• 56 minutes 28 seconds
    Episode 40: Ending Well & Starting New with Debbie Laaser

    This is the final episode for this season! Endings can bring up mixed emotions: sadness, excitement, grief, anticipation, and gratefulness to name a few. Some endings happen intentionally and some are without choice. Whether that’s leaving a job, ending a relationship, selling a home, or even moving, we can end well by intentionally thinking how we would like to exit. Ending well makes room for new beginnings.

    In episode 40, we speak with Debbie Laaser on ending well and starting new beginnings. She shares how to recognize when it may be time to end a season, the emotions that may arise, and how to do it with intentionality. This emptying out process creates room for what’s next in our lives. When we feel stuck in our current circumstances, Debbie explains that sometimes it’s about making the next right choice, rather than figuring out the entire plan. It is through listening to ourselves that we can know when to move on and how to discover what will truly give us a sense of joy and fulfillment.

    If you are trying to figure out how to end well or what may be next, this is a great episode for you! Thanks for joining us this season on But Really, How Are You?

    Key Takeaways

    • Debbie’s thoughts about the topic -- Ending well
    • Some beliefs that come along with ending things or being at the stand-still for her
    • What she thinks people feel when they are on a stand-still or stuck
    • On knowing when to change thoughts and beliefs vs. changing what is happening in life
    • Beliefs that influence decisions in life for her
    • On the importance of paying attention to emotions and their message
    • Debbie’s story on moving on and finding joy
    • The list that Debbie recommends to aid in finding joy
    • Her thoughts on how to end things well
    • Knowing when to end a relationship and how to end it in a healthy way for her
    • On sadness as a healthy part of ending things
    • The benefit of ending things well for her in the long run
    • Her view on the next small steps to pay attention to ending things well
    • A conversation on finding the next right house and denying self of joy
    • Lessons she learned from the book Big Magic
    • Her belief that helped her find joy
    • CorryAnn’s final thanks to close season 1

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    Debbie Laaser, M.A., LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and was involved in recovery with her husband, Mark, for over thirty years. After Mark’s passing in 2019, she became the Director of Faithful & True. Debbie has facilitated therapy groups and counseled relationally betrayed wives for over 20 years. She is the author of Shattered Vows and co-author with Mark of Seven Desires and A Toolkit for Growth: Practical Recovery Tools for Individuals and Couples.  Debbie’s recent research project, “Posttraumatic Growth in Relationally Betrayed Women” was published in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy.

    14 March 2021, 5:00 am
  • 41 minutes 13 seconds
    Episode 39: Mindfulness, Meditation, and Yoga with Dr. Sara Lazar

    Over the past few years, there has been growing popularity around the practices of mindfulness, meditation, and yoga. Curious about the life changing effects these practices had on so many, researchers began to question if there really was scientific evidence to support these practices. Dr. Sara Lazar was one of these individuals who wanted solid evidence that these practices produced changes in the brain.

    In Episode 39, we discuss with Dr. Sara Lazar about her research in the effects of mindfulness, meditation, and yoga. She shares about specific areas of the brain that these practices affect, and how they truly reduce our brain's response to things like stress and pain. Dr. Lazar shares that these benefits go beyond the individual by helping to cultivate greater compassion for others as well. Listen to this episode if you want to learn how mindfulness, meditation, and yoga impact your emotional well-being!

    Key Takeaways

    • A little bit about Sara and her work
    • The important structures of the brain that she found through her neuro-imaging research
    • Some brain areas that follow the default mode network as explained by Sara
    • Her view on what brain area is affected by stress and how
    • What she found out in her research
    • What types of meditation correlates with better outcomes
    • Her research findings on reducing symptoms
    • Her research on pain and how people experience it 
    • How she thinks mindfulness affects pain and its applicability to chronic pain 
    • She talks about mindfulness in labor
    • Her study on fear conditioning concerning the pain that people experience
    • The effects of doing meditation frequently for her
    • Her view on practicing mindfulness with movement
    • Her explanation on how yoga affects the structures of the brain
    • Her study on Taichi
    • How yoga helps in developing self-compassion and other resources for her
    • How she thinks yoga can lead to developing compassion for others
    • Her opinion on how meditation and other practices build better resilience
    • How body awareness ties with yoga and other practices and its importance for her
    • Her recommendations on how people can begin their yoga journey
    • Her piece of mind on incorporating sensory deprivation in mindfulness
    • Her tips on doing self-compassion and equanimity  

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    Sara W. Lazar, PhD is an Associate Researcher in the Psychiatry Department at Massachusetts General Hospital and an Assistant Professor in Psychology at Harvard Medical School. The focus of her research is to elucidate the neural mechanisms underlying the beneficial effects of yoga and meditation, both in clinical settings and in healthy individuals. She is a contributing author to Meditation and Psychotherapy (Guilford Press). She has been practicing yoga and mindfulness meditation since 1994. Her research has been covered by numerous news outlets including The New York Times, USA Today, CNN, and WebMD, and her work has been featured in a display at the Boston Museum of Science.


    7 March 2021, 5:00 am
  • 49 minutes 31 seconds
    Episode 38: The Purpose of Emotions with Karla McLaren

    When emotions arise, oftentimes we try to figure out how to fix them, rather than asking what they are trying to tell us. However, our emotions are not separate from or intelligence or logic. In fact, emotions are messengers telling us about what we may need or events to pay attention to. 

    In Episode 38, we speak with Karla McLaren on the purpose of emotions. She explains the importance of connecting with them and how it benefits our well-being. Karla dives into the specific messages that anger, sadness, grief, anxiety, frustration, happiness and hope are telling us. Karla also researches empathy, and she shares her model of how true empathy works. By the end of this episode, you will learn that emotions aren’t something that need to be fixed, but instead they need to be understood. If you want to grow in your understanding of emotions, this is the episode for you! 

    Key Takeaways        

    • Karla’s work and the things that she does
    • Her explanation on what emotions are and what it tells
    • How she thinks emotions are related to intelligence and logic
    • On connecting with emotions
    • The benefits of investigating emotions for her
    • Her view on how emotions work
    • The effects of working in an unhealthy work or social environment for her
    • Sharing her communication practices for workers to create small areas of engagement
    • Her view on what empathy is 
    • Her explanation of the six aspects model of empathy
    • Her opinion on what sadness and grief are and what it tells us
    • What frustration vs anger is for her
    • How can people work on handling anger for her
    • What hope and happiness are for her
    • How she thinks understanding emotions help us deal with life differently
    • Her four families of emotions to knowing emotions
    • How understanding emotions helps in handling problems for her
    • How she thinks people tune in to empathy despite feeling fatigue
    • The message that she wants to leave with the listeners

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    Karla McLaren, M.Ed. is an award-winning author, social science researcher, and empathy pioneer. Her lifelong work focuses on her grand unified theory of emotions, which revalues even the most “negative” emotions and opens startling new pathways into self-awareness, effective communication, and healthy empathy.

    Karla is the author of Embracing Anxiety: How to Access the Genius of this Vital Emotion (2020), The Dynamic Emotional Integration® Workbook (2018), The Art of Empathy: A Complete Guide to Life’s Most Essential Skill (2013), and many audio learning programs and online courses.

    28 February 2021, 5:00 am
  • 46 minutes 49 seconds
    Episode 37: The Enneagram Part 2: Exploring Relationships with Leslie Root

    This week’s episode is the second part of The Enneagram mini-series. This tool is useful for understanding ourselves, our roles, how we relate to one another, and how we find our place in the world.

    In Episode 37, we  explore with Leslie Root how the enneagram affects our relationships. We will learn about the positives and pitfalls of each enneagram type, and how we can deepen our relational understanding with each particular personality type, growing greater compassion towards those around us. This translates directly to our relationship with our children, and Leslie gives parents some great advice as they navigate family life. If you are interested in learning how the enneagram can help improve your relationships, give this episode a listen! 

    Key Takeaways        

    • What Leslie does and incorporating enneagram in her work
    • What made her choose enneagram in her practice
    • On understanding how enneagram types helps in forming relationships
    • What the attachment theory is
    • What enneagram types she thinks pair up together
    • Her view on the positive and pitfalls of enneagram types
    • On wings, instinct, and subtypes in getting enneagram type variations
    • Her advice to do a discovery session with experts in knowing the enneagram type
    • Her description of the nine enneagram types
    • Her view on building relationships through understanding the enneagram types
    • When she thinks the enneagram type fully evolves
    • How enneagram affects love relationships for her
    • On enneagram types as the shortcut in understanding people and relationships
    • Resources she recommends
    • About her online workshop in discovering enneagram types

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    Leslie Root LMFT is a certified sex and love addiction, RLT, PIT, Enneagram trained therapist who loves to work with clients on discovering their true north in life and love relationships. In addition to her therapy work, Leslie trains coaches and therapists on using the enneagram in their work and personal lives. To learn more about Leslie and her program offerings feel free to visit her website at leslierootcounseling.com or join the enneagram facebook group at facebook.com/groups/enneagramunlimited


    21 February 2021, 5:00 am
  • 57 minutes 58 seconds
    Episode 36: The Enneagram Part 1 with Ramona Reid

    From the moment a child is born, they are shaped by the world outside themselves. However, if you look at a young child, it is evident that they have their own unique personality. Because of this, various personality typing tools have evolved to help a person understand one’s self and others better. 

    The Enneagram has its roots in ancient tradition, and has become a modern way to synthesize various personality types. The Enneagram outlines only nine personality types; however, this seemingly simple system is quite complex when you look below the surface. 

    In Episode 36, we invited Enneagram Coach Ramona Reid to provide a broad overview of the Enneagram types. Ramona shares the importance of the Enneagram, how groups of Enneagram types operate in similar ways, and how we can approach understanding our own Enneagram type. Whether this is familiar or your first time hearing about the Enneagram , this episode will provide you with a better understanding of yourself and others. 

    Key Takeaways

    • Ramona’s journey to getting into the enneagram
    • Her view on what enneagram is
    • On understanding enneagram for emotional wellbeing
    • How she correlates somatic experience of emotion and the enneagram types
    • Her explanation on the nine enneagram types according to the centres of intelligence
    • How she distinguishes what enneagram type a person is
    • Her recommended resources on the enneagram
    • Her view on understanding the enneagram types to help people understand things better
    • How she uses enneagram to analyze what a person needs in a situation
    • How she uses enneagram in relationships
    • How enneagram helps in searching for life’s purpose or meaning for her

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    14 February 2021, 5:00 am
  • 42 minutes 11 seconds
    Episode 35: Opening Up Creativity with Dr. Terri Goslin-Jones

    Oftentimes, when we think of being creative, we associate it with a form of art or creating a product. But being a creative person is more about how we think than what we produce. And living a creative life can affect every aspect from relationships, to problem solving, or self expression. 
     
    In this episode, we talk with Dr. Terri Goslin-Jones about creativity and how it impacts our emotional well-being. She helps define what everyday creativity is and how it can change the way we view life. Creativity is something that we can practice and grow in, and through this also grow as a person. Creativity can help us find challenging solutions or transition during big life changes. Getting in touch with our creative side can help us get in touch with our inner landscape. Give this episode a listen to learn more!

    Key Takeaways

    • A little about Terri and her work 
    • What creativity is for her
    • Terri’s definition of everyday creativity
    • How creativity crosses psychology and wellness for her
    • How she sees life without creativity
    • Changing people internally through creativity for her
    • On the importance of opening up to creativity
    • Using creativity in teaching psychology or working with people for her
    • The effects of living creatively to a person’s well-being for her
    • On creativity in relationships
    • Her idea of helping people through creativity to move in different stages of life
    • On creativity as a product
    • How to discover creativity for her
    • Her view on using creativity to overcome difficulties
    • On mindfulness creativity and collaboration
    • How she uses creativity to make changes in life
    • Her opinion on creating yourself through creativity
    • Terri’s tips on opening the creativity box
    • Her view on starting simple with creativity 
    • On using meditation and sounding 
    • Her thoughts on everyone’s creative potential

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    In my private practice as a workplace psychologist, I work with individuals and groups. I also work as a psychology professor and teach coursework and supervise research on creativity studies.  
    My business mission is to Discover the Wonder of People at Work™. My core belief is that work becomes more meaningful when creativity is nurtured through the expression of a person’s unique gifts, talents, and perspectives. My coaching creates a path for growth, change, and personal renewal. Prior to consulting, I spent my career working as a Director / VP of Human Resources.
    Personal Interests:  
    I am passionate about living a life that is meaningful, authentic, creative and will make a difference to my family, friends, clients and colleagues. I am committed to family life, expressive arts, gardening, and a love for life-long learning, physical fitness, spirituality, and international travel. 
     
    Education: 
    Ph.D., Psychology, Saybrook University, Pasadena, CA 
    Dissertation focus: Creativity and the Workplace 
    M.A., Personnel and Counseling, Miami University-Ohio 
    B.A., Psychology, Western Michigan University 

    7 February 2021, 5:00 am
  • 44 minutes 28 seconds
    Episode 34: Visceral Sensations with Danielle Braun-Kauffman

    We often think of emotions as experiences of the mind, but our body has visceral sensations -- a body feeling -- for every emotion. When you are anxious, your stomach may feel in a knot. You may feel a flutter with a romantic touch of your hand. Or when you’re angry your chest gets tight. Our experiences may be different, but we all have visceral sensations for each emotion. 

    In Episode 34, we speak with Danielle Braun-Kauffman who is a marriage and family therapist and is trained in Satir Systemic Transformational Therapy. Danielle explains how family of origin and past experiences affect the way we react and deal with present day relationships, and for women in particular, how they experience labor and the postpartum period. 

    One of Danielle’s main goals is to help women reconnect to their body and the visceral sensations their bodies experience during emotional events. She frequently works with postpartum depression and anxiety, and explains how she helps women work through these issues. Tune in to learn more!

    Key Takeaways

    • Danielle’s experiences and her career as a counselor
    • What qualifies as being traumatic for her
    • Her definition of complex trauma
    • How trauma affects a person for her
    • The interconnectivity of emotion and physiological sensation
    • On ACES concerning prenatal and postpartum trauma
    • Danielle talks about pregnancy and having a birth plan
    • How she thinks past experiences affect postpartum anxiety and depression
    • Her advice on how to work through feelings or fear
    • Her advice on learning how to heal and be embodied in pregnancy   

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    Danielle Braun-Kauffman is a Registered Clinical Counselor with the BC Association of Clinical Counselors. She has been working in the field of psychotherapy since 2005.  She has been trained as a clinical supervisor through the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy supervision course.  She acted as clinical supervisor to both practicum and internship students at Trinity Western University in the Marriage and Family Therapy MA program for 8 years.  Currently she owns, operates and clinically supervises a team of 7 associate therapists and intern students through her work at Re.Pose Therapy. She has completed level 1 & 2 at the Satir Systemic Transformational Therapy, and she is a trauma sensitive yoga therapist.

    As continued education, research and supervision is a core value of hers, Danielle continues to be trained extensively in the services she provides.

    31 January 2021, 5:00 am
  • 49 minutes 53 seconds
    Episode 33: Our Integrative Health with Shannon Myers

    Societies over time have held different beliefs about how to look at the self and how to approach health and healing. In our westernized society, we frequently isolate the body and our physical nature when we look at health. However, in doing so, we ignore the interrelated nature of our mental, emotional, and spiritual parts and their combined impact on our health.

    In this episode, we talk with Shannon Myers, an integrated medicine provider. She explains that our whole being is interconnected, and through seeing ourselves this way, we gain a better picture of what it means to be healthy and alive. Through this lens, Shannon shares what can cause both physical and mental illness, how we can approach healing, and what resources are available to us. Give this episode a listen to hear how interconnected we are as humans! 

    Key Takeaways

    • A little bit about Shannon and what keeps her occupied
    • The interconnectedness of the body and emotional wellbeing
    • On trauma: what causes it, its effects on health, and the healing modalities
    • On burnout: what it is, its effects on the body, and prevention
    • The importance of creating boundaries for her
    • Her approach as an integrative counselor in healing trauma and burnout
    • What qualifies as trauma-informed care for her
    • Resources she recommends on trauma-informed care
    • Her thoughts on being kind to yourself 

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    Shannon R. Myers, MS, CRC, CMHIMIP, is a Certified Rehabilitation Counselor, Certified Mental Health Integrative Medicine Provider, Research Fellow at The Harkin Institute, Adjunct Professor at Drake University in the Master of Counseling program, and is the Founder of Shannon Myers Consulting LLC and The Integrative Counselor, a niche, root-cause, private virtual Integrative Medicine Practice serving individuals, systems, and organizations across the U.S. Shannon is Trauma-Informed and an expert at systems change, collaboration, health outcomes, to advance Trauma-Informed, integrative, evidence-based, culturally appropriate, and innovative practices that are personalized, yet scalable; to create needed systemic change to address the bi-directional, root-cause nature of physical and mental health symptoms, disability, and prevention from the individual to the population levels. 

    Handles for social media:

    Instagram: @The.Integrative.Counselor

    Facebook: @TheIntegrativeCounselor

    Twitter: @RootsCounselor

    24 January 2021, 5:00 am
  • 58 minutes 17 seconds
    Episode 32: Attachment Bonds with Jim Farm

    Have you ever wondered what is one of the greatest influences on your ability to trust yourself and others? In episode 32, we talk to Jim Farm about different attachment styles that form when we are young, and how they continue to influence every relationship that we have in our adulthood. Jim describes the four attachment styles: avoidant, anxious, disorganized, and secure. These styles continue throughout our life, unless we intentionally change them. 

    Jim explains how an insecure attachment can inhibit our ability to be vulnerable. This impacts our relationship with others and even things, which can lead to addiction. He also shares that trauma has an impact on our attachment bonds. Towards the end, Jim shares that no matter what attachment style we developed when we were young, we can learn how to be safe and accessible individuals in our adult life. Listen to this episode to learn more!

    Key Takeaways

    • A little about Jim and his work
    • What attachment is for him  
    • What attachment styles are for him
    • How to develop attachment styles for him
    • His idea on the importance of understanding attachment styles for adults
    • Attachment styles concerning addiction and trauma for him
    • His bits of advice on unlearning insecure attachment
    • Who he thinks are the safe people to go to
    • Jim encourages the listeners to understand their relationship drivers 

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    Jim is the clinical director at Faithful & True. Jim has extensive counseling experience with individuals, couples and families in multiple community and ministry settings.  He provides counseling to men struggling with sexual purity issues, couples moving toward relational healing and growth, and facilitates small groups at our Men of Valor Intensive Workshops. Jim received his Master of Divinity and a Master of Arts in Marriage & Family Therapy from Bethel Seminary.

    17 January 2021, 5:00 am
  • 53 minutes 18 seconds
    Episode 31: Creating Our Body Image with Dr. Katherine Iscoe

    Body image is the picture we create in our mind about ourselves. It can be positive or negative, constant or ever-changing. Our parents, culture, friends, and even our thoughts contribute to how we form our body image. Are there things you would like to change about the way you look? And if those things changed, how would that impact your life? These are some of the questions we talk about in this episode with Dr. Katherine Iscoe, a leading expert in cultivating positive body image.

    In this episode, we talk about the everyday struggles for men and women and how key factors and beliefs influence our self-view. Dr. Katherine also talks about how we can generate resilience in the face of stress and how to look for the much-needed ways to care for ourselves during challenging times. If you want to learn the first steps towards changing your view of your self-image, listen to this episode!
     
    Key Takeaways

    • Dr. Katherine on how prevailing negative body image is
    • How negative body image affects one’s  life for her
    • Her idea of gender differences in negative body image
    • Dr. Katherine on the impact of the brain on negative body image
    • How do family and social media affect negative body image for her
    • Her idea of gaining control over thoughts: its process and next steps
    • She talks about self-care versus self-obsession
    • Embracing body change for her
    • What she thinks about doing things for yourself versus doing things for others
    • She advises on how to  change  confidently
    • Her theory of body confidence
    • How to apply the step approach in the pandemic for her
    • How she turns stress into strength
    • Her advice on the importance of helping and being helped
    • Managing energy for her

     
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    Dr Katherine Iscoe is a “Mindset Mentor”, and self-proclaimed shoe addict, with a mission to activate a person’s dormant potential through education, inspiration & a touch of tough love.

    She is also a proud published author, an experienced and passionate speaker and the co-founder of the technology company MyFiziq Limited - an ASX-listed company with a multi-million-dollar market capitalisation.

    Her unique approach to catalysing change, often described as an “educational and humorous roller coaster ride”, is informed by extensive research, personal experiences and academic qualifications including Bachelor of Arts in Health Sciences (Summa Cum Laude), Master of Science in Exercise Physiology and Health Sciences, a Doctorate in Exercise Physiology and Biotechnology and a Post-graduate Certificate in Counselling.

    Most recently, Katherine has launched a series of new programs for individuals and teams, as well as mentoring for ambitious people wanting to make that next significant step towards their dream goals, while continuing to nurture a community that aims to bring together people from all walks of life, who inspire, support and nudge each other to accomplish great things.

    10 January 2021, 5:00 am
  • 44 minutes 6 seconds
    Episode 30: Stop Self-Sabotaging with Dr. Judy Ho

    See ya later 2020! Happy New Year! And a new year means New Year’s resolutions and goals. It can be easy to dream up the things we would like to change.  Do you have goals related to your career, relationship, lifestyle, or hobbies? But to make the changes we desire, we need to consider what will really make us happy and what are the things we do to get in the way - the ways we self-sabotage.

    In this episode we talk with Dr. Judy Ho, an expert on overcoming self-sabotage.

    She shares with us how society influences our definition of happiness; a definition that may be unattainable; and where true happiness can be found. She will also unpack for us what self-sabotage is, why we do it, how we can look at patterns in our life that aren’t working, and how we can create lasting change. 

    To learn more about how to achieve your goals and find real happiness, listen to this episode!

    Key Takeaways

    • A little about Judy and her work
    • Her explanation on Self-sabotage
    • How self-sabotage prevents self-care for her
    • Self-sabotage in personal relationships, career, and habits for her
    • Drivers of self-sabotage explained by Judy
    • How she thinks self-sabotage works on productivity
    • How to break the habit of self-sabotage for her
    • Practical steps and solutions to overcoming self-sabotage explained in detail by Judy
    • How to pursue happiness for her -- values-based living
    • Judy recommends making a blueprint for change

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    3 January 2021, 5:00 am
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