🎧 Listen to this episode if…

• You're worried your custody or property case might end up eventually in court.

• You are preparing for Family Court or worried your case might escalate

• You want to avoid mistakes that judges hate seeing in parenting or property matters

• You're dealing with a high-conflict ex or coercive control

• You're self-represented and want to understand what the court looks for

• You want to protect your credibility and stay child-focused

• You feel overwhelmed and want to understand how to present better in court

• You want to understand how Family Court judges make decisions

If you're going through separation, divorce, or a parenting dispute in Australia, this episode will help you avoid the most common mistakes people make in the Family Court. These insights can make or break your credibility, influence parenting outcomes, and help you stay calm and strategic throughout the legal process.

In this episode, we unpack 10 behaviours that can ruin your case — the things that damage cases, frustrate judges, increase legal costs, and affect how your evidence is viewed. Whether you're self-represented, considering mediation, managing a high-conflict ex, or worried about how your actions may be interpreted, this conversation will give you clarity on what the court expects from parents.

Learn how to stay child-focused, how to avoid actions that look like parental alienation, how to communicate effectively, how to avoid sabotaging your own case, and why honesty, disclosure, and consistency matter so much. If you're feeling overwhelmed, emotional, or stuck in conflict, this episode offers guidance to help you stay grounded and organised.

LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This episode contains general discussion only this is not legal advice please always get independent legal advice as each situation is different.

Trigger Warning: This episode has some discussions of family violence.

⏱️ Episode Timeline

00:00 – Introduction: How to Avoid Mistakes That Hurt Your Family Court Case Overview of the most common behaviours that weaken parenting and property cases.

02:07 – Why Judges Prioritise Child-Focused Parenting in Family Court Understanding how child welfare drives decisions and how to demonstrate it clearly.

06:36 – Keeping Emotions Out of Family Court: What Judges Look For Why emotional reactions, venting and accusations can damage your credibility.

13:26 – Presenting Evidence Properly: What Counts in Family Court How to gather, organise and present evidence that the court will actually rely on.

16:59 – The Serious Consequences of Lying or Exaggerating in Court How dishonesty can destroy your case and impact parenting or property outcomes.

21:27 – Disclosure Rules in Property Settlement: What You MUST Provide Explaining financial disclosure obligations and what happens if you don't comply.

25:26 – Following Court Orders and Deadlines: Why Timing Matters How delays, missed tasks or ignoring directions reflect poorly on your case.

25:58 – Understanding Family Court Practice Directions (CPD Requirements) What the Central Practice Direction means for your behaviour and preparation.

28:40 – Narrowing the Issues Before Court: What Judges Expect You to Do Why bringing every problem to court backfires and how to refine your case.

33:19 – Avoiding Behaviour That Looks Like Parental Alienation How to protect your children and yourself without appearing to obstruct the other parent.

39:43 – Acting Reasonably in Family Court: How It Influences Outcomes Examples of unreasonable behaviour and why judges pay close attention to it.

42:03 – Courtroom Etiquette, Presentation and Final Takeaways How to conduct yourself, communicate effectively, and stay credible throughout your case.

🔗 Links & Resources

• Free Webinar https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration

• The Divorce Course Website – Courses & Support www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

• 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732

• Lifeline – 13 11 14

Dealing with Narc Lies in court

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SdkXhj3vC2tfO3gDdkM6y?si=P-fwZYVSQxO7JnVs5yYJdw

When your ex lies in court https://open.spotify.com/episode/2OpAGxXfx78iAO81TMPPxJ?si=wcN-tRFdSaSjGLU51fmV7w

Overcoming disclosure delays

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0uOO8dKYV4NWlCfyu8FZEh?si=PI-J7YtGTb6pFRKGa7KjdA

Disclosure Deadlocks

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yrShRhq4jcGVuVDN6Jq6C?si=ZFmAHXmAT1-JS0neHjsDHQ

Is your ex hiding assets

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4KbgLRFXB9r2rCz3vycZ98?si=nKf11LeYS_66Uzn003Ydug

Central Practice Directions

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd

False Accusations of Parental Alienation

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0l9L5SDovV515EU4H5gpIf?si=jNYKY5cBTCatIXZpEHXisQ

Handover Hell

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=UrHDcaRBTwuKpnVmWty-qA

Family Reports

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4k2Z4glD8WpY4dsqz6vn5Y?si=MMj_I2N5RlaT_5flBfZjMQ

Court Etiquette

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JOwxZOGxT182UOp8iqd8z?si=8ib6y9qLRvuD5n8AO4y46w

💛 Closing Reminder

If this episode helped you feel more prepared or confident, please follow, rate, and review the podcast. Your support helps more women find clear, supportive information during their divorce or separation.

🎧 Listen to this episode if…

• You're going through DV, coercive control, divorce or separation

• You've survived DV and want to help other women going through it

• You feel alone, isolated, or unsure where to turn

• You want to hear about real support available for women in crisis

• You've lost hope and need to know good people still exist

• You want to understand what homelessness really looks like for women

• You want to connect with a service that listens without judgment

• You've wondered where to get help if you don't know where to start

📝 Episode Summary

If you've ever felt invisible, silenced, or completely alone while living through domestic violence, coercive control, separation, or divorce this episode is for you.

Today, Laura sits down with Jo West, the founder of 4 Voices, a remarkable charity supporting women experiencing domestic violence, financial abuse, homelessness, social isolation, and coercive control. This episode is different from our usual legal conversations it's a conversation about hope, humanity, and the power of connection when someone is going through hell and doesn't know where to turn.

Jo shares the reality of what women face when they're living in fear, why so many are afraid to reach out, and how simple acts of kindness like someone showing up, listening, and seeing you can genuinely change the course of a woman's life.

If you're struggling right now, this episode will remind you of something important: There are helpers. You are not alone. And there is support waiting for you.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains general discussion about domestic violence and support, not legal information.

Finding Hope Again: The Charity Giving Women a Voice during DV, Coercive Control & Divorce

⏱️ Episode Timeline

[00:00] Meet Four Voices: A Support Service for Women Facing DV & Crisis [01:00] Why Women Experiencing Coercive Control Often Feel Too Afraid to Reach Out [02:06] Hidden Homelessness: The Reality for Women Leaving Unsafe Homes [03:41] How Four Voices Uses Human Connection to Support Isolated Women [07:00] What Happens on a Four Voices Support Van Shift [09:04] A Story of Strength: One Woman Starting Over After 25 Years of Abuse [12:33] Financial Abuse, Survival Mode & Why Leaving Is So Hard [14:00] Why Some Women Get Turned Away From Services [16:57] A Phone-Based Support System Designed for Women Who Are Scared to Talk [18:55] Check-Ins, Consistency & Why They Matter for Recovery [20:40] How You Can Help: Volunteering, Corporate Support & Raising Awareness [23:50] Understanding the Hidden Crisis of Female Homelessness [27:23] Misconceptions About DV, Leaving, and Life After Abuse [30:41] Hope Stories: Courage, Connection & What Keeps Jo Going [33:30] Final Message for Anyone Feeling Alone or Hopeless

🔗 Links & Resources

• Four Voices Charity: https://www.4voices.org.au

• Instagram: @4voicesau

• 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732

• Lifeline – 13 11 14

• If in danger, call 000 immediately in Australia

🚨 Support Services (Australia)

• 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732

• Lifeline – 13 11 14

• Safe Beds for Pets (RSPCA)

💛 Closing Reminder

If this conversation brought you comfort or hope, please follow, rate, and review the podcast. Sharing this episode could help another woman find the support she desperately needs.

🎧 Listen to this episode if…

• You're selling the family home during divorce or de facto separation

• A real estate agent has told you to renovate or stage before selling

• Your ex wants to delay settlement until renovations are finished

• You're stuck with a half-renovated or unfinished house

• You've already spent money on renovations and want to know if it "counts"

• Your ex is demanding reimbursement for renovations

• Parents or in-laws contributed money to renovations

• You're deciding whether to keep the house, sell it, or buy your ex out

• Renovations feel emotionally or financially overwhelming right now

📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own independent legal, financial, and real estate advice for your situation.

📌 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence and property damage. Support services are listed below.

📝 Episode Summary

Should you renovate or stage the house when you're going through divorce or is it a costly mistake that keeps you stuck longer than you need to be?

In this episode, Mum and I break down renovations, staging, and selling the family home during separation, and what actually matters in property settlements. We talk honestly about when spending money might make sense, when it won't, and how renovations are often used intentionally or not as a delay tactic or control mechanism.

We cover staging versus maintenance, half-finished renovations, DIY disasters, family contributions, damage to property, and how the court really views all of it. Most importantly, we talk about how to decide whether renovations are worth the financial and emotional cost, and how to avoid getting trapped in a house or a settlement that never seems to move forward.

📌 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence and property damage. Support services are listed below.

⏱️ Episode Timeline

00:00 Should You Renovate Before Selling During Divorce?

00:40 Renovations During Divorce: Common Questions Answered

01:09 Legal and Financial Rules Around Renovations

02:03 Staging vs Renovations: What Actually Adds Value?

05:52 Renovation Traps: Delays, Control and Emotional Attachment

08:41 Half-Finished Renovations and Unsellable Homes

13:32 Renovations as Non-Financial Contributions Explained

16:49 Family Loans, Gifts and Renovation Contributions

23:14 Property Damage, Wastage and How Courts Value Homes

23:47 Keep, Sell or Buy Out the Family Home?

24:51 Renovation Reimbursements: Do You Have to Pay Them Back?

26:34 Renovating During Separation: What to Do and What to Avoid

28:51 How Family Law Courts Determine Property Value

30:02 Renovations and Consent Orders: What Courts Will and Won't Enforce

35:22 Property Valuations in Divorce: What Courts Accept

40:04 Final Thoughts: Avoiding Renovation Mistakes in Divorce

🔗 Links & Resources

Support Services (Australia)

• 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732

• Lifeline – 13 11 14

Related Episodes

• Selling Your House During Divorce

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6YUc34CVu6aCmunjQT1Sp6?si=Aks8s1YMTguzG-wyYO33Xw

• Property Settlement Explained

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5WcJwbOkw7UcCdla48EpXj?si=JRrkI8pZRdu6EUn0h8gncw

• Financial Abuse After Separation https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wxVtk6TOSCgqCJikfk6LD?si=Uxr0alr8TeKwX-WvzKx6Cg

🚨 Support Services (Australia)

• 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732

• Lifeline – 13 11 14

📌 Legal Disclaimer

This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own independent legal, financial, and real estate advice for your situation.

🎧 Don't forget to follow, rate & review!

If this episode helped you, please share it you never know who might be stuck in a renovation trap right now.

🎧 Listen to this episode if…

• You're separating or divorcing someone with narcissistic traits

• Your ex keeps changing tactics and you feel like you're always one step behind

• You've experienced love-bombing, guilt, threats, or emotional manipulation

• Your ex is running smear campaigns or trying to control the narrative

• Money, disclosure, or property settlement keeps getting delayed

• Your children are being pulled into adult conflict

• Your ex is using the legal system as a weapon

• You feel like the abuse didn't end after separation

• You want to know what's coming next before it happens

📌 Legal Disclaimer

This episode is for education only and not legal or psychological advice. Please seek your own independent legal support based on your circumstances.

📝 Episode Summary

Divorcing a narcissist isn't just difficult it's predictable. In this episode, Mum and I walk you through the seven phases most people experience when separating from someone with narcissistic traits, based on what we see every single day in real cases.

We talk about how tactics have evolved, why the mask eventually drops, and how emotional manipulation turns into smear campaigns, financial control, legal abuse, and ongoing chaos even after court ends.

We're not diagnosing anyone, and this isn't about labelling. It's about pattern recognition. Once you understand the phases, you can stop blaming yourself, protect your boundaries, and make informed decisions instead of reacting in survival mode.

📌 This episode contains discussions around family violence. Support numbers are listed below.

⏱️ Episode Timeline

00:00 Divorcing a Narcissist – What to Expect & Why It's Different

01:50 Narcissistic Traits in Divorce and Separation

02:34 Phase One: Love Bombing, Guilt Tripping & Emotional Manipulation

03:50 How Narcissists Use Legal Delays and Manipulation

07:51 Phase Two: Control Tactics, Hoovering & Threats

11:57 Setting Boundaries When Divorcing a Narcissist

14:22 Phase Three: Smear Campaigns & Image Management Tactics

16:16 How to Protect Yourself Before Things Escalate

18:23 The Financial Motives Behind 50/50 Parenting Claims

18:36 Unethical Family Court Reports & Image Control

19:54 Social Media Smear Campaigns and Reputation Control

22:18 Financial Abuse Through Control and Delay Tactics

26:18 Using Children as Pawns in High-Conflict Divorce

28:47 Manipulating the Legal System After Separation

30:48 Post-Separation Abuse: Chaos and Control After Court

32:42 Final Support, Safety Planning & What to Do Next

🔗 Links & Resources

Support Services (Australia)

• 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14

• Episodes Mentioned

• The Narcissist Playbook

• 10 Boundaries You Must Set in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ecDTxw4rTc3zXBkcjuYpA?si=0tfzIRFrTuWSfrywenG4lA

• What About Their Belongings? https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bPd3wWLQh3pzQmL2KCR0v?si=ABBaDvMVRgqnkvfXHJh66A

• Protecting Your Role as Primary Carer https://open.spotify.com/episode/6oZAEkj18NEcUfJPXP0FOT?si=PR8-zKyXRru7oVeW2Allew

• Legal & Financial Abuse After Separation

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1V23F0O5yhQt9NFLPOu6uJ?si=ZkP-KquxREeTCyQPk8I-TA What If Your Ex Lies in Court?

• https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SdkXhj3vC2tfO3gDdkM6y?si=sQjxVlNSTm2wnaHQdWxdlA

• Safety Planning After Separation

• https://open.spotify.com/episode/5hMmTS99LaeUWOXSxKMx1D?si=Y98mBgDoTiK1LQud-tr9BQ

• DARVO in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JyfH5fCoqrUoxeDj6jCtu?si=mDoKfN3fQWONekpLUQflXg

• False allegations of Parental Alienation https://open.spotify.com/episode/0l9L5SDovV515EU4H5gpIf?si=5z2-pibvRKavyrPkMeuMIw

Resources

• "Before You Go" Checklist – thedivorcecourse.com.au

🚨 Support Services (Australia)

• 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732

• Lifeline – 13 11 14

• RSPCA Safe Beds for Pets (state dependent)

📌 Legal Disclaimer

This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own independent legal support based on your circumstances.

🎧 Don't forget to follow, rate & review!

If this episode helped you, please share it — you never know who else needs to hear this before they get blindsided.

🎧 Listen to this episode if…

• You're unsure whether your relationship legally counts as de facto

• Your ex is denying the relationship, the dates, or the level of commitment

• You want to know how de facto status impacts property settlement

• You've heard about the 2-year rule and want to know if it applies to you

• You're wondering if having kids changes your legal rights

• You're not married, but financially tangled, and don't know where you stand

• You're trying to prove you were (or weren't) de facto

• You were "separated under one roof" and need clarity

• You're with someone who's still married but claim they're de facto with you

Episode Summary

What exactly does it mean to be de facto in Australia? And why does it matter so much when you separate? In this episode, Mum and I unpack de facto relationships in family law in Australia what counts, what doesn't, and what the court actually looks at when deciding whether a de facto relationship existed.

We break down the difference between being married and being de facto, the rules around the two-year relationship requirement, how children change everything, and what happens with short vs long relationships.

We also talk through what happens when one person denies the relationship ever existed, how to prove your timeline, and the evidence the court takes most seriously from finances to living arrangements to social media and everything in between.

If you've ever thought "Are we de facto? Does this count? What does this mean for my rights?" this episode will give you clarity, confidence and the facts that might help you in your situation.

📌 This is general information only. Always seek your own legal support for your exact situation.

⏱️ Episode Timeline

00:00 – What Is a De Facto Relationship in Australia? A clear explanation of the legal meaning of "de facto" and why it matters.

00:28 – Understanding the Term 'De Facto' Under the Family Law Act Breaking down the true definition and what "genuine domestic relationship" actually means.

01:16 – Why De Facto Status Matters for Property and Parenting How your relationship status affects your rights in separation.

01:47 – How to Prove You're in a De Facto Relationship Evidence, timelines, documents and what the courts look for.

03:50 – Common Myths About De Facto Relationships (Debunked) Misunderstandings about living together, bank accounts, and "we're not married so it doesn't count."

06:46 – Short vs Long De Facto Relationships: What's the Difference? How the length of the relationship can influence property outcomes.

17:45 – How Having Children Impacts De Facto Separation Why children change eligibility, contributions, and financial outcomes.

19:16 – Contributions in De Facto Relationships Explained Financial, non-financial, homemaking and parenting contributions — what the court considers.

19:49 – Proving a De Facto Relationship: Evidence That Helps Photos, messages, leases, documents and everyday interactions that build your case.

21:44 – What Evidence Can Be Used to Show a De Facto Relationship? From moving-day photos to shared responsibilities — what actually matters.

24:11 – Mediation Options When Your Ex Denies the Relationship How mediation and disclosure work when one person disputes being de facto.

26:55 – Can You Be Married and De Facto at the Same Time? How overlap occurs with affairs, breakups under one roof and blurred timelines.

33:31 – Clarifying the Rules Between Marriage vs De Facto How the law treats both pathways similarly for financial and parenting matters.

34:39 – Final Thoughts: Understanding Your Status and Next Steps Key takeaways on proving de facto status and protecting your future.

🔗 Links & Resources

"Before You Go" Checklist –

thedivorcecourse.com.au

Episodes Mentioned

Separated Under one Roof Episode

https://youtu.be/er5qlClqOGs?si=o6f2apVsjWNHE_ID

Beyond the Split Understanding Separation Dates

https://youtu.be/HDL4mhO94TY?si=1aUlslHr4xGqL_dN

Future Needs

https://youtu.be/_-5JlRLCNxY?si=YQKBsqG2cCAEVNqs

Cheating and Dating during Divorce

https://youtu.be/kBOV2sRtq7E?si=SlAgBVMkwf-LoaMU

🚨 Support Services (Australia)

• 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732

• Lifeline – 13 11 14

📌 Legal Disclaimer:

This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support based on your circumstances.

🎧 Don't forget to follow, rate & review!

If this episode helped you, please share it you never know who else needs this clarity.

Listen to this episode if…

• You're thinking about dating before your divorce, property or children's matters are final

• Your ex has a new partner and you're worried about parenting or property issues

• You're unsure how the court sees new relationships in family law matters

• You want to know what's okay, what's risky, and what doesn't matter at all

Wondering if it's okay to date while your divorce is still in progress? You're not alone. In this episode, we unpack the legal, emotional, and strategic impacts of dating during divorce especially when children, property settlements, or court appearances are involved.

Whether you've just met someone new, or your ex is already flaunting their next relationship, we break down how new partners can influence family law outcomes in both parenting and property matters.

We cover the risks, realities, and misconceptions about what the court actually looks at and how to protect your position without putting your future on hold.

📌 Please remember this episode is for general information only and does not replace individual legal or safety advice. For immediate support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.

🔑 Episode Timeline:

[00:00] Introduction: How New Relationships Can Impact Your Divorce Case

[01:13] Important Legal Disclaimer and Emotional Trigger Warnings

[02:02] Can a New Partner Affect Your Property Settlement in Divorce?

[09:35] Understanding No-Fault Divorce and How History Shaped Today's Rules

[15:11] Spousal Maintenance: Does Repartnering Change Eligibility?

[19:50] Child Support Implications When a New Partner Has Money

[22:11] Parenting Orders and Custody: What Role Do New Partners Play?

[25:25] How the Court Prioritizes Children's Welfare Over Relationship Status

[26:03] When (and How) to Introduce Your Kids to a New Partner

[28:13] Coercive Control, Repartnering, and Family Court Considerations

[30:05] What Are New Partners Responsible for in a Family Law Context?

[31:46] Red Flags: What Family Court Looks for in New Relationships

[33:34] Raising Concerns About New Partners Without Going to Court

[39:43] How to Document and Present Concerns the Right Way

[42:51] Does the Court Judge You for Repartnering During Divorce?

[45:16] Final Takeaways: Moving Forward with Caution and Clarity

🔗 Links & Resources:

1800RESPECT – 24/7 Support Service

Daisy App – Connect to Local Services

Technology and Safety Guide

Before you go Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in

Example Safety plans template - https://yourtoolkit.com/resource/safety-plan-template/

Family Court Safety Plan information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/fl/fvbpp#intro

The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/

Episode Links

Separated under one roof do's and don'ts

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ

Stuck under one roof what are your options

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg

Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw

🚨 Support Services:

Safe Beds RSPCA - check your state for details https://www.rspcaqld.org.au/what-we-do/save-animals/Pets%20in%20Crisis%20Program

1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia)

Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia)

📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode.

📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!

⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning:

This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.

Listen to this episode if…

• You're in a relationship or home where you feel unsafe
• You've left but still don't feel secure
• You're not ready to leave yet but want to prepare
• You're supporting someone who may be experiencing abuse
• You want to understand how to help a friend or loved one stay safe
• You have a court or mediation event you need to attend with an unsafe ex

📌 Please remember this episode is for general information only and does not replace individual legal or safety advice. For immediate support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.

When things feel uncertain or even unsafe it's not being paranoid to think ahead. It's being prepared.

In this important episode, we break down what a safety plan actually is, why it matters, and how to build one tailored to your situation. Whether you're living with abuse, planning to leave, or simply want to feel more secure going through the Family Court, we talk through the key steps and considerations from protecting your children to securing your documents and digital life.

You'll learn how safety planning can be a quiet, empowering way to take back control and set up the support you need. I also share resources, tools, and who to call if you want help doing it safely and confidentially.

🔑 Episode Timeline: From Fear to Freedom: Creating a Safety Plan Before You Need One

Safety Plans — What They Are & How to Make One

00:00 – Introduction: What is a Safety Plan and Why It Matters Overview of safety planning and who needs one.

02:06 – Why You Might Need a Safety Plan for Domestic Violence Signs, risks, and when it's time to prepare.

03:41 – Recognising Coercive Control and Hidden Danger Signals How emotional and behavioural control can put you at risk.

07:55 – Step‑by‑Step Guide to Creating Your Safety Plan Essential steps to start planning your safety today.

09:04 – Safety at Home: Preparing for a Potential Escape Practical tips for making your environment safer.

16:33 – Safety Technology: Real‑Time Tracking and Digital Risk Understanding digital abuse and how it affects your plan.

16:57 – Important Documents You Should Have Ready Checklist of documents to keep handy for safety or sudden departure.

17:33 – Leaving Without Explanation: When It's Necessary How to plan a quiet departure without alerting an abuser.

18:10 – The Power of Code Words and Communication Safety Using discreet signals to reach out for help.

19:20 – Planning Your Escape Route: Fast and Safe Exits How to map out the quickest way out when it's unsafe to stay.

20:11 – Handling Vehicle Safety and Transport During Escape Car strategies and avoiding being blocked in.

23:29 – Keeping Your Pets Safe During an Escape Plan Options and programs that support pets in family violence situations.

24:22 – Work, Online and Tech Safety Measures Protecting your devices, social media, and work life from monitoring or abuse.

27:00 – Staying Safe After Leaving a Violent Situation Changes to routines, communication, and personal security.

27:56 – Legal Steps to Support Your Safety Plan Protection orders, police involvement, and legal safety mechanisms.

30:58 – Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone — Support Is Available Encouragement and next steps with reminder resources.

🔗 Links & Resources:

1800RESPECT – 24/7 Support Service

Daisy App – Connect to Local Services

Technology and Safety Guide

Before you go Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in

Example Safety plans template - https://yourtoolkit.com/resource/safety-plan-template/

Family Court Safety Plan information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/fl/fvbpp#intro

The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/

Episode Links

Who gets the Car in the long and short term https://open.spotify.com/episode/7CmoF5nrBhVfDlJgVyXlGp?si=uXtMvH1dRoG74CSd-7pD9w

Separated under one roof do's and don'ts

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ

Stuck under one roof what are your options

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg

Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw

🚨 Support Services:

Safe Beds RSPCA - check your state for details https://www.rspcaqld.org.au/what-we-do/save-animals/Pets%20in%20Crisis%20Program

1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia)

📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!

⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning:

This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.

💡 Listen to this episode if...

• You're navigating Christmas while going through separation or divorce

• You're co-parenting and worried about holiday arrangements or conflict

• You feel pressure from family and don't know how to handle it

• You're confused about what to expect from lawyers or the courts over the break

• You're worried about an emotional or legal crisis over the holidays

⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning:

This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.

Holidays can bring joy, but during separation or divorce, it can also bring stress, confusion, and conflict. If you're dreading the tough conversations this holiday season, you're not alone and this episode is here to help.

Mum and I walk through how to manage communication with all the key players during the festive period: your co-parent, your lawyer, your kids, extended family, and even the courts or police. Whether you're trying to set healthy boundaries, stuck living under one roof, or bracing for something to blow up we've got practical strategies to get you through it.

⏱️ Episode Timeline:

00:00 – Introduction: Navigating the Holidays During Divorce

01:52 – Communication Challenges for Divorcing Couples During the Holidays

03:10 – Should You Talk to Your Divorce Lawyer Over the Holiday Break?

06:00 – Co-Parenting Holiday Conflicts & Practical Solutions

13:19 – Managing Property Settlements During the Holiday Season

18:33 – Living Together While Separated: How to Handle the Holidays

22:55 – How to Communicate Holiday Plans with Your Kids During Divorce

26:44 – When to Reach Out to the Court During Holiday Disputes

26:57 – Understanding Court Closures & Delays Over the Holidays

28:06 – Urgent Divorce Matters: Emergency Contacts & What to Do

28:41 – How to Document Incidents for Court During the Holidays

29:16 – Handling Non-Emergency Divorce or Co-Parenting Issues

33:26 – When to Contact the Police During Divorce or Custody Conflicts

37:46 – Setting Boundaries with Family During a Holiday Divorce

39:16 – Creating Emergency Plans & Safety Measures

44:47 – Mental Health Tips for Coping with Divorce During the Holidays

47:04 – Engaging with Your Community for Support

48:07 – Final Thoughts & Holiday Farewell

Resources

Central Practice Directions

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd

Free Disclosure Checklist

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist

Episode Links

From no no no to Ho Ho ho in your divorce

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3K7q02MlJr1VRteK7uJyTe?si=C1dm9sHMTV2NUuagpYllWw

Christmas & CoParenting

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3fcY2B7N0lDo8U1WAqozVz?si=i_RzkSgMSPSbMT4ZeZqDVA

Separated for the Holidays How to deal with it emotionally

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4zzVKOc0LJY3uZhnLXfiJC?si=LT0sg7wMT3OACnFHOER8AA

CoParenting without Court Orders

https://open.spotify.com/episode/05BC7rliGHpKcQ58JJzZej?si=iKR82uY6S2G-SF_XHeltQA

Handover Hell

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=v8ILJ4p3Qi6dycn4WhEv4g

Separated under one roof do's and don'ts

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ

Stuck under one roof what are your options

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg

Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw

🚨 Support Services:

1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia)

📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode.

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💡 Listen to this episode if...

• You're preparing for mediation or trying to negotiate privately

• What to learn the potential do's and don'ts of negotiations in divorce

• You feel like your ex is "sitting pretty" and not engaging

• You want to know the difference between reasonable and risky offers

• You've made concessions early on and don't know how to recover

• You want to avoid court, but still get a fair deal

• You are in court and want it over

⚠️ Legal Disclaimer:

This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation.

⏱️ Episode Timeline: Smart Divorce Negotiation Strategies That Actually Work

00:00 – Introduction to Divorce Negotiation Strategies Why negotiation matters and how to approach it with confidence.

00:33 – Meet the Hosts + Legal Disclaimer Who we are and a reminder this episode is for educational purposes only.

01:15 – Understanding the 3 Stages of Divorce Negotiation How strategy shifts between early separation, mediation, and court prep.

03:40 – Early Stage Negotiation Tips: Don't Rush, Repackage Your Offer Using smart presentations to make your offer sound more appealing.

07:54 – Mediation Tactics: Window Dressing and Framing Percentages How to reshape your proposal to match your ex's language and values.

20:04 – Mid-Stage Negotiation: When to Turn Up the Heat Signs it's time to get firmer and more structured in your approach.

22:05 – Using Real Court Cases to Support Your Offer Legal precedents and examples that make your proposal more persuasive.

26:09 – Common Myths and Mistakes in Divorce Negotiation Misunderstandings around legal advice and negotiation timelines.

27:29 – The Risk of Delaying Legal Action Too Long What happens when you wait too long to formalize your agreement?

28:01 – Understanding Pre-Action Procedure Letters and Legal Guidelines What they are, why they matter, and how they shape negotiation.

28:58 – Using Legal Costs as a Leverage Tool How to show what delays or refusals could cost in real terms.

29:23 – Should You Mention Court in Negotiation? When and Why Using the "threat of court" wisely to re-engage a stalled process.

33:02 – Smart Strategies for Writing Pre-Action Letters How to set the tone and expectations before heading to court.

34:53 – Court Door Negotiation Tactics: Calderbank Offers and Timing Last-minute strategies that could settle your case without trial.

38:53 – Do's and Don'ts of Divorce Negotiation The best and worst moves people make—and how to avoid mistakes.

51:21 – Final Thoughts: Confidence, Control, and Long-Term Focus Why the goal is clarity, closure, and fairness—not "winning."

📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode

Resources

Central Practice Directions

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd

Free Disclosure Checklist

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist

FCFCOA Judgements - Cases

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/judgments

Episode Links

Pitfalls of percentages in Negotiations Early On

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=RWmY0i9eTuyWdUNQIuKNQg

https://youtu.be/o1n16TyarUo?si=hdxY73U3ZZ4gJ3Uj

Boundaries in Divorce

https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=KyJGKYneiBek41fe

Costs and Calderbank Offers

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2B2Se7hTIBAOg5f5YJ5wqE?si=EUOrEmeAQCWr6BOFt3RtuQ

https://youtu.be/0OKhDB8s3As?si=Vub2ujv1mapniv8L

Divorce Dynamic, balancing power with progress

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5I3WfPNkXncss2EI5jJwD1?si=YsTIkKDXTiqFIyDN7Qwn-g

From no no no to Ho Ho ho in your divorce

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3K7q02MlJr1VRteK7uJyTe?si=C1dm9sHMTV2NUuagpYllWw

🚨 Support Services:

• 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia)

• Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia)

📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.

📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!

Listen to this episode if…

• You're feeling emotionally overloaded

• Everyone around you has an opinion and it's stressing you out

• You're being pushed to make decisions faster than you're ready for

• You're not sure what's a legal deadline vs. emotional urgency

• You're feeling pressure from all sides to get things sorted

• You are overwhelmed

📌 Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode.

Are you feeling completely overwhelmed by your separation or divorce? Like everything is urgent, everyone needs something from you

You are not alone and this episode is here to help.

In this conversation, Mum and I walk through 8 practical ways to calm the chaos, slow things down, and take back control of your divorce journey. We cover emotional overwhelm, confusing legal pressure, and the early survival strategies that can make all the difference.

Whether you're still in shock or already knee-deep in logistics, this episode is your gentle reminder that you don't have to do it all at once and you shouldn't.

⏱️ Episode Timeline: Divorce Overwhelm – 8 Ways to Stay Sane When Everything Feels Urgent

00:00 – Introduction: Overcoming Divorce Overwhelm Why everything feels urgent—and how this episode can help you breathe again.

00:21 – Feeling Pressured to Make Fast Decisions During Divorce How panic can lead to poor choices and what to do instead.

00:28 – 8 Practical Strategies to Regain Control in Separation Overview of what you'll learn and how to use these tips right away.

00:51 – Welcome and What This Episode Covers Who this episode is for and why this conversation matters.

01:08 – The Stress of Divorce Deadlines and Decision Fatigue How urgency from lawyers, family, or your ex can overwhelm you.

03:17 – Legal vs. Emotional Deadlines: Know the Difference Understanding what's truly urgent and what can wait.

06:50 – The Emotional Shock of a Breakup Why you're not functioning "normally" and that's okay.

13:48 – Setting Boundaries with Family and Friends During Divorce How to protect your peace from well-meaning (but draining) input.

19:48 – Prioritizing Safety, Shelter, and Stability First Triage your needs: food, housing, money, transport before anything else.

23:34 – Recognizing and Responding to Financial Abuse What financial control looks like—and how to get support.

24:09 – Why Self-Care Is Essential, Not Optional Simple ways to take care of yourself when everything feels like too much.

28:10 – Making Space for Grief and Emotional Recovery Letting yourself feel, cry, and heal without guilt.

30:41 – How Learning the Process Can Help You Feel Empowered Education as a tool to reduce panic and increase confidence.

34:32 – Creating a New Divorce Routine That Works for You Using structure and small steps to take back control of your life.

39:29 – Final Thoughts: You've Got This, One Step at a Time Encouragement, next steps, and reminding you—you're not alone.

Resources

Central Practice Directions

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd

Free Disclosure Checklist

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist

Episode Links

Boundaries in Divorce

https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=KyJGKYneiBek41fe

🚨 Support Services:

• 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia)

• Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia)

📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.

📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!

Listen to this episode if…

• You're in the middle of a separation and unsure what advice to follow

• Friends, family, or Facebook have told you "what to do"

• You've heard you can't leave the house without losing everything

• You feel pressured not to bring up domestic violence

• You're confused about disclosure, super splitting, or property rights

📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. ALSO TRIGGER WARNING Discussions of Family Violence

Have you been told that if you leave the house, you lose everything? Or that you shouldn't mention domestic violence in family court? These are just a few examples of the harmful myths in Australia we hear all too often in separation and divorce.

In this episode, Laura & Lyn expose some of the worst legal advice circulating in family law and explain why it can derail your case, delay your outcome, or damage your safety and rights.

They break down five of the most common (and dangerous) misconceptions, share what the law really says, and help you feel more confident about asking the right questions of your lawyer and making informed decisions.

⏱️ Episode Timeline: Episode 221 Family Law Myths Don't Fall for These 5 During Separation

00:00 – Introduction: Debunking Common Family Law Myths Why bad legal advice is everywhere—and how it can derail your case.

01:42 – The Real Impact of Misinformation in Separation and Divorce What happens when you follow outdated or incorrect legal advice.

05:37 – Myth #1: "If You Leave the House, You Lose Your Property Rights" Why leaving the family home doesn't mean forfeiting your share.

12:48 – Myth #2: "You Must Have Every Document Before You Can Settle" The truth about financial disclosure and realistic expectations.

19:40 – Myth #3: "Don't Mention Domestic Violence in Court" How this dangerous myth puts safety and outcomes at risk.

24:19 – Understanding Family Violence and Property Entitlements How abuse can affect how assets are divided.

25:19 – Should You Mention Domestic Violence in Family Court? Legal perspectives on disclosure and protection.

25:50 – Spousal Maintenance: Know When and How to Ask Why it's often overlooked—and how to advocate for yourself.

26:43 – Myth Busting: Are Addbacks Still Used in Property Settlements? Clarifying a misunderstood financial concept in family law.

28:57 – Myth #5: "Superannuation Must Be Split 50/50" Exploring how super splitting really works under Australian law.

32:16 – How to Educate Yourself and Work Better with Your Lawyer Tips for being informed, assertive, and legally empowered.

35:32 – Final Thoughts and How to Enrol in the Divorce Course Practical next steps and how to get more support.

41:53 – Listener Reviews and Community Shoutouts Sharing your feedback and how to get involved.

Resources

Central Practice Directions

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd

Free Disclosure Checklist

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist

Episode Links

Superannuation and Equalising super https://youtu.be/2BQEHmIwjio?si=kWg9F8c8rh4X8HqB

🚨 Support Services:

• 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia)

• Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia)

📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.

📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!