In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with Sarah Vacchiano, author of Soft Launch, who shares her story of getting married young, going through an early divorce, and the journey of starting over in her late 20s. We chat about the shame and guilt that come with leaving a relationship that looks “good on paper,” and how healing isn’t always immediate or linear—sometimes you just need to focus on other parts of your life, as Sarah did with her career. We also dive into the theme of self-compassion in hindsight, the loneliness and steep learning curves of building a new life in a new city, and what it really takes to grow into the person (and partner) you want to be. If you’re facing a major transition or wondering if it’s okay to not have all the answers yet, this conversation is for you.

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In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Leslie John, Harvard Business School professor and author of the new book "Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing." We dive into why sharing—especially the messy, vulnerable stuff—is so crucial to building trust and intimacy in relationships. Leslie shares fascinating research about why people tend to choose honesty over secrecy (even when the truth is uncomfortable), why cultural norms often pressure us not to reveal our true selves, and how her own experiences with marriage and divorce shaped her understanding of emotional honesty. We also talk about gendered expectations around sharing, how "mind reading expectations" can hurt our partnerships, navigating oversharing in early dating, and how to keep practicing vulnerability even if it didn’t go well in the past. If you’ve ever wondered where the line is with oversharing—and how to create deeper connections without losing yourself—this conversation is for you.

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In today's expert episode, I'm joined by Barnet Bain—award-winning filmmaker, author, and teacher—who just released his new book, "How to Be a Friend in an Unfriendly World." We dive deep into the art of adult friendship, why so many of us struggle to build fulfilling connections, and the common self-awareness gaps that hold us back. Barnet shares compelling personal stories, including a pivotal moment with his daughter that shifted his entire perspective on friendship. We talk about the power of self-talk, the importance of handling rupture and repair, why honoring others doesn’t mean abandoning yourself, and the difference between boundaries and walls. This conversation goes far beyond the basic tips on being a good friend—it’s all about how to grow, expand, and build deeper, more meaningful relationships that actually feel safe and supportive.

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In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into the all-too-common “trap” so many of us fall into: not believing someone the first time they tell us they aren’t ready for a relationship or don’t see themselves wanting the same future as us. I share my own experiences of ignoring red flags, holding on to hope that someone might change, and how that leads us to lose parts of ourselves over time. We talk about why it’s so tempting to stay in these situations, the resentment that can quietly build, and the importance of honoring your own life goals—even when it’s uncomfortable or scary to walk away. I also address tough moments, like finding out an ex who “wasn’t ready” moves on to a relationship with someone else, and remind you why you deserve a relationship that matches your long-term dreams.

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In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Liz Tenuto, also known as the Workout Witch, a leading expert in somatic exercises with over 230,000 students and millions of followers and out with a new book When The Body Speaks. We dive deep into what actually happens in our bodies during periods of long-term stress, trauma, and heartbreak—including the science behind fight, flight, and freeze responses. Liz shares her own journey coping with chronic pain and insomnia, how she found healing through somatics, and why talk therapy sometimes isn’t enough for full recovery. We talk about why it’s so normal to feel stuck after a breakup, why our physical health can take a hit, and practical ways to actually release stress from the body. Liz also shares insights from her new book, When the Body Speaks, including accessible somatic exercises—there’s even a whole grief and heartbreak sequence for listeners to try. If you’ve felt overwhelmed, stuck, or like your healing is taking longer than it “should,” this conversation is for you.

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In today’s expert episode I’m joined by grief coach, author, and podcaster Shelby Forsythia, who is returning to talk about her new book, Of Course I’m Here Right Now. Shelby breaks down her powerful framework for how to truly support someone who is grieving—not just what NOT to say, but exactly what you can say and do, whether their grief comes from a breakup, divorce, job loss, or the death of a loved one. We dive into the stories that keep grievers feeling isolated, why most people actually want to help but freeze up, and how simple, validating words can nurture relationships instead of fracturing them during hard times. This episode is packed with practical scripts, real-life examples, and a reminder that grief is something we all experience. Whether you’re learning how to receive support or show up for a friend, this is a must-listen to add to your emotional toolbox.

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In today's episode, I'm interviewing Mal Glowenke, host of the Made It Out podcast, who's been a pioneer in the lesbian podcast scene. We dive into her recent breakup—not only with her romantic partner but also her podcast co-host—and how that experience has shaped her healing journey. We talk about the unique challenges of navigating a breakup while untangling both a business and a mutual friend group, especially within the close-knit world of queer women. Mal shares the tools and practices that have helped her heal, the importance of building "muscle memory" around self-care and coping, and why she believes every breakup is an opportunity to get closer to who you truly are. We discuss the concept of "expanders," finding gratitude in the mess, and allowing yourself to borrow hope when your own feels low. There’s so much wisdom in this conversation, whether you’re moving through a breakup, navigating big life changes, or just looking to build your inner toolkit.

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In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing Hiroko Yoda, a Japanese cultural historian, journalist, and author of the new book "8 Million Ways to Happiness: Wisdom for Inspiration and Healing from the Heart of Japan." We dive into how anyone can use the principles of Japanese spirituality to help heal from grief and heartbreak, regardless of their background. Hiroko shares her own journey of reconnecting with Japanese spiritual traditions after her mother's passing, and we explore ideas like the fluidity of emotions, the absence of hierarchy in feelings, and making healing less goal-oriented. We also talk about the deep wisdom nature can offer us, letting go of shame and guilt around grief, and why it's okay to stay in the gray areas of healing. This conversation was so beautiful and full of powerful insights for everyone, no matter where they're at in their healing journey.

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In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Alina Kastner, a Vienna-based psychotherapist and author of Break Up with Narcissism: How to Break Free and Stay Free. We dive into what really happens after a breakup with a narcissist—beyond just identifying the red flags. Dr. Alina shares her perspective on the often-missing conversation about the true healing journey: rebuilding self-esteem, facing the isolation that comes from a toxic relationship, letting go of shame, and how to reconnect with old friends after being cut off. We talk about the complex aftermath, from understanding the emotional void to dealing with trauma triggers long after the relationship ends. Dr. Alina also shares practical advice and introduces her Toxic Breakup Journal, a daily tool for navigating those challenging first weeks of recovery. If you’re struggling with the “what now?” after leaving a narcissist, this episode is full of hope, validation, and actionable tips for reclaiming your life.

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In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Faith Freed, a licensed psychotherapist, spiritual guide, and author of the new book DIY Spirituality: Chart Your Own Sacred Path. We dive into the intersection of spirituality and relationships—especially after heartbreak—and discuss how connecting with your own sense of spirituality can be a key part of healing. We get into what spirituality really means (it’s probably more accessible and personal than you think!), why it’s so important to develop a strong relationship with yourself and something greater than you, and how doing so can actually prevent unhealthy relationship patterns like putting your partner on a pedestal. Faith breaks down her “divine disco ball” framework for spiritual self-care, shares practical, approachable ways to connect with your spirit, and reassures us that there’s no one right way to get spiritual. Whether you’re religious, spiritual-but-not-religious, or just curious about how spirituality can support your healing, this is a great place to start.

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