Do You F*cking Mind?

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Do You F*cking Mind?

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Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist <a href="https://bit.ly/alexis-ig">Alexis Fernandez</a>. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Thursdays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email <a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a> to submit your questions. Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change - exclusively an audiobook - at <a href="https://url.au.m.mimecastprotect.com/s/8UfOCjZ1ADuP79yRCRiAYX?domain=bit.ly">https://bit.ly/44xwszR</a> .

1 hour 3 minutes

489. The Neuroscience of Focus, Attention and Distraction (& harnessing neurochemicals to improve focus)
Poll Should I do an episode on

The Neuroscience of Making and Breaking a Habit

The Neuroscience of Emotional Intelligence

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29 March 2026, 1:00 pm
35 minutes 42 seconds

488. How to train yourself to lose feelings for someone and more (Headnoise)
It's Headnoise Friday! I answer your questions you sent in! The questions I received were Can you lose feelings with someone?, One sided sibling relationships and My friend has dropped the ball. If you would like to send in a question email please email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ dyfmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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26 March 2026, 1:00 pm
38 minutes 37 seconds

487. What to know when entering your 30's Part 2
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22 March 2026, 1:00 pm
27 minutes 21 seconds

486. Should I mix friendship with career and toxic mother what will she do next?! (Headnoise)
If you would like to send in a question email please email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ dyfmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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19 March 2026, 1:00 pm
36 minutes 13 seconds

485. Parents struggling to accept me coming out and how many chances should I give my best friend. Headnoise
If you would like to send in a question email please email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ dyfmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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17 March 2026, 1:00 pm
42 minutes 21 seconds

484. Entering your 30s with the right mindset
Today's episode is one of my most requested topics, entering your 30's!
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15 March 2026, 1:00 pm
27 minutes 23 seconds

483. Being alone vs staying in a group that doesn't align and my partner gives me the silent treatment and I can't handle it anymore (Headnoise)
If you would like to send in a question email please email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ dyfmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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12 March 2026, 1:00 pm
24 minutes 40 seconds

482. Moving past retroactive jealousy, and how to come to terms with leaving my home country for good?

Bonjour!

Welcome to Head Noise day. Today I cover 2 different questions, one about really trusting your partner when you know they have cheated in the past (not on you, but with you), and how to come to terms with permananty leaving your home country, and having kids away from your family.

I did aim to do 3 questions as usual, but the background noise was off the HHOOOOKKKK today so two questions it is!

Anyway. Danke and enjoy!!

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10 March 2026, 1:00 pm
44 minutes 49 seconds

481. The Neuroscience of Self Control
Why do we have incredible self-control in some areas of life… and absolutely none in others?

In this neuroscience episode, we break down what self-control actually is in the brain, and why it can disappear the moment stress, distraction, or emotional conflict enters the picture.

We start with a quick brain fact explaining the difference between adrenaline and noradrenaline (also known as epinephrine and norepinephrine) and how these stress chemicals activate the sympathetic nervous system and the fight-or-flight response.

Then we dive into the neuroscience of self-control:

• What self-control actually means from a brain perspective

• Why self-control is a diminishing mental resource

• How stress chemicals weaken the brain’s control systems

• The push-pull relationship between the prefrontal cortex (your control centre) and the limbic system (your emotional and impulse system)

• Why stress and anxiety can shut down the brain circuits responsible for conscious self-control

• The role of the anterior cingulate cortex in monitoring internal conflict and willpower

I also explore why self-control isn’t about learning new skills, it’s about directing yourself to do things you are already capable of doing.

Finally, we look at evidence-based ways to strengthen self-control in everyday life:

• Regulating emotions instead of suppressing them

• Re-internalising awareness and paying attention to internal conflict

• Why meditation improves self-control by strengthening attention and self-awareness

• The role of delayed gratification in reducing procrastination

• How small daily actions can train the brain to make better decisions

If you’ve ever wondered why motivation fluctuates, why stress makes discipline disappear, or how to build stronger habits, this episode explains the neuroscience behind it.
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8 March 2026, 1:00 pm
32 minutes 4 seconds

480. My sister is overbearing, and how do I know for sure I have chosen the right path?

Bonjour!

On this headnoise episode I answer three of your questions.

I cover:

How to deal with an overbearing sister who tries to act like a second parent and belittle constantly.

How to know for sure if you are on the right path after quitting uni for a different life.

How to know if you should move back with your ex, the father of your children, when your relationship is great but you are no longer in love with him AT ALL.

Thank you for sending in the questions and keep them coming!

send them to [email protected]

Danke!

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4 March 2026, 1:00 pm
35 minutes 9 seconds

479. What does it really take to know someone? Important questions to ask yourself

What does it ACTUALLY take to know someone?

Can you ever know a person outside of the role they play in your relationship with them?
If someone deceives you, does that mean you never really knew them in the first place?
And why does chemistry so often convince us we understand someone far more deeply than we actually do?

In this episode, I talk about the illusion of knowing and why familiarity, attraction, and emotional intensity can create a false sense of closeness.

I dive into limerence, the strange dynamics of online dating, and the way modern dating shows sell us a version of connection that looks convincing… but rarely reflects healthy love in the real world.

Let’s goooooo

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1 March 2026, 6:00 pm
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