If you've ever wondered whether you're doing enough to help your child feel good about themselves, Dr. Lisa Damour has curated her most essential guidance on confidence, self-esteem & self-compassion into one episode for you.

This encore “Best of Ask Lisa” compilation offers a research-backed roadmap for raising kids with a solid sense of self-worth — and for parents who want to model that from the inside out. This episode also features conversations with three leading experts: Dr. Tovah Klein, Dr. Sue Varma, and Dr. Traci Baxley.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why kids' confidence naturally dips at predictable points in development, and why those wobbles are not a sign that you've failed

- Why self-esteem needs many "tributaries", and why kids who rely on a single source of self-worth are most vulnerable when that tributary runs dry

- How confidence is built through doing hard things and being someone who can be counted on (and how to help kids get there without being pushed)

- Why what you say about yourself in front of your kids shapes their inner voice more than almost anything you say directly to them

- How tending to your own sense of worth will help you support your child's

Your child is taking cues from how you talk to yourself, care for yourself, and recover from setbacks. This episode helps you put those cues to good use.

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The college admissions process doesn't have to consume your family. If it already feels that way, this episode is exactly what you need.

Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan revisit their conversation with Rick Clark, higher education leader, co-author of “The Truth About College Admission: A Family Guide to Getting In and Staying Together,” and a career insider in college admissions at Georgia Tech. Rick has spent years helping families cut through the noise, anxiety, and mythology of the admissions process, and his perspective is grounding and genuinely reassuring. 

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why there is no magic formula for college admissions, and why that's actually good news for your teen

- What a strong college essay actually looks like — and the one mistake that sinks more applications than any other

- How to structure college conversations so they don't bleed into every carpool and dinner, protecting your relationship and your sanity through the process

- Why "test optional" means something different at every school, and how to use net price calculators to get a realistic picture of what college will actually cost

- Why you should be talking to parents of current college students, not parents of other applicants — and what a difference that shift makes

The college admissions process can be stressful, but it doesn't have to take all of the joy out of family life.

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If you've repeatedly asked your kid to help out and they still don’t follow through, this is the episode you’ve been waiting for.

Dr. Lisa Damour breaks down why nagging doesn't build a work ethic — and what actually does. From linking privileges to responsibilities, to knowing exactly when to step back and let natural consequences do the teaching, this encore episode gives parents of tweens and teens a practical, guilt-free framework for raising kids who can be counted on, without turning every chore or assignment into a battle.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why structure matters more than warmth alone, and why holding the line on chores, even when kids are grumpy, is the right call

- Why extrinsic motivation is perfectly valid, and how linking responsibilities to privileges mirrors the way the real world actually works

- Why "complain but comply" is a completely reasonable goal, and how releasing the expectation of cheerful enthusiasm takes pressure off everyone

- When to stop nagging about schoolwork and let natural consequences take over, and why middle school is the best time to do so

- How framing chores as a contribution rather than punishment taps into something deeper than rewards alone

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You know screens and social media can be risky for your kid. But do you know exactly what harm looks like… and what actually protects them from it?

Dr. Lisa Damour revisits her conversation with Dr. Nadine Burke Harris, pioneering pediatrician, author, and California's first Surgeon General, recorded live at the Common Sense Summit on Kids and Families. A globally recognized expert on Adverse Childhood Experiences and toxic stress, Dr. Burke Harris has spent her career studying what harms children and what heals them. Her answer to the screen time crisis might surprise you: the most powerful protection isn't stricter screen time rules; it's your relationship with your child.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why a strong, connected relationship with a caregiver is the single most powerful buffer against the harms of toxic online content and manipulative algorithms

- How to invite your kid to share disturbing things they've seen online (and the specific language that keeps that door open)

- Why teaching kids to see the manipulation behind the content, not just the content itself, builds real, lasting resistance to toxic content

- How to tie phone and social media access to developmental readiness, not just age — including how a digital citizenship contract works in practice

- The two questions that help teens reflect on whether they're choosing their content or their content is choosing them

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Your kid comes home devastated after being left out, dropped, or caught in the middle of a friendship blowup. You may want to help, but don’t know what to say—or whether you should step in at all. Take heart: this episode will help you navigate the situation with confidence.

In this encore “Best of Ask Lisa” compilation, Dr. Lisa Damour has curated her most essential guidance on friendship conflict, bullying, and social drama — the stuff that can make the tween and teen years so painful for kids and so hard to watch as a parent. Whether your child is being targeted by peers, doing the excluding, or trying to navigate a friendship that's run its course, you'll walk away knowing exactly what to say and how to help them through it with calm, clarity, and compassion.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- The crucial difference between bullying and conflict, and why getting this distinction right will change how you respond

- Why middle schoolers are so prone to cruelty, and how anxiety about belonging makes meanness a fast track to social power

- How excluding, icing out, and rumor-spreading work as a form of relational aggression — and why kids sometimes gang up to push someone out

- Why social behaviors that used to peak in 7th and 8th grade are now showing up in 9th and 10th grade, and what the pandemic has to do with it

- What to actually say to your kid when they've been left out or dropped, including how to offer a sense of perspective without dismissing how awful it feels

Social challenges are some of the most painful experiences of adolescence. But there’s a lot you can do to help.

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If mealtimes in your home feel like a power struggle, or you're exhausted from worrying whether your kid is eating well, this episode will come as a relief.

Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan revisit their conversation with Dr. Reshma Shah, a Stanford-affiliated pediatrician, public health expert, and co-author of the award-winning book “Nourish: The Definitive Plant-Based Nutrition Guide for Families.”

With over 20 years of experience in academic and clinical pediatrics and a deep commitment to family-centered approaches to food and wellbeing, Dr. Shah offers a low-pressure, evidence-based roadmap for helping kids develop a healthy relationship with food.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why what you model at the table matters far more than what you say, and how your own relationship with food shapes your child's more than you realize

- Why "clean your plate" rules and other tension-raising practices can backfire (and what a low-stress mealtime actually looks like in practice)

- How the language you use around food shapes your child's relationship with eating, and why ditching "good" and "bad" food labels makes a real difference

- How to expand your kid's palate and involve them in food choices and preparation in ways that actually work

- Why family meals (even brief, imperfect ones) have lasting benefits for your child's nutrition, wellbeing, and your relationship with them

It’s not about eating perfectly—it’s about creating a healthy food environment.

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- Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls – ⁠https://bit.ly/UnderPressuretheBook⁠

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If your son is shutting down, pulling away, or turning to the internet to answer questions you wish he'd brought your way, this episode is for you.

Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan revisit their conversation with Joanna Schroeder and Christopher Pepper, co-authors of the book “Talk to Your Boys,” to cut through the noise about boys, masculinity, and what's actually happening inside the minds of tween and teen sons.. 

Joanna brings her background in gender studies and years as Executive Editor of The Good Men Project. Christopher has spent his career as an award-winning health educator teaching thousands of students about emotions, relationships, and healthy masculinity. Together, they share what years of research and real conversations with boys have taught them — and their findings might surprise you.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why boys suppress their emotions to fit in, and how that loneliness and disconnection quietly builds over time

- The specific strategies that actually get boys to open up — from the questions that really work to the power of doing things side by side

- Why boys are uniquely vulnerable to toxic online influences, and how to build the media literacy skills they need

- What boys are really looking for from the adults in their lives, and why connection, purpose, and feeling needed matter more than you might think

- Why validation works even when boys seem resistant or dismissive

Boys may not always act like they’re listening, but they’re taking in more than we think.

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- Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls – ⁠https://bit.ly/UnderPressuretheBook⁠

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Is your family stressed, anxious, and fixated on getting your teen into a "dream school"? What if that's the wrong goal entirely?

Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan revisit their conversation with Jeff Selingo, bestselling author and higher education expert, to reframe the process of searching for the “right” college. After more than 25 years of studying what actually helps students thrive in college, Jeff has a finding that may surprise you: it’s not where your teen goes to college that matters most—it’s how they engage once they’re there.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why attending the most prestigious colleges doesn’t guarantee better outcomes

- Why belonging matters more than brand name — and what to actually look for when evaluating campus culture, mentorship, and fit

- How to have honest, early conversations about college costs, and why financial fit deserves just as much attention as academic fit

- Why the college search should be about your individual teen, not community expectations or rankings (and how to tune out the noise)

- What students can do at any college to maximize their success — and why how they show up matters more than where they enroll
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If you feel like you're doing too much for your kids — and it’s time for them to do more for themselves — this episode is your roadmap out.

Dr. Lisa Damour makes the case for using summer to foster independence in our kids. The summer months provide the perfect window to hand off real responsibilities to your tween or teen in a way that actually sticks. From laundry to cooking dinner to managing their own appointments, this encore episode gives you a practical, step-by-step approach to raising a more capable kid.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why summer is the single best time of year to teach independence — and how to take advantage of the slower pace before fall routines kick back in

- The four-step sequence for handing off any task — and how to adjust if your kid gets overwhelmed

- Why independence is just as good for kids as it is for parents — and how being genuinely counted on builds competence, purpose, and mental health

- How to respond to pushback and resistance without turning every chore into a negotiation

- How to use structured choice to get teens to actually buy in — and why letting them pick their responsibilities makes a bigger difference than you'd expect

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 Does your teen seem more attached to their friends and their phone than to you? That's not just a feeling, and it's not a phase you have to wait out.

Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan revisit their conversation with two of the world's leading experts on child development, globally renowned physician and author Dr. Gabor Maté, and developmental psychologist and author Dr. Gordon Neufeld, to address how parents can stay connected to their teens, even as they spread their wings. This is one of our most-watched episodes ever on YouTube, and we think you'll understand why.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why "healthy teenage rebellion" is mostly a myth — and what's actually happening when your teen pulls toward peers and away from you

- Why love and good intentions aren't enough on their own — and why a strong attachment bond is the only real delivery system for your care and influence

- How to read behavior problems as relationship problems — and why changing the relationship, not just the behavior, is where real progress happens

- Why warmth and curiosity are more powerful than consequences and control — and what "collect them before you direct them" actually looks like in family life

- How unchecked digital media can disrupt your teen's attachment to you — and what parents can do to strengthen their relationship with their kids

Drs. Neufeld and Maté have spent a combined 70-plus years studying what children need most from the adults who love them. They are co-authors of the book “Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers.” This conversation distills their wisdom into something every parent of a tween or teen can use today.

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If your child has been diagnosed with ADHD (or you suspect they might have it) this episode will change the way you see them.

Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan revisit their candid, funny, and genuinely moving conversation with Penn and Kim Holderness — viral content creators, bestselling authors, podcasters, and authors of “ADHD is Awesome: A Guide to (Mostly) Thriving With ADHD.”

Together, they strip away the shame, explain what it really feels like to have ADHD, and give parents a practical, strengths-based roadmap for helping their kids thrive at home and at school.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why shame about having ADHD can be more damaging than the ADHD itself — and how to talk with your child about their diagnosis from a place of love, not frustration

- How ADHD can actually be a strength, and why its "abundance of attention" can fuel creativity, originality, and problem-solving when properly supported

- Why medication alone isn't enough — and the systems, routines, and relationships that make the real difference in long-term thriving

- How ADHD shows up differently in girls and women, and why so many are missed, masked, and struggling until much later in life

- How to advocate for your child's accommodations at school and why an early, accurate diagnosis can be life-changing

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