Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

  • 37 minutes 9 seconds
    EP 610: Hard Truth Series Part 2: Why Dating Feels So Hard When You Have Insecure Attachment

    Dating can feel exhausting, confusing, and emotionally overwhelming especially when you’re doing “all the right things” and still ending up anxious, disappointed, or stuck in the same painful patterns. In Part 2 of the Hard Truth Series, I’m breaking down why dating feels so hard when you have insecure attachment and why trying harder, dating more, or chasing chemistry isn’t the answer.

    Inside the episode:

    • Why chemistry without secure attachment is not love—and how secure connection actually feels
    • The truth about dating anxiety, ghosting, and “confusion,” and what they’re really communicating
    • Why you can’t heal insecure attachment by dating more—and what creates real, lasting change

    If this episode resonates, I want to personally invite you to apply for my Empowered.Secure.Loved.™ Program. Applications are closing for the year, and this is your final opportunity in 2025 to do this work with us.

    This December, we’re offering our Secure December: Farewell Sale—a limited-time 70% off opportunity to join the program that has helped thousands of people heal attachment wounds, regulate their nervous systems, and step into secure, emotionally available love.

    Spots are limited, doors are closing soon, and once this offer is gone, it’s gone.

    If you’ve been on the fence, let this be your moment. Apply now and choose to make 2026 the year you stop repeating the same patterns and start building the secure love you truly deserve.

    👉 Apply now through the link in the show notes — before applications close.

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    17 December 2025, 12:30 pm
  • 44 minutes 46 seconds
    EP 609: Hard Truth Series: The No-BS Truths About Attachment, Healing, and Why You’re Still Repeating Relationship Patterns

    If you’ve done all the work,  read the books, saved the posts, listened to the podcasts, and yet you’re still ending up in the same relationship patterns, this episode is for you. I’m sharing the truths about attachment, dating, and healing that are often avoided because they’re uncomfortable… but they’re also the ones that actually create change. This is a grounded, compassionate, no-fluff episode about what’s really keeping you stuck and what it actually takes to embody secure attachment and create healthy love.

    Inside the episode:

    • Why you didn’t choose your attachment style — and why it’s still your responsibility to heal it
    • The hard truths about chemistry, emotionally unavailable partners, and behaviors that unintentionally push healthy love away
    • Why intellectual insight alone doesn’t heal attachment wounds — and what does lead to real, embodied change

    If you’re tired of repeating cycles, outsourcing your healing, or waiting for the “right person” to fix things, this episode will help you see attachment,  and yourself, in a completely new way.

    ✨ Apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved.® Program ✨

    If you’re ready to stop looping in old patterns and finally embody secure attachment, I want to invite you to apply to my signature program, Empowered.Secure.Loved.® Applications are closing for the year, and this December we’re offering Secure December: A Farewell Sale — a limited-time 70% off opportunity.

    This work changes everything,  not just your relationships, but your nervous system, your self-worth, and your entire life. Spots are limited, and once applications close, they’re closed.

    👉 Apply now through the link in the show notes — before applications close.

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    15 December 2025, 12:30 pm
  • 42 minutes 40 seconds
    EP 608: 5 Signs You’re Dating Someone with Avoidant Attachment (And What To Do About It)

    If you’ve ever felt incredible chemistry with someone… only for them to suddenly pull away, go cold, or confuse the heck out of your nervous system, this episode is for you. We break down the real signs of avoidant attachment (without shame, without villainizing, and with so much nuance), so you can finally understand what’s happening in your relationships and what to do next. These are the strategies I wish someone had explained to me back when I was on the dating rollercoaster. Get ready for clarity, healing, and a powerful next step toward secure love.

    Inside the episode:

    • The 5 subtle but unmistakable signs of avoidant attachment (including the ones most people miss).
    • Exactly what to do if you recognize these patterns in someone you’re dating  without abandoning yourself or slipping into “pick-me” mode.
    • How to slow the emotional pace, communicate securely, and finally break the anxious–avoidant cycle so you can attract healthy, reciprocal love.

    If this episode hit home, if you feel that pull in your chest saying, “It’s time… I can’t repeat these patterns for another year,”,  I want you to know this:

    ✨ You are not broken.

    Your attachment system is simply waiting for the right support to finally feel safe.

    And I’ve helped nearly a thousand people do exactly that.

    The Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program is closing applications at the end of this year, and I don’t want you to miss your chance. This December, we're offering something we have never offered before:

    Secure December: A Farewell Sale — 70% Off (Limited Time)

    This is the final opportunity to join ESL before doors close. If healthy love is a 2026 non-negotiable for you… apply now.

    Your future self will thank you.

    Your heart will thank you.

    And I can’t wait to support you inside the program.

    👉 Apply now through the link in the show notes — before applications close.

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    10 December 2025, 12:30 pm
  • 33 minutes 45 seconds
    EP 607: How to Make an Avoidant Love You (The Answer You’re Not Going to Like)

    If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “How do I get an avoidant to choose me?” or “How do I make an emotionally unavailable person love me?” This episode is your wake-up call. I’m giving you the truth no one online seems to want to say out loud. You cannot “make” anyone love you… but you can understand the deeper wounds that keep pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners in the first place. This episode is packed with real talk, compassion, and the exact mindset shift you need if you’re tired of repeating the same painful relationship patterns.

    Inside the Episode:

    • Why you’re drawn to avoidant partners and how old patterns keep recreating the same pain.

    • What’s happening in your nervous system when you chase emotional unavailability.

    • How to show up securely with someone avoidant — matching energy, regulating yourself, and assessing their real capacity.

    If this episode hit home..if you heard yourself in these patterns, now is your time to break them. The Empowered.Secure.Loved Program is open for applications, and this is your LAST chance this year. We’re closing applications at the end of December, and once it’s closed, it’s closed.

    And because this is truly the final chapter of the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program, we are doing something incredibly special as a heartfelt farewell. This is your last opportunity to step into this life-changing work before the doors close for good.

    🎁 SECURE DECEMBER: A Farewell Sale — your final opportunity to access the full program at 70% off before it’s gone forever

    If you know you’re ready to finally embody secure attachment, stop chasing emotional unavailability, and attract the emotionally available love you deserve, go apply now. Spots will fill quickly, and this offer will not return.

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    8 December 2025, 12:30 pm
  • 42 minutes 16 seconds
    EP 606: What Secure Attachment Actually Feels Like ( Attachment Style SOS Series - Part 4)

    If you’ve ever wondered what real secure attachment feels like, not the Instagram version, not the watered-down definition, but the lived, embodied, grounded experience, this episode is for you. In this final installment of the Attachment Style SOS Series, I’m walking you through what secure attachment looks like in your nervous system, your identity, your dating life, and your relationships. My hope is that this episode helps you finally understand what you're building toward and reminds you that becoming secure is your birthright.

    Inside the episode, we cover:

    • What secure attachment actually feels like in your body — the calm, presence, self-trust, and openness that come from a regulated nervous system.
    • The identity of a secure person — clear boundaries, emotional maturity, interdependence, and the ability to stay anchored in yourself.
    • How secure attachment shows up in dating and relationships — slow-build connection, healthy conflict, choosing availability, and leaving chaos behind.

    If you’ve been listening to this series thinking, “This is what I want for myself… but I don’t know how to get there,” I want you to know this:

    ➡️ You can become securely attached.

    ➡️ You can rewire your brain.

    ➡️ You can return home to the version of you who trusts, loves, and receives love.

    And if you’re ready for real support…

    This is the FINAL call to apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program.

    The program has helped over a thousand people become securely attached and if your heart has been whispering “I’m meant for this,” this is your sign.

    👉 Apply to Empowered.Secure.Loved™ now — applications close soon!

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    3 December 2025, 12:45 pm
  • 54 minutes 12 seconds
    EP 605: Disorganized Attachment Explained: Nervous System Chaos, Identity Fragmentation & Healing (Attachment Style SOS Series – Part 3)

    Welcome back to the Attachment Style SOS Series! In today’s episode, I’m diving deep into disorganized attachment. The style that feels like craving closeness one moment and wanting to run for the hills the next. If relationships feel like emotional whiplash, if you’ve ever felt “too much,” “too complicated,” or like you become a different person when you’re triggered… this episode will help you understand why. As someone who lived this pattern for over a decade, this one is incredibly close to my heart.

    Inside the episode, we cover:

    • What disorganized attachment actually feels like, why it shows up as emotional chaos, and the science behind your attachment system and survival system firing at the same time
    • Identity fragmentation and “shape-shifting”, why you lose yourself in relationships, and how to rebuild a cohesive, secure identity from the inside out
    • Cultural misunderstandings & the ADHD link, how society mislabels this style and why emotional regulation challenges feed into ADHD (and vice versa)

    If you’re listening and thinking, “Wow… this is me,” or “This explains so much about someone I love,” please know this: you are not broken. Your nervous system adapted to chaos—and that means you can absolutely learn safety and become securely attached.

    And hey, if you’re ready to actually do this healing work with guidance, structure, and support…

    Now is the moment.

    The Empowered.Secure.Loved Program is closing its application doors for the year, and this is truly your final chance to grab the Black Friday Offer before it expires. Once doors close, we do not know when (or if) enrollment will open again in 2026.

    If you've been feeling that nudge—Should I do this?—this is your sign.

    Apply now, get a spot while you still can, and start 2026 with real hope, real support, and real transformation.

    👉 Apply to Empowered.Secure.Loved™ now — applications close soon!

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    1 December 2025, 1:45 pm
  • 38 minutes 5 seconds
    EP 604: Avoidant Attachment: Why You Pull Away (Attachment Style SOS Series Part 2)

    Welcome back to Part 2 of the Attachment Style SOS Series! Today I’m breaking down avoidant attachment in a way that finally makes sense through the lens of the nervous system, your early experiences, and the cultural messages that reward emotional distance. If you’ve ever craved connection but shut down the moment it gets close, this episode is going to be a game-changer.

    Inside the episode:

    • Why your nervous system sees closeness as overwhelm, not safety
    • The childhood patterns that taught you to suppress your emotions
    • How culture glorifies independence and unintentionally reinforces avoidance


    ✨ Last chance to apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program!

    We’re closing applications this year, and this is the final opportunity to join us with the Black Friday Offer before it’s gone forever. If your healing has been on the back burner, take this as your sign, apply now.


    👉 Apply to Empowered.Secure.Loved today. Your secure future self is waiting.


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    26 November 2025, 12:30 pm
  • 48 minutes
    EP 603: HELP — I Have Anxious Attachment (Attachment Style SOS Series Part 1)

    If you’ve ever felt like your emotions take over the moment a connection feels uncertain… or you find yourself spiraling, overthinking, and craving reassurance even when you know it’s “too much,” this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. Today, we’re diving into anxious attachment through a compassionate, science-backed lens, exploring your nervous system, your past relational experiences, and the truth that nothing is wrong with you. Your reactions make sense. And yes, you can absolutely heal.

    Inside the episode, we cover:

    • The nervous system science behind anxious attachment - why your body stays in threat anticipation mode and why reassurance-seeking feels uncontrollable.
    • The real roots of anxious attachment - inconsistent caregiving, emotional invalidation, early relationship trauma, and how those patterns shape adult relationships.
    • The cultural pressure cooker - how modern dating, ghosting, and the “cool girl” narrative intensify anxious attachment and dysregulate your system even more.

    If this episode resonated and your heart is saying, “I can’t do another year of these patterns…” I want to lovingly encourage you to take action now.

    Applications for the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program close this year, and we have extremely limited spots left. If you know you’re ready to become securely attached and change your relationship patterns for good, this is your chance.

    And because it’s Black Friday, you can also unlock the Secure Love Accelerator for over 70% off, but only while spots last. This is the most affordable way to start transforming your attachment system, and the offer will not return.

    Apply to ESL now or grab your Accelerator spot before the Black Friday offer closes.

    Your future self (the secure, grounded, loved version of you) will be so grateful you said yes.

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    24 November 2025, 12:30 pm
  • 1 hour 38 seconds
    Bonus Episode: From Disorganized Attachment to Secure Love: Carlina’s Powerful Healing Journey (Real Client Transformation)

    Today’s episode is such a special one. I’m sitting down with one of our incredible ESL graduates, Carlina, whose story of healing, sobriety, self-discovery, and stepping into secure, emotionally available love will move you to your core. If you’ve ever struggled with repeating relationship patterns, feeling “too much,” navigating disorganized attachment, or doubting whether secure love is possible for you… this conversation will give you so much hope. Carlina gets incredibly vulnerable about breaking cycles, building belief in herself, healing family relationships, and attracting a securely attached partner who meets her with patience, consistency, and kindness. You won’t want to miss this one.

    Inside the episode, we cover:

    • How disorganized attachment, numbing, and girl-bossing into avoidance kept Carlina stuck in the same cycles and the moment she decided she couldn’t do it anymore.
    • The exact beliefs she rewired inside the program (including “I’m too much” and “I’ll always be left behind”) and how that opened the door to healthy, secure partnership.
    • What it feels like to date someone emotionally available, patient, consistent—and how secure love allowed her to soften, receive, and be her authentic self.

    If Carlina’s journey spoke to you and you’re feeling that pull… this is your sign. The Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program is closing applications THIS YEAR, and once doors close, they are closed. If you’re ready to stop repeating patterns, heal at the root, and finally step into the love and life you deserve, now is the time to apply.

    👉 Apply now using the link in the show notes  spots are filling and this is your last chance before doors close.

    You are so worthy of secure love.

    You are so worthy of healing.

    And your future self will thank you for taking this step. 💛

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    21 November 2025, 12:30 pm
  • 42 minutes 23 seconds
    EP 602: Attachment Styles Are Shifting in 2025: What the Latest Research Really Means for Your Healing

    Oh my gosh… this episode is SUCH an important one. I’m breaking down the brand-new research on attachment trends for 2025, and I’m giving you a full masterclass on the four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized (fearful avoidant), and secure.

    Whether you’re brand new here or you’ve been with me since the early days, this is a must-listen episode for anyone who cares about their emotional health, their relationships, and their growth in 2025 and beyond.

    Inside the Episode:

    • Why our hyper-digital, overstimulated, exhausted world is fueling a major spike in avoidant attachment.
    • The three non-negotiables you must understand if you want to change your attachment style—plus the four intentional steps to actually rewire your brain for secure love.
    • A deep dive into the “functional avoidant”—how to spot it, how it develops, and how to heal if this is your pattern.

    If you’re tired of repeating the same relational cycles… if you’re done feeling disconnected or shut down… if you’re ready to move out of insecurity (or being a functional avoidant) and into true emotional availability and safety—this episode is your blueprint.

    And here’s the truth I need you to hear:

    Your past does not determine your future relationships.

    You get to choose secure love.

    If you know you need a clear, proven framework to help you make that shift, the Empowered. Secure. Loved. Program is where that transformation happens. 

    We have very limited spots left and applications are closing soon. If this is on your heart… trust that.

    👉 Apply to Empowered.Secure.Loved™ now — applications close soon!

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    19 November 2025, 12:30 pm
  • 39 minutes 40 seconds
    EP 601: Feeling Stuck? Your Essential Guide to “Should I Stay or Should I Go?”

    If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in that uncomfortable “in-between” space, wondering whether to stay or walk away from your relationship, this episode is for you. I’m giving you the clearest framework I’ve ever taught to help you regulate your emotions, reconnect with your self-trust, and make decisions from a grounded place instead of fear or overwhelm. This is your roadmap back to clarity, healing, and aligned action.

    Inside the Episode:

    • Am I Regulated or Dysregulated?
    • – Check your emotional state before deciding.
    • Am I Growing or Shrinking?
    • – Ask if this relationship helps you grow or makes you smaller. 
    • Compatibility or Trauma Familiarity?
    • – Learn if your connection is true alignment or old patterns repeating.

    This is your reminder: even if you’re unsure about your relationship, your healing is the thing that changes everything.

    Whether you stay or go, the version of you who got stuck here isn’t the version who will lead you into secure, healthy love.

    You deserve clarity. You deserve peace. You deserve a relationship that feels like a refuge not a rollercoaster.

    The Empowered.Secure.Loved program is where deep healing and transformation happen, and applications are closing for the rest of the year. We have just a few spots left.

    You are worthy of secure, aligned, deeply fulfilling love and healing is how you get there. 

    👉 Apply to Empowered.Secure.Loved™ now — applications close soon!

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    17 November 2025, 12:30 pm
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