Every worry you're "settling" if you stay with your partner? You're not alone: this thought process isn't your fault and it has good reason for being there-- but there are a ton of ways it isn't helpful when looking at relationships, especially for someone that struggles with relationship OCD. In this episode, we will debunk the myth of "settling" and empower you with some better language to use about your relationship so that you can enjoy what's wonderful right in front of you!  

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I am thrilled to welcome back Luci Lampe, a dear friend and mentor. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible gift to awakening sexually.

I've been committed to a daily self-pleasure practice through diligently taking Luci's course "Come As You Are" and have seen incredible results. I've decided to be an ambassador and highly endorse Luci's gifts in this arena ;)

To enroll, use this link: https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej

 

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I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.

 

Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace

Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.

 

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My most "meta" episode yet...

If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage?

Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode.

Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

 

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Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace

Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.

 

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I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so.

 

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I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.

 

Questions - Me in your back pocket

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Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace

Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.

 

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I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and what that can look like, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you experience separation anxiety.

 

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I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.

Questions - Me in your back pocket

Ask me anything on Wisio

Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace

Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.

Patreon - Join my community

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Links mentioned:

Enroll in Luci Lampe’s programs HERE:  https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej

After years of having doubts in my (then) 4-year partnership, I managed to stumble into a breakthrough where I was finally able to confidently and joyfully commit to my awesome partner. In this episode, I share my organic story on how I went from doubting to loving.  

Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.  

Questions - Me in your back pocket Ask me anything on Wisio  

Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.  

Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.

In this episode:

• I'm going on maternity leave. Please send me your favorite episodes — I'll be re-purposing them over the next 6 months.
• A story about a viral reel that was grossly misinterpreted by both men and women, and how it was intended to be received — as well as how and why the misinterpretation didn't faze me like it would have in the past (due to judgment towards my relationship/partner)
• What you're actually worried about (it's not about your partner)
• How to drop the fear of judgment for good

Black Friday Sale on ALL courses until 12/9 - get 50% off! Click here to view my course list. Both Feet In is my most popular one. Use the code BLACKFRIDAY24 for 50% off all my courses.   Next Patreon call: Saturday, December 14th at 9am PST/12pm EST. Become a Patron here for $5-9/month. Cancel anytime.   Subscribe to my email list to keep in touch ☺️ You'll receive my free relationship anxiety meditation.   Love,   Nat

Today's episode was unscripted, and I shared some hard thoughts and feelings I've been having about the podcast, and where I'd like to take this podcast moving forward.   I also shared some perspective shifts women in relationships with men could make, that would enable them to have more harmony with the good men in their lives.   I have a workshop coming up next Sunday called Yin Language: a 2-hour dissection for women on how to communicate with men in ways they understand. Sorry I waited to the last minute to tell you. I've been feeling hesitant to speak about it on the podcast lately and I shared why in this episode.   You can join 125+ women for the workshop, and the recording will be sent out to all registrants afterwards whether you attended live or not. Register for Yin Language here.   Other mentions: Next Patreon community call December 14th 9am PST - click here to join   Btw Wisio (my "pick my brain" service) is hosting a sale. Ask me anything and get 10% off using the code "THANKS24"   Amazon book list with Queen's Code

Books mentioned in this episode:

The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong

The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle

Magnetic Femininity by Ali Douzet

 

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This episode is for you if you perceive your partner doesn't care about you, or things in your relationship that you want them to care about— OR if your partner perceives YOU don't care. Either way, you'll have some new tools to work with to have better conversations!   Btw— happy 100th episode! Thanks for supporting this podcast. You guys are great.   Links mentioned:   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   1:1 Mentorship Promo - Me in your back pocket I'm offering a 1:1 promo through the month of November. 1-month intensive mentorship with 4 90-minute sessions, WhatsApp support, and my signature course Both Feet In. Get that here.   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. By the time you hear this, my November call will have already passed (but you can watch in retrospect), but our next one will be Saturday, December 14th at 9am PST. Become a patron here.

Storytime: this episode reveals the moment my whole life turned around and I chose my partner, and what I believe it takes to access a place inside of yourself where making that kind of decision naturally happens with ease and even a sense of relief.   Join me for Anxious to Spacious October 24th - November 30th: 6 weeks to open your heart and transform relationship anxiety into profound love   Both Feet In Self Study   I also mentioned Stefi. Here is her website and offerings: www.alpenhafen.at   Ask me anything on Wisio

I'd love to give you a better understanding of intuition in this episode. This is the MOST common question I receive... and before I give you the answer, I'd like to point out some issues with the question itself.   You'll learn:

• What intuition is and isn't
• The false dichotomy you might accidentally be pigeonholing yourself into
• The limitations of only doing somatic work and meditation for relationship anxiety
• How to use your anxiety to communicate better

  Join me on October 24th for my last womens' group for a while, Anxious to Spacious. You'll learn: - Consciousness Exercise, a practice that snapped me out of overthinking my relationship and massively upgraded my communication skills

• How to process stagnant, old emotions clouding your ability to access clear thinking and intuition
• How to use Consciousness Exercise to articulate your problems to your partner in a way that inspires them to want to help you rather than blame you, withdraw, and/or deflect

  Sign up for Anxious to Spacious here.   Prefer not to do a group, but go at your own pace? Do my self-study course, Both Feet In.   Other links:

• Ask me anything on Wisio
• Come to my monthly community support call for $5-$9/month HERE
• Podcast Ep 81: May I tell you about my miscarriage?