Together, we're redefining what it means, looks and feels like, to be doing "woman's work" in the world today. With confidence and the occasional rant. From boardrooms to studios, kitchens to coding dens, we explore the multifaceted experiences of today's woman, confirming that the new definition of "woman's work" is whatever feels authentic, true, and right for you. We're shedding expectations, setting aside the "shoulds", giving our finger to the "supposed tos". We're torching the old playbook and writing our own rules. Who runs the world? You decide. Learn more at nicolekalil.com
Let’s talk about the glow-up no one told you about: the one where you hit midlife and suddenly cannot be bothered with other people’s bullshit anymore.
Because somewhere between perimenopause, professional burnout, emotional labor overload, and decades of people-pleasing, something shifts. You stop cushioning your words. You stop managing everyone else’s feelings like it’s your unpaid side hustle. And when someone asks, “Are you okay?” the answer is, “Better than ever. I just ran out of estrogen—and tolerance.”
In this episode, Nicole sits down with licensed clinical therapist Ellen Scherr to unpack the neuroscience behind what she calls “aging out of f*cks.” Spoiler alert: this isn’t bitterness. It’s biology.
As estrogen declines in midlife, it impacts multiple neurochemical systems in the brain—systems tied to anxiety, people-pleasing, anger regulation, and emotional buffering. The “popular girl at the party” (aka estrogen) leaves… and suddenly the whole dynamic changes. What once felt like obligation starts to feel optional. What once felt terrifying starts to feel negotiable. And what once felt like “I should” becomes “Do I even want to?”
They dive into:
The neuroscience of perimenopause and menopause—and how hormonal changes impact confidence, risk-taking, and people-pleasing
Why women’s confidence actually increases with age (and can surpass men’s in their 60s)
The lifelong cost of emotional labor—and why it starts to break down in midlife
How negativity bias keeps women stuck in fear (and how to reframe it)
The difference between legitimate feedback and social punishment
Why so many women make bold career, relationship, and life changes in their 40s, 50s, and beyond
Whether it’s possible to “speed up” the process of caring less in your 20s and 30s
This isn’t about blowing up your life. It’s about understanding the neuroscience of midlife, reclaiming your authenticity, setting boundaries, and rewiring old people-pleasing patterns.
Aging out of f*cks isn’t decline—it’s development. It’s honesty over harmony. And if you’re suddenly “too much”? Good. You’re not here to be palatable. You’re here to be you.
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Website: www.lifebranches.com
Substack: https://substack.com/search/blog.lifebranches.com?utm_source=global-search
Oprah Daily: https://substack.com/search/blog.lifebranches.com?utm_source=global-search
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We love a good “never quit” mantra. Hustle. Grind. Push through. Stay committed.
But what if the bravest move isn’t doubling down… it’s pivoting?
In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil sits down with Melissa Gonzalez — principal at MG2, shareholder at Collier’s Engineering and Design, founder of The Lioness Group, and author of The Purpose of Pivot: How Dynamic Leaders Put Vulnerability and Intuition into Action — to unpack one of the hardest leadership and life questions: How do you know when it’s time to pivot?
Because staying the course can be grit… or it can be self-betrayal.And pivoting can be courage… or it can be avoidance.
The line? Blurry as hell.
Together, they explore how to tell the difference between fear and intuition, discomfort and misalignment, commitment and stuckness — and how to make intentional, purpose-driven decisions without blowing up your entire life (unless you actually need to).
They explore:
The physical and emotional signs it’s time to pivot
How to run an “energy audit” to see what fuels vs. drains you
The difference between purposeful change and running away
Why clarity about your purpose makes decisions easier
How to stop letting other people’s opinions drive your choices
Because pivoting doesn’t require certainty. It requires discernment. And staying isn’t noble if it’s shrinking you. The goal isn’t to get it perfect. It’s to stay in relationship with yourself while you decide.
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Website: https://www.melissagonzalez.com/
Book: https://www.amazon.com/Purpose-Pivot-Dynamic-Vulnerability-Intuition/dp/1394329474
IG: https://www.instagram.com/melsstyles/
LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissagonzalezlionesque/
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What happens when a woman refuses to follow the script she was handed?
In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil sits down with award-winning journalist, bestselling author, and former Good Morning America co-host Joan Lunden to talk about reinvention, leadership, pay equity, aging, caregiving, and choosing yourself — again and again.
Joan was offered the co-host role at Good Morning America the same day she found out she was pregnant. In the 1970s. When working mothers were barely visible on television, and “breastfeeding” wasn’t even a word you could say on air. She brought her baby to work anyway.
Throughout her career, she negotiated creative compensation before pay equity was a mainstream conversation, pushed back on being labeled “second banana,” navigated public scrutiny, and later reinvented herself again — this time as a fierce advocate for women’s health, breast cancer awareness, dense breast legislation, and caregiver rights.
In this conversation, she shares:
How to reinvent yourself at every stage of life
What it takes to negotiate power in male-dominated spaces
The pressure of being the “perfect working mom”
How she handled media criticism and public expectations
Why sisterhood and strong women behind the scenes mattered most
Joan’s story is proof that reinvention isn’t a phase — it’s a practice. And ambition doesn’t expire just because culture says it should.
Choosing yourself isn’t one bold move. It’s a lifetime of them.
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Website: https://joanlunden.com/
Book: https://www.amazon.com/JOAN-Beyond-Script-Joan-Lunden/dp/1637634927/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/therealjoanlunden/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/JoanLunden
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This podcast often explores ambition, leadership, confidence, and impact.
But sometimes? Woman’s work looks a whole lot more like survival.
Not the inspirational quote version. Not the neat-and-tidy comeback story. Not the “and then she rose” highlight reel.
This episode of This Is Woman’s Work dives into the raw, relentless, day-by-day kind of survival — the kind that asks someone to keep showing up while life is actively coming apart.
Nicole Kalil is joined by Kathy Giusti — two-time cancer survivor, healthcare entrepreneur, founder of the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation (MMRF), and author of Fatal to Fearless. After being diagnosed with multiple myeloma at 37 and given three years to live, Kathy turned her prognosis into a movement that helped transform cancer research and dramatically extend life expectancy for patients.
Yes. From terminal diagnosis to systemic change.
In This Episode, They Discuss:
What survival really looks like after a terminal cancer diagnosis
Why resilience isn’t pretty — and rarely feels brave in the moment
The difference between “fighting” cancer and running a marathon with it
How to advocate for yourself inside a broken healthcare system
Why women must step into the role of CEO of their own healthcare
The power (and responsibility) of using social media wisely for medical information
The hard truth about boundaries, burnout, and forgetting to live while trying to stay alive
Kathy shares what it meant to raise a family while preparing for death. To build a global research foundation while undergoing chemotherapy. To carry hope, fear, responsibility, and grief — all at once.
And perhaps most powerfully, she shares the regret she didn’t anticipate: that in trying to save her life (and so many others), she sometimes forgot to fully live it.
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Website: https://www.kathygiusti.com/
Book: https://www.kathygiusti.com/book
LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathygiusti/
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Let’s talk about the thing you replay over and over in your mind at 2 a.m.
The comment in the meeting. The story you shared. The truth that felt a little too honest.
Welcome to the oversharing hangover.
We’ve been taught that credibility requires polish and power lives in restraint. Keep it tight. Keep it tidy. Keep the messy parts to yourself.
But what if that’s wrong?
In this episode, Nicole sits down with Leslie John, Harvard Business School professor and author of Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing, to unpack what the research actually says about vulnerability, trust, and credibility — and why saying less might be costing you more than you think.
In This Episode, We Explore:
Why oversharing can build trust
The difference between thoughtful revealing and emotional dumping
How admitting mistakes can increase credibility at work
The “Goldilocks rule” of vulnerability
How to weigh the cost of revealing vs. staying silent
The research is clear: we consistently trust people who reveal something real more than those who stay guarded.
And thoughtful vulnerability doesn’t weaken your credibility — it strengthens it
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Website: https://www.lesliekjohn.com/
Book: https://www.amazon.com/Revealing-Underrated-Oversharing-Leslie-John/dp/0593545389
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We talk a lot about dreaming bigger — but not nearly enough about what it actually costs to play it safe. Fear of failure keeps brilliant ideas stuck in our heads, careers stalled, and confidence quietly eroding.
In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil is joined by Lorraine H. Marchand, innovation expert, Wharton professor, and author of No Fear, No Failure. Together, they unpack why failure isn’t the enemy — avoidance is. From reframing fear as data, to designing smarter experiments, to creating cultures (and inner narratives) where learning beats perfection, this conversation is a permission slip to try, fail, learn… and keep going.
If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by getting it wrong, worried about failing publicly, or trapped by environments that say they want innovation but punish mistakes — this episode is for you.
We explore:
Why fear of failure shuts down growth faster than actual failure ever could
How to reframe failure as learning (and why that changes everything)
Why women are more likely to internalize failure — and how to stop
How to test ideas without burning it all down
What “failing forward” looks like in real life (not just on LinkedIn)
How to stop being afraid of other people seeing you try
Because growth doesn’t happen without risk — and playing it safe has a cost.
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Website: https://www.lorrainemarchand.com/
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LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lorrainemarchand
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Have you ever read something that felt like it was pulled straight from your own brain? That was me reading Nora McInerney’s Substack about what she calls restless life syndrome — the persistent, low-grade feeling that you’re meant to be living at least 14 different lives… and somehow squeezing them all into this one.
So naturally, I diagnosed myself.
In this unfiltered and unhinged episode of This Is Woman’s Work, I’m sharing my own wildly impractical, slightly delusional, deeply human “restless life” list.
This isn’t a five-step plan. It’s a permission slip.
Because maybe your 12 open tabs, your urge to burn it all down, and your conviction that fulfillment is one hobby away aren’t signs that you’re broken. Maybe they’re signs that you’re awake.
If you’ve been craving reinvention, dreaming of multiple lives, or quietly wondering what else is possible beyond productivity and responsibility, this episode on restless life syndrome will hit home — and maybe light a tiny, rebellious fire.
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What if being a “good woman” isn’t actually virtuous — but conditioned? In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil sits down with Elise Loehnen, New York Times bestselling author of On Our Best Behavior: The Price Women Pay to Be Good, to dismantle the centuries-old rules that still dictate how women are expected to behave, desire, rest, earn, and lead.
Together, they unpack how the seven deadly sins — yes, those — quietly shape modern women’s lives, ambitions, bodies, money stories, and relationships. Pride, envy, greed, sloth, lust… turns out they’ve been weaponized against women for generations, rewarding self-sacrifice and punishing visibility, appetite, and power.
This conversation goes deep — into patriarchy, good-girl conditioning, reputational harm, money shame, envy as information, and why women are often both the enforcers and the casualties of these ancient rules. If you’ve ever felt exhausted by trying to be good, likable, selfless, and low-maintenance all at once… this episode is your permission slip to stop.
Because goodness that costs you yourself isn’t goodness. It’s conditioning.
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Substack: eliseloehnen.substack.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/eliseloehnen/
Book: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/onourbestbehavior
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pulling-the-thread-with-elise-loehnen/id1585015034
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We’ve been taught to avoid it — to hide it, shame it, or outwork it. But what if failure isn’t the thing that destroys confidence… what if it’s the thing that builds it?
In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil sits down with Jane Chen, co-founder of Embrace Global and author of Like a Wave, We Break, to talk about what happens when success collapses — and why that moment might be the most honest, transformative chapter of your life.
Jane shares the raw story of losing the company she poured a decade into, how her identity unraveled alongside it, and the healing journey that followed — from redefining resilience and self-worth to learning how to listen to her body, sit with discomfort, and rebuild from a place of authenticity instead of achievement.
This conversation dives deep into:
Why failure is a confidence builder, not a confidence killer
How achievement can become a trauma response
Separating your worth from your results, titles, and accolades
Knowing when to keep pushing — and when it’s time to stop
The role of self-compassion, community, and psychological safety in leadership
Why breaking isn’t the end… it’s often the beginning
Because confidence isn’t built by never falling apart. It’s built by trusting yourself to rise again.
This episode is a powerful reminder that failure, fear, and doubt aren’t detours — they’re part of the path. When we stop chasing perfection and start honoring what’s real, we build the kind of confidence that actually lasts.
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Website: https://www.janemariechen.com
Book: https://www.amazon.com/Like-Wave-We-Break-Falling/dp/0593582349
IG: https://www.instagram.com/janemarie.chen/?hl=en
LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janemariechen/
FB: www.facebook.com/janemariechen
Tiktok: @janemariechen
TEDtalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/jane_marie_chen_what_losing_everything_taught_me_about_resilience
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If you’ve ever wondered “Do I actually matter?” — not in a motivational-poster way, but in the deep, existential, 3am-staring-at-the-ceiling way — this episode is for you.
In this powerful conversation, Nicole Kalil sits down with Rebecca Neuberger Goldstein, award-winning philosopher and author of The Mattering Instinct: How Our Deepest Longing Drives Us and Divides Us, to unpack one of the most fundamental human needs: the need to matter.
Together, they explore why mattering may be even more essential than happiness, how our desire to matter shapes our lives, relationships, and conflicts, and why the pressure to prove our worth often leads to comparison, competition, and division. Rebecca introduces the concept of “mattering projects” — the deeply personal ways we justify our lives to ourselves — and why there is no single “right” way to matter.
This episode challenges the idea that mattering is loud, performative, or scarce, and reframes it as an inside-out experience rooted in integrity, connection, and self-justification — not productivity, perfection, or approval.
💥 What we cover:
Why the need to matter may be more fundamental than the need to be happy
The difference between fleeting happiness and long-term flourishing
What a “mattering project” is — and how to recognize yours
Why comparison and competition distort our sense of worth
How mattering becomes dangerous when treated as a zero-sum game
Why the person you most need to matter to… is you
How women have been taught to confuse usefulness with worth
The ethical guardrail: you matter and so does everyone else
Mattering isn’t about being extraordinary, productive, or universally admired — it’s about living in alignment with what you can justify to yourself. You matter not because you prove it, but because you’re here, shaping lives through how you live, lead, and relate.
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Website: https://rebeccagoldstein.com/
Book: https://rebeccagoldstein.com/the-mattering-instinct/
Substack: https://rebeccanewbergergoldstein.substack.com/
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For decades, we were sold a lie: get good grades, be smart, keep climbing—and success will magically follow. But in a world of nonstop disruption, AI, political chaos, and careers that don’t come with ladders anymore, IQ and EQ alone aren’t cutting it.
In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil sits down with Liz Tran, executive coach, former venture capitalist, and author of AQ: A New Kind of Intelligence for a World That’s Always Changing, to unpack the intelligence that actually determines who thrives when everything keeps shifting: AQ (Agility Quotient).
AQ isn’t about being perfect, flexible to the point of burnout, or endlessly accommodating. It’s about how well you adapt to change, uncertainty, and the unknown—without losing yourself in the process. Liz breaks down the four AQ archetypes (Firefighter, Novelist, Astronaut, Neurosurgeon), how proactive vs. reactive change impacts your life and career, and why adaptability is no longer optional—it’s survival.
This conversation will change how you think about intelligence, leadership, confidence, and what it really takes to succeed when the rules keep changing mid-game.
Bottom line: Intelligence isn’t just what you know—it’s how you respond when what you know stops working.
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Website: https://liz-tran.com/
Book: https://liz-tran.com/#aq
IG: https://www.instagram.com/liztranwrites/
Quiz: https://liz-tran.com/#quiz
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