Sharing our "come to Jesus" difficult discussion this week. On: incompatability that surfaces while married, negotiating differences and wants, and how not martyring yourself and nurturing your individuality is key to staying connected.

Upcoming:

Both Feet In, my signature relationship anxiety course, is now available as a membership for course members. We will meet 2-3x/month to apply the tools from the course in real-time so you can leave and apply them to your relationship immediately. We will also have calls available exclusively for men, and men can now purchase the course and benefit as well. The first BFI call will be May 12th. 14-day free trial for membership, which will open for registration to BFI students May 1st. Register for Both Feet In today: Anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-2024

Ask me anything via text or voice note, and I'll reply with a 10-minute video via Wisio: www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach

Next Patreon community support call May 12th at 9am PST. $7/month, cancel anytime. Www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach

Work with me 1:1: www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1

A postpartum fight with my husband leads to some excellent healing and bonding.

There is a power to forgiving ourselves, and our partners. This does not condone what happened or open ourselves up to being hurt again, but transforms that energy into clarity, love, and peace. Forgiveness emphasizes that you can have peace while still keeping boundaries, holding people accountable, and making meaningful changes in your life.

It starts with owning what's within your control, and what isn't. And continues with sitting down to listen, and what the power of listening can grant you with: perspective, understanding, clarity, and love.

Links: Processing Rage Towards Men with Luci Lampe: March 15th 10am PST Unwavering 2026 has started but it is NOT too late to join us! ➡️ Unwavering is a year-long mentorship designed to get you to stop reacting to every intrusive thought about your relationship and creating unnecessary emotional turmoil. The structure is three 8-week seasonal "trimesters" (Anxious to Spacious, Tension of Opposites, and Rewriting History) plus: - a year of chat support with me and my co-teacher Stefi - discounted 1:1s with us - optional monthly workshops/Q&As Sign up for Unwavering (the whole year with 3 trimesters) here. Sign up for Anxious to Spacious (trimester 1) here. Wisio Patreon

Sometimes the thing we fixate on in our partners is actually something we do, too. What if we responded to our partners the way we want them to respond to us? Magic could happen.

Many of my episodes use my personal stories as reference for lessons and teachings, and today's episode is no different, if maybe even more personal. I'm unscripted and opening up to you about a breakthrough that we've had in our relationship.

My husband and I have different expectations and experiences from our families of origin. Every family has dysfunction, and every family has trauma.

Listen in on our efforts to conquer intergenerational trauma, and refuse to pass down our baggage, and our parents' hurt, and our grandparents' struggles, and so on, to the next generation.

Links: Unwavering 2026 has started but it is NOT too late to join us! ➡️ Unwavering is a year-long mentorship designed to get you to stop reacting to every intrusive thought about your relationship and creating unnecessary emotional turmoil. The structure is three 8-week seasonal "trimesters" (Anxious to Spacious, Tension of Opposites, and Rewriting History) plus: - a year of chat support with me and my co-teacher Stefi - discounted 1:1s with us - optional monthly workshops/Q&As Sign up for Unwavering (the whole year with 3 trimesters) here. Sign up for Anxious to Spacious (trimester 1) here. Wisio Patreon

What do you do when values or visions clash? Can you reconcile? Can you "go along" without abandoning yourself? In this episode I opened up about a fight P and I had this week, yayyy! And how we kinda got back on the same page. Links: Unwavering 2026 has started but it is NOT too late to join us! ➡️ Unwavering is a year-long mentorship designed to get you to stop reacting to every intrusive thought about your relationship and creating unnecessary emotional turmoil. The structure is three 8-week seasonal "trimesters" (Anxious to Spacious, Tension of Opposites, and Rewriting History) plus: - a year of chat support with me and my co-teacher Stefi - discounted 1:1s with us - optional monthly workshops/Q&As Sign up for Unwavering (the whole year with 3 trimesters) here. Sign up for Anxious to Spacious (trimester 1) here. Wisio Patreon - Next call Feb 3 9am PST

Parenthood has been a SEASON. In this episode, I shared how having grace for your partner is essential in a marriage, and what that looks like — and how those with rOCD might desperately have a tough time both giving and receiving it. UNWAVERING: A Year to End the Drama in your Relationships kicks off with a welcome call on January 20th.

• The first trimester starts February 7th with Anxious to Spacious - an 8 week group teaching you Consciousness Exercise, which will help you stop REACTING in sabotaging ways every time you experience an intrusive thought.

Wisios are open again! Ask me anything for $67 and I'll make you a 10-minute video with my thoughts. Patreon - $7/month, cancel anytime. Meet with me once a month, and get discounts on everything.

In this episode, my friend Cherry and I talked about a recent conversation where she humbled me in my marriage and how INCREDIBLY helpful it is to have sister roles like that in your life. Cherry also shares how to make bomb a$$ friends. Links: Patreon - support my work and come pick my brain during my monthly hotseat coaching for $7/month! Unwavering: A year to end the drama in your relationships - join me for 3 of my best-selling 8-week programs in spring, summer, fall, plus monthly trainings/Q&As/workshops with my mentor and dear friend, Stefi Preiss.

This question came from my Patreon and I want to talk about it!

If your guy is in his 20s and figuring himself out and you're feeling anxious about it... you're not crazy. Here's why and what you can do about it.

Patreon - pick my brain monthly and get discounts on (almost) everything Unwavering: A year to end the drama in your relationships

I'm hosting a workshop on Dec 19th to set your intentions for 2026! Free for Patrons and Unwavering members. Or get it here for $25.

In this episode I share a personal story with my husband's porn usage, what to do if your partner's usage bothers you, how I see porn now, what makes it worse, and how to get him to want to stop.

Join me for the entire year in UNWAVERING: End the drama in your relationships

You'll get:

1. Access to my three best-selling 8-week group programs in spring, summer, and fall

2. Plus an exclusive community ONLY for those that join for all three seasons, where we will meet monthly for trainings and Q&As to help you integrate and keep the momentum going all year long.

Hey! In this episode I shared my story with breakup urges in my relationship with my now-husband and partner for 14 years. Boy do I know the panic of the thought "BREAK UP!"

I also shared how I stopped experiencing these altogether, and how you can work with me in 2026.

Join me for the entire year in UNWAVERING: End the drama in your relationships

You'll get:

1. Access to my three best-selling 8-week group programs in spring, summer, and fall

2. Plus an exclusive community ONLY for those that join for all three seasons, where we will meet monthly for trainings and Q&As to help you integrate and keep the momentum going all year long.

Hot take: relationship anxiety is the fear of being "stuck" or powerless. There's no shame in falling into the trap of thinking we'll be victims to the circumstances in our lives— but once you see it... you don't have to choose it. You can choose to stay empowered no matter what your decision is. Listen in.

Links: Spark Reset: Feel something again for a man you already love Yin Language Patreon - next call Saturday Nov 15!

Join me for the entire year in UNWAVERING: End the drama in your relationships

You'll get:

1. Access to my three best-selling 8-week group programs in spring, summer, and fall

2. Plus an exclusive community ONLY for those that join for all three seasons, where we will meet monthly for trainings and Q&As to help you integrate and keep the momentum going all year long.

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Join me for Tension of Opposites starting July 10th HERE