounded.

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• Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This

Chapters:

• (00:00) Navigating Holiday Triggers
• (00:42) Understanding Boredom, Loneliness, and Tiredness
• (04:03) Root Causes of Relapse
• (06:03) Finding Purpose During the Holidays
• (07:30) Combatting Loneliness Effectively
• (09:17) Addressing Fatigue and Self-Care
• (11:12) Proactive Strategies for a Clean Christmas

This is Part 3 of the Christmas Clean series, designed to help men stay clean and free from pornography through the potentially triggering holiday season, ensuring they enter the New Year with momentum. This episode challenges the world's message that Christmas is "all about you", and instead focuses on the power of making the season about others.

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Chapters: 

• (00:30) Introduction: The World's Message vs. The Truth.
• (00:54) The Research and Strategy of Being Charitable for a Clean Christmas.
• (01:14) Series Goal: Catapulting into 2026 as a Free Man.
• (01:52) The Message: It's Not About You.
• (02:18) The Problem with Self-Centricity: Materialism, Pleasure, and the Connection to Pornography.
• (03:17) The Strategy: Don't Make It About You; Make It About Someone.
• (03:36) Story: The Grandkid Who Cried Over One Missing Gift.
• (04:30) The New Tradition: Giving Toys to Kids in Need.
• (05:12) Why Making It About "Me" Leads to a "Blue Christmas".
• (05:43) The Research: Meaning and Purpose Diminish Pornography Use (Jay Strainor).
• (06:23) Practical Example: Supporting a Struggling Family Member.
• (07:28) Meaningful Christmas = Less Pornography.
• (07:44) Provocative Question: What can you do that's bigger than you?.
• (08:24) It doesn't have to be wild—a phone call is meaningful
• (08:49)The Host's Goal: Meaningful Conversations and Encouragement.
• (09:47) More Joy and Meaning from Giving.
• (10:11) Sneak Peek at Part 4: The BLT.

In the second part of the Christmas Clean series, we dive into how to successfully navigate the Christmas season and catapult yourself into the New Year as a free man. The Christmas season, while the most wonderful time of the year, can also be the most "triggering".

This episode focuses on routines, rhythms, and rituals. We discuss how the breaking of daily/weekly routines during the holidays, while offering a nice break from the nine-to-five grind, also presents dangers that can lead to temptation and set you back.

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• Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery
• Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This

Chapters: 

• (00:00) Introduction: Christmas—The most wonderful, yet most triggering, time of the year.
• (00:44) Recap of Part 1: Managing Triggers.
• (01:14) Part 2: Routines, Rhythms, and Rituals.
• (01:36) The Role of Rituals (Traditions) in Making Christmas Special.
• (02:33) How the Holidays Break Our Routines and Create Dangers.
• (03:22) The Nighttime Routine: The Classic Example of Degradation.
• (04:23) Avoiding the "Red Zone": 10 PM to Midnight is the Highest Temptation Time.
• (05:10) Strong Recommendation: Shift the Routine, Don't Lose It.
• (06:05) The Morning Routine: The Second Most Important Routine.
• (06:50) Strong Recommendation: Maintain Your Spiritual Disciplines.
• (07:33) The Correlation Between Bedtime and Wake-up Time.
• (08:14) The "Big Dominoes" for a Clean Christmas (70% bedtime, routine, connect with God).
• (08:58) Actionable: Make Your Plan NOW.
• (09:39) Preview of Part 3: The Altruistic Component of Christmas.

In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Pastor Matt joins the show to unpack some of the most challenging topics facing believers today — navigating suffering, understanding the “why” behind pain, and fighting the growing epidemic of sexual sin in the church. He shares the story of losing his daughter Sarah, how he processed grief without losing his faith, and why choosing peace over understanding is essential for spiritual maturity.

Pastor Matt also delivers a masterclass on the fear of the Lord, spiritual authority, purity, neural pathways, and the unseen spiritual dynamics behind sexual temptation. This episode is a rare blend of raw vulnerability, theological depth, and extremely practical wisdom for anyone seeking freedom and a deeper relationship with God.

This is one of the most important and transformative conversations we’ve ever had on the podcast.

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Chapters:

• (00:00) Introduction & Pastor Matt’s Background
• (04:00) The Cost of Leadership & Staying in Your Calling
• (06:00) Losing His Daughter & Processing Pain with God
• (08:00) Should We Ask God “Why”?
• (12:00) Information vs. Wisdom in Today’s Culture
• (16:00) The Sarah Tapley Foundation & Children’s Book Project
• (19:30) Declaring War on Sexual Sin in the Church
• (22:00) The Epidemic of Porn & Cultural Pornification
• (27:00) The Spiritual Realm Behind Sexual Temptation
• (31:00) The Secret Place & Real Repentance
• (33:00) The Fear of the Lord: What It Actually Means
• (38:00) What the Church Can Do Better
• (40:00) Wisdom as a Practice, Not a Possession
• (45:00) Conviction vs. Shame & Why God Corrects Us
• (51:00) What Real Purity Looks Like in Dating
• (58:00) Why Many Don’t Believe Sexual Purity Is Possible
• (1:04:00) Community, Atmosphere & Brotherly Encouragement
• (1:07:00) Final Thoughts on Freedom & The Fear of God

In part one of the Christmas Clean series, Sathiya explains why Christmas is one of the most triggering seasons for porn relapses and how you can avoid falling into the same patterns as past years. With holiday stress, disrupted routines, loneliness, and overindulgence all working against you, the key is identifying your personal holiday triggers, learning from the last five Christmases, and building a simple plan to stay clean. This episode gives you a practical, repeatable process to recognize your biggest pitfalls and create boundaries that protect your freedom—so you can enter 2026 with real momentum and zero shame. Perfect for listeners searching for porn addiction recovery tips, holiday relapse prevention, and how to stay clean during Christmas.

Know more about Sathiya's work:

• Join Deep Clean Inner Circle - The Brotherhood You Neeed (+ get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day
• Submit Your Questions (Anonymously) To Be Answered On The Podcast
• Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery
• Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This

Chapters:

• (00:01) Why Christmas Is the Most Triggering Time of the Year
• (01:20) The “Holiday Debt” Analogy & Why Most Guys Relapse in December
• (02:24) Step 1: Identify Your Holiday Triggers
• (03:45) Common Holiday Triggers Explained
• (04:48) Why Christmas Triggers Repeat Every Year
• (06:20) Creating Your Personal Trigger Plan
• (07:25) Real Example: How One Client Prevented a Thanksgiving Relapse
• (08:20) Setting Boundaries on Sleep, Food, Alcohol, and Social Behavior
• (09:18) Closing Advice: Don’t “Wing It” This Christmas

In this episode, Sathiya explains how to earn back your wife’s trust after porn use or betrayal — no matter how big the mistake was. He breaks down why porn damages relationships, why women experience betrayal trauma, and what husbands must understand before trying to rebuild the marriage. You’ll learn the #1 factor that restores trust (consistency), how long healing realistically takes, why you should stop trying to “get back to how things used to be,” and how to build a stronger, more honest relationship moving forward. Perfect for men searching for help with rebuilding trust, healing from porn addiction, betrayal trauma recovery, and marriage restoration.

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• Join Deep Clean Inner Circle - The Brotherhood You Neeed (+ get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day
• Submit Your Questions (Anonymously) To Be Answered On The Podcast
• Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery
• Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This

Chapters: 

• (00:08) The Hard Truth About Porn and Divorce
• (01:00) Welcome & Why This Episode Matters
• (02:20) How Porn Impacts Your Wife Emotionally
• (03:10) What Betrayal Trauma Really Means
• (04:55) The Reality: You Won’t Win Her Trust Back Overnight
• (05:50) The Only Guaranteed Way to Rebuild Trust
• (07:09) What Consistency Looks Like in Real Life
• (07:50) How Long Does Healing Take?
• (08:55) Why You Shouldn’t Want Things “Back to Normal”
• (09:32) Don’t Rush the Process — or You’ll Make It Worse
• (10:30) Final Encouragement: Your Marriage Can Heal

In this episode, Sathiya reveals the seven biggest gateway behaviors that lead men back into porn—often without them realizing it. From alcohol and social media to video games, entertainment, and even loneliness, these hidden triggers can quietly weaken self-control and push you toward relapse. Sathiya explains why eliminating these gateway habits is essential for true recovery, and how addressing them helps you break the deeper root systems behind porn use. Perfect for men seeking porn addiction recovery, freedom from compulsive porn use, and strategies to remove triggers and build long-term integrity.

Know more about Sathiya's work:

• Join Deep Clean Inner Circle - The Brotherhood You Neeed (+ get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day
• Submit Your Questions (Anonymously) To Be Answered On The Podcast
• Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery
• Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This

Chapters: 

• (00:00) Why Eliminating Porn Alone Doesn’t Work
• (00:54) Deep Clean Inner Circle Intro
• (02:00) Gateway Drug #1: Alcohol
• (04:20) Gateway Drug #2: Social Media
• (05:32) Gateway Drug #3: Video Games
• (06:28) Gateway Drug #4: Weed
• (08:49) Gateway Drug #5: The News
• (10:40) Gateway Drug #6: Entertainment
• (13:30) Gateway Drug #7: Loneliness
• (15:10) Where to Start: Pick One Gateway to Eliminate