The controversial takes keep coming! Talking forced identities, the hate against 'fuckbois', everything a sign of upcoming abuse, and the targedy of the consent generation. Let's think outside the box and examine what's going wrong for the male populus.

Personal trauma histories that provoke abusive relationships on repeat, social bottles uncorking with obsession, internet stalking's merits & shortcomings, and what TO-DO as a guy looking for a date... We've covered a lot. Let's turn it into reflection and application.

Psychoeducation is the brightest point to come from Dystopia. Right guys? Right? ...Or has it been creating stronger predators and overconfident amateur fishermen? Today we talk about the Wellness shared reality and how it's impacting online dating, including the creation of annoying PUWBs floating all around.

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This month in the Patreon feed we're talking romantic relationships and all the ways they go immediately wrong. In this recording we rap about emotionally masturbating as it crosses over with weird attachments & forming fake relationships as a coping mechanism - dooming any real relationship that might emerge to fail. And let's talk about the societal danger of protectively doping instead of actually dating.

A month full of dealing with fear and determining who to be. In this release from the patreon stream, we talk about the terrors of time when you have a traumatized brain. Inconsistency, lapses, wormholes and sandtraps... we live in temporal funhouses. Let's talk about how an unstandard relationship with time affects our relationships and what to do about it.

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Rumination isn't only an annoyance, it's a predisposing factor for psychopathology. Here are 5 research-backed tips for changing the chronic thought pattern.

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In this ep we talk about practical strategies for managing cyclical thoughts. The discussion emphasizes the importance of visualization techniques, cognitive restructuring, and unfortunately self-acceptance, to break the torture of continual negative thinking. We provide actionable tips to help navigate ruminatory patterns and foster a chronically healthier mindset.

takeaways

• Rumination is linked to trauma, anxiety, and depression.

• Setting a timer for ruminating thoughts can reinforce them through ironic control processes.

• Visualizing to create your own inhibitory signal can help interrupt negative thought patterns.

• Mapping the brain's rumintory circuit and tracking inner expeirence through it can aid in managing rumination.

• Re-calibrating obsessive view of one event within the context of an entire existence can shift attention.

• Avoid thinking about personal memories or predictions before bed to prevent insomnia.

• Using "cognitive bridges" can help connect conflicting thoughts so the mind can hold both.

• Self-forgiveness and esteem are (unfortunately) crucial for overcoming ruminatory thinking.

• A realistic lens assists with rumination: Life is unpredictable, and we have limited control over events.

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rumination, mental health, anxiety, cognitive control, self-acceptance, coping strategies, visualization, brain circuits, insomnia, self-forgiveness, the unpredictable nature of the universe and your realistic place in it

'Stop seeing everything so negatively." they say. But the cognitive behaviors underlying depression don't allow it. Let's talk about mental reactions and sticky patterns that outweigh false brightsides.

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This conversation delves into the cognitive basis of depression, focusing on how neural networks, memory games, language, cognitive inhibition inhibition, outdated working memory, and rumination contribute to depressive states. It explores the mechanisms behind cognitive depression, compassionate views for the state of human suffering, and offers strategies for managing depression through attention training and environmental changes.

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• Neural networks, schemas, and representations automatically shape our understanding of experiences.
• Even singular stimulation events can activate depressive schemas, limiting potential perceptions.
• Memory biases in depression lead to a resonating focus on negative experiences.
• Over generalized and explicit memories are unique experiences associated with depression.
• Cognitive inhibition is ironically inhibited during depression.
• Working memory cannot update with relevant material under depressive spells.
• Emotional regulation is hindered by cognitive control loss in depression.
• Rumination causes or exacerbates depression, anxiety, and PTSD due to a negative focus on the self.
• Automatic reckoning with the human condition may be the cause of many varieties of cognitive disorders.
• Training attention can redirect focus away from negativity.
• Ambiguous or negative social environments spark rumination which leads to depression.
• Changing environments and behaviors can help disrupt negative neural networks.
• Understanding the cognitive processes behind depression can bolster compassion and help deactivate negative schemas.

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cognitive depression, memory bias, cognitive inhibition, working memory, overgeneralized memory, semantic memory, rumination, emotional regulation, reappraisal, self-doubt, neural networks

If Facades of Conformity feel a bit much, how about Impression Management strategies? Let's talk about common strategies, the risks vs. rewards, and negative return on energetic investments.

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This conversation delves into the themes of conformity and impression management, exploring how individuals often sacrifice their true selves to fit societal expectations. It discusses the psychological implications of these behaviors, including increased loneliness and decreased life satisfaction, and highlights various strategies people use to manage their self-image. The conversation emphasizes the risks associated with these strategies and the long-term consequences of suppressing one's true identity.

takeaways

• Impression management is a common behavior in social interactions.
• It can lead to higher loneliness and lower life satisfaction.
• People often feel pressured to conform to societal norms.
• Impression management can be a double-edged sword, creating more problems than it solves.
• Different strategies of impression management include ingratiating, self-promoting, and suppression.
• Supplication can lower self-esteem and self-image.
• Suppression can lead to emotional exhaustion and impaired relationships.
• Authenticity is crucial for genuine connections.
• The effort to manage impressions can be exhausting and counterproductive.
• Creating environments of authenticity can improve overall well-being.

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impression management, conformity, emotional welfare, social support, loneliness, self-image, authenticity, psychological health, social dynamics, coping strategies

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It's a summary episode! What have we been talking about lately? Facades of Conformity as they overlap with CPTSD, RSD, and life-destruction.

summary Let's talk about environmental mental illness, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), and the Facades of Conformity (FOCs) that individuals often adopt in various "supervisory" relationships. The discussion delves into the emotional toll of FOCs, emphasizing the detrimental effects of emotional exhaustion.

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• Facades of Conformity are often used in abusive relationships to prevent loss.

• Hiding one's true self diminish the resource of emotional health.

• Self-enhancement motives (incl RSD and survival) drive the need for conformity.

• Emotional exhaustion can deteriorate life quality.

• Authenticity is crucial for mental well-being.

• Impression management can be life-costing.

• Political and social pressures exacerbate conformity issues.

• Working on rejection dysphoria is essential for healing FOC patterns.

keywords mental health, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, facades of conformity, emotional exhaustion, CPTSD, authenticity, relationships, environmental mental illness, self-esteem, trauma