Welcome to Beyond the Self, an unfiltered podcast dedicated to shining a spotlight on what truly lies within your control.Hosted by globally acclaimed consultant, mentor, and writer Africa Brooke, this podcast aims to remind us of the power inherent in taking simple, consistent steps towards personal integrity.In an era of information overwhelm and societal pressures, it's easy to become fixated on external influences, tiptoeing around potentially sensitive issues and crossing our own boundaries in the process.Such an environment often leads to self-sabotage. That's where Beyond the Self steps in.Africa aims to assist you in uncovering your own blind spots, promoting healthy detachment from the ego, honouring discomfort, and rekindling curiosity. The goal is to equip you with the tools needed to reclaim control of your life's journey.Every episode features Africa's encouraging insights about our shared human complexities, both messy and beautiful. She values nuanced understanding, and more importantly, provides practical, evidence-based tools and resources to help you integrate these learnings into your life.Looking for an uncompromising approach to personal development and life philosophy? You've found the right place. Here, we don't hold back. Welcome to Beyond the Self.
What does belonging look like for you? Can you think of a time when you navigated the space between two cultures, and how did it shape your identity? These are themes I'm exploring today with my guest, Caro Gomez.
Caro opens up about her journey of figuring out her identity and finding her place, sharing the ups and downs of blending cultures and the hurdles she jumped over. We also explore the idea of privilege, cultural pride, and the emotional rollercoaster of staying true to her roots while soaking up new freedoms.
Caro's story is not just about her journey but also the universal quest for connection and being okay with being the unconventional one. Whether you’re an immigrant, someone interested in cultural dynamics, or simply a lover of inspiring stories, this episode has something for you.
GET IN TOUCH WITH CARO:
Instagram: @carogomez_joywitch
Email: [email protected]
Resources Mentioned:
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Caro Gomez is a visionary shaman’s apprentice of the MayaQ’eqchi’ lineage, an award-winning fashion designer, and founder of the Mayan School of Embodiment. With an ICF-accredited diploma in body-oriented coaching, she has guided hundreds of creative women to embrace their true selves. Proud of her Mayan and Spanish roots, Caro blends ancient wisdom with modern artistry, offering transformational experiences in self-discovery and expression.
Her accolades include "Ones to Watch" by the Sustainable Lifestyle Awards, Fashion Designer of the Year at the 2019 LUKAS Awards, and Best Sustainable Luxury Womenswear Label in 2022 and 2023 at the LuxLife Awards. Caro is also a published author and regular speaker, with appearances at the University of the Arts, Wilderness Festival, and Tate Modern.
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You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
I know there's a sense of hopelessness in the world right now, and to be very honest, there always will be. And something that I want to do here is I don't want us to deny reality. That is not what we do. And at the same time, I want you to look at the areas of your life where you are in the driver's seat.
In this episode, I want to impart my wisdom, experiences, and intellectual property and share anything I'm learning that I think could be useful for you. So tune in to hear me riff aloud about letting people fucking help you.
P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!
Resources Mentioned:
(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.
You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Tired of feeling like you're constantly tripping over your own feet when it comes to sex and intimacy? You're not alone. Let's get real about the sneaky ways self-sabotage creeps into our bedrooms.
In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the dirty little secrets that might be holding you back. From the mind-bending effects of porn to the pressure cooker of societal expectations, I dive into the stuff that really matters.
Tune in to hear how you can break free from the shackles of shame and unlock your true sexual potential. Get ready for a no-holds-barred conversation about pleasure, power, and personal liberation.
P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!
Resources Mentioned:
(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)
Women’s Anatomy of Arousal - Sheri Winston
Tantric Orgasm for Women - Diana Richardson
Tantric Orgasm for Men - Diana Richardson
Practices mentioned:
Pussy Gazing
Tantric / Yoni massage
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.
You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Feeling like the system's rigged against you? Join us as Sharmadean Reid MBE, founder of The Stack and author of "New Methods for Women," dismantles that narrative.
In this episode, we explore Sharmadean's journey of overcoming societal barriers, navigating limited resources, and redefining success on her own terms. Discover how she balanced creative and spiritual growth with financial empowerment, all while building wealth and escaping a scarcity mindset.
This is an episode packed with practical tools to challenge limitations and create a richer, more fulfilling life.
Connect with Sharmadean:
Sharmadean Reid MBE is a founder, writer and creative consultant who in her 20 year career has launched an innovation led salon, a beauty tech start up and now a media company. Her work explores women’s power, equity and ownership.
She is currently working a series of essays on the theme of EQUITY and a scripted TV show about female founders. In 2015 Sharmadean was awarded an MBE from HRH Queen Elizabeth.
Her first book, New Methods For Women is published in June 2024 by Penguin Random House.
BUY SHARMADEAN'S BOOK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/New-Methods-Women-Perspective-Relationships/dp/0241461758
Sharmadean's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharmadeanreid/
BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW
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If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.
You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Do you find yourself avoiding conflict at all costs? In this episode, I explore the surprising impact conflict avoidance can have on our ability to build strong, intimate relationships. I also discuss the reasons behind this behaviour, examining the potential influence of our upbringing on conflict styles.
The episode will challenge your perception of conflict as purely negative, as I believe it has the potential to foster deeper connections. I also share some strategies for navigating difficult conversations and effectively seeking help will be provided.
Let's take this opportunity to reflect on where conflict avoidance might be hindering intimacy in our own lives and develop the skills necessary to build stronger, more meaningful relationships.
P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!
Resources Mentioned:
(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.
You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Ready to explore a whole new side of yourself? Tantric massages have been incredible for me. It's not just about being touched (though, let's be honest, that's part of it!). It's a safe, professional space to embrace your sexuality fully. There is no pressure, just open and grounded pleasure. It's sensual, spiritual, and refreshingly real.
This journey has been eye-opening. I've learned so much about my body, my desires, and the amazing ways I can experience pleasure. Intrigued? Hit play to hear about my tantric massage experience – it might be exactly what you've been missing!
P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!
Resources Mentioned:
(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.
You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Discomfort. It's that feeling that makes you want to crawl back under the covers. But what if I told you it could be the key to unlocking your full potential?
In this episode, we'll DITCH the dictionary definitions and dive deep into the world of discomfort. I explore why stepping outside your comfort zone might be the best thing you can do for yourself (even if it doesn't feel like it at first!).
Plus, I talk about the science behind discomfort and growth, share tips for shifting your mindset, and even sneak in some inspiring advice on becoming a morning person! Ready to ditch the fear and step into your power? Tune in and join the conversation!
P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!
Resources Mentioned:
#006 - How to release perfectionism
BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW
(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.
You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Ever feel like a fraud despite your accomplishments? That nagging voice whispering "you're not good enough". What if that discomfort isn't a sign you're a 'fraud', but a nudge in the right direction? We often slap the "imposter" label on any flicker of unease, but sometimes it's a learning curve, not a character flaw.
In this episode, I'm reflecting on a change I made in my business and a full-blown imposter alert went off in my head! But upon reflection, the truth smacked me upside down: it was a skills gap, not a mindset issue.
Join me as we explore the idea that discomfort might be your guide, not your enemy. We'll delve into intellectual humility, the importance of honest self-assessment, and how to ditch the over-labelling that keeps you stuck. Tune in and discover how to transform that discomfort into growth!
P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!
Resources Mentioned:
BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW
(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)
#008 - How to move through imposter syndrome
https://www.mindtools.com/
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You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Are you ready to unravel the mysteries of modern love and intimacy? Today I'm joined by renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist, Todd Baratz. Together, we're peeling back the layers of how our personal histories shape the way we handle conflict and connect intimately with others.
We're tackling the tough questions: How do self-awareness and open communication empower us to defy societal pressures and those pesky, unrealistic expectations in our romantic lives? What impact do past traumas have on our adult relationships? And let's get real about emotional intimacy – why is it so crucial, and why do so many of us struggle with it?
Get ready for a candid exploration of the complexity between love and intimacy in the modern age. It's an episode you won't want to miss!
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Buy Todd's book How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind
Buy my book,The Third Perspective
(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)
Connect with Todd:
@yourdiagnonsense
https://www.toddsbaratz.com
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.
You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
What a whirlwind this past week since my book has been published and has been in your hands! It's been a crazy but amazing past few years writing my book, The Third Perspective and I appreciate every single one of you who has purchased it, supported and shared with me what you think.
This episode is more of an update of what's been going on in my life, as well as some reflections on my book launch and how I've been feeling in the days since it's been out. Plus I'm sharing with a little insight into my upcoming projects that I know lots of you are excited about!
Resources Mentioned:
(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)
Youtube Podcast episode w/ Rangan Chatterjee
Audio Podcast Episode w/ Rangan Chatterjee
Read The Guardian Article
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.
You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Get ready for an engaging conversation as I sit down with my dear friend, Mark Vicente. Many of you might recognise him as the whistle-blower for the cult NXIVM, but there's so much more to him than that. Mark is not just a public figure; he's an author, a speaker, and the cinematographer behind the iconic film Sarafina!
Together, we explore the intense demands placed upon us by social media, our battles with how the public sees us, and being honest in our self-expression. Mark shares with us his experience of having a cult-like following, and we examine how historical patterns of coercion and censorship are repeating in our modern society.
If you're ready to explore the nuances of authenticity, the role of vulnerability in connection, and the importance of critical thinking in personal growth, tune in to this episode.
Connect with Mark:
Mark Vicente is an author, speaker, and filmmaker who played a key role in the creation of the sleeper hit "What The Bleep Do We Know?!” Born in Johannesburg - South Africa in 1965, he discovered his passion for cinematography early and made his mark as a Director of Photography in Hollywood with films like “SARAFINA” and “FATHERHOOD.”
Mark transitioned to directing with a focus on challenging and thought-provoking themes. His work includes “Encender el Corazon,” a film addressing Mexico's kidnapping crisis. Despite it touching many people deeply, he withdrew the film to expose the criminal activities of the NXIVM cult, detailed in the HBO series “THE VOW.” Today he continues to explore human stories through film, with the goal of shining a light on both the beauty and complexity of the human condition.
You can follow Mark Vicente on:
Instagram: @markvicente
Twitter: https://twitter.com/markvicente
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/markvicente/
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MarkVicente
Website: https://www.markvicente.com
"WTF is on my Mind?!" Podcast available on all podcast platforms.
Also on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@markvicente7
His Next Film (2024 Release) www.empathynotincluded.com
Course with Richard Grannon DECODING CULTS & NARCISSISTS https://www.richardgrannon.com/narcissistic-cults-decoded-course
Don't forget to pre-order my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.
You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!
PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
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